THE FATAL ATTRACTION OF WE SOULS - for the Divine Creator

THE FATAL ATTRACTION OF WE SOULS  for  THE  DIVINE  BELOVED  CREATOR  


Whether we like it or not, this RENTAL COSTUME must be returned to the rightful custodian, when the TIME comes. This Earth Suit, is a loan that has to paid back in full, WILLINGLY OR  FORCEFULLY - choice is yours.

PREDICAMENT OF EVERY HUMAN BEING

How does a ordinary soul, a point of light/energy fall in love with the Supreme Soul, a  point of light/energy too?

CREATIVE SOLUTION - CHEMICALLY TREATED

OXYGEN is life giving element, here on Earth. Without oxygen all of us will die. In other words we are oxygen loving beings. In an ICU when you are in precarious condition, they give you 100 % Pure oxygen to heal you back to good health. Quick fix lies in imagining your self as an Atom of Oxygen, in the true likeness of the Supreme Soul who is also an Atom of Pure Oxygen.

WE ALL ARE LIKE ATOMS OF OXYGEN -  FAST & FURIOUS

One atom of oxygen is very very unstable, furious and frantically running around to combine/connect with another equally unstable hungry oxygen atom. Once they combine  together they are stable as an Oxygen molecule now, just like any happy pair/love birds. 

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE OF CREATOR - BASIC VIRTUE

Our Creator is ever loving, similar to an Oxygen atom, & so is  the First Prince Krishna of the New world/Golden Age. Together they form a Divine stable pair in the Subtle region. But they both, are also waiting for the third entity (oxygen atom/us) to join them & make a new stable threesome, OZONE (O3). 
We  are   that   hungry  oxygen   atom,  wanting  to  be  with our  most BELOVED CREATOR similar but Pure, oxygen molecule. So just  become Pure, fly up, & BE together in the combined form. There is zero tolerance for Impurities up there in the  Subtle region & higher up in the Soul World of ETERNITY.

Fatal implies that we become DEAD to this old dirty world while being ALIVE & fall in Love with HIM totally & no one else.

WE ARE ETERNAL SOULS - ATOMIC & MICROSCOPIC. 

LIFE CAN NOT EVOLVE ANY FURTHER.

Why are we here, only on our planet Earth? It is because of perfect geometry in the cosmos. Solar powered life cannot evolve any further,  therefore it REPEATS ITSELF as a Drama. Drama is cosmic Karma. Collective / Omni consciousness changes the drama.  The establishment of Golden age is achieved by the tilt of North - South Poles to East & West position, which is conducive to 24/7 spring season & purity of things on the whole planet. This movement of the vertical axis facilitates the Teutonic plates of the continents to come back to their original positions as one big land mass. HE also resets the Time clock to Zero from elapsed time of 5000 years.  Since the road is extremely rough & tough only a select few make it to HIS inner circle / kingdom while the rest are left to their own fates to be mere subjects, or continue to stay FROZEN in the Eternal Soul world till the Copper & Iron ages arrive. 

THE COSMIC DRAMA & SABBATICAL

The cosmic Drama is fixed and repeats itself every 5000 years. Millions of yogis, pundits, saints, mystics, sadhus, laymen have tried very very hard to know HIM but have not only failed but missed the mark by leaps & bounds. The chief reasons for their not succeeding in this venture are : Wrong timing & Ignorance about HIS whereabouts. We have been searching for HIM for 4900 years when HE is away on a Sabbatical. HE comes to us & makes HIMSELF available only during the Confluence Age for a short period of 100 years. It is only now, that we can know HIM, meet HIM, & be with HIM. HE introduces HIMSELF to us, personally.

SCHOOLING BY INVITATION ONLY

The second most important aspect is that HE finds us & not the other way around. HE addressees us as MY LONG LOST, NOW FOUND CHILDREN. This Schooling / Meeting is by Invitation only. HE zeros in on the chosen ones, adopts them, educates them & makes them worthy of HIS Inheritance. HE has a very important task of reestablishing the Golden Era on Earth. 

ARE YOU A POSSESSION, IF YES, THEN WHO IS THE POSSESSOR

Material Values come from thinking of yourself as an Object. You say my body is male or female. If it is Mine, it is a possession, just an object. But if you say that it is Me, that means I am an Object, too. Two objects in one living mechanism, how come.
Q - Are you a possession or a possessor? Who is the possessor of this possession named Body? 
A - The real you is the Immortal Soul, who at this time, has a black male body & in the past had a white female body. This Body is warm mud packaged  in a leather bag, with bones to give it a shape. Incidentally the leather bag comes in different colors & textures. The Anatomy is same in every case.  The body is your equipment, or the costume, your are not this equipment or the costume. The Soul is made up of love, purity, peace, power, Bliss & innate wisdom. This intelligence radiates a different positive energy which changes the quality of time & matter. The dominant reality is the Soul & the secondary reality is the body. 

WHO I REALLY AM ?   SOUL, THE IN-DWELLER

Your body is a vehicle and soul is the driver of this vehicle. Just as you are the driver of your Mercedes, so is the soul of this human vehicle. You sit in the automobile and take control of it, use it to move from point A to point B. Sometimes you are careless & get involved in a head on collision with another Mercedes. In this almost fatal  accident, the air bags save you, but the car is dead or total. Now the Insurance company bails you out to buy a new Mercedes. On the same lines when the body becomes old & diseased it dies and it’s occupant or the In-dweller  the soul does not die. It is bailed out by the Divine, from the worn out body & assigned to a brand new baby body, therefore YOU are eternal - know this fact for sure. 

TIME CONSCIOUS THEREFORE SELF CONSCIOUS  

The mentality of Iron Age is going towards materialism, driven by material values. Material Values & materialism cause the mind to move into negative vibrations, which lead to Ego, a false Image of Self. Comparison generates toxic inner experiences in terms of possessions. You say I have less & those people have more. You are confusing two very important different values. WHAT YOU HAVE & WHAT YOU ARE? This basic confusion leads to corruption of mind & goals. Impurity is indulging in vicious activities. acting out lustfully for temporary gratifications with little awareness of the consequences that come along in future times, to make you miserable. Vices are reflections of Virtues, lateral inversions of the images, hence not easily recognizable, therefore overlooked easily.

INCLINATION TOWARDS SOUL CONSCIOUSNESS. 

Soul consciousness is the intention to look behind the Mask - Who Am I?  Third eye is Souls ability to perceive non physical things. It is not possible to see a Soul. You can only understand it & when you realize it , you shout with excitement - I SEE. It is an INSIGHT. Soul is the intelligent glow behind this visible living, breathing, active, moving mask. Soul is gender-less, neither male nor female. Consciousness too is gender-less. The energy of the soul gets depleted continuously as time goes by. When you sleep the soul goes into space of Silence & returns - sleep dead. Now try to Die alive too.  Why we talk so much & repeat a lot - because we are afraid of SILENCE. Your body has the DNA of your biological parents, while your Soul has the DNA of your Spiritual parents. The real you has God's DNA, which translates to unlimited in every aspect. God whispers - You can be like me too. At the least you can behave like Angels right now. Angels have no conflict inside & outside, no entanglements like the innocent lord. Apply the Knowledge into your life, change & become an embodiment of it. 

PURPOSE OF THE SOUL - PROGRESSION OF CONSCIOUSNESS

The sole purpose of the soul is to elevate itself during it’s short stay in this human body. It is possible to move from the lower Chakras to higher energy centers & finally to the Crown Charkra. The seven Chakras are intimately related to the seven Auras in our Invisible bodies.

  

CHAKRA   AURA    CONSCIOUSNESS      SEEKING              LOVE 

Root       Etheric         Separateness         Lonesome                Self love  

Hara       Emotional     Togetherness         Woe-some      Passionate love     

Navel      Mental          Belongingness       Quarrelsome        Mature love

Heart      Astral           Humbleness           Wholesome     Friendship love

Throat     E/template   Connectedness       Toilsome           Spiritual love

3rd eye   Celestial        Oneness               Gladsome           Selfless love

Crown     Casual          Formlessness         Awesome             Divine love

COGNITIVE & ACTIVE SENSES

There are five entrance doors through which Information is imported inside the costume. These doors are your five sense organs : taste, touch, smell, hear, & sight. There are additionally five exit doors through which the costume expels outwards. These are : procreation, elimination, grasping, speech & moving.  Then there is a master, the In-dweller who operates these doors. Who I really AM is independent of my actions & senses. Senses are not reliable for experiencing Absolute Truth, Reality or the Self the Soul. Like the bees follow the Queen Bee, so will the senses follow the Mind. With-drawl of the senses is like taking your hand out of a glove. The hands have the ability to let go of the glove.

RELATIONSHIPS - SENSE OF UNION to experience part of the other into your life.

Divine cannot be seeked by the 5 senses/organs. Spiritual science is Yoga. Life explodes, because you are full of yourself. It is not about Shiva but you. Soul consciousness is about emptiness. Deities have divine virtues, so renounce  all senses & attachments. Churning the ocean of knowledge produces Nectar which is bound to surface as cheerful faces. The closeness of two beings and their interplay by choice & concerted effort causes friction, heat, pleasure & pleasantness. A being has multiple bodies : physical, seven auras, health rays, Ionized seal.

When the closeness is PHYSICAL it is SEXUAL.

When the closeness is EMOTIONAL it is LOVE.

When the closeness is SPIRITUAL it is YOGA.  

Yoga is the vehicle which can bring God to you, or take you to God. It is a bridge between mortals & the Immortal. Yoga makes you loose your mind in a positive way. It is the cessation of modifications arising in the Chitta. Yoga helps in neutralizing ones Vortices of feelings, whirlpools of desires & attachments into a calm ocean of thought patterns, which is a prerequisite to perceive God. Dying Alive is another marvelous methodology to kill the artificial You, Me & Mine. It finishes off my ideas, my fashion sense, my hair style, my clothes & my body leaving you with just your Soul. Yoga is Nirodhah which encompasses the following : Regulation, Channeling, Mastery, Integration, Coordination, Stilling, Quieting, Setting aside of modifications of mind field. It is the progress of Intellect into consciousness looking for the expression of the Source into ones actions & attitude. It is a deep concern for a fresh complete life by self. Yoga helps you in Total Transformation where there is no trace of past, fully new & Pure. On the other hand Change is incremental often leaves a residue of the past, hence you remain as impure.

SAT CHIT ANANDA = REALIZATION OF TRUE SELF IS BLISS        

Rohit Khanna - IN-TOLERANT, therefore IN-VINCIBLE

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IMBIBING VALUES - RESPECT IS THE DEMONSTRATION OF ALL VALUES

RESPECT IS THE DEMONSTRATION OF ALL VALUES-IMBIBING VALUES

 ABSENCE OF SELF WORTH

Mothers provide the life blood, mind energy, and soul food, to every child who needs it, in order to flourish. Fathers show us how to survive; mothers teach us how to blossom. Mothers help to nurture, the unfolding of the soul, of the child. But when a mother does not know, she is a mother or how to mother, the children around her become lost. They learn the wrong lesson. She is not sensitive to their needs. Her words are spoken harshly and actions are abrupt. She is authoritarian. She knows the rules of mothering but does not possess the grace. The grace of the mother’s love will break the rules, when it is necessary in order to nourish a child.                           

NOT GOOD ENOUGH FEELING

In the face of an authoritarian mother or caretaker, a child’s growth is stunted. The child will have an unfolded heart. It is too difficult, even painful, for them to express, how they feel, or what they need. Unexpressed feelings and needs lead to anger and fear. Eventually they grow up to be a bad parent, with a closed heart. Children learn early in life, that adults place value on perceived beauty. Children who are not valued and protected feel that they are not beautiful and worthy of protection. The truth is that beauty is, on the inside not out there.                      

SENSE OF BELONGING & APPROVAL

Children yearn for their parent’s approval. They need to belong and this important need motivates our behavior in life. A little girls relationship with her father, impacts her relationship with men, in real life. Why are girls, into people pleasing, all the time? You cannot make people like you, no matter how hard you try.

The lesson is: What you think about yourself, is more important, than what others think about you? Since you do not get external acceptance, and approval, you are desperately seeking; you reinforce the belief, that you are neither worthy nor valuable, or good enough. You continue to work harder, in the wrong direction, learning the lesson, upside down. Parents and role models distract you, from yourself. They are uncomfortable, giving you unconditional love. They want you to become, something else, apart from what you already are. They focus on your transformation and make sure that you are not content as you are. This implies that you are worthless. You are unworthy, undeserving, and not good enough. They teach you the wrong lesson to be dishonest with yourself. This is the starting point, of all future sufferings and miseries to come.  

  DADDY’S GIRL

All little girls, want to be loved, praised, and protected by their daddies. A daddy is a hero to his little girl, even if the whole world thinks, he is a bum. Daddy can do no wrong, except to hurt mommy. No girl wants to disappoint her daddy, so she tries very hard. Girls loved to be swooped up for a good job done, by their daddies, which is an essential element to the tender budding psyche of hers. No matter what is going on in the little girls’ life, she believes that her daddy can fix it, save her, and make everything better, even if, he cannot. Little girls learn a lot from the women, they grow up around, whether they are related or not. Older women are like midwives, who assist in the birth, of a young woman’s consciousness. Young girls with budding breasts and plump round bottoms need woman hood training, in the sacred art and science of becoming a woman. She must be extremely sensitive, of her feminine side, as it grows within her and through her.

 LACK OF SELF RESPECT

The seeds of miserable lifestyle are surely sown in childhood very early in life. Self esteem, or commonly known as self confidence is the single most key ingredient in determining ones attitude latter in life. Parents can help build up this prime raw material or miss out on it totally. Apart from missing out, parents unconsciously help build up negative esteem which grows like a fungus and takes roots so firmly that it can never be rectified ever. The core of the negative esteem is FEAR. It is injected into your mind, soul and body very slowly, and you as an innocent soul absorb it unconsciously. In all your early years, this dragon of fear if hammered into you thousands of times till you give up and accept it meekly against your will. It starts with fear of God, fear of society at large, fear of other people, fear of loss of the Family Honor and Respect, all invisible entities that exist only in the mind of elders around you.

OTHER PEOPLE’S PERCEPTION IS MORE IMPORTANT

To be exact, it the fear of what other people might think of your actions, behavior and dealings.  Their thinking about you was more important, than your own life. In short you were utterly confused and tormented mentally about these invented ghosts.  All this lead you into a doubting Tom. You walked the planet like a vacillating idiot, perpetually in a dilemma, to be or not to be, to act or not to act at all. Of course you choose to err on the safe side and held back everything, closed your self in a shell, instead of opening up, blossoming up and growing up normally and fully functional. You moved ahead in life with brakes on. You inched forward at snail slow speed while others raced fast by you over taking you at top speed, and you watched helplessly. The brakes can be quantified as over protective parents,  never letting you be alone, breathing over your shoulders, helping you in every task, you did as if you were mentally challenged already. This did lead you to be partially mentally challenged eventually. The “brakes on” mode generated heat and pain in you. You ended up feeling hurt at all times, nursing past hurts and never forgetting them, feeling upset and dissatisfied with everything and everyone, taking every remark, situation personally, allowing yourself to switch off hundreds of times in a day. Being unhappy without any reason whatsoever, always complaining and blaming others, including your God was an everyday routine. The over whelming feeling, of scarcity in your life, in spite of having everything, never left you! A closed mindset and I know all, attitude was a big help too. All of these special qualities made sure that you had very limited physical skills and lots of self limiting beliefs.

I can not speak in public.

I can not change my profession.

I can not manage in a new town.   

I can not handle sales and strangers.

I can not swim or go sailing, boating.

I can not give up the entire existing environment.

That everything is wrong and nothing is right.

That the whole world is plotting against you.

This is a superb recipe for misery. We as parents need to understand, where we are, leading our children to?

Rohit Khanna ..IN-RESPECT OF OWN SOUL & OTHERS TOO 

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WE ARE ALL ALIENS FROM THE SOUL WORLD OF ETERNITY

WE ARE ALL  “ALIENS”  FROM THE SOUL WORLD OF ETERNITY

From Pillar to Post, from hell to heaven, from here to there,

From Iron age to Golden age, from bondage to freedom.

THE HISTORY OF BATMAN - SANSKRIT VERSION IS ARHATS 

BATMEN – Arhats – Enlightened ones. – When the Abhindharma  Pituka law was being recited  by Buddha, a very big old tree was on fire with some 500 bats inside hanging upside down. They did not fly away to safety but listened to the law & endured the heat & perished. THUS THE LAST THOUGHT ON THEIR MINDS WAS NIRVANA & THUS THEY WERE BORN AS HUMANS IN THE VERY  NEXT LIFE AS ARHATS -THE ENLIGHTENED ONES. 

In your previous incarnation, the last thought on your mind just before your death, became the TEMPLATE for this life. If you were a woman with six children & you died, then the last thought would be - OH WHAT WILL HAPPEN TO MY CHILDREN, implying - that you are harboring the feeling of LACK OF CHILDREN. This template will allow you to be born as a barren woman in Afghanistan. 

Unfortunately in this last birth of yours the requirement is slightly different, because after this you begin a fresh series of births, which means you need a whole new set of pure seeds to last you through the full cycle of at least 63 births or less. If you try very hard and purify all your impure sanskars/seeds in this life, then you get maximum of 84 births, along with Sri Krishna. This is an open invitation from The Creator, the King maker, Shiva.   

ENTANGLEMENTS OF AN IMPURE SOUL TODAY & NOW

MIND                     INTELLECT                      SANSKARS/SEEDS

Asleep                   Stone                            Acquired

Noise                    Manmat                         Ignorance

Indulgence           Over-thinking                 False

Disconnected        Scattered                       Beliefs

Victim                   Worry                            Dogmas

Defeated              Gossip                           Illusions

Slave                     Confused                      Doubtful

Addictions            Inadequate                    Powerless

Defeated              Devotional                     Depleted

Attachments        Arrogance                      Lonely

Desires                 Righteous                     Drained

Guilt                      Ego                             Inner conflict

Obsession            Correcting                      Aggression

Resentment         Judging                           Irritation

Bitterness            Competing                      Anger

Despair                 Adultery                         Violence

Exclusiveness       Deceit                             Impure

Controlling            Passion                          Alloyed

Jealousy                Imposing                       Abuse

Resistance            Grief                               Lust

Ownership            Unworthy                        Trespasses

    

EMERGENCE OF A PURE SOUL IN THIS VERY LIFE, RIGHT NOW

MIND                        INTELLECT                         SANSKARS/SEEDS

Awake                       Divine                                  Original

Attentive                   Faith                                    Knowledge

Alert                          Hope                                    Raja Yoga

Self confidence           Courage                                  Truth

Optimistic                   Discern                                 Grace

Effort                          Decide                                 Drama

Introversion                 Churn                                   Alchemy

Zeal                             Meditate                            Powerful

Open                           Shrimat                              Connect

Discipline                     Withdraw                            Synergy

Self-sovereignty           Trustee                               Peaceful

Austerity                     Disinterest                          Serenity

Celibacy                      Lightness                             Honesty

Stability                      Loyalty                                Tranquil

Integrity                      Surrender                           Clean

Creative                       Tolerance                           Simplicity

Empower                     Solitude                             Acceptance

Forgiveness                 Mercy                                 Transparent

Spontaneous               Gratitude                           Friendship

Reconcile                      Sweet                                 Affection

Liberation                     Generosity                        Companionship

Empathy                        Charity                             Guide

Kind                            Benevolent                         Wisdom

Compassion                  Courteous                           Mindful

Innocence                     Cheerful                              Facilitate

Trust                               Smile                                Care

Balance                           Humor                               Comfortable

Demeanor                       Easy                                  Ecstasy

Abundance                      Joy                                    Dance

Contentment                    Bliss                                  Cooperation

Good-wishes                    Charm                               Inspire

Donate                             Radiance                          Brotherhood

Clemency                         Magnetism                       Embrace

Harmony                          Influence                          Equanimity

Altruistic                           Reverence                        Responsibility

Enthusiasm                       Understand                      Appreciate

Assertive                          Humility                            Inclusiveness

QUALIFICATIONS OF A WORTHY INSTRUMENT SOUL

 Humble & Content - always says YES Sir.

 Has no likes or dislikes - equanimity.

 Follows Shrimat accurately, checks & changes the self.

 Forgets the past, does what is in front of the self.

 Economical with the treasures of time, thoughts, words, wealth.

 Trusts the Drama, others & is trusted by all.

 Stable in the face of upheaval, remains Introvert.

 Loves Solitude, doing everything with deep love.

 Detached, loving, selfless & honest.

 Fair with everyone, puts others first before self.

 Listens carefully to others & respects them.

 Blames no one, maintains full Clarity.

 Faithful, able to concentrate.

 Takes strength from Baba alone.

 Does what Baba chooses.

 Recognizes Baba fully.

 Does not look for praise or recognition.

 Enables others to be drawn to God & not the self.

 Child & Master, ready for the unexpected.

 Not motivated by limited rewards.

 Behaves in a Royal manner.

 Remains tireless, light & Cheerful.

Rohit Khanna - I stand up to EXPRESS & NOT TO IMPRESS.

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HOW WE MAKE RELATIVES OUT OF STRANGERS & OWN THEM ?

HOW WE MAKE RELATIVES OUT OF STRANGERS & OWN THEM ?

DIVINE RELATIONSHIP

Relationship with the Divine must be wide & deep. Wide enough to cover all beings on the planet & deep enough to get to the bottom of the ocean of Love. This aspect has the power to change the melody of our life instantly.....fulfilled, desire-less, & empowered.

PEACEFUL RELATIONSHIP

A peaceful relationship exists in many religious organizations such as the one at Mt. Abu of the Brahma Kumaris. Thousands of souls co exist without any overlay of power. They live & work together in a circle of friendship without someone being in charge. Here they learn to BE IN-CHARGE first, then all else flows automatically like a clockwork, efficient, peaceful & blissful. Sharing with such simplicity & beauty. Each second more aware of others than themselves.....cooperating, helping & benevolent for all. 

PERFECT RELATIONSHIP

A perfect relationship is not of a slave’s submission to a master. It is a relationship based on sharing life in a single plane of circle between brothers & sisters. We Earthlings have a hard time sharing anything with others, be they known or unknown. This life is an anteroom of greater reality to come very soon. We all souls must RE-TURN home to the Divine & then come down gradually in small numbers to our cleansed new world, where we share open heartedly, because we do not know otherwise......magical, as it was meant to be in  paradise.   

LOVING RELATIONSHIP

A loving relationship can happen by learning to live as loved fully. It is very natural to live loved & loving to all other souls. A soul is a free spirit. We have no concept of final authority among-st us, only unity. Love does not force ones will on others. It is gentle. You must open up on your own. It needs lots of hard work & effort to achieve this level. Love does not grow. It is the knowing that grows & love simply expands to contain it. Knowing is the skin of love. Trust is the fruit of a relationship in which you the soul know that you are loved. You love each person differently because of who they are & their uniqueness that they draw out of you. The more you know another the richer the colors of that relationship. It is spiritual, know, connect, feel,  the other. A relationship of love & mutual respect for each other.....to thrive in unconditional love, harmony, peace, Bliss.

LIMITED RELATIONSHIP

A limited relationship surfaces when we live as unloved. Human beings were created to be loved. So for us to live as if we are unloved is a limitation, not the other way around. Living unloved is like clipping the birds wings & removing its ability to fly. Most birds were created to fly. Being grounded for them is a limitation, within their ability to fly.....to be left out of the fun, aliveness, ecstasy of being together.

PARENTAL RELATIONSHIP

We as parents love each of our children differently, because each of them is unique. That uniqueness & person-hood calls out a different response from us the parents. When a child is born to us, they bring about a whole new capacity to love them, specially fond of each one. When they do not behave or make their own choices, we do get embarrassed or angry. This may affect our pride but not our love for them.....to relish in their growth & comradeship. 

NOUN DEAD RELATIONSHIPS

Laws grant you the power to judge others & feel that your standard is higher than theirs, whom you judge. Rules give you the power to accuse in-vain attempts. The subtle forms of enforcing rules are RESPONSIBILITY & EXPECTATIONS These words are grammatically NOUNS. Nouns make the world deadly & sound dead. It is full of principles, fears & rulings. Responsibility translates down to long unwritten unspoken lists of tasks to be performed on your own. It also provides the essential frame work that promotes performance as the basis for Identity & Value. Expectations spoken or unspoken imply a U-turn, a prerequisite in a relationship you are expected to carry out to a high level of perfection, in a way that meets my expectations, all dead stuff, requirements, generally never specified or listed down & made known to the opponent. They lead to guilt, shame & sentencing. You are trying to control behavior & get desired results.... of alienation breakups & divorce. 

   

VERB ALIVE RELATIONSHIPS

In the absence of laws you have immense freedom of choices. The same subtle forms now emerge as ABILITY TO RESPOND & EXPECTANCY instead. These verbs are dynamic & alive. They are full of life & possibilities. You choose every moment to respond differently & positively. The ability to respond encompasses very high level of awareness & soul consciousness. The other person is viewed as unique soul who is on his personal more complicated & tough journey. Hence responding with politeness, compassion & love makes all the difference to him & you. Both benefit from this single act of goodness & positivity. When you & I are friends, then there is an expectancy that exists within our relationship. Expectancy of being together, laughing & talking. It is alive & dynamic. Because I have no previous agenda you do not disappoint me, hence happy together.... for this lifetime.   

JUDGMENTAL RELATIONSHIPS

We judge people & situations all the time, every moment. Judging presupposes that you think yourself superior over the one you judge. It is your Ego. This vast experience makes us into experts by all accounts. Judging encompasses jumping to hasty conclusions from the way they impact us. It is definitely a self centered view point of the world around us. The mental-ism involved in judging is grading, giving marks out of ten, as if you are a certified teacher/instructor, classifying, categorizing, labeling, accepting, rejecting, check marking as right just OK, wrong, or down right blasphemous. The basis of our judgment is the criterion we uphold in our lives, which could be sometimes broad, but generally very narrow. We pass judgments like a supreme court barrister would on actions & motivations, as if we know the whole truth, which in reality is otherwise. We are quick to judge color of skin, body language, body odor, history & their relationships. We never hesitate to to rank the value of a persons life by the standards of quality of our concept of beauty..... thus limiting ourselves to a select few numbers who tolerate you.

Self judging exercise - Sit comfortably, die alive & Judge yourself, your own life. Do a self assessment of intoning your infinite sins as an impartial judge - before the real trial.       

PAINFUL RELATIONSHIPS

Painful relationships evolve as we grow up & involves most of us. All evil flows from your choices, your egoistic madness to be independent. The flood of freedom, the power of independence is intoxicating in the beginning. Your beliefs are based on illusions & lies. What you perceive is Right but you are still Wrong. Our beliefs are indelibly etched into our memories. We treasure our stupidity, our imaginary independence. We hoard & hold our mental sickness with a firm grip & then find our Identity & worth in the brokenness, which we guard with every ounce of strength we can muster up.   Paradigms power perceptions & perceptions feed emotions. Most emotions are responses to perceptions, hence misleading you into destruction & chaos in life. You may not see the chaos, but God sees the FRACTAL. All things must unfold. He is very patient with us & assures us that we have a life time to sort things out on our own. We even resist Divine help at this point. We are unable to fathom HIS silent support in our deep sorrow. How will Divine Grace touch us when we have padlocked the basement of our hearts from inside. At this point simply accept what is, instead of trying to fit it into your preconceived notions, with little success. You use pain to force people back into your lives. You replace Love with Sympathy & Pity.....stagnate in the relationship as unwanted & unloved.

UNFORGIVING RELATIONSHIPS

It is an incredible power, that we share with Gods. To forgive is to start a reconciliation process. You have the possibility to grow into a relationship with an unknown enemy. Forgiveness is first, primarily for you the forgiver. To release you from something that will eat you alive & destroy you, your joy & ability to live fully & openly. Your forgiveness is not about forgetting. It is about letting go of another persons throat. This helpless person feeds on violence. You have the power to cut it off by forgiving him & redeeming him. Release him from the burden he carries, knowingly or unknowingly. When you choose to forgive another you love him well. Your enemy is an innocent broken child, in an adult body, who has been twisted by pain inflicted upon him by the world. Every time you forgive, the MATRIX of the Universe changes for the better. We need just a million souls to alter the Consciousness of the entire Universe to reach that tipping point & create the new world order for the whole of humanity of eight billion souls. You could be a part of this big Divine crusade if you choose to.... & hasten the process of change in yourself first & your relationships with all others.    

FRAGILE & DICEY RELATIONSHIPS

WILTING, SULKING, & SIMMERING IN

It is up to us to be in a relationship or not to be in it. Today we are friends with full enthusiasm, tomorrow we can be sworn enemies. The catch is extremely subtle, that we continue to be in an abusive relationship & we pay a very heavy price for it latter on as time goes by. The reasons / excuses to prolong the undesired relationship can be innumerable. They could be financial, family / peer pressure, public shame, loss of Ego, stubbornness & finally lack of courage to hit back & breakup.

THERE ARE TWO PATHS TO MOVE AHEAD :

THE EASY PATH OF BONDAGE & UNPLEASANTNESS

ACCOMMODATE

Start with unconditional ACCEPTANCE of self. This is a pretty significant point in the over all scheme of things / drama of life. Using little creativity will help immensely to adapt yourself to the situations & other SOULS around you. Learn at every step to fit into the bigger picture. Remember that other souls are struggling too, just like you, but failing for some unknown reason, to accommodate you in their lives. Therefore why not take the lead & you begin the process of change.    

TOLERATE

Be patient & stretch your boundaries gradually. Having accommodated as above, tolerating is implied & done willingly on your part. All insinuations, remarks, foul language, tantrums of rage must be taken lightly & never personally. Be aware that all souls are learning their lessons simultaneously, & you are helping them do so. After all it is your combined KARMA coming back from previous births. It is preferred that you settle it quickly in this life itself with a smile or else it will carry forward to the next life in bigger proportions.  

COOPERATE

Pinned against the wall you have limited choices. It pays to cooperate with full support, because it brings in harmony to some extent. Be incognito & humble about the help & cooperation. Let me put you in a real life scenario.

Scene 1: Would you hug & genuinely caress a diseased dirty beggar picked up from the road side. NO! a big no. Why may I ask ? Well to assist you, I wish to add that hugging is a therapy for healing oneself & the other.

Scene 2: You are a registered nurse at the hospital & the very same dirty beggar is brought & admitted into your hospital under your care. Now, without even blinking you will proceed to clean up this beggar & help him in every way to make him comfortable. You even hug him in times of his distress. Do you see cycle of destiny & the bigger cosmic picture.  No to first situation & Yes to the second set up.    

THE TOUGH PATH OF LIBERATION & PLEASANTNESS

DISCERN THE PREDICAMENT 

Weigh the positive benefits against the negative short comings of the predicament that you are entombed in. Discern the illusion from the truth by going deeper into the situation. Do a complete introversion & eliminate all mental conflicts so that you can see things as they should be seen.  

DECIDE UPON ACTION PLAN

Having done the discerning, now consciously choose to act with trust & full confidence in your action plan. Choice brings in the essential support & respect that you desperately need at this moment. How ever you must not let your guard off, & keep attention on thoughts words & deeds. If you have decided to walk off from the situation, fair enough, do it boldly & congenially.

FACE CALMLY & COURAGEOUSLY

Express openly with maturity & respectfully. Offer self as a conduit of Peace. If this matter has to end, let it end on a friendly note. Remember that the missiles & vibrations of SPITE / HATRED will continue to be sent out & will reach you invariably, if not resolved now. The other average soul just like you, is in hurt & can not forgive plus forget so easily the whole fiasco. They do not have access to this wisdom that you have chosen.

DETACH & WITHDRAW

Step back & allow space to the other soul. Do the closing act slowly. Be centered & listen sincerely to all the high lights of the relationship, if brought up in the final conversations. Now is also the time to reflect on values dear to both concerned.

LET GO OF PAST

Do not ruin your present & future by holding onto the unpleasant past. Be non judgemental & detached. Just let go of all make believe attachments. Start afresh to grow back again strong & renewed.

Rohit Khanna - IN-STILL & IN-STALL

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