RELATING YOUR LIFE TO CLASSICS OF ALL TIMES - mid course correction possibility

SUMMARIZING  & RELATING  YOUR LIFE SO FAR. 

This is a comic attempt to help you re-evaluate your life once again, call it MID-COURSE CORRECTION POSSIBILITY.

Please check mark ONE of the flowing CLASSIC BOOK titles which you think fits your life situations, circumstances, choices, compromises, opportunities, & memorable events elapsed so far .

1 WAR & (little) PEACE - beliefs & struggles, inner conflicts

2 CRIME & PUNISHMENT - commit wrong doings & repentance

3 PRIDE & PREJUDICE - Domestic angles of all kinds

4 VANITY FAIR - faking love for lust & riches

5 LES MISERABLE S - transformation from bad to good

6 IF TOMORROW COMES - unforgiving & revengeful 

7 TO KILL A MOCKING BIRD - growing up as a child, carefree

8 GREAT EXPECTATIONS - ending in misery of course

9 ATLAS SHRUGGED - mind is the root of all: Values or Vices

10 IN SEARCH OF LOST TIME - Remembering things of ancient past, like truth, eternal bliss through original seeds of Purity.

There are no right or wrong choices.

Personally for me it is #10 choice, the BK route.

THE MINDFUL ART OF IN-LOOKING TO BE MASTERS OF OUR MISCHIEVOUS MINDS

l The whole creation has reached its IN-EVITABLE peak of decay & degradation, at the end of this cycle.

l Therefore instead of scrapping it, the IN-CREDIBLE Creator enters in the middle of the mess to salvage us out, redeem us & to restart IN-TERNALLY the IN-EXORABLE process of establishing a PURE new world, once again.

l In   this   Confluence Age, over lapping the Iron age, the IN-COGNITO Creator gives us his IN-TRODUCTION, which makes us knowledgeable about the eternal IN-DWELLER within us. 

l HE teaches us that human beings are created in HIS image, eternal point of Supreme light totally unlimited & IN-FINITE in all aspects.  Thus we once again IN-VENT ourselves   as very IN-VALUABLE beings of light too. 

l HE patiently coaches us to give up this IN-ESCAPABLE, dirty old IN-SIPID world of EGO  & LUST, voluntarily, including this worn out body.

l This is HIS    IN-JECTION  for us the impure souls to jump start the IN-CREDIBLE process of Purification. 

l We start the IN-LOOKING process & IN-VEST ourselves to become masters of ourselves, always IN-CHARGE as elevated beings. 

l This kind of continuous Pure            IN-LIVING makes us IN-VINCIBLE in the sorrowful & miserable world of  Maya & Illusions.

l The nett result is liberation IN-LIFE, this very life accompanied by boundless Peace, Joy & Bliss.

l The bonus comes in the form of IN-HERITANCE of the Kingdom of Golden Age. 

l Before this Truth was revealed to us we were IN-COMPATIBLE & totally Insane humans, but now after this IN-SIGHT we have been transformed into IN-SANE beings. 

l This is the IN-THING about Applied Spirituality when it is IN-CORPORATED into our daily routines. 

l The process is tough & requires guts of steel, faith of Hercules & enthusiasm of Buddha.

l The name of the game is IN-TROVERSION, which makes the effort applied in IN-VERSE proportions to make  an easy yogi out of you.

l If sufficiently Gullible then you are fortunate to develop Faith in the Invisible being & start the win-win, game of Trust for the rest of your life.   

Rohit Khanna - IN-FINITE & IN-VERSE.

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NON INVASIVE TOOL FOR NEUROSURGERY - MEDITATION

NON INVASIVE TOOL FOR NEUROSURGERY  - do it yourself kit for Mental health challenges.

If you need a piece of your mind, then there is only one option - neurosurgery at a high cost.

 
 
MINDING YOUR MIND  
 
Mind is always moving like a vagabond. It is noise, chatter, inner talk. It can not be imprisoned, nor can you invite another mind into your mind to give company or witness it in action. It is your very own private domain and God alone knows what is going on or has already gone in there & safely stored up in the vast passive memory. It is constantly & continuously thinking, yet no over lapping thoughts, with slight gaps, intervals. We have to play with the mini intervals now instead of the thinking thoughts. You can see one thing at a time: either the figure or the background. The thoughts are the figures and silence is the background. Emotions too are like clouds in the sky of your mind. Behind the cloud of anger is the bigger cloud of rage & ego. Just watch them float away. Let go of the thoughts like a bird lets go of the tree branch, when it chooses to fly away.

Your mind is your HALO around the head. You can decide to go to the mountains with the aim of renouncing this world but can you leave your mind behind too. No never. The same mind will create the same small world around you in the mountains too.

EMPTY & SILENT AT BIRTH

You are pure, virgin, & have unbounded silence &  emptiness. You look but don’t see because of clean slate of memory. You listen but don’t hear. Gradually the collection begins. Collection of words becomes your mind. Every child is a natural Mystic. We are all unique, no one is ordinary. God does not create ordinary images of Himself. He is not a manufacturer or a machine. His every signature is an original one. Each child carries a great mystery within him to be realized. A potential to be actualized. Sadly on the way of growing up you are corrupted & you lose your spontaneity & creativity.

CHILDREN ARE PURE
 
Children are still pure. They remember the fragrance. All children are beautiful - never an ugly child. His first word, go on repeating joyously, a new mechanism has started. Next comes the first syntax, then they pick up the first question. Start asking each & everything. They are not interested in your answers, just enjoying the fact that they can question. New faculty has come into being. Then comes the reading & soon he is very articulate in his expressing. A child is breast fed by the mother & he learns two basic things, love & food. Latter on when you deny love-full sex, you compensate it by eating more and become fat. Love is satisfying & fulfilling in itself therefore do not deny it to yourself. Try to love for no reason at all & feel the magic.     

FAULTY EDUCATION

Our whole education is for the mind. Ambitions, desires, somebody big & this madness never stops. First earn millions at the cost of your health and then donate it all. Success is tiring, a disappointment. It is stupidity. But you need courage to renounce it all. Your are born intelligent but you die stupid dull.

INDOCTRINATION THROUGH MEANING OF TIME

At any one instance there a two different times zones at two diametrically opposite locations on the planet. If it daytime in the EAST then it is night time in the WEST simultaneously. Paradoxically the two geographical halves have additionally developed separate meaning of time.

EASTERN TIME - ABUNDANT & SLOW

In the EAST, time is cyclic and conditioning of multiple lives because of the belief of life after death. Hence enough time at hand, no hurry, can always wait, no clocks, no time consciousness, life goes on for ever, walk slowly, go patiently, will reach at the destination some how, everything is already destined hence slow, & in equilibrium in all circumstances. God does not rest at all. He plays continuously, unlimited energy.

WESTERN TIME - SCARCE & FAST

In the WEST, time is linear, and the conditioning of the mind is of one life time only. Time is money, no time to waste, so much to be done, so many desires to be fulfilled, hence anxiety, hurry to do things, doing is valuable, always doing something, never idling, time is divided by Jesus, before birth of Christ, & after death of  Christ, gets disturbed very easily in success & failures. God made the world in six days & rested on the 7th day. He got tired so fast. A very limited kind of energy.

FORGETFUL OF BEING & SELF CONSCIOUS

All the above conditioning puts the confused mind into unconscious mode running against time at 100 km/hr. It creates most of the life’s problems. The fundamental problem is of excessive Self consciousness. The whole emphasis is on SELF, continuously conscious of self. What the world is saying about me. I must be perfect. Ego is the center of disease. Living on borrowed images of self from others like politicians do. Props are needed to stand upright. FORGOT THE INNER BEING, hence substituted with acquired meaningless stuff: names, labels, fame, wealth, position. The net result is shattered people in need of urgent psychoanalysis. The specialists analyze the mind by going deeper and deeper into the unconscious layers of the mind. It has it’s limitations. It helps them partially & superficially to accept their misery and be slightly less unhappy, less sorrowful. At this stage you have forgotten what you were and what potential you have inside to be exactly the opposite.

MIND IS A SOCIAL PHENOMENON
 
Alone the mind can not do anything. It needs company. The mind can not get angry, foolish, sad, or violent on its own. It needs another mind to blame, hit, call names, gossip. When it can not use the function of the mind then it becomes worried, anxious. So it goes and buys a cell phone, open an account on Facebook & twitter, start a blog, make friends for the very same reason. Busy in satisfying its big ego, no inclination for introspection. A big time loser.  

THE BIO COMPUTER, JUST A MECHANISM

You can turn on/off a personal computer but not your bio computer of the mind. Nature did not provide a switch to turn it off when it was not needed. There are no valves or switches either, in other organs of our body like the heart and lungs to control them at will. This means they work 24/7 even when we are asleep and consume the scarce energy we accumulate. If we could , then we can rest & be relaxed and save up the energy which shows up as charisma on our personality. Now when you speak with the power of charisma, the arrow hits the target, no evidence, no logic or explanation is required to influence the other.

It is functional & skillful but no AWARENESS, no INTELLIGENCE to discern the right from wrong, spiritual from materialism. Somnambulism is the ordinary state of the mind. Sleepy habit of doing things. Mind is bi-polar too. Duality is confusing, hence additional agency of Intelligence is needed to function in this many dimensional world. One thing on the surface & another thing exactly opposite deep down. Mind is very cunning too. It can rationalize dullness as transcendence, deadness as renunciation, & paralysis as meditation. It can fool you. Look for the right motivation, watch for the unconscious underlying motive.

THE GAMES OF IMAGINATION & DREAMS
 
Mind is merely a passive memory from the past. This past tense is trying to advice you in the present tense. How erroneous & pathetic is your situation? Mind is a big liar. Beware of the tricks that imagination plays with you. Dream is an imagination only. It is not real but it is your intimate world of make believe. You have the power to manifest anything you desire if you will it. When a hypnotist suggests that he is putting fire on your hand, you develop blisters immediately, but there is no real fire. The body manifests it. Imagination does it. The same phenomenon happens with fire walkers. They  believe firmly that no feet burning will happen & they don’t when they walk on burning coals. They are protected by the seal of their imagination.

LOVE IS DANGEROUS - APPROACH WITH CAUTION

Imagination is a tool on the path of LOVE. Hidden fears about moving into love are ingrained early in childhood. When you approach another, you have to go outside yourself & questions of acceptance / rejection arise. Hesitant cowardly people decide for marriage instead of love. If people were left open to love, few would be able to love, hence die without love, because love is dangerous. It is like colliding with another world. Your needs must match with the others needs. It is difficult to change, EGO comes in the way. No body can reject me.

NUDITY AS BEAUTY OR PORNOGRAPHY

Hundreds of intricate statues carved outside the temples of India provoke sexuality, lust, desires, & arousal for a reason. Temples were made to meditate on man & woman making love. It was an object of MEDITATION. When the desiring stopped within, then & only then they had the permission to go inside the temples. There were no nude statues inside the temples. If people entered the temple with obscene thoughts in their heads then they would be making the temples dirty, insulting the deities & considered as profanity. This was the method to clean up & erase the repressiveness of sex & sexuality ingrained in people by their own society.

PLEASURE IS NATURES SILLY TRICK

The sexual activity has pleasure built into it to as clever means to achieve its end of reproduction. It is basically all chemical based urge. Hormones are produced by the body to get you into the sexual act. It is psychological, no depth, lots of friction & very brief orgasm. After it has happened depression & sadness sets in. Body is silly and not deep. It is not happiness or elation, because that is ego filled, short lived. How can you awaken when you are awake in MAYA world? All pleasure is chemically initiated in the body which further evolves into instincts & unmanageable urges. Chemicals may be imported from outside into the body by ingesting substances or injecting drugs. Chemicals can also be created inside the body by fasting, exercises, deep breathing, spinning, dancing, sliding, riding on mechanical contraptions like roller coasters which produce experiences of dizziness and euphoria. A whole new world opens up on this count. Chemical differences in the body create diametrically opposite sense of intoxication - hungry/satiated, woman/man, intelligent/stupid, young/old. But above all of these mundane excitements is the DIVINE INTOXICATION derived through understanding of TRUTH & KNOWLEDGE.     

LOVE IS REFLECTIVE

When someone loves you then you will love yourself. The other is a mirror for you. Your BEING is not loved, instead your DOING is loved & accepted. Self hatred begins early in childhood. Now you have to fall in love with your friends and be as lovers who accept you. Love is a must. Stay in it for some time but then move through it. Finally come out of it one fine day. TRANSCEND IT.

LOVE IS FEARLESS
 
Clever people don’t take such risks to move out of love. They miss out on what life has to offer next in the realm of unknown. Cleverness is not Intelligence rather a poor substitute. Intelligent people are innocent. They function out of state of not knowing. If you are afraid of falling you will never walk. If fearful of drowning then you will never swim. If doubtful of rejection then you will never move into love. If hesitant of failure then you will never succeed. Such skeptics are dead before their death. Live intensely, don’t take it as a personal offense if some one cannot love you. You were available but they were not willing. Decide for yourself, if you two don’t fit. Why remain with yourself, walk a few steps with somebody, feel their rhythm. That rhythm will satisfy you and the urge to shy away will disappear. Don’t deny yourself that natural need. Fulfill your natural need of love & then sit down for MEDITATION. First lower needs then higher needs and finally the highest need. Dreams will disappear. Remain true to nature.

BODY IS WISER THAN MIND
 
Your body is giving you the right signals. Body is wise. Your mind is a late arrival in this game. It is immature still. Listen to your body. Things will settle down on their own. Be easy, relaxed, calm, tension free and you float high. Body is not your enemy, but your best friend. Make a peace pact with it & then it will reveal to you the SHRINE OF GOD. Don’t divide yourself. Be totally into one thing. Remain one yet AWARE. All valuable things in life only happen to you, you can not make them happen. 
                      
SUPPRESSION LEADS TO EXPLOSION

The abundance of sexual energy in the body has become a big problem. How to channelize it correctly. But the same energy does not create problems in animals & birds. It is wrong bent of the mind. The anti sexual attitude of our elders & parents leading to the suppression of bodies natural instincts to procreate. It is the absurd conditioning of our pristine minds. The innocent children are forced to believe sex is bad & thus suppress it which goes against the natural needs of the body. It is torture to them in many ways. He is imprisoned through these invisible chains. It goes against the internal intelligence as nonsense. But he compromises for the sake of society to become stupid & stay dull.   

PASSIVE LIVING

Acceptance of their own natural urges would heal them of their inhibitions thereby preparing them for an adventurous life. A naked woman can be an example of beauty, health, & proportion, the most glorious product of nature. It is the mind that is pornographic not the nude statues. Afraid of death, fearful of life - living Luke warm way. Halfheartedly instead of intensely with  healthy flavor. One has to die, hence living. One has to love hence loving. No incentive coming from their own BEING, not risking anything to live totally. No sense of adventure or inquiry into the unknown. Youth never happened, just bypassed.   

DISSOLUTION OF THE IMPOSTOR OF EGO A PREREQUISITE

It is our attachment to the wrong beliefs about us. It is the false center. We put on a mask of restlessness over our real nature of calmness. We go about masquerading, all our lives with passion. We are intoxicated with ego feeling, agitated state of consciousness, resulting in stimuli of feelings, hence covering the original state of bliss. Ego lives on attention. It feels hungry, deep begging for attention. It is all about me, me and I. All misery enters through ego. Two egos clash because both are not confident of themselves. You are a little spark and yet you extol yourself. Ego is home made, fabricated, self manufactured and ugly of course, since it is man-made. We are afraid of being alone, lonely. Hence we invent illusions, TV, clubs, conferences, sects, churches, crowd, and parties, to procrastinate the effort to look inside. This is our self hypnosis through others, attention from others.  

If you are hurt inside with one’s insinuation – it is ego.

If one’s behavior causes you pain – it is ego.

If you speak loudly, and shout to get your point across – it is ego.

If you want to control your children & the world – it is ego.

If you are pointing the index finger and giving orders – it is ego.

If you are worried and anxious for things – it is ego.

If you are suffering and miserable most of the time – it is ego.

If you are generally angry at the world situations – it is ego. 

MEDITATION MELTS/DISSOLVES EGO

Meditation will help you destroy the wrong notions about Self, false Ego, & stone age beliefs brought forward from many generations. Once the Ego has melted into the whole then transformation happens. In the absence of Ego the associated problems of inner noise, excessive thinking, compulsive worrying get mitigated to a large extent. It is a massive help, because now we are proceeding towards no mind zone. We have to empty the mind & keep it empty. The exercise of watching continues and we achieve a state of no thought. Eventually it boils down to NOTHINGNESS, just a fragment of ETERNITY. You have become spacious enough to host the great guest. You are almost ready to experience the fullness of God.

ASKING FOR MEDITATION IS A BARRIER

You are the DOING of EXISTENCE. So let meditation happen on its own. Be open to it. Be prepared for it. Stop trying. Asking is a desire, a barrier. In the empty mind the beyond can enter into you. Be grateful when things are going wrong because gratefulness is a transforming force. Being is just pure gratefulness.  

RE-MEMBER-ING  SELF THROUGH MEDITATION

Now that the skewed upbringing & unconscious living has caused a split between body mind heart & soul we need to make u turn to unify all these members of your self. We will need the help of our INTELLECT this time to set the mind straight. The biggest component of Intellect is AWARENESS. When we shift our focus on being aware, attentive, alert to every thought & action then the process of u turn starts. The battle has just begun. Be in the world but not of it. Understand it. Play with the idea. Give it a chance. Sense of humor is a must. It makes the going easy. Jumping, walking, working, remain WATCHFUL     of self. Develop the watchman mentality of looking. The big question is looking at what? Look at your mind within. Watch your mind & to watch an object you have to step away from it to get a full view. No judging, no grading of the mind while watching it. A neutral witnessing like a toddler child. Just watching the mind is the greatest secret of life. Watching is not concentration. We don’t want to go deeper and deeper into it to explore it like a scientist does. Watching is also not contemplation. We don’t wish to expand upon one subject like religion, from all angles either. It is not trying hard, forced thinking, or any kind of doing.    

SILENCE IS HIGHLY CREATIVE
 
Unawareness creates all problems. One keeps oneself in darkness. Dreams exist when you sleep. Problems exist when you are unconscious. In Buddha world all solutions, all answers, no questions, no problems. It is a different planet. Buddha is shouting from far away, but what is reaching you is different. Make a conscious effort of understanding, not forcing out of will power. Be ready, because readiness makes you worthy of meditation. 
Speech becomes valuable when you have attained silence. Undivided organic unity of EXISTENCE is eternity. Silence is a major part of this. Bliss is the goal of life and Meditation is the means to achieve it. Active meditation is for the modern under worked over stressed man. Primitive man was naturally active, hence did not require Catharsis. Lots of manual labor, good sleep, no anxiety. First begin with vigorous Catharsis which helps to throw out the chaos within, silence follows automatically. MANTRAS are very useful help to induce silence. Mantra is the repetition of a single word which leads to boredom. Now you wish to get rid of this boredom, hence you slip into silence easily of course for a short period of time.     

DETACHMENT IS THE KEY

You have to TRANSCEND the mind. Step out of it & walk away from it. It like divorcing, because your are fed up. When you disown it & create a distance between your self & the mind then it disappears & fortunately the problems associated with it also vanish leaving you free. It has no grip over you now. When you are detached you are in Buddha field. Here no gravitation exists only levitation. You start to float up.

GOING BACK TO SQUARE ONE
 
Meditation is your nature, to be recognized, by simply remembering right, that you were Divine before. When energy is turned inwards to its source then it happens on its own, you can not bring it or will it. It is a way to go within yourself where thoughts don’t exist. Just BEING in your center, remaining unclouded, undisturbed like eternity. Meditation will liberate your MYSTICISM. It will bring you infinite intelligence, make you more sensitive, radiant & rich inside. Meditation is a risky business & meant for gamblers. You have to risk all for nothing.    

ZAZEN - JUST SITTING SILENTLY DOING NOTHING
 
Giving a little of your wealth as charity with the intention of going to Heaven does not work. Heaven is not so cheap. You have to work very hard & give up everything including your self to reach there, then your whole life becomes a big charity. In return you get infinite silence, compassion, ecstasy, clarity, joy, & bliss. Energy flows from higher to lower, healthy to unhealthy, strong to weak, spiritual to materialism, center to circumference. If the center is pure then it is reflected on the circumference. God is Epicurean. To heal the people of their sorrows you must be joyful like HIM.

HAPPINESS IS A CHOICE YOU MAKE
 
The next moment is born out of this present moment. Sow it now, reap it next moment. What ever is taken as real becomes real & vice verse. If you distrust this moment then you have already poisoned it. Energy is there, you have to make a conscious choice to manifest it as positive or negative, celebration or worry, happiness or sorrow, love or lust. Lust energy is loose easy flowing down hill. For love energy it is uphill effort. The choice is always yours to make or be choice-less.

ESSENCE DAWNS BY CONTRAST

When you are outwardly poor the inner poverty is absent, no contrast, hence unaware of the ESSENCE, the inner richness. There is a contentment in the poor but that satisfaction is false, ugly & dull. The poor are too hungry to meditate.  When you are outwardly rich then the inner poverty is highlighted in contrast.  Riches are attained at the cost of the soul & the inner contact is lost. Possessions are there but the master has disappeared. Riches are there but the man is not feeling rich, rather impoverished, very  poor. The outer riches have created a hunger for the inner richness. This is the moment of awakening. The man will renounce all and seek the Essence.  When he does find it there will be harmony, contentment, a real one, a beautiful one this time. It is fullness of God. Now you have richness of both the worlds, outer & inner. 
  

Rohit Khanna - just lucky to be left raw & unadulterated. 

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LOVE IS THE FUNDAMENTAL EMOTION - from within

  OPEN HEART SURGERY  ON LOVE 


  CHAPTER OF SELF 

First crush, first love, first date, first kiss and first break up, are all stages of maturing up. Love is a teacher. The lessons to be learnt are all on SELF:  Self-worth, self-confidence, self-esteem, self-respect, and self-love. Loving your self is the first and foremost lesson and duty. Spend time working on self, giving yourself time and energy. Experience your own power. To love your self is the beginning of a lifelong romance. Be kind and listen to your heart. Enjoy the ride. Happiness and pain are the exercises, for your heart making it stronger every time. Love is always present, you have to feel it or not feel it.                         

SELF REPLENISHING WELL 

Man is a well of energy. The well has to be active always. You have to keep drawing the water out of the well all of the time. This is how the well fills up. If you close down the well, then the water dries up. The springs that feed the well, clog up and the stagnant water evaporates. Man, like the well must be active and continue loving, as long as, he is alive. You got to learn the correct lesson on love. When you are not in love, then you are in fear. You are a slave of fear. Hate is, love standing upside down. You are a product of love, not sex or lust. You were born to love, in the right fashion and not be a part of the population explosion. 

LEARNING COMES FROM WITHIN

When you need to be loved, you take love, where ever you can find it. When you are desperate, to be loved, to feel love, to know love, then, you seek out, what you think love should be, or looks like. When you find love, or what you think love is, you will lie, steal, or even kill, to keep it. It is only a perception. You are not sure what you are looking for. Unfortunately learning about love comes from within. It cannot be given or taken away. It grows from your sense of self. You create and recreate love within yourself, if and when you have had, loving experiences in your life. By a long shot, you are not likely to have had, any such loving experiences, so you are empty inside. You are like a tourist in a strange country without a road map. You hold onto, reach out to, and find yourself embroiled in mistaken beliefs, mirages about you and love. 

UNDERSTANDING LOVE THROUGH PAIN

Most of us learn the wrong lessons of love through pain. Abusive, negligently inflicted unnecessary pain is meted out to us. We learn to expect pain, as an ingredient, of being loved. The loved ones will hurt you and ignore your pain. It is never explained to you. You got to figure it out for yourself by watching, listening, and experiencing the pain and hurt, first hand. An abandoning father sets the pattern of love, in your life, on the boom of your subconscious. You learn to define love, by its absence, rather than its presence, by the pain it inflicted, rather than the joy, it was supposed to bring. If you bear the pain of love silently, you can hope against hope, that someone will one day love you enough, to hurt you again.

MAN SEEKS PLEASURE, WOMAN SEEKS SEED & SECURITY

People will get what they want, from you and then leave. Young girls are often tricked, by (strangers) their boyfriends, into believing that they love them, just to have sex with them. They tell lies and false praise, to get what they want from you, your piece of innocence. Then, when you really need that someone, the people you expect to be there, will not be there.

PAIN IS PART OF THE TOTAL PACKAGE

Paradoxically people deny each other love, compassion, and understanding that they both yearn for. You have to be aware, of your fears that love can hurt. This fear, does not allow new people, to come close to you and become intimate. It is tough for most of us, to open up our hearts and receive love and enjoy it, instead of getting frightened by it. Of course, love does not come with a guarantee, to not to, hurt you. Love sometimes, does hurt, but that is the chance, we all have to take. When the other person leaves, we don’t cease to be wonderful, for whatever reason. Unfortunately, we misunderstand the happening and close our hearts and shut down. We are afraid of living out, our feelings of pain, and sadness. 

NO SCHOOLS  TEACH LOVE & LOVING

Love is not your power; it is your helplessness, utter helplessness. It is a cry of a weeping heart. Just accept it. People are loveless. Nobody knows how to love. You are taught, the wrong lessons of romantic love, abstract love, and fairy tale love. You are taught, by your role models about domestic love, passionate love. The urgency, to settle down in life is pushed.  You are pressurized to acquire, all that foolish baggage, furniture, house, and family, at the cost of your life.  They say, you must postpone, true love and loving now. You are bulldozed, into the path of suffering with passionate love or being lonely, without love.

PASSIONATE LOVE  IS HOT &  UNIDIRECTIONAL

It is directed to one person. Love means to desire with immense intensity. It is between you and someone else, a stranger to begin with. Then, as time goes by, you think, you become familiar and friendly with the stranger. After some more time has passed, you get fed up of the familiar face and body. The intense desire, for this stranger, has burnt out. Now, you desire a new stranger, to replace the familiar stranger. Love is spontaneous, the unknown, the unexpected. Passionate love does not come, alone. It brings with it, its own troublesome baggage of jealousy, possessiveness, anger, fighting, quarreling, nagging, intolerance, domination. It’s part of the total package.

COSMIC MYSTERY

First you look for a perfect mate. The perfect one is nowhere to be found. It may happen, some time, in the future. You are so lonely, without love. Eventually, you do get together with an almost perfect mate. You are still unhappy, because of minor imperfections, in your mate. The nose is slightly longer, the teeth are not aligned, the complexion is over tanned, or the gait is lethargic. You end up with no love, in every situation. How you deal with love, is how LOVE will deal with you. Falling in love is a comic and Cosmic Mystery. How it happens?  When it happens? You don’t know. Love is a gift that chooses you, for a brief period of time. You do not choose love, but you are supposed to celebrate it, accept it, feel it filling you up and overflowing your heart, then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought it, alive, in you. Give it to others, who seem poor in spirit, around you. When we are in love, our hearts open up and we are able to get in touch, with those weak spots, within ourselves, making us feel perfect and wonderful.

LOVE IS SEASONAL - IT IS IN THE AIR

Love has its own time, season, and reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it, coerce it, or reason it, into staying, when it chooses to fly away.  You should do nothing if and when love decides to leave. Just let go. Let it go away. Do not try to hold on to it, nor reclaim it. We want answers, there are no answers. There is no meaning, beyond the love itself. Feel honored, that someone loves you, but unfortunately, you do not feel love for that someone. Gently, refuse the gift that you cannot return or reciprocate. Never take advantage and cause pain. Keep your heart open, love will come back again. Simply trust it and trust yourself. 

COMPASSIONATE LOVE, IS THE RIGHT LESSON ON LOVE

It is on top of the ladder of love. It is between you and all the existence. It is “love all”, as they say in lawn tennis. This love is long lasting because it is cool. Once you have mastered balancing on this rung of the ladder you are ready for the next step. The step of gratitude! Compassionate love is your personal trainer for gratitude. Just wait for it to happen. Be aware, intensely because the number one enemy of ego can strike anytime and sabotage your plans. Ego can resist the happening of gratitude, to you. Love one self and fill up. Then go out and share it with every other, unconditionally. Does it not make more sense to enjoy all the time?  Those who love deeply and are truly mated, have no desire to dominate others or to initiate wars. Love is desire, effort and forgiveness intermingled in equal proportions. It is concentrated kinetic energy with positive electrical impulses capable of energizing WISHES into REALITY, and manifest marvelous magic. It can counteract gravity, allowing you to levitate, recall of previous incarnations, and even reverse your aging process.  

LOVE IS THE NATURAL STATE OF EVERY SOUL

just give unconditionally & when you don’t then…. 

Commit to being an EPIC LOVER. There is no greater challenge, and no greater prize. Your woman deserves that from you. Be the type of husband your wife can’t help but brag about.  The woman that told him ‘I do’, and trusted her life with him, has been waiting for this man to step up. If your marriage isn’t what you want it to be, take 100% responsibility for YOUR PART in marriage, regardless of where your spouse is at, and commit to applying these lessons while there is time.

No love for work/job/making love,  then        FATIGUE

NEVER STOP COURTING.  Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for GRANTED. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man, that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love.

If craving for more love in present then        ADDICTION 

FALL IN LOVE OVER and OVER and OVER again. You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.

If negating love to self then     ALLERGY

PROTECT YOUR OWN HEART. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.

If Closed & rigid to love    then     ARTHRITIS  

FILL HER SOUL EVERYDAY… learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED. Ask her to create a list of 10 THINGS that make her feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority everyday to make her feel like a queen.

BE PRESENT. Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully WITH HER. Treat her as you would your most valuable client. She is.

When not open to love & bitter then      DIABETES

BE WILLING TO TAKE HER SEXUALLY, to carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul. Let her melt into her feminine softness as she knows she can trust you fully.

When In confusion & restless in present then    INDIGESTION

ALWAYS SEE THE BEST in her. Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife.

When Controlling others in present then        INSANITY

IT’S NOT YOUR JOB TO CHANGE OR FIX HER… your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not. Can you change or fix the world. NO Then why even attempt such am impossible task and waste your valuable energies. The children & spouse fall in this category of world. 

TAKE FULL ACCOUNTABILITY for your own emotions: It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she CAN’T make you sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love.

When attached to love in present, its mine then   BLINDNESS

NEVER BLAME your wife If YOU get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU. They are YOUR emotions, and your responsibility. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of YOU that is asking to be healed. You were attracted to this woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all of your childhood wounds in the most painful way so that you could heal them… when you heal yourself, you will no longer be triggered by her, and you will wonder why you ever were.

FORGIVE IMMEDIATELY and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let your history hold you hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes, is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.

If Unable to give love & allow the flow then    ASTHMA

GIVE HER SPACE… The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself. Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to sing…. (okay, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point. Tell her to take time for herself, ESPECIALLY after you have kids. She needs that space to renew and get re-centered, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids and the world.)

When In Denial about love then     CRIPPLED

ALLOW YOUR WOMAN TO JUST BE. When she’s sad or upset, it’s not your job to fix it, it’s your job to HOLD HER and let her know it’s ok. Let her know that you hear her, and that she’s important and that you are that pillar on which she can always lean. The feminine spirit is about change and emotion and like a storm her emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and non-judging, she will trust you and open her soul to you… DON’T RUN-AWAY WHEN SHE’S UPSET. Stand present and strong and let her know you aren’t going anywhere. Listen to what she is really saying behind the words and emotion.

BE SILLY… don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier.

DON’T BE AN IDIOT…. And don’t be afraid of being one either. You will make mistakes and so will she. Try not to make too big of mistakes, and learn from the ones you do make. You’re not supposed to be perfect, just try to not be too stupid.

BE VULNERABLE… you don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.

If Afraid to lose love in future then       PARALYSIS

BE FULLY TRANSPARENT. If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING… Especially those things you don’t want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you don’t know i she will like what she finds… Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. DROP THE MASK… If you feel like you need to wear a mask around her, and show up perfect all the time, you will never experience the full dimension of what love can be.

DON’T WORRY ABOUT MONEY. Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps when teammates fight. Figure out ways to leverage both persons strength to win.

If Already lost love in past then,  Sorrow &  HEARTACHE 

NEVER STOP GROWING TOGETHER… The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions to work towards. In the end MARRIAGE isn’t about Happily ever after. It’s about work. And a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure eternity. Through that work, the happiness will come. Marriage is life, and it will bring ups and downs. Embracing all of the cycles and learning to learn from and love each experience will bring the strength and perspective to keep building, one brick at a time.

If seeking love in present then     INCONTENANCE (lustful) 

ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. In the end, this is the only advice you need. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure. But these are lessons I am learning and committed in carrying forward. Truth is, I LOVED being married, and in time, I will get married again, and when I do, I will build it with a foundation that will endure any storm and any amount of time.

These are lessons learnt the hard way & too late.

EMOTIONS :
By starving our emotions we become Humorless, rigid and stereotyped.
By repressing them we become literal, reformatory, and holier.
By encouraging them, they perfume.
By discouraging them, they poison.


Love permeates every particle of creation.
Love is the divine power & balancing force in creation.
Love all fearlessly and consciously to maintain growth and flow.
Love cannot be described, It can only be felt.
Love like rain can nourish from above, drenching couples with soaking joy.

Do love now without conditions, instead of bringing flowers to my grave.
Falling in love is permission to feel love, it binds and heals.
Life has to end but love does not.
Cosmic bliss manifests without any material cause.
Home – cannot be tired of loving.
You make me love you.
Joy comes from wanting others to be happy.


Many beings but one breathe
Many cows but one milk
Many jewels but one gold
Many flowers but one worship
Many nations but one Earth
Many storms but one sky
Many forms of almighty but one God
Many souls but one Supreme Soul.
 

Personally, I too had my share of kisses, infatuations, crushes but luckily no heart breaks. Frankly speaking at 70 years I still continue to have crushes and friendships with newer and newer strangers all the time. I am still working on compassionate love side of mine. I find everyone charming and lovable. I feel love for every person I come across. I connect with strangers quickly and diffuse explosive situations easily with smiles and humor. I was fortunate enough to be loved by my parents, aunts and uncles. Therefore now I can pass on that same love to others. My children were fortunate too to get sufficient love from us as they were growing up, and now they are full and overflowing with love for themselves and others.

Rohit Khanna - IN-SPIRED & IN-FATUATED