IMBIBING VALUES - HUMILITY IS THE PROTECTOR OF ALL VALUES

  HUMILITY IS THE PROTECTOR OF ALL VALUES - IMBIBING VALUES

  EARTH GUIDED ONLY - EGO

What stops us from changing?  Why we refuse to change?  It is our own EGO that comes in our way of progress, way for betterment and new life. It is the root of all evils. Ego stands for Earth Guided Only. The opposite of Ego is soul consciousness. It is our attachment to the wrong beliefs about us. It is the false center. We put on a mask of restlessness over our real nature of calmness. We go about masquerading, all our lives with passion. We are intoxicated with ego feeling, agitated state of consciousness, resulting in stimuli of feelings, hence covering the bliss. Ego lives on attention. It feels hungry, deep begging for attention. It is all about me, me and I. All misery enters through ego. Two egos clash because both are not confident of themselves. You are a little spark and yet you extol yourself. I am the owner of the Universe. In reality you do not own anything on the Earth, let alone own the Universe. Ego is home made, fabricated, self manufactured and ugly of course, since it is man-made. We are afraid of being alone, lonely. Hence we invent illusions, TV, clubs, conferences, sects, churches, crowd, and parties, to procrastinate the effort to look inside. This is our self hypnosis through others, attention from others. 

If you are hurt inside with one’s insinuation – it is ego.

If one’s behavior causes you pain – it is ego.

If you speak loudly, and shout to get your point across – it is ego.

If you want to control your children & the world – it is ego.

If you are pointing the index finger and giving orders – it is ego.

If you are worried and anxious for things – it is ego.

If you are suffering and miserable most of the time – it is ego.

If you are generally angry at the world situations – it is ego.

  

AN EMPEROR HAS BIG EGO

One day in the land of Mongolia an emperor Aurangzeb was praying in darkness in a mosque. He was telling the lord, I am nobody. But unfortunately he was not alone in the mosque. There was another common man praying too beside the emperor and he too was saying the same prayer, I am nobody.  At once the Emperor Aurangzeb’s ego, flared up. Who dare say the same prayer? The emperor punished the common man, one of his own subject’s with death by beheading in public, for praying with him and saying the same stuff. The emperor could not tolerate such a simple act. Most people have very low ignition point, and they flare up very quickly over, anything trivial. Ego is hell, misery, and suffering.

THE SUBTLE EGO OF BEING HUMBLE

This is very fine line that most of the old people walk or take up. Their Ego wants to continue even after their DEATH. They insist that the public & grand children remember them for ever. BUT WHY. They will do all kinds of acts of kindness in their old age just to be in the good books of their near & dear ones. They are additionally looking & hoping for a long FUNERAL PROCESSION when they die. This thought makes them happy now. But the big question is HOW would they know that fact when they lying dead in the coffin.  Paradoxically if you have lived a long healthy life & out lived most of your colleagues then who is left behind to attend your funeral, yet you have high expectations for a long long funeral, from the young ones who do not know you enough. Gentlemen & gentle ladies, beware of this foolish expectation cum wish.    

EGO CAN DESTROY YOU

                                   

A well established mature psychiatrist had a solid practice in Los Angeles. One day he was approached by a very beautiful lady, Tyrell for help and consultation. As she walks in to his clinic and the doctor goes flying off the floor. He is totally knocked off by the captivating charm and beauty of our lady patient. He could not control himself. He approaches the lady, hugs her straight away, kisses her and excuses himself for the act on his part. Madame Tyrell, that was my problem, now what is your problem? The lady patient slapped the doctor and sued him for 10 million dollars. The doctor was ruined just because of his ego. Ego gets you into trouble, hence beware, be extra careful.

TEACHERS HAVE BLOATED EGOS

Thomas is a self made man and very ambitious person. He has an extremely bloated ego, which often gets him into trouble and arguments, generally over trifles. Unfortunately he ties the knot with another like minded woman, Taylor through arranged marriage by their elders. Taylor is highly egoistic too and has a very good command on the English language. This makes her egotistic too. We now have the perfect recipe for a life long misery, with two bloated egos under the same roof. It is life long, because divorce is considered a taboo in their culture. Their valued jobs as teachers help them make a fortune, by saving up and not spending on the joys of life. They also make a couple of children, but the quality of life is far from harmonious at home. The uncompromising Thomas, toils and works without stopping for vacations, and ends up with a couple of blood related diseases, including a heart bye pass surgery and diabetes. The public-ally respected Taylor, takes all the beating and hardships on herself, suppressing all her emotions and dreams, consequently ends up with breathing and mouth related diseases including a full blown asthma. This is how egos get you down on your knees, when you want to stand up erect. Both of them suffer from acute arthritis affecting their knee joints specially. This is cosmic energy’s way of indicating to egoistic people, to be humble in life and dealings with loved ones.   

  MONSTER OF EGO

Choice gives you options, but it is accompanied by tensions. This one or that one! Ego comes into play. Duality is created by the mind. In the beginning there is no distinction. Then my toys and your toys! Where to live?  In the hills or in the valley! A huge dilemma cannot make up your mind. Are you for sex & promiscuity or against sex and celibacy? Either way you are in anxiety. When you are in one of them, the grass seems greener on the other side of the fence. Are you for Jesus Christ and Christianity or Anti-Jesus Christ and against Christianity? Well there is still another option available to you, which is being neutral or indifferent to Christ and Christianity. Choose, to wake up from slumber, deep hypnosis or continue sleeping. Few people try consciously to develop the potentials of mind, body and soul. Rest are purely victims of circumstances, of past.  

AWARENESS CAN TAME IT

How do we escape this monster of Ego?  Just drop it, simple! It is easy to say but difficult to do it. The only sure way out is Awareness. You have to be dangerously aware, alert 24/7. Alertness is intensity. Try being as alert as if you are walking a high 12 inch narrow rope bridge over a gigantic ravine or river. The wind is swaying the rope bridge and death is at your heels every step you take towards your destination across the river. This is the highest level of awareness you have ever had or will have when you attempt to venture on such a trip. Therefore become intensely aware of this monster Ego and watch it dropping off, disappearing, and finally gone. Of course hard work is required on your part first, before you can see some results.

Humility is a Healing Herb - Humble people stay healthy, rarely fall sick.

Rohit Khanna - In-cognito

TAXING TRAUMAS & TREATING YOUR PAIN

  PAIN IS ACTUALLY AN OCEAN OF PLEASURE - NEW PARADIGM



  TAXING TRAUMAS

We come to believe very early in our lives that if we change then we will destroy our view of the small world we seem to own. When our first love is destroyed, crushed, distanced, from us, by some unforeseen trauma or an incident, then our view of first love is shattered to pieces. It was bound to happen, since everything is transient and temporary in this universe. But we wrongly come to believe that true love is forever, there will never be anyone else like our first love. We learn the wrong lesson, that you get just one chance to find and hold your true love, and love, is the only thing worth living for on this planet.

VIOLENT LOVE

Being in love with one particular person will make you happy, whole, and a perfect human being. This is your first Blocking belief in the series of other blocking belief’s to come. When a little girl is raped, violated, her mind will escape from her body and wander randomly. She will not feel the callused hands and fingers penetrating her private areas. She will not suffer the pain of a grown up oversize penis ripping the vaginal tissue of her vagina. Her mind goes numb, heart goes cold, and she goes in a state of shock.                

  REFUSAL TO CHANGE  FOR THE BETTER

Our traumas, toxic experiences keep us crippled because we hold them down in fear, in anger, and in shame. Change means throwing away the crutches of dysfunction and standing up without any external support, anew in a brand new world. Traumas cause pain to our minds, bodies, and soul resulting in Multiple Personalities Disorder. It numbs our minds and brings about total disassociation or short circuit only to protect us, our false images. It is inbuilt mechanism in our systems. The unconscious mind, which is very sensitive to pain, sends out an SOS signal to our conscious mind which perceives it as anxiety, on the physical level. All this is taking place automatically just to defend our Egoistic images of ourselves. In short we refuse to change, period. The massive momentum of the trauma overrides our capacity to change and the defense mechanism gets triggered to bring about Mental Illness, coupled with extreme anxiety. We choose to become Mad or mentally sick rather than change our view points. So strong are the roots, of strict childhood upbringing.

   PAST TRAUMAS FLOAT UP TOO

When traumas from this life are cleared to a certain extent through laying on of hands, or hands of healing, the past life traumas that are buried under, arise to the surface to be cleared. You are now faced with a brand new set of traumas which you are not even remotely aware of. Energy movement is a pleasurable experience. It can be positive or negative. Release of energy, through sex, is a negative pleasure. It is simply letting off build up steam. But the positive energy release is the point here. The original blocking belief of being separate from cosmic energy, angels, and people has to be understood and eliminated.

PAIN IS A SIGNAL TO HEAL

Fear and pain must be replaced by love and trust. Positive energy release will act as an antidote and bring about clarity & connect you to others. You must get back to being connected to your cosmic energy and angels, just as you were at the moment of your birth. Pain and suffering is inevitable in this world, but being miserable is optional. Pain is the greatest curse for the soul. It is just mental, a mere connection between you and the body. Bones and flesh are like wood in your furniture. How can furniture have pain? This is true. In the operation theater when we are sedated with anesthesia, we feel no pain at all. The doctors do their carpentry on our bodies with all their might and we let them do it quietly.

EXISTENCE IS A SUFFERING

Our existence is a suffering, awaiting destruction. Our birth is a suffering, when we are hurled helpless into this cold world. A good meal leaves us stuffed and uncomfortable. Attachment to a spouse leaves us worrying about being left alone. Parting with a loved one is suffering for us. We are chasing shadows in fear and anger, wanting to destroy things before they destroy us. Suffering has an origin, and that is the misunderstanding of reality. It feels more important for us to predict, that we are going to be miserable, rather be miserable for ever. Then the next moment, when we get into misery which we always will, we find silly pleasure in being right. We boastfully tell our friends, see! I told you, this will happen and it did. You have a fool proof, self-fulfilling prophecy. Suffering is a sure road, leading to short circuitry and insanity. Anxiety leads to suffering. Fear leads to suffering. The world is a perfect place. There is no fear or anxiety in it anywhere. There are only people, thinking anxiously and fearfully. It is the psychological state of feeling helpless and apprehensive. It is your funeral, buried by your own emotional poverty, sorrow, and ill health. We project anxiety and fear on the screen of the world and then experience it.  

  HEALING YOUR PAIN

A doctor or a surgeon, can repair a damaged heart, but never repair a broken heart. It is only YOU, who can do this. Of course a healer can help and assist. When you discover that something is broken in your life, mind, heart, or spirit, you must go deep down, to find out the cause of the breakage. So you open up the component, examine it minutely; find the origin of the breakage or malfunction. Then, you decide to fix it or replace it. If fixing is needed, got to do it very carefully, delicately and give it a test run.  Otherwise throw it away and replace it. Clean up the place, it once occupied. This is called Closure. It is a prerequisite, for HEALING. Many times, when love or lack of love, breaks our hearts, we allow our hearts to become brittle, hard and we close up, totally. We do not have to be so harsh, on ourselves. For your own sanity, accept it. It is another lesson to be learnt. The trick is, to LET GO. However, if you live long enough with a BROKEN HEART then you will eventually end up with a DAMAGED HEART, which of course a doctor can repair.

  LET GO 

Letting go, is accepting, learning and experiencing it, as you grow up.

Letting go, is to be thankful for the experience that made you laugh and cry.

To let go, is to cherish the memories, to overcome and move on. 
To let go, is not, thinking sad thoughts, and forgetting.

It is having an open mind and confidence in the future.

It is neither winning or losing, nor giving in.

It is not about pride and how you appear.

It is not obsessing or dwelling in the past.

It should not leave feelings of emptiness, hurt, sadness, anger, jealousy, or regret.

It is certainly about you; all you have had and will have, soon again.

Have the courage to accept change & summon up strength, to keep moving on. 
It is realizing that the heart can sometimes be the most potent remedy. Love is not a thing or a material object, which can be lost, when given. It is like an ocean. It is bound to come back, if you allow it. Be prepared to open a door, clear a path, and set yourself free. Break up! No, never. You have to do it gently, respect fully, do not be hard on yourself and the other person. Don’t fight sadness. Try to make it go away. Welcome it, indulge in it, feel it. Buy yellow roses as friendship signal and become stronger.                            

   PAIN & SUFFERING ARE SEPARATE ENTITIES 

Pain and suffering is inevitable in this world, but being miserable is optional. This brings the ball back into your coat. Pain in the human body is a signal for action. Physical harm or hurt, like an injury or a disease will cause severe pain. Now, is the time to get a doctor to make a house call on you? The doctor will examine you thoroughly and conduct a couple of tests, to make sure what and where the malady lies. If the results of the tests are positive, the doctor will take corrective action and fix your problem. If the results of the tests are negative, you are stuck with a bigger problem, which this doctor cannot fix.  It is chronic pain syndrome. Chronic pain is long lasting, irritant, dis-enabling you, from doing your normal social activities: working a job, loss of memory, upset appetite, sleeplessness, perpetual fatigue, slowing down in movements, saying no to sexual pleasures and missing out on laughter and joy, which life has to offer. Your cognition, about chronic pain is fundamental to this cause.                                    

In the primitive days, pain was associated with evil spirits.

In Judeo-Christian era, pain was accepted as punishment for our sins. 

In Greece, pain is taken up as a challenge to deal with.

In China, pain is identified with imbalance in Yin-Yang energies.

Today, pain is the basis of disease-medicine model for doctors.

                    

CHRONIC PAIN SYNDROME

When you continue to accept your cognition of pain syndrome, the pain persists and gets you into a vicious loop. Doubting emotions are self-fulfilling beliefs. First you lose hope and then lose control over self. The next set of emotions that take over, are anxiety, anger, revenge, for the person who you think, is responsible for your pain, depression, despondency, and finally frustration. All this is in your mind. The experts call it cognition dissonance. It is your inner turmoil resulting from contradictions in personal beliefs and behavior. Cognitive behavior embraces a whole range of mannerisms. You become visible to others, by using supports, canes, crutches, chairs. You also use rubbing, frowning, twitching, jerking, sighing, to draw attention. You voice yourself by moaning, complaining and verbalizing. When you are all alone you reinforce the thoughts by silly self-talk in your head. Why me? The pain hurts and hurts badly. The mind helps the body cooperate, by the absence of all brain-chemicals specially, endorphin's.

  SELF HYPNOSIS IS THE WAY TO GO

Chronic pain management encompasses three primary stages. Cognitive restructuring, is achieved by asserting yourself positively. You stop self-talk thoughts, by giving a command to self. Gradually you become useful, thus boosting up your self-esteem, to get out of the loop. Relaxation and deep breathing are recommended as the second step.  Self-hypnosis, by visualizing on pleasant events, helps on mental level. Lastly you must exercise to release brain chemicals in the system. Exercising additionally helps reconditions your muscles, tissues and stamina on the physical level.   

  Personally, I have no experience of any personal traumas luckily. However I got first hand lessons on traumas, because of being an apprentice to my father. I would listen to the background story of the patients who came home for treatments. Other horrible incidents were related to the whole family at the dining table for our benefit and learning. But the lesson here to be learnt is to let go, and move ahead in life quickly. You do not benefit in any way by holding on to the traumas. I was a born healer. I was consulted by my friends on many different problems as early as 16 years of age. I would ask them their monthly consumption of oil, sugar, rice and wheat in kilograms. Next I would advise them to simply change the ratios and see the results. It always worked. I was a social scientist right from start. There were no heart breaks because we were taught that right things will happen at the right time.  We studied in coed schools & always had friends of both sexes. On the home front,  we had a dozen she cousins & very close family friends to interact with and grow up congenially. I was the lucky one to go and live with my uncles, aunts for extended periods. I was introduced to yoga exercises at a very early age. In college I played all racket games; badminton, lawn tennis, squash, & table tennis to keep myself in perfect shape.

Rohit Khanna - IN-QUISITIVE, therefore happy & content.