PARENTING -YOUR ACTION rebounds as THEIR REACTION

  

	PARENTING - WHAT GOES WRONG   - Have mercy & compassion
CHILD	ACTION	REACTION
SMALL	HOLDING BACK MILK & LOVE	SENSES COLDNESS LEARNS MISTRUST/FEAR
TENDER	AUTHORITY - POWER BASED	PARENT CHOOSE FOR HIM/STUNTED GROWTH
DEPENDENT	ANONYMOUS AUTHORITY - PUBLIC OPINION	FEAR OF INVISIBLE SOCIETY
	SOCIETY  PRESSURE - RULES/REGULATIONS
	SCRIPT - PRE WRITTEN	SELF DESTRUCTIVE
	ROBOTIC CONDITIONING	PROGRAM CREATED BY OTHERS
WANTS ATTENTION	JUDGING/CRITICISM/CONDEMN	BREEDS HOSTILITY, I AM NOT OK / NOT GOOD ENOUGH
UNBIASED	PUTTING DOWN - IDIOT/STUPID	BITTERNESS, SELF PITY, ANGER, REBELLION,
	SHOULD BE DIFFERENT	CONFUSION - QUALITY OF ABSOLUTENESS
	IGNORING -  TREAT HIM AS AN OBJECT	TOXIC  PROJECTION / POISON
FULLY SELF CONSCIOUS
INNER GUIDED	NATURAL CYCLES/ BIORHYTHMS	MOODS CYCLES, FEELING CYCLES, UP & DOWN
KNOWS  LOTS	VALUING	HUNGER NEGATIVELY,FOOD POSITIVELY,
RIGHT LIVING		WHEN FULL THEN FOOD NEGATIVELY
SLOW TO LEARN	EXTERNAL SUPPORT	FEAR OF FAILURE & RIDICULE
		PHONY ROLE PLAYING/CONFUSION
CAPACITY TO REACT	PUNISHMENT	POISONS RELATIONSHIPS/CLOSES IN/ CLOSES U OUT
	COMPETITION WITH PARENTS	SUPPRESSES HIS OWN POWER
	BRIBERY & SPOILING	WHINING & TANTRUMS
HAS MANY FEELINGS	CHRONIC BLAMER / BLAME	BREEDS RESENTMENT
	CONTROLLING ALL	ANGER & DISAPPOINTMENT
	DON’T, NO, POINTED FINGER, I TOLD YOU	ANXIETY - POOR GROWTH / FEAR FULL
SPONTANEOUS	CALCULATIVE LIVING	HOLES IN PERSONALITY / NO HEART
VERY CREATIVE	FORCED THINKING/ DELIBERATE THOUGHT	INHIBITIONS / INTROVERT
ECSTATIC ALWAYS	LAUGHTER & JOY	FEELS GOOD - THE RIGHT WAY
	ALIVENESS  - NIRVANA	LIFE AS A GAME ONLY
LEARNS  THRU  TOUCH	TOUCH, MESSAGE	GETS NOURISHMENT FOR GROWTH
	HUGGING, KISSING, HOLDING, CUDDLING	RELAXES
EXPLORING	ACCIDENTAL LEARNING	CHANCE ENCOUNTERS / WRONG INPUTS
LOVE IS A  MUST	DEPRECIATION	HURT, SCREAM IN PAIN,
NEEDS CARING	DISAPPROVAL	NO POWER, NO ABILITY
NO  EGO  INITIALLY	FAKING - AS IF	NOT BEING SELF, TO BE DIFFERENT
	STRIVING FOR SUPERIORITY	BREEDS INFERIORITY COMPLEX
	IMPOSE LIMITATIONS	STUNTED GROWTH
	SABOTEUR/TORTURER/ASSASSIN	IMMOBILIZE SELF, WHY TRY - WILL FAIL
	EMOTIONS /  FEELINGS	PHYSICAL BODY REACTIONS
	ANGER - UNEXPRESSED / PUT DOWN	PINCHED UP, STOPS COURSING OF VITAL FLUIDS
	FEAR - EXCITING,	TIGHTENING OF MUSCLES, SLOWS DIGESTION, SCREATES
		ADRENALIN INTO BLOOD SYS. EXPLOSIVE,
	THREATENING	CLOSE OFF
	PARALYZING	IMMOBILE - HOLD BREADTH
	CONFUSION & DISTRACTION	BLOCKING THOUGHTS - USE UP ENERGY, FEEL DRAINED
	GENERALIZING	ALTERNATING BETWEEN OPPOSING FORCES
	RATIONALIZATION	EXISTENTIAL CRISIS
	DEPRESSION, FRUSTRATED, BORED	SWITCH OFF, NOT GIVING LIFE
	MORBID THOUGHTS	LEADING TO DEATH - DEADEN MY LIFE, SELF TORTURE
	EXPECTATIONS, WISHING & WORRYING	FEARFUL FANTASIES DOMINATE THE MIND
	UNCERTAIN ABOUT FUTURE	NO ONE WILL EVER LOVE ME
	PAIN	THE ACT OF HOLDING BACK & NOT DOING IT
	HURT	SIGN THAT YOU ARE STILL ALIVE & NOT DEAD
	GUILT	POTENT WAY OF STOPPING FEELINGS
	ASHAMED	ON BEING EXPOSED, HANGING ON TO FEELINGS LONGER
	HUMILIATED	PUNISH SELF IN SILENCE
	BELIEF	OTHERS TELL ME SO - MIND BENDING LEADING TO ENERGY
		BINDING - RESTRICT FLOW OF ENERGY
	LOCKED IN BELIEFS	KEEPING HANDS TO THEMSELVES & EYES STRAIGHT AHEAD
	FAITH	IS MY AFFIRMATION TO THE UNIVERSE, MY LIFE OF TEARS &
		LAUGHTER
	ATTITUDE	A TENDENCY TO FEEL IN A CERTAIN WAY PERSISTING OVER
		A LONG PERIOD OF TIME
ADULT	ACTION	REACTION
FALSE EGO	PERSONALITY
VALIDATION	TOP LAYER	CLICHÉ - HELLO, HAI,  HOW ARE U DOING, NOW
	ROLES LAYER	PRETEND, MASK, NO REAL CONTACT WITH SELF/ANYONE
	PERSONAL LAYER	IMPLOSION - DEATH, ANTI EXISTENCE, BRAKING - TURNING
		ENERGY ON ITSELF - IMPLOSION
	POSSESSIONS	INSTEAD OF OWNING THEM, THEY OWN US
	SELF IMAGE
	RESTRICT FREEDOM	JEALOUSY/ENVY - POSSESSING EACH OTHER
	DESIRE	AS I DESIRE, SO I LIVE-ROOT PROBLEM IS DESIRING ITSELF
WANTS  VS  NEEDS	GREED	TORTURE TRAPS
	CRAVINGS
	AWARENESS	SOURCE OF SURVIVAL, WORLD EXISTS THRU IT
LIVE WITH FEELINGS	MINDFULNESS	FEELING  UPSET IS A BARRIER
	NOW	LIVE IN NOW & HERE - NO CHAOS
	ATTENTION	IT IS CUTTING EDGE OF IT - WITNESS YOURSELF
	WHOLENESS
SMALL I 's	MEDICINE WHEEL	ACTORS/CHARACTERS
PARENT		NURTURING/OVER PROTECTIVE
ADULT		MALE/FEMALE SIDES
CHILD		EMOTIONAL/RATIONAL
	POWER & CONTROL	FIGHT WITH SELF - EDDY CURRENTS/BP/ULCERS
CREATION	IMAGES	POETRY/ART/DREAMS/FANTASY
IMAGINATION
FLEXIBLE	SELF IMAGE	GROWING UP WITH ENCOURAGEMENT
RIGID	SUCCESS / FAILURE	GROWING UP WITH PUNISHMENT & REJECTION
IDEALIZED		HOW I WANT TO BE
PERFECTIONIST		HIGH IDEALS - ANXIETY - RIGHT /WRONG WAY
EDUCATION	THINKING	THE OBJECT IS STIMULATION OF INNER CONSCIOUSNESS
	UNDERSTANDING	IS PERCEIVING RELATIONSHIPS AMONG IMPORTANT FACTS
SINGULARITY	WISDOM	HOW LIFE CAN BE NOURISHING FOR ME & OTHERS
	BELIEFS	OTHERS TELL ME SO
GRASP	RESPECT	THE WORLD IS A SACRED VESSEL - NO TEMPERING
SPOIL/LOOSE	SERVICE	GIVE FIRST, HELP OUT OTHERS/ RIGHT LIVELIHOOD
	LOVE	LOVING IS A WAY OF GIVING TO SELF & OTHERS
	JOY
	OBJECT CENTERED	INFANT HAS HIS MOTHER & HER BREASTS/TEDDY BEAR
	PROTECTIVE	ROMANCE-F/ IN LOVE-LOOKING FOR MISSING QUALITIES
	CONSCIOUS	LOVING YOU FOR WHAT YOU ARE
	AGAPE	MYSTICAL STATE - LOVING KINDNESS
ASK / DO	ASSERT	ACT, ASK, TALK, HUG, KISS, TRY IT

LIFE IS A PLAY OF TIME - stairway to heaven / spiral to hell

TIME MOVES BI-DIRECTIONALLY, DURING AUSPICIOUS TIMES

 
TIME IS ETERNITY IN SLOW MOTION
 
Time can be cyclic or linear, rotational or chronological clock. Time has a beginning, end & travels too. Times change & then become regular after sometime. One can experience negative times, bad, critical, dangerous, & uncooperative times also. On the other hand one can experience positive, ameliorating & good times. Timing & timeliness come very handy. Time can stretch long, stand heavy when one is waiting, & stand still in other times.  Biblical times divided time in two halves, before the birth of Christ & after the death of Christ. Everyone had a Past time, will have a Future time but the most valuable Present time is skipped as a pastime. A lifetime is temporary, limited time in the context of Eternal Unlimited Time. 

EFFECTS & AFFECTS OF TIME
 
Time of transformation brings about Time of Creation. If you have the Awareness of time then Reversal of time happens, because Loss of time gets converted into Lots of time. When you have Treasure of time then Time is money for you. Since Time travels in a curve you can complete the Cycle of time by Traveling in time. Now, is the ripe time to enter your Time zone to feel the Quality of time.  The End of your time is reworded as Your Time has come - Good bye.     
Eternity is frozen time, the abode of the Supreme Soul Shiva. It is the world of Negative Entropy, Stillness, Silence & Peace. No loss of power / energy  happens here. 

TURNAROUND TIME 
 
The Creator is the Extra-terrestrial source & force that reverses the effect of time - from degeneration to regeneration.  Shiva operates at the end of time & at the beginning of time. The Omega & The Alpha. Confluence Age is the time of total transformation. Shiva needs a million souls to assist HIM in this Herculean Auspicious Task. A major shift in the Critical mass of Collective Consciousness will bring about the desired change.  Change in Consciousness creates changes in the quality of your time.  It is Kairos time too. The right opportune moment, the Supreme moment, when the dimension of depth increases with the instant.  Soul consciousness changes you & your Karma. The future is coming towards you & you are mentally connected with it in advance. You begin to behave as if you are already in Golden Age & let go of the Iron Age. By shifting your sense of Awareness to Spiritual orientation you give Higher Value to what you are than what you have.  By moving forward in time a powerful Soul will attract what is necessary & a weak Soul will lose it all. Everything else is moving in negative energetic time, but you are moving in the opposite direction into positive energetic time. This positioning is form of leadership - you lead the way & others follow you. Diamond time is ameliorating time & it is superimposed upon regular time. 


LIFE IS A PLAY OF TIME

It is DHARMA of time too.  During the Golden Age it becomes the STAIRWAY TO HEAVEN. In this time period you have a few sensible people living Joyfully. Everything is in its purest form. The decline, the entropy begins here from day one.  

During the Iron Age it becomes a SPIRAL TO HELL. In this time period you have eight Billion people struggling sorrowfully. Maximum decline has taken place by now & it is the ripe time for the start of the Confluence Age, the establishment of the new order once again. Time bid us be gone.  


THE NAME OF THE GAME IS SYNCHRONICITY. 

Be in tune with the spin of the Earth. At the Equator of the Earth the linear  speed is 900 miles per hour. This matches with the number of breaths we take in one hour = 15 breaths per minute X 60 minutes in one hour = 900. Time is deep rooted into our human body & its systems. The biological clocks operate without our awareness, they are on auto pilot. Extraordinary life is equivalent to RIDING THE WAVES OF TIME. The sense of time is the cosmic connection of the individual with the planets. So the fundamental question arises - ARE YOU IN TUNE WITH TIME OR OUT OF TUNE.  



IRON  AGE & ITS TIME LIMITATIONS
 
Material Values come from thinking of yourself as an Object. You say my body is male or female. If it is Mine, it is a possession, just an object. But if you say that it is Me, that means I am an Object too.
Q - Are you a possession or a possessor? Who is the possessor of this possession named Body?
A - The real you is the Immortal Soul, who at this time, has a black male body & in the past had a white female body. This Body is warm mud packaged  in a leather bag, with bones to give it a shape. Incidentally the leather bag comes in different colors & textures. The Anatomy is same in every case.  The body is your equipment, or the costume, your are not this equipment or the costume. The Soul is made up of love, purity, peace, power, Bliss & innate wisdom. This intelligence radiates a different positive energy which changes the quality of time & matter. The dominant reality is the Soul & the secondary reality is the body.

TIME CONSCIOUS THEREFORE SELF CONSCIOUS
 
The mentality of Iron Age is going towards materialism, driven by material values. Material Values & materialism cause the mind to move into negative vibrations, which lead to Ego, a false Image of Self. Comparison generates toxic inner experiences in terms of possessions. You say I have less & those people have more. You are confusing two very important different values. WHAT YOU HAVE & WHAT YOU ARE? This basic confusion leads to corruption of mind & goals. Impurity is indulging in vicious activities. acting out lustfully for temporary gratifications with little awareness of the consequences that come along in future times, to make you miserable. Vices are reflections of Virtues, lateral inversions of the images, hence not easily recognizable, therefore overlooked easily.

TIME FOR SOUL CONSCIOUSNESS
 
Soul consciousness is the intention to look behind the Mask - Who Am I?  Third eye is Souls ability to perceive non physical things. It is not possible to see a Soul. You can only understand it & when you realize it , you shout with excitement - I SEE. It is an INSIGHT. Soul is the intelligent glow behind this visible living, breathing, active, moving mask. Soul is gender-less, neither male nor female. Consciousness too is gender-less. The energy of the soul gets depleted continuously as time goes by. When you sleep the soul goes into space of Silence & returns - sleep dead. Now try to Die alive too.  Why we talk so much & repeat a lot - because we are afraid of SILENCE. Your body has the DNA of your biological parents, while your Soul has the DNA of your Spiritual parents. The real you has God's DNA, which translates to unlimited in every aspect. God whispers - You can be like me too. At the least you can behave like Angels right now. Angels have no conflict inside & outside, no entanglements like the innocent lord. Apply this Knowledge into your life, change & become an embodiment of it.

RAJA YOGA MEDITATION TIME
 
Meditation comes very handy to achieve this goal of Total Silence & no activity in the mind.  A prerequisite to successful meditation is Attention. The constant alertness of attention is watching every thought, which is the basis of our Destiny. Thought - Feeling - Emotion - Attitude - Personality - Energy radiated out - Destiny - Energy on its way back.  It requires moment by moment attention, one thought at a time. Thoughts are the building blocks of Consciousness. Purity is consciously living a Virtuous life. It means restraining self from acting out Vicious activities which make you uncomfortable in the present moment & putting a full stop, observe & steer away / change course of thought patterns to elevated ones. Pure vision is one of them. Seeing goodness in other souls, their specialties, or not seeing at all. Force of Love creates miracles.

TIME TO INTRODUCE THE CREATOR
 
My name is Shiva, the benefactor, the seed & a point of concentrated light.  Brahma Kumari’s   call me Shiva Baba affectionately. I am a Supreme Being, a soul like you, an infinitesimal pin point of energy which comprises of an intellect, mind & Sanskars. I have a personality to which you all can relate to easily.  My qualities & attributes are always constant because I do not ever enter the world of matter. They are: Purity, Power, Peace, Knowledge, Love & Bliss.  I reside in the incorporeal world, far away yet only a thought away from you. Here in the land of Nirvana / liberation there is total silence & stillness.  It is my home and home of all souls. Here golden red light radiates & permeates to every corner of the universe from my oval shaped pearl. MY signatures are all over your planet, yet I am not Omnipresent.

ALL IN ONE & ONE IN ALL

Consider me as your father, mother, teacher, guru, beloved, & best friend, all in one and ONE in all. You can communicate with me with the help of Raja Yoga & receive whatever you seek in your multiple lives, when away from home. You do not need a middle man, a deity, or a Mantra to connect to me. It happens only at this auspicious time every cycle. Therefore wake up from your sleep and do not miss this golden chance to unlimited inheritance of 21 births in golden age from the Father.

CONNECTING WITH HIM IS EASY 

First meditate & begin your inward journey by focusing the mind on the point of light behind the third eye, your soul & vehicle to travel upwards into the spiritual dimensions. The power of silence cannot be over emphasized here. Stabilize your vibrating frequency at 2-4 cycles per second from 16 or more. This will bring you in tune with MY frequency & WE then connect together. Now experience your essence. To travel upwards you must have enough stock of fuel of positive, elevated thoughts in your savings account. Churning spiritual knowledge will produce high quality fuel for your lift off. Finally visualize MY red light as a laser beam & climb on it to get propelled up to ME anytime. Daily practice at Amritvela 4.00 AM can help you get to the highest level of consciousness : NIRSANKALP SAMADHI – free from active thought. Please keep trying MY child till you succeed, because I help only those who help themselves. 

His world drama is the biggest comic play ever scripted. Unfortunately it is not directed by HIM. It is directed by TIME & KARMA - go figure.

Rohit Khanna - BEFORE KNOWLEDGE INSANE,
                          AFTER KNOWLEDGE IN-SANE

 

ON BEING A WOMAN - FOR MEN & MENTAL HEALTH

ON BEING A WOMAN - for  man's understanding of his future MENTAL HEALTH
 
The plight of girl child continues - part III
How you treat woman in your life, backfires big time as poor pitiable mental health - beware of this aspect.
 
DISTINCT  STAGES OF GROWING UP
 
A woman goes through multiple stages of growing up. First as a giggling girl, maturing into an attractive woman, metamorphosing into a responsible mother, teacher, home maker, and finally a coaching granny. In all of these separate compartments she undergoes massive physical bodily changes which are brought about by the secretion of hundreds of chemicals & hormones inside her delicate body. These chemicals are responsible for all the chaotic emotions that invade her mind, splitting her personality into tiny fragments. 
 
THE  GIGGLING GIRL
 
The giggling girl has to come to terms with the monthly bleeding periods lasting into a week many times & endure the pain of her female anatomy. It is a big price to pay just to be a girl, of the opposite sex. She is smart enough to hide these painful days while she performs her daily chores and normal interactions with the outer world in school & in the neighborhood. Her dual life has just started. Inwardly uncomfortable but outwardly displaying ease & comfort. In her life time she will produce approximately 400  female eggs, available for fertilization. Ironically  on an average she will use up one  to  four such eggs in her life span only. Nature always provides in abundance. But the poor woman has to bear the burden of disposing off the 396 unused eggs as painful periods. Humanity salutes all woman. The respect for her has just sky rocketed. 

THE GARRULOUS GAZELLE
 

The beauty of the feminine is the Natural MEDICINE.

Her undulating curves of a Goddess is a BLESSING.

Delicious lusciousness of her Body is the sweet NECTAR.

Her radiance Infuses our very existence into RESONANCE.

Her Essences Infuse experiences of Ravishing WONDERS.

Her Soul flowering within & overflowing into the World is INTOXICATING.

She is the supreme pristine splendor of Earthly DELIGHTS.

She is a Vessel of Fertility, Divinity & a Chalice of CREATION.

Her generosity for human Life flourishes with magnificent GLORY. 

The emergence of a beautiful attractive enchanting cupid is totally a brand new & fascinating world for her & the neighborhood she grows up in. She is attracted to young boys because of the hormones being secreted in her body, but the fear of the consequences of pregnancy inhibit her advances. She is torn between these two opposing emotions. THE PLIGHT OF THE GIRL CHILD CONTINUES.  All the art work and paintings of the world are dedicated to her female enticing,  enchanting, irresistible being & anatomy . No movie film is complete without her. The perpetual love triangle never stops. All the beautiful & rich poetry penned down till today is on  her, in her favor & about her.  There would be no Kings & kingdoms without her. From Cleopatra to Helen of Troy & the Miss Universes/World of today, all  are so important that they go down in history lane, famous, wanted, desired.  They are above nations because nations have gone to wars over them. Again she is on a high pedestal, pretty uncomfortable inside but comfortably smiling outside for the public.
 
THE ROMANTIC BRIDE
 
The emergence of a responsible woman happens when she gets married to a stranger of her choice or her parents choice. The charm & fun of secret meetings, official dating, & love marriage is in the fortune of a selected few, who DARE.  For the rest of them they have to be content with their chosen fate, good or bad. She is bargained by her caretakers for a price & sold to prospective buyers like a commodity in many poverty stricken parts of the world. In others parts the caretakers have to shell out large chunk of money as dowry to marry her off to a prospective husband to be.  Here her passive life & living begins. These additional emotional strains become the heavy shackles that she must carry throughout her lifetime. She comes to believe that she is a burden on the parents / caretakers in either case. This very strong emotion of guilt is a huge negative, dragging factor in her up coming future life. What a cursing start does our woman get from this world, & yet we continue to have high expectations from her.  This stage can come pretty early as 10 years, in child marriages, in many parts of the world or as late as 30 / 35 years. Generally for most of them it happens around 20 to 26 years.  We are talking about the majority of women in India, China & third world poor countries. The rest of the world is a minority who do not believe in the bondage of marriage, because of the economic independence & education of both the partners. 

THE PREGNANT WIFE
 
Our woman can become pregnant anytime, now that she is married and the culture she inherits is one of  joint & large family oriented. The normal expectation is, first child in the very first year of marriage.  The parents and grand parents are eagerly waiting for the good news of pregnancy. The metamorphosis begins when she finds out that the periods have stopped. The egg has fertilized with the male sperm. The flood of new motherly hormones begins pouring inside her body. The Oxytocin is responsible for motherly emotions emerging in her. Emotions of  over whelming love for the new baby, fierce protection from all dangers, bonding, care, breast feeding satisfaction, positive feed back loops, contentment of snuggles and Coos, invisible connections, empathy to smell good.  The Dopamine is responsible for another half dozen emotions of serious fears, anxiety, aggression, constant worry, prioritizing babies needs, & depression.  It definitely brings in another serious aspect of being a responsible mother is  her compulsive behavior of cleanliness, washing hands, hygiene, & obsessive checking for breathing of the baby. So many diverse emotions in one female package is a tall order. Her counter part, male species with a handful of emotions is a dwarf in front of her.   The anticipation of baby's arrival is a special world by itself, which can not be shared by anyone else except herself. She is dividing herself into two separate parts & creating new life. This moment is Divine because her ever accommodating anatomy is housing TWO SOULS AT THE SAME TIME. She is very fortunate to have this unique experience in her inner mental privacy.   

THE MOTHER TO BE
 
The fear of delivering, the excruciating pain involved is combined & intermingled with the pleasure & satisfaction of creation of a new life. The encouragement from all the members of the joint family keeps her going. The experienced mothers & grandmothers at home are busy preparing for the final day & boosting her morale every minute. The body is in major discomfort. The pelvic region has expanded, the stomach is stretched to its limits, the skin is cracking up & the weight of the baby is unbearable when standing up, hence she lies down to compensate the distribution of the weight in the lower area. The mother to be, is made to walk & do easy exercises of the limbs to help deliver the child normally. Extra care is given to her diet and all good things are included in it. She is kept amused & emotionally happy at all times despite all the discomfort going on inside her body. The focus is on delivering a healthy baby. The mother to be gets top priority in all matters at home. Most poverty stricken families are not so fortunate to afford all the comforts that are a must for the mother to be. Many such working mothers go to work up to the last day of delivery. Hats off to all of them.     

A CHANGED WOMAN
 
Woman is hard wired for bringing up children and she must be aware of everything happening around her at all times. Please do not under estimate the LEVEL OF  AWARENESS over flowing in her. This faculty  is automatically extended  to encompass  her husband & all  his actions,  doings   in life. What he is doing, why he is acting like this, how does he eat, what clothes is he wearing and the list goes on. Man beware of these scrutinizing  roaming eyes.  When  you see her innocent face, you miss out  the underlying signage - YOU ARE MONITORED  BY HIDDEN HUMAN SURVEILLANCE CAMERAS AT ALL TIMES.  This message is totally camouflaged by her enticing gestures & advances which hypnotize you in not deciphering it. Such an over sight gets you into trouble & tight corners. Then you wonder, where you went wrong & realize how dumb you are.  Woman is always smarter than man, no doubt about it. Another word of caution here : Do not make the blunder of responding to her when she is thinking ALOUD or TALKING TO HERSELF.

A SUCCESSFUL HOMEMAKER
 
She has successfully delivered three to four children and earned the certificate of a mature mother. Now  she ventures into bringing them up as best as she can with all the help she can get from her husband & the extended joint family. This is a high energy consuming full time job, usually spilling into overtime up to midnight with no wages & very little appreciation to come with. Our woman is always tired & drained of energy by running after the children, catching them doing the unforgivable acts of mischief, many times rescuing them from life threatening dangers. The responsibility is truly gigantic but seemingly looks normal. Our woman has gone through hell to give birth to these innocent devils and lots of human investment is at stake if she were to loose one of them through over sight, carelessness, lethargy, or any other count. This is the main reason that she is always on her toes & at the brink of breaking down because of the constant anxiety, worry &  watchfulness. This is our SUPER WOMAN.  

A PARADIGM SHIFT
 
This hectic schedule of our changed  woman is nowhere matching up with the initial romantic bride available for exploration.  She is the woman in charge of the house hold and all romance is on hold too. Limited Sex & almost instantaneous child birth has deformed  her body & ruined her life, if she has any left now.  The sex appeal has gone so has the desire for any intimate contact. Now she seeks compassion instead of passion. The responsible mother has new set of priorities, yet she accommodates the persistent romantic overtures from her life partner to some extent against her bodily aversions for such physical contact. Again she is leading a dual emotional battle inside her tender mind, & her partner is totally unaware of such a predicament.    This lack of sensitivity on part of the male, is a major factor in break ups, leading to broken homes. The Ego laden man of the house, her partner must understand this paradigm shift  to the core.  Growth, changing emotional needs & growing older is a natural phenomenon.  The faster you accept it, better it becomes for everyone in the family, society & the nation. 

LIBERATING  MENOPAUSE
 
The young brats have grown up into tall handsome hulks or bewitching maidens & gone off to universities to study or work elsewhere in some far off cities. The once busy & overflowing nest  is now empty. Soon they will choose their own partners or our woman & her husband will repeat the same mistakes of arranging their marriages with strangers who they think are a good match for their children. The mental battles continue on every situation that the world can throw at them. One last anatomical change in her body is still to come. It is the menopause, she has been waiting for. Finally the saga of bleeding periods comes to an end. This liberating exit is painful too like its beginning. It is a signal for her lustful husband to change his attitude towards her as a desirable object, MEN-O-PAUSE. Ironically now was the time to enjoy intimate sex without the fear of pregnancy, but there is no inclination for it now. The corresponding hormone  of estrogen has dried up in her body. Rather at this stage she has developed aversion for any physical contact. This is bad news for the single track husband, who firmly believes that lust is love, thus denying our woman, her due share of love. This erroneous attitude causes our woman  to withdraw & distance from her man, leaving him alone & lonely more and more, when both partners want exactly the opposite – more Love-full intimacy. From the very start she was after your seed not you, while you were after her, her intimacy - OPPOSING WANTS.
   
A GRACEFUL GRANNY
 
It is time to ripen up a notch further for our woman who has had a grueling life so far. She is evolving into a gentle graceful grandmother of her children's children. The numerous grand children will be nursed, assisted in their births, & latter on coached by her. Her worn-out body may be frail but her will power & determination is still strong as steel. She reminiscences her youthful days sitting in her rocking chair & is ever busy knitting woolen clothes for her favorite grand children or happily making jams, sauces & pickles for the extended family. Her male counter part is no match for her domestic enterprise. He remains a silent witness or at best an incognito helper. 

Man - you are just a catalyst in HER life - Beware. You have the Illusion that you have Her & possess her But the truth is OTHER-WISE.

Rohit Khanna - IN-CHARGE & IN-VISIBLE