COSMIC MAGIC IS MIRACLE & HUMAN MAGIC IS ILLUSION

  

  BIRTHDAY PARTY & MAGIC SHOW

Timothy and Tammy are celebrating their 5^th birthday. They are identical twins born on 11^th February.  Their parents, Talbot and Tracy have organized a special party for their two little adorable sons. Talbot is rich merchant living in luxury at a farm house located at the out skirts of the famous town of Chandigarh. Tracy comes from a background of armed forces brought up by a dictator like father, an active commander of the Indian navy. The back lawns are beautifully decorated with balloons, flowers and twirling colorful ribbons. A small stage has been setup for the sole purpose of entertainment of the young children. About two dozen kids from the neighborhood have been invited for this very occasion today. A two tier gigantic cake can be seen in the dining area of the lawns. The kids are having a blast without any inhibitions what so ever. But something very special awaits them all. It is the magic show that is going to surprise them in a moment.      

SLEIGHT OF HAND 

Tommy the magician appears on the stage suddenly as if by magic. He requests all children and adults to take their seats so that he can start his show of the evening. The excited boys and girls quickly scramble for the best seats in the front and the adults too gather around for the spectacle of the evening. The magician is a smart man, lean, tall, displays a black hat and matching long flowing tunic with full sleeves of course. He starts off with a riddle. How much is two plus two? All the kids reply in unison – FOUR. Are you sure the magician admonitions? Of course reply the kids. But he says no you are all wrong. It is FIVE. Then he starts to produce four different color handkerchiefs from his bare hands: red, green, blue and yellow. Tommy puts all these four colorful handkerchiefs in his hat. He places the hat upside down on a table beside him and gets his magic wand. Abracadabra! Abracadabra! And he produces one single handkerchief, the fifth one, with all four colors, from the hat. Next he magically makes a white pigeon fly away from that colorful piece of cloth. All the children including the adults are dumb founded at this slight of Tommy’s hand.  The show goes on and on.                             
HUMAN MAGIC IS AN ILLUSION                                                   

What is magic? It is an illusion. It is the slight of the hand. The items are so well concealed that they seem to appear from thin air. But for a five year old it is absolutely astonishing and no less than a miracle. Next a woman is put inside a box and the box is cut into two halves with a sharp saw. One half holds her head and the other half holds her feet and these two halves are ten feet apart. Amazingly magical, unbelievable but true. You see it right in front of your eyes. It all applied physics and little ingenuity combined with expert craftsmanship. So everything is happening within the laws of physics and nature. Tommy the magician performs these tricks many times in a day. It is like a routine for him, but magic for the children and us.

NATURE’S MAGIC ARE MIRACLES

Now we come to the million dollar question? What is a miracle? When nature performs magic, it is a miracle for us. Miracles happen to attract us to cosmic energy: The parting of the seas for the followers of Jesus Christ to cross over; the revelations of the future events to Nostradamus four hundred years ago!

BUDDHAS DEATH & THE UNTIMELY BLOSSOMING OF THE TREES

The untimely blossoming of the trees and showering of sandal wood flowers, at the hour of Buddha’s death, purely out of reverence for the departed soul, on its LAST journey! Everything happens within the Buddhist universal law of CAUSE and EFFECT. This means that Karma, one’s doing as a Cause would bear fruit, the corresponding effect, eventually; no matter how long it may take, sometimes many lifetimes. But we, well frogs are not aware of all the laws and subtleties of nature.

NEWTONS LAWS ABOUT MATTER

Our man Issac Newton confirms the above universal law with his own law of motion. “An object will tend to remain at rest or continue to be in uniform motion in a straight line, unless acted upon by an external force.” This is also known as the law of inertia. On a calm day the water on the ocean shore is as still as a mirror. While on a windy day the scene is totally different. Giant waves of water keep coming towards the shore and continue till the wind, the external force behind the waves, dies down.

Newton’s second law deals with conservation of energy. “It states that energy can neither be created nor destroyed”. This means that matter evaporates or sublimates into energy and energy manifests into matter, magically. This is an interchangeable phenomenon. Solar heat can be trapped and converted into electricity, through solar panels. The same electricity can then be used to generate heat by running a blower.  Clouds manifest into snow and rain. Snow changes back into water when the climate becomes warmer. Finally water again changes into clouds when the weather becomes even hotter. This way matter becomes extinct for us and energy from nowhere manifests into matter magically, like snowflakes from the sky.

NEWTON’S LAW FAILS ON INTANGIBLE MIND

Sadly, this law relates to matter only, and fails miserably, when we  deal with the complex subject, of human bodies and the, all powerful, intangible mind, which has capacity to change material things. The mere mention of a lemon produces copious amounts of saliva in our mouths, instantly and automatically. The presence of a beautiful woman can and does bring about, lots of changes, in a man. From red ears, blushing with pink cheeks, a faster heart beat and partial erection are possible, in a matter of seconds. The appearance of celebrities, like Beatles and Bieber can trigger, ten thousand girls, to go into fits of, squealing, howling, and crying with joy, for hours together. Wet dreams are no less than a miracle. The object of our affection, and chase, again, another wonderful woman, in our night dreams, is purely imaginary, but the ejaculation takes place, actually and physically. The invisible mind is working on overtime, even when we are asleep.                                                                                                      

SAME LAWS ALSO GOVERN OUR BODIES WHICH IS MATTER
                                                       

Same laws govern our births and deaths too. We never become extinct, after our departure, nor is our, birth real. The soul does not enter the body or leave it, at death. We merely gain consciousness, at birth and loose it, at death. Simply change of form. If existence is real, there should be no extinction at all. Hence it is an illusion.

There is only IMPERMANCE. Life lasts, for a very short period of 90 years and then changes its form and moves on. 90 years is very short, time span, compared to the life of our planet, of 90,000 billion years. Our existence is equivalent to a blink of the eye. There is no ETERNALISM and no ANNHILATION. Hence the concept, of a higher personal God and we as his children is illogical. Definitely, this concept was invented by a crafty human mind like Constantine way back.

Religion was an invention of that time. It was the need of the hour. Religion is the opium, for the masses. Our man Albert Einstein too said, “I believe in Spinoza’s God, who reveals himself in the lawful harmony of all that exists, but not in Personal God who concerns himself with the fate of the doings of mankind”.  Therefore have compassion, towards all beings.  Do not cling to anything and bring about misery upon yourself.  Totally confused already and we have not even started.

Personally, I was convinced right from my childhood that there is no personal God up there, because if he did exist then science should have discovered Him and we would have known him more intimately and socially. Since no body had seen him or talked to him in all these centuries, it was safe to conclude that such a being did not exist. He is not a ghost to be afraid of. With this premise I lived my life fearlessly and guilt free. This straight forward logic coming from a small child was a big self-esteem booster. As time passed and I advanced in life I understood for sure that human beings can have super powers if given a chance to develop them, mentally and spiritually. Finally I was pulled into this whirlpool with Reiki, and the cat is honestly out of the bag. We can live disease free, happy, and content. It is possible to manifest anything we wish for with little hard work on our part. The basic realization of the fact that I am a pure peaceful soul, full of love and forever connected to THE SOURCE makes me a super being. 

Rohit Khanna - IN-DWELLING 

TAXING TRAUMAS & TREATING YOUR PAIN

  PAIN IS ACTUALLY AN OCEAN OF PLEASURE - NEW PARADIGM



  TAXING TRAUMAS

We come to believe very early in our lives that if we change then we will destroy our view of the small world we seem to own. When our first love is destroyed, crushed, distanced, from us, by some unforeseen trauma or an incident, then our view of first love is shattered to pieces. It was bound to happen, since everything is transient and temporary in this universe. But we wrongly come to believe that true love is forever, there will never be anyone else like our first love. We learn the wrong lesson, that you get just one chance to find and hold your true love, and love, is the only thing worth living for on this planet.

VIOLENT LOVE

Being in love with one particular person will make you happy, whole, and a perfect human being. This is your first Blocking belief in the series of other blocking belief’s to come. When a little girl is raped, violated, her mind will escape from her body and wander randomly. She will not feel the callused hands and fingers penetrating her private areas. She will not suffer the pain of a grown up oversize penis ripping the vaginal tissue of her vagina. Her mind goes numb, heart goes cold, and she goes in a state of shock.                

  REFUSAL TO CHANGE  FOR THE BETTER

Our traumas, toxic experiences keep us crippled because we hold them down in fear, in anger, and in shame. Change means throwing away the crutches of dysfunction and standing up without any external support, anew in a brand new world. Traumas cause pain to our minds, bodies, and soul resulting in Multiple Personalities Disorder. It numbs our minds and brings about total disassociation or short circuit only to protect us, our false images. It is inbuilt mechanism in our systems. The unconscious mind, which is very sensitive to pain, sends out an SOS signal to our conscious mind which perceives it as anxiety, on the physical level. All this is taking place automatically just to defend our Egoistic images of ourselves. In short we refuse to change, period. The massive momentum of the trauma overrides our capacity to change and the defense mechanism gets triggered to bring about Mental Illness, coupled with extreme anxiety. We choose to become Mad or mentally sick rather than change our view points. So strong are the roots, of strict childhood upbringing.

   PAST TRAUMAS FLOAT UP TOO

When traumas from this life are cleared to a certain extent through laying on of hands, or hands of healing, the past life traumas that are buried under, arise to the surface to be cleared. You are now faced with a brand new set of traumas which you are not even remotely aware of. Energy movement is a pleasurable experience. It can be positive or negative. Release of energy, through sex, is a negative pleasure. It is simply letting off build up steam. But the positive energy release is the point here. The original blocking belief of being separate from cosmic energy, angels, and people has to be understood and eliminated.

PAIN IS A SIGNAL TO HEAL

Fear and pain must be replaced by love and trust. Positive energy release will act as an antidote and bring about clarity & connect you to others. You must get back to being connected to your cosmic energy and angels, just as you were at the moment of your birth. Pain and suffering is inevitable in this world, but being miserable is optional. Pain is the greatest curse for the soul. It is just mental, a mere connection between you and the body. Bones and flesh are like wood in your furniture. How can furniture have pain? This is true. In the operation theater when we are sedated with anesthesia, we feel no pain at all. The doctors do their carpentry on our bodies with all their might and we let them do it quietly.

EXISTENCE IS A SUFFERING

Our existence is a suffering, awaiting destruction. Our birth is a suffering, when we are hurled helpless into this cold world. A good meal leaves us stuffed and uncomfortable. Attachment to a spouse leaves us worrying about being left alone. Parting with a loved one is suffering for us. We are chasing shadows in fear and anger, wanting to destroy things before they destroy us. Suffering has an origin, and that is the misunderstanding of reality. It feels more important for us to predict, that we are going to be miserable, rather be miserable for ever. Then the next moment, when we get into misery which we always will, we find silly pleasure in being right. We boastfully tell our friends, see! I told you, this will happen and it did. You have a fool proof, self-fulfilling prophecy. Suffering is a sure road, leading to short circuitry and insanity. Anxiety leads to suffering. Fear leads to suffering. The world is a perfect place. There is no fear or anxiety in it anywhere. There are only people, thinking anxiously and fearfully. It is the psychological state of feeling helpless and apprehensive. It is your funeral, buried by your own emotional poverty, sorrow, and ill health. We project anxiety and fear on the screen of the world and then experience it.  

  HEALING YOUR PAIN

A doctor or a surgeon, can repair a damaged heart, but never repair a broken heart. It is only YOU, who can do this. Of course a healer can help and assist. When you discover that something is broken in your life, mind, heart, or spirit, you must go deep down, to find out the cause of the breakage. So you open up the component, examine it minutely; find the origin of the breakage or malfunction. Then, you decide to fix it or replace it. If fixing is needed, got to do it very carefully, delicately and give it a test run.  Otherwise throw it away and replace it. Clean up the place, it once occupied. This is called Closure. It is a prerequisite, for HEALING. Many times, when love or lack of love, breaks our hearts, we allow our hearts to become brittle, hard and we close up, totally. We do not have to be so harsh, on ourselves. For your own sanity, accept it. It is another lesson to be learnt. The trick is, to LET GO. However, if you live long enough with a BROKEN HEART then you will eventually end up with a DAMAGED HEART, which of course a doctor can repair.

  LET GO 

Letting go, is accepting, learning and experiencing it, as you grow up.

Letting go, is to be thankful for the experience that made you laugh and cry.

To let go, is to cherish the memories, to overcome and move on. 
To let go, is not, thinking sad thoughts, and forgetting.

It is having an open mind and confidence in the future.

It is neither winning or losing, nor giving in.

It is not about pride and how you appear.

It is not obsessing or dwelling in the past.

It should not leave feelings of emptiness, hurt, sadness, anger, jealousy, or regret.

It is certainly about you; all you have had and will have, soon again.

Have the courage to accept change & summon up strength, to keep moving on. 
It is realizing that the heart can sometimes be the most potent remedy. Love is not a thing or a material object, which can be lost, when given. It is like an ocean. It is bound to come back, if you allow it. Be prepared to open a door, clear a path, and set yourself free. Break up! No, never. You have to do it gently, respect fully, do not be hard on yourself and the other person. Don’t fight sadness. Try to make it go away. Welcome it, indulge in it, feel it. Buy yellow roses as friendship signal and become stronger.                            

   PAIN & SUFFERING ARE SEPARATE ENTITIES 

Pain and suffering is inevitable in this world, but being miserable is optional. This brings the ball back into your coat. Pain in the human body is a signal for action. Physical harm or hurt, like an injury or a disease will cause severe pain. Now, is the time to get a doctor to make a house call on you? The doctor will examine you thoroughly and conduct a couple of tests, to make sure what and where the malady lies. If the results of the tests are positive, the doctor will take corrective action and fix your problem. If the results of the tests are negative, you are stuck with a bigger problem, which this doctor cannot fix.  It is chronic pain syndrome. Chronic pain is long lasting, irritant, dis-enabling you, from doing your normal social activities: working a job, loss of memory, upset appetite, sleeplessness, perpetual fatigue, slowing down in movements, saying no to sexual pleasures and missing out on laughter and joy, which life has to offer. Your cognition, about chronic pain is fundamental to this cause.                                    

In the primitive days, pain was associated with evil spirits.

In Judeo-Christian era, pain was accepted as punishment for our sins. 

In Greece, pain is taken up as a challenge to deal with.

In China, pain is identified with imbalance in Yin-Yang energies.

Today, pain is the basis of disease-medicine model for doctors.

                    

CHRONIC PAIN SYNDROME

When you continue to accept your cognition of pain syndrome, the pain persists and gets you into a vicious loop. Doubting emotions are self-fulfilling beliefs. First you lose hope and then lose control over self. The next set of emotions that take over, are anxiety, anger, revenge, for the person who you think, is responsible for your pain, depression, despondency, and finally frustration. All this is in your mind. The experts call it cognition dissonance. It is your inner turmoil resulting from contradictions in personal beliefs and behavior. Cognitive behavior embraces a whole range of mannerisms. You become visible to others, by using supports, canes, crutches, chairs. You also use rubbing, frowning, twitching, jerking, sighing, to draw attention. You voice yourself by moaning, complaining and verbalizing. When you are all alone you reinforce the thoughts by silly self-talk in your head. Why me? The pain hurts and hurts badly. The mind helps the body cooperate, by the absence of all brain-chemicals specially, endorphin's.

  SELF HYPNOSIS IS THE WAY TO GO

Chronic pain management encompasses three primary stages. Cognitive restructuring, is achieved by asserting yourself positively. You stop self-talk thoughts, by giving a command to self. Gradually you become useful, thus boosting up your self-esteem, to get out of the loop. Relaxation and deep breathing are recommended as the second step.  Self-hypnosis, by visualizing on pleasant events, helps on mental level. Lastly you must exercise to release brain chemicals in the system. Exercising additionally helps reconditions your muscles, tissues and stamina on the physical level.   

  Personally, I have no experience of any personal traumas luckily. However I got first hand lessons on traumas, because of being an apprentice to my father. I would listen to the background story of the patients who came home for treatments. Other horrible incidents were related to the whole family at the dining table for our benefit and learning. But the lesson here to be learnt is to let go, and move ahead in life quickly. You do not benefit in any way by holding on to the traumas. I was a born healer. I was consulted by my friends on many different problems as early as 16 years of age. I would ask them their monthly consumption of oil, sugar, rice and wheat in kilograms. Next I would advise them to simply change the ratios and see the results. It always worked. I was a social scientist right from start. There were no heart breaks because we were taught that right things will happen at the right time.  We studied in coed schools & always had friends of both sexes. On the home front,  we had a dozen she cousins & very close family friends to interact with and grow up congenially. I was the lucky one to go and live with my uncles, aunts for extended periods. I was introduced to yoga exercises at a very early age. In college I played all racket games; badminton, lawn tennis, squash, & table tennis to keep myself in perfect shape.

Rohit Khanna - IN-QUISITIVE, therefore happy & content.

ON BEING A MOTHER/PARENT - CLASS ON SELF WORTH

  ON BEING A MOTHER / PARENT

  LESSON ON SELF WORTH

Mothers provide the life blood, mind energy, and soul food, to every child who needs it, in order to flourish. Fathers show us how to survive; mothers teach us how to blossom. Mothers help to nurture, the unfolding of the soul, of the child. But when a mother does not know, she is a mother or how to mother, the children around her become lost. They learn the wrong lesson. She is not sensitive to their needs. Her words are spoken harshly and actions are abrupt. She is authoritarian. She knows the rules of mothering but does not possess the grace. The grace of the mother’s love will break the rules, when it is necessary in order to nourish a child.                          

NOT GOOD ENOUGH FEELING

In the face of an authoritarian mother or caretaker, a child’s growth is stunted. The child will have an unfolded heart. It is too difficult, even painful, for them to express, how they feel, or what they need. Unexpressed feelings and needs lead to anger and fear. Eventually they grow up to be a bad parent, with a closed heart. Children learn early in life, that adults place value on perceived beauty. Children who are not valued and protected feel that they are not beautiful and worthy of protection. The truth is that beauty is, on the inside not out there.                     

SENSE OF BELONGING 

Children yearn for their parent’s approval. They need to belong and this important need motivates our behavior in life. A little girls relationship with her father, impacts her relationship with men, in real life. Why are girls, into people pleasing, all the time? You cannot make people like you, no matter how hard you try.

NEED FOR ACCEPTANCE & APPROVAL

The lesson is: What you think about yourself, is more important, than what others think about you? Since you do not get external acceptance, and approval, you are desperately seeking; you reinforce the belief, that you are neither worthy nor valuable, or good enough. You continue to work harder, in the wrong direction, learning the lesson, upside down. Parents and role models distract you, from yourself. They are uncomfortable, giving you unconditional love. They want you to become, something else, apart from what you already are. They focus on your transformation and make sure that you are not content as you are. This implies that you are worthless. You are unworthy, undeserving, and not good enough. They teach you the wrong lesson to be dishonest with yourself. This is the starting point, of all future sufferings and miseries to come. 

  DADDY’S GIRL

All little girls, want to be loved, praised, and protected by their daddies. A daddy is a hero to his little girl, even if the whole world thinks, he is a bum. Daddy can do no wrong, except to hurt mommy. No girl wants to disappoint her daddy, so she tries very hard. Girls loved to be swooped up for a good job done, by their daddies, which is an essential element to the tender budding psyche of hers. No matter what is going on in the little girls’ life, she believes that her daddy can fix it, save her, and make everything better, even if, he cannot. Little girls learn a lot from the women, they grow up around, whether they are related or not. Older women are like midwives, who assist in the birth, of a young woman’s consciousness. Young girls with budding breasts and plump round bottoms need woman hood training, in the sacred art and science of becoming a woman. She must be extremely sensitive, of her feminine side, as it grows within her and through her.

MENTORING THE YOUNG PARENTS

Aim of parenting the children :

Structure their THINKING PROCESS

Build up SELF CONFIDENCE

Sharpen the INTELLECT

Enhance SELF ESTEEM

Facilitate DECISION MAKING

STOOP DOWN TO THEIR LEVEL

What do children like the most ? Fun, laughter & Playing games of make believe. I mean stupid games too. Act dumb often & see the magic happen. They have no BOX yet to think inside. Their creativity in unmatched & limitless.

Should the process of parenting be tough or simple ? Of course it must be extremely easy, such that even the child does not realize that he or she is being mentored at all.  

 WINNING WITH STRATEGY

Here we go….. The master strategy is all about QUESTIONS & more questions. We should not be TELLING them anything at all. They do not listen, anyway to our preaching nor do they believe a word of it. Their attitude is FIRST PRACTICE WHAT YOU PREACH. Consider this retort to be a silent reply from their side. This tells us pretty loudly that  they are adept COPY CATS / Imitating monkeys & we have to straighten our own act. 

SELF ASSESSMENT & INTROSPECTION

The first series of questions that  arise is for ourselves.

Do we make enough time to listen to them?

Do we spend time out doors exercising, walking, playing games, before telling them to do the same?

Do we swear in the company of our children?

Why do we shout at our spouses & them for silly reasons?

Do we get upset & display anger over trivial matters?

Do we converse slowly, calmly, softly or NO?

Do we appreciate each other often?

Do we give meaningful complements when the situation demands.

Do the children often find us dull, sulking & off mood?

I am sure that all of the above are applicable in most of us. If yes then, what next. They are going to pick up, absorb & imbibe all our negative traits automatically. THE ANSWER IS CHANGE, TRANSFORM, REFINE, REFORM SELF FIRST.

RE-FRAME YOUR COMMANDS INTO REQUESTS - sugar coat them with humility additionally.

Dear child, do you mind cleaning up the mess of scattered toys, alone or with mommy/daddy?

My sweet child, when will be the best time to finish your homework, before or after dinner?

My love, which of the chores would you prefer to take up : dish washing or folding up clothes?

Sweetheart, what is the best time for you to go to bed on school days : 8 or 9 pm.

Darling, will it be a good time saving idea to line up your uniform & bag at night : YES OR NO ?

My doll, can you ring the bell when you have done brushing up your teeth for the night?   

A word of caution - Shouting & Shooting out commands at small / tiny beings will definitely make  PERFECT REBELS out of them. Go ahead with your ancient up bringing & stubborn habits. 

TRAIN THEM TO THINK FOR THEMSELVES - OPEN ENDED QUESTIONS - have lots of patience

Is any issue bothering you?

Do you wish to panic & rush through in life?

What should you be doing to be at peace always?

If there is this Creation, Should there be a Creator?

What are you thinking right now?

Is it possible to slow down your thoughts/thinking?

What skills do you want to acquire?

Do you wish to learn & master any musical instrument?

Which sport will suit your personality?

You can take advantage of your height to compete in athletics & excel too?

Is public display of your personal emotion like anger, a healthy norm?

What will bring a lasting smile on your face?

  

GIVE THEM MULTIPLE CHOICES - TWO ARE MANDATORY.

Honey, where do you wish to celebrate your next birthday, at home or out in the public gardens?

Darling, for your graduation party, do you want to procure a new expensive gown or rent one for a small price?

My love, where should we plan our next family summer vacation, far away or near by?

Sweet heart, do you approve or disapprove of the continuous ingesting of harmful substances like cigarettes & alcohol?

SPEEDING UP THE PROCESS - This is a trap for them & a difficult one to escape from. Their decision becomes binding on them. It is good for both the child & the young parents.

INVOLVE THEM IN DOMESTIC/BUSINESS AFFAIRS - FOR CREATIVE SOLUTIONS

Can you help me in putting this IKEA bed together, please?

I would highly appreciate, your expertise in computers to fix my email glitch?

Our coffee table needs a new paint job, could you kindly pitch in during the week ends/holidays?

The family car has a flat tire, can we change it together as a Formula One team?

Our back yard could look fabulous with a minor trimming & hedge cutting, if you can lend a hand dear?

We need an extra pair of dexterous hands to help out in the kitchen, dear child, are you game for it?

SKILL DEVELOPMENT ON THE SIDE  - This system will encourage team work, co-operation, shouldering responsibility & natural bonding.   

WHEN CHILDREN ASK THE RIGHT QUESTIONS - be ready for them.

Firstly there are no wrong questions from a child's point of view. Every question is logical & genuine for the small developing brain.

Why is the sky blue?
Where do babies come from?
How the initial water on the planet appeared?
Why do we have to fight wars?
What is the difference between Virtues & Vices.

MAKING SEEKERS OUT OF THEM

Answer every question of theirs very very briefly. Use one or two words only & wait for their reactions. Follow up your two words with another standard QUESTION - My child, WHAT DO YOU THINK can be the possible answer. This is a million dollar strategy to get them to become a SEEKER / THINKER. The biggest development of your child will happen during this moment. Their self esteem gets a big boost,  sense of worthiness blossoms. They feels accepted as they are & feels Valued by the world.

THE VALUE OF NOT KNOWING

Answer all their stupid questions as if they are extremely meaningful. The second most important strategy is being HONEST ABOUT NOT KNOWING THE ANSWER to some of their questions. Say humbly & but clearly, my child, I DO NOT KNOW the answer to this question of yours. This will teach them the most important lesson of life - THAT PEOPLE DO NOT KNOW MANY THINGS and it is very very NORMAL thing, to, not to know. Once they do not know & this realization sits in their Intellect, then SEEKING will happen. I will go to the extent & pretend that I do not know on 50 % of the occasions. I will openly admit that I DO NOT KNOW just to enjoy the reaction of shock on their faces - DAD, REALLY YOU DO NOT KNOW? Of course my child, but we will try to seek the truth behind your question together. This togetherness business will create the bonding that lasts for their full life time.

Personally, I was fortunate enough to have a strong self-esteem because of my parents and close relatives. More credit goes to my mother for grooming me up in all areas of personality development. She insisted on sending us to boarding schools, Lawrence school Sanawar. It was the best thing that happened to me specially. At home I was the apprentice to my doctor dad, and helper assistant to my mom. She taught me how to shop for fresh and good vegetables, by looking for their firmness, texture, and color. My father taught me to be humble, helpful and I picked up invaluable bedside manners from him by being with him. A good doctor is 80% bedside manners & 20% real Anatomy / Medicine, because the cause of the illness / disease is in the invisible body & emotions which are recreating the malady despite the treatments - go figure.

Rohit Khanna -  Easy yogi  

LIFE IS A SCHOOL FOR LEARNING - UNSTRUCTURED FOR SURE

  

  PLANET EARTH IS A SCHOOL FOR LEARNING - UNSTRUCTURED FOR SURE

It is a lifelong tough school where we all must learn our lessons. If we do not learn our lessons set out in our curriculum then the lessons keep on repeating over and over again in our lives till we learn them really well. There are no rankings or examinations in neither this beautiful school nor any graduating years. It is all up to you to continue learning the same lessons or switch to newer lessons. The subjects and topics are limited to a handful only. They are FEAR, TRUST, LOVE, SELF WORTH, and MONEY, (Material things) in this wonderful school. The purpose of schooling on earth is to dissolve your fears. Ask, what am I afraid of?  Fear of being SELF!

SCARY ROLE MODELS & CARETAKERS

The teachers in this school can be very scary or kind if you are lucky. Our teachers and role models come in various forms. They could be your violent parents, vicious caretakers, and timid uncles, stingy aunts, caring grandmother, compassionate distant elder, a selfish employer, or a fragmented combination of the above. When we have such teachers we are bound to learn the wrong lessons or even the right lesson but upside down or inside out. Paradoxically the first thing we learn is to fear our role models, parents, and the world at large and cosmic energy too. We are doomed from day one.                               

RESILIENCE & TENACITY OF EVERY CHILD 

All in all you are left to pick up the lessons on your own, generally the hard way. As children, we learn a great deal about our ability to survive and get by in life by the way we are treated by a host of people around us. It is ultimately our ability to withstand and understand the treatment we receive as children that determines what we think about ourselves as adults.        

NO SCHOOL FOR PARENTING OF PARENTS/CARETAKERS

When your primary caretakers are distant and aloof it can be very confusing. You don’t know whether to please them or be desperately afraid of what will happen if you don’t please them. If the parent is violent, you know that if you do or say wrong things at the wrong time in the wrong way, you will get slapped, pinched, screamed at, punched or lashed at. You live in perpetual confusion and fear. Children are used as punching bags and ash trays by angry adults and caretakers to take their frustrations and anger out on them.

RIGHTING THE WRONG BY VIOLENCE - makes it worse

Adults, parents, caretakers who themselves did not learn their lessons correctly in their school, now feel powerless/at the end of their ropes, will  strike out against the one person they believe can exercise their power over. The poor child is usually not aware that this is what is going on. No explanation is given or offered. Children being very small and dependent on their caretakers feel powerless to do anything about it. The role models can profess to be sorry after the beating and promise to never do it again, but it does not matter now. The irreparable damage is already done; the child is wounded, sometimes physically and in all cases emotionally and spiritually.

HURT & WOUNDS

Young children get wounded and confused. By the law of attraction they beget more wounds and confusion as they move on in life. Abuse and betrayal begets abuses and betrayals.  It is the snow ball effect. Getting hurt and moving on without healing the hurt means getting hurt again. You attract only what is known to you. You are in a disadvantageous position that something else besides hurt also exists. Acceptance or rejection of how you are treated by others is a function of how you feel about yourself.          

YOUTH IS LIKE PRISTINE GLASS 

It must absorb the prints of its handlers. It cannot be helped. In the process of handling, the handlers can leave varieties of marks on their “Glass”. It can range from a minor smudge, a little crack to a major damage. The damage of neglect, silence, hate, and violence always lasts for the entire lifetime of the youth. Therefore handle children with utmost care and tenderness.

BLEEDING UNSTOPPABLE

When you are wounded you bleed. It is the bleeding that makes you feel bad. The way in which the wounds are inflicted determines how long and badly you bleed. Superficial cuts, deep gashes, and internal wounds are the three basic types of wounds to be handled. In most of the cases the bleeding continues over extended periods of time bringing pain along with it too. Here you learn the wrong lesson of not liking yourself at all. Instead of healing the wounds and stopping the bleeding, we go astray and try to absorb the bleeding with food, cigarettes, and even sex. The blood continues to flow out. It oozes out from your heart, mind, and spilling over into your life, which is not a good picture about yourself. Your self-worth and self-esteem takes a nose dive down into a spiral. This whirlpool ends up in misery.

PRE-DESTINED  MEETING

Dear brothers & Sisters, our meeting was pre-destined so please do not be surprised. Be very patient & listen carefully to this intriguing riddle. 

Question. Would you be a Faculty member or a Student member in this school of Life?  

You have 60 seconds to think,  contemplate on this subject matter & come to a firm decision. You may also have your personal reasons, basis & justification for the final choice. Your time starts now. Time ticks away in the dead of silence while the sun shines dry & hot on the perspiring crowd. A melodious OM Shanti breaks the pin drop silence. We are all peaceful souls. Yes or no. I hope you souls have arrived at a choice. Now relax, their is no wrong choice, because both aspects are essential to every soul in all 84 lives.   

FACULTY & STUDENT TASKS

Every Soul is admitted in this planet school with two specific TASKS in hand. To be a faculty member means to teach  very important specialty of yours to the world. To be a student member means to learn something new from this world before you depart. After the completion of the first task it is time to move on to the second task. The underlying point regarding learning is to UNLEARN the the wrong, harmful acquired stuff that we souls invariably pick up on our way to growing up. The Pure soul comes with its Innate Divine Virtues of Truth, Knowledge, Purity, Peace. Power, Love & Bliss. When the Unlearning has been done then teaching by EXAMPLE becomes very easy & simple, no additional effort on your part. These Seven Virtues will automatically shine & radiate from the face & persona of the soul.   You teach by INFLUENCING other souls with your Vibrations, fragrances & smiles. Words & speech are superfluous at his  elevated stage. This is the advanced system of accurate teaching by the Learned faculty soul. The effort needed, is in your BEING, an Easy Yogi.    

SOUL CONSCIOUSNESS  & THE  KINGMAKER


At this point you should have shed off your acquired Sanskars of Vices, Ego, Lust, Trespasses, Body consciousness of dressing up only to look good outwardly in the eyes of others, & desires of gluttony. To do all of the above on your own is a tall order to ask for, from a weak soul. Therefore Divine help in the form of Raja Yoga arrives at this auspicious Confluence Age: the end of the previous cycle & beginning of the next cycle. Raja Yoga means Union with the Supreme Soul. Weak souls learn to connect with HIM & draw upon His Unlimited Power to charge up their depleted batteries, if they choose to. The Kingmaker helps us attain Self Sovereignty over our runaway minds, thus making us into Kings from slaves. Now as Kings we Give & Give unconditionally Love & riches. A king impresses others & does not get impressed by anyone.  We finally learn the biggest lesson of life - CHOICELESSNESS. Neither desiring this nor that. Just content to BE, the BEING, a Blissful natural soul. Goodbye, see you in the next cycle. 

Personally, my first daughter, Ruchi selected us as suitable parents, for her short stay of seven years and one hundred ninety-five days, in this school on planet Earth. She had her own personal agenda for coming down to us, to teach us important lessons on NON ATTACHMENT AND COMPASSION as her world task. She did it very well by bringing with her a small hole in her heart, which was detected on day one by my learned father doctor and her grandfather, simply by listening to her heart beat. Her self-task was not known to us, but I guess it was QUALITY OVER QUANTITY LIVING, by example. We took extra care to pack 30 years of love and fun into her short span on this planet and school, living consciously every moment, hour and day. We made sure that she got full attention by postponing the next child and providing best of care possible. We specially adopted an older girl to be a companion, sister and playmate to her 24/7. She chose a short and crisp life, learnt her lesson quickly, taught her part effectively and off she went like a comet. We are very thankful to her for coming into our lives, even for a little while, and teaching us the lessons of life & living so effectively. We do not mourn her absence, but celebrate her stay with us. 

Rohit Khanna - A BK student Soul in HIS hospital cum university.