Showing posts with label fear. Show all posts
Showing posts with label fear. Show all posts

Sunday, 8 October 2017

THE ANATOMY OF FEAR - BECOME FEARLESS



THE ANATOMY OF FEAR - CAN HELP BECOME FEARLESS


INNATE INTELLIGENCE

The infant Soul fears nothing & no one. It has just started with a clean slate, no past, no memory, yet, to refer back. Its co-creators are always a cry away, whenever needed. Fear is a potent emotion, which we all acquire on our way to growing up. The biggest fears are of the unknown, death, being rejected, darkness & heights. It is mobilized energy, like the blowing winds of a hurricane, uprooting & displacing everything that comes in its path of travel & destruction. This sweeping energy of fear follows subtle INTENTIONS, is controlled by THOUGHTS,  & directed through WILL.  The choice is always dependent upon the learned / foolish Soul. This over powering energy has the poor Soul fully in its grip, as if it is the Master & the stupid Soul is its obedient servant.  This is the Mind component of the Soul, the other two being, Intellect & Sanskars or Memory.

LAWS OF VIBRATION - BOOMERANGS BACK
 
Fear Energy Obeys the laws of Vibrations. Our reactions always fit our expectations. The energy is sent out first & then it returns back to its sender, exactly like a Boomerang. You reap what you sow. Can not blame it on destiny, fate or God. Fleeting TRESPASSES instantly become your permanent KARMA which can not be undone or erased by OOPS. We all use this word Trespasses in our morning prayers, without comprehending its depth & implication in our day to day activities. Trespasses are LUSTFUL desires, triggered by the attraction of the superficial Costumes of the Souls around us or enticing material objects, for fleeting moments of pleasure & joy. They last for microseconds only, but Bad Karma gets created for many lifetimes to come. The moral of the story is to be Super careful about getting entangled in wasteful trespasses, intentions & thoughts. LOOK but don't SEE, the the objects of desire & allow the mind to register them. The solution is to be Soul Conscious all of the time. It is difficult but possible. Replace this energy of FEAR with the energy of LOVE. We love not to give it nor to receive it, but to Share it. To love & be loved in return, otherwise the sole alternative is Loneliness. Love is God's Stimuli.  
    
MENTAL-ISM IS INFECTIOUS

The movement this Thought Energy inside the Mind of the  Soul is termed as MENTAL-ISM, which triggers all the major glands in our brain & body to produce magical chemicals called Hormones. These hormones are extremely essential for the growth & survival of the human body, which is a perishable Costume for our eternal Soul in this life. The thought of a lemon makes the mouth water with excess Saliva. The uttering of three magical words - I LOVE YOU brings about miraculous transformation in our bodies, heightened heart rate, drying of the mouth, & blushing with pink cheeks.    The polarity of this Thought Energy decides the quantity of the hormone secreted by the glands & injected into the blood stream for action. Positive Polarity of energy like Love, Peace, Bliss stimulates the glands optimally to produce the right quantities of hormones, while the negatively polarized energies of hate, anger, violence, irritation over stimulate the glands to produce in excess quantities, which act as STEROIDS & cause havoc in the body. When you double up on any one ingredient, like salt in your favorite recipe, you ruin it & now have to  trash it totally. Imagine if you messed up, on all five of the ingredients in your recipe.   

WHAT EVER YOU FOCUS ON EXPANDS IN LIFE

Heightened negative THINKING is excessive WORRY, combined with obsessive ANXIETY of the events that have not yet happened. - Go figure. You become an instrument for manifesting  such happenings, which you wish to avoid in the first place. The Energy of Fear follows you around. It is self fulfilling & has the power to expand when you focus on it. You WILL it to materialize. In your external world of matter, events take place with the help of your own Willful thinking energy - Good or Bad. The same energy creates your internal world of human anatomy. Our energy is unbiased. Now the ball in your your coat of mind. Therefore you decide which POLARITY of thought energy you will harbor in your Mind for most of the waking hours. 

TOXICITY OF NEGATIVITY

The negative energy of Fear is highly Toxic & infectious. It is the cause of major diseases in our delicate body. First it affects the brain by causing irreparable damage to its Neurons. Next it cascades down into the heart to accelerate the Cardio activities, which mushroom as Hypertension & finally reach a dead end of Diabetes. Our caretakers & handlers are bound to leave permanent marks behind on the pristine minds of their innocent Souls.  The auto reactions of our young minds, to the sudden painful actions of their abusive parents, is to Suppress the Energies of Fear. This suppression blankets & blocks the creative energies of growth too, leading to Dwarfism, both physical & mental. The underlying fears are bound to escape any how & therefore they surface up through the softer areas of the body like stomach.  It can manifest in the abdomen area  causing chronic Indigestion, leading to ulcers of the stomach. It can also pop up in the reproduction system as Impotence & PMS. All add up to put pressure on the fragile Immune system of the body making it highly susceptible to other diseases additionally. 

RECIPE FOR MISERY

The seeds of miserable lifestyle are surely sown in childhood very early in life. Self-esteem, or commonly known as self-confidence is the single most key ingredient in determining ones attitude later in life. Parents can help build up this prime raw material or miss out on it totally. Apart from missing out, parents unconsciously help build up negative esteem which grows like a fungus and takes roots so firmly that it can never be rectified ever. The core of the negative esteem is FEAR. It is injected into your mind, soul and body very slowly, and you as an innocent soul absorb it unconsciously. In all your early years, this dragon of fear if hammered into you thousands of times till you give up and accept it meekly against your will. It starts with fear of God, fear of society at large, fear of other people, fear of loss of the Family Honor and Respect, all invisible entities that exist only in the mind of elders around you.
OTHER PEOPLE’S PERCEPTION IS MOST IMPORTANT
To be exact, it the fear of what other people might think of your actions, behavior and dealings.  Their thinking about you was more important, than your own life. In short you were utterly confused and tormented mentally about these invented ghosts.  All this lead you into a doubting Tom. You walked the planet like a vacillating idiot, perpetually in a dilemma, to be or not to be, to act or not to act at all. Of course you choose to err on the safe side and held back everything, closed yourself in a shell, instead of opening up, blossoming up and growing up normally and fully functional.           
MOVING AHEAD WITH BRAKES ON
You moved ahead in life with brakes on. You inched forward at snail slow speed while others raced fast by you over taking you at top speed, and you watched helplessly. The brakes can be quantified as over protective parents,  never letting you be alone, breathing over your shoulders, helping you in every task, you did as if you were mentally challenged already. This did lead you to be partially mentally challenged eventually. The “brakes on” mode generated heat and pain in you.
TAKING EVERYTHING PERSONALLY - GOING THE WRONG WAY

You ended up feeling hurt at all times, nursing past hurts and never forgetting them, feeling upset and dissatisfied with everything and everyone, taking every remark, situation personally, allowing yourself to switch off hundreds of times in a day. Being unhappy without any reason whatsoever, always complaining and blaming others, including your God was an everyday routine. The over whelming feeling, of scarcity in your life, in spite of having everything, never left you! A closed mindset and I know all, attitude was a big help too. All of these special qualities made sure that you had very limited physical skills and lots of self-limiting beliefs.

I cannot speak in public.
I cannot change my profession.
I cannot manage in a new town.  
I cannot handle sales and strangers.
I cannot swim or go sailing, boating.
I cannot give up the entire existing environment.
That everything is wrong and nothing is right.
That the whole world is plotting against you.
This is a superb recipe for misery. We as parents need to understand, where we are, leading our, children to?   


SELF PRISONERS IN THE MAKE BELIEVE PRISON OF  PUBLIC OPINION

Public opinion is created by imperfect people. It is their combined perspective of ancient yardsticks brought forward & borrowed from the 15 Th century. In this time period our great great grandparents had stone dull Intellects & did not question their collective core beliefs / yard sticks. They happily assumed & firmly believed that the Earth was flat, the Sun went around the Earth & things heavier than air could never fly. Now what do you want to say to this basic premise on which all the other numerous notions were based. Today you are the advanced generation with razor sharp Intellects, yet you are anchored deeply in this foolish Public Opinion & influenced by it 24/7. I would say it controls you & your behavior, even after the lapse of 5 centuries when technology has proven them wrong & made them look foolishly small.   

PUBLIC OPINION CONTROLS US

Public Opinion is just a random, off the cuff conglomeration of opinions, but we mistakenly take them  as Absolute & swear to live our lives by them. They hold the power to make each of us uncomfortable inside our skins.

WHAT WILL THEY SAY ?

The most feared & often  used phrase goes as follows : WHAT WILL THEY SAY ? Who are they is another big question ? They constitute a handful of known folks, like your school friends, neighbors, office colleagues & a large number of unknown strangers in the crowd on the streets. The second part of the four letter syntax is What they will say ? Honestly it is the fig of your imagination at play. You never hear what they say or said. It is their silent meaningless looks, shallow judgments processed in their minds, preconceived notions/opinions & teasing ridicule that they enjoy momentarily at your cost. 

VIRTUAL PRISON MAKES ONE UNCOMFORTABLE

You chain yourself in the Virtual prison of multiple walls erected around you. The walls are made up of SELF- DOUBT, IMPERFECT, ILLUSIONS, MORALITY.  These powerful walls act like microwaves cooking up inside of you, feelings of LOW SELF RESPECT, NOT GOOD ENOUGH & UNACCEPTABLE. Over time these negative feelings mushroom into powerful toxic Emotions of ANXIETY, MENTAL SUFFERING making you extremely UNCOMFORTABLE INSIDE YOUR SKIN.

OBSESSIVE THINKING

Heart is influenced by inputs from outside world, the majority of which are related to Public Opinion. Based upon these inputs it creates feelings & emotions of negativity mostly. Our relationships affect us directly hence we are predominantly focused on OBSESSIVE THINKING about people & trifle issues. Our thinking is molded by how society will think about us in a future time period & our behavior. We are imprisoned by our intangible thoughts about the future, in the present moment.  

Question - Is it possible to come out of this Self Imposed Prison ?  The answer is YES, but at a cost of another complex dilemma. If I am OUT of this prison & all others are IN, then again I am isolated, to be branded as different, marginalized, even ostracized which brings us back to square one - Uncomfortable inside my skin, socially unacceptable. 

WHAT IS THEN OK ?

Now the FUNDAMENTAL QUESTION arises, If the above solution is not OK then what is OK. Anything that makes you COMFORTABLE INSIDE YOUR SKIN is OK. So let us pursue it & see where we arrive. 

INTERNAL BUZZ

The turbulent waves of the society generate a toxic environment from where the average thinking mind picks up the negative vibrations. These inputs trigger perceptions & associations which are an obstruction in our day to day performance as human beings. Over time these hurdles snowball into low grade anxiety which is akin to constant  background noise. This buzz makes us feel heavier & drains out most of our productive energy making us into weak Souls. As weak souls we perform our karmas against our Conscience thereby creating Internal conflict. This inner fighting compels us to compromise our Integrity which of course is counter productive.

WILL POWER

All the above mental distractions & weaknesses obstruct our Clarity of Thinking. At this point WILL POWER can help us, steer away from this crap of negativity & free our overloaded  minds from these interference & make it available for the subsequent stages of Concentration.

Initiation is a decision to think about a subject. The very first thought must be : I am a point of light. I am an Eternal Soul. Hold this thought for some time. It is the essence of Consciousness of the Human Beings.

Intellect is the Instrument of the Conscience that chooses the focus of Concentration. Allow exclusive thoughts to penetrate into your mind.  This will lead to more subtle thinking. Going deep into the mind refines the intellect. Conscience is the power of discernment. Ultimately we come to terms with the fact that we pay attention to go with the positive, in-spite of the excitement of the negative within us. 

GUILT & FORGIVENESS

Our past leads us into feeling GUILTY. It weakens our personality. Can we clean up the guilty conscience with forgiveness. Can I forgive myself. If Yes then with what Authority. Therefore it is difficult for us to forgive ourselves. Hence have MERCY for self. Go easy on yourself.
   

ARE WE GOOD COMPANY FOR OURSELVES

In fact, we don’t want to keep our own company because, we really do not like ourselves very much, hence we avoid ourselves by engaging in the company of others & /or stupid distractions, gadgets, media, games, parties! Paradoxically, the more I get to know me, the more I can get to like myself. Time is such a commodity that it can easily get sucked up by those around you, unless you consciously decide to slot in a time for your own self!  When was the last time you actually enjoyed your own company without the dependency of another interesting person/tech gadget. Making time for the self is healthy and allows you to regain your balance, rejuvenate your energy, so that when you step back into the world, the family or the work team, you are able to be your self & give more of yourself. This aspect raises your personal productivity. As you give yourself permission for this you will begin to realize that in taking out an hour for yourself, there is tremendous benefit for the self and that you are able to give back quality time, appreciation and attention.  It also allows for the creativity to flourish, thoughts to spring easily& naturally rather than through force. It further slows the thought process, calms the breath, reduces stress levels &allows for a clearer decision making process. The analogy of spending the time to grind the Axe to sharpness or continuing using the dull Axe, unproductively is very fitting here.  

TIME FOR CONSTRUCTIVE HIBERNATION

It is an act of Mother Nature that every organism needs time to replenish, refill, and renew - without it the species perishes.  In the same way, what will I be able to give others if I am empty inside?  Often, when I am feeling frustrated, annoyed or irritated at people & situations, it is not because the other party is the problem, but because I am not getting my own needs met. I am not getting ample sleep, rest, space & quiet time.  This results in a raised level of discomfort within my self. Spending time alone is not frightening, as some people think, nor is it a waste of time, nor a reason to feel guilty.  To spend time in solitude walking, thinking & getting to know one’s own mind, thoughts, feelings, emotions is actually incredibly healing. If silence & solitude are scary to us it is because we don’t know ourselves.  Just as in some relationships, we find the people we don’t know quite scary. But once we discover their beautiful facets it becomes another story.

TECHNOLOGY HELPS US TO WASTE TIME

Spending time with ‘The Self’ does not mean watching TV, interacting on Facebook, playing video games, shopping or reading magazines. It just means that you have mutually exchanged some noise & distraction.
Total waste of such valuable time which is a scarce resource. It’s time to respect and appreciate yourself by taking out quality time for yourself.  You will become stronger, happier, better, more thoughtful, more loving and a more interesting person to be with.  It is in fact one of the greatest gifts you can give to yourself. Gossiping, criticizing, idling, dilly dallying, worrying, indolence are a few of the time bandits.  These habits steal our time and attention leaving us very little for when we really need it.  When people say, “I don’t have time”.  They really don’t want to admit otherwise & willingly participate in a newer venture of self reformation.  Learning to be honest with ourselves will help filter unnecessary tasks, habits.  Plan the big change in a small way.  Spend time with yourself each day to get to know yourself. Once a week treat yourself to something special. A meal by yourself, instead of talking, texting & gulping food down, enjoy every morsel you eat. Take a long walk, allow yourself to absorb every detail of the scenery, as though you are seeing it for the first time.  Take time to journal your thoughts, write an article, a poem or a song.  Sit in silence and watch the sun come up and enjoy the wonder of nature and the wonder of your own self.  Meditate on your innate qualities of peace, love and truth and learn to just BE. If I look for the treasures that are deep inside, instead of seeing faults & beating myself up, then I may just make a new friend, inside of me.  Thus the journey of acceptance, forgiveness and self-appreciation begins.
  
BEING IS BLISS

We spend more time as human ‘doings’, than as human beings.  More and more, people are rushing to get onto their next ‘thing’ or next ‘high’.  And in the process, they miss the magical joy of the moment.  In a state of mindfulness, we enjoy the task at hand. We save time this way. In life everything has its own time, place and season.  There is a season in which to till the soil, a season in which to plant the seeds, a season in which to reap the harvest or enjoy the fruits of hard work.  Most of all be flexible.  If things aren’t going the way you planned, it’s not the end of the world.  Hence if you can understand the rhythm of the seasons, you can begin to be more patient with yourself. It’s Time to realize that I am the master of time; there is no shortage of time.  Break the illusion that there will be more time in the future!  What I need to do, I need to do it now.  Don’t listen to the internal committee of useless and negative thoughts; take courage, prioritize what is important in your life and take that first step.  Once you step onto the boat… the rest is plain cruising and you’ll have the time of your life!

IN LIFE YOU WIN WARS BY LOSING BATTLES

Real life is a bit different from sport, where the only objective is to out do your opponent and win at any cost.  If we create the same rules of win/lose in our personal lives then our premise will be that one has to lose in order for the other to win.  In daily life however, since we are vying for the heart which is more encompassing and embracing, win/win outcomes are indeed possible and we just have to learn to ‘serve’ generously and graciously with our
feelings! Relationships are indeed an investment and will reap generous dividends if you have invested prudently.  Constantly withdrawing from the balance will not leave me much ‘at a time of need’. I need to ensure that I am giving and not just taking, or if I have taken, then to ensure to return something back immediately before the account depletes too quickly.  But the winner takes a step further; he does more than the average, he gives more of himself than the average athlete!

COOPERATION OUT SMARTS COMPETITION IN MATTERS OF HEART

If people seem to be playing games with you, then choose not to be against them, choose not to be their opponent – this is exactly what gives them power over you; one-up man-ship.  Most conflict occurs when there is an opposition created, a rivalry, a “them” and an “us”, you versus me.  But if we can see ourselves on the same side, two people wanting the same thing – then we are not enemies, but partners.  We both want the same thing; we are just going about it from different angles.  So take courage and change the rules of the game! Timing too is pivotal in‘triumphing’ our relationships; it takes a certain spiritual discernment to know what to say, as well as when and how to say it.  What will be that prize-winning word or statement that will touch the soul, secure trust and launch an alliance?  Sometimes due to our embarrassment or ego we miss the opportunity to say what we genuinely wanted to say and that moment is lost forever. Sometimes accepting defeat is also part of the game.  But remember, we may have lost the battle, but we have not lost the war.  We may have lost the argument, we may have lost the match, but the surfer knows, there will always be another wave! It’s time to pay attention to every thought, every second, to every moment and every breath, for the winner pushes himself more than the average athlete.  In every breath let me remind myself that I am a soul, a point of light, a radiant energy, and glowing, shining mirror.  Give more than you take.  And don’t become hopeless because another wave is on its way right now!

THEY LIVE BY TIME
Act now! Time is slipping away. The tiger of death is approaching fast. You must reach Home quickly. If you value your soul you will make an honest effort. For everyone to be that patient in this life is an arduous task to ask. For they live very fast now and die young. They do not know how to live, because they live by Time. They must do their tasks in a certain perimeter of time or they shall never accomplish them. As long as they feel that way, they shall never accomplish it. They will have only lived by time and that will be the only accomplishment in this life and next life too.
DESIRING HAPPENS IN FUTURE TIME
The present moment is so atomic, so small that you cannot move in it, you can only be in it. You cannot DESIRE in it. Desire needs future, more time. If you are ambitious you need an entire life time to achieve all that you desire at the cost of today.  Time exists because of human desire. It creates future. The mind manufactures it all. Your moods decide how time will move in a relative way.  
PRESSURE OF TIME
Timing and timelines are the cause of our emotions. On a holiday everything seems to go very smoothly. On a long vacation you are 100 % relaxed and you have the best of the emotions in you: joy, happiness, calm, and carefree. You are exhilarated and time seems to fly past you. The vacation seems to be shrinking, like you just started yesterday. When you are making love on a cruise ship, time stands still or seems to stand still even though the ship is moving. But come Monday all hell breaks loose and you all are tensed up. You are desperate in the early morning rush hour stuck in a traffic jam. Time is running out, you are getting late for office. Then your neighbor walks into your office to discuss his problems. You are bored to death by his presence. Time stands heavy.  In pain time lengthens and tends to stop. If a loved one is on a death bed and in their last stage, then time will hang up. Hell is eternal. Timing and timeliness have a purpose. The purpose is to enable us to make our choices. The fundamental choice to experience peace or conflict; love or hate; action or indolence; today or tomorrow.
SENSE OF TIME AFFECTS OUR BEHAVIOR
Time pressure alters our behavior. Deadlines in our work routines imply threats. Lots of deadlines mean you must eventually die. The story of nervous cook illustrates this point very well. The world famous chef Kim was once asked if he could cook up an omelet in two minutes. He confidently said yes and agreed to perform the act on national TV. There was competition among many famous chefs. Kim had cooked up hundreds of omelets, always in much less than two minutes but without the time pressure. On the assigned day the stop watch was set for two minutes. The master chef was under time pressure. He started off quite well but under the pressure of meeting the deadline of two minutes he fumbled, panicked and failed miserably in front of the national audience. He himself was at a loss to understand the phenomenon.  
HUMILITY CAN HELP - JUST ACCEPT IT
This present moment is a Space–Time event within the eternal continuum. This moment is as it should be. Everything is acceptable as part of larger identity. Today does not exist in isolation. It is like a deep shoal of endless river of life. If we defile today we exert a bad influence down stream on tomorrow. You are living in hope, a promise in the future. Ambition is misleading and mischief. I will be happy when and if I have lots of money, cars, lavish house, and respectable position, status in the community. It means that Today must be sacrificed for tomorrow. The more things you accumulate, more precious time is wasted at the cost of this one life you have in hand. This life is your only opportunity. You have the capacity to be happy, by exercising your will power to choose now. Transcending the barriers of time: past, present and future! It is totally possible to cross over any time simply by concentrating and meditating. When thoughts arise in your mind and pass out alternatively in succession, there is Time. Fewer thoughts mean less passage of time. No thoughts mean no time. Time stops. No concept of duration of time. Shadow following the substance!
YOUR PURPOSE OF LIFE - KNOW THYSELF

The purpose of SCHOOLING on this planet Earth is to dissolve this Goliath of Fear. Ask your Self? What an I afraid of?  Fear of being Self. Fear of loosing my possessions or Fear of being Nobody. The answers lie within yourself. A little introspection is all that is required. SOS - Stop, Observe, Steer-away.

     

Rohit Khanna - IN-TRUST & IN-HUMAN




Monday, 1 August 2016

LIFE IS A SCHOOL FOR LEARNING - UNSTRUCTURED FOR SURE

  

  PLANET EARTH IS A SCHOOL FOR LEARNING - UNSTRUCTURED FOR SURE

It is a lifelong tough school where we all must learn our lessons. If we do not learn our lessons set out in our curriculum then the lessons keep on repeating over and over again in our lives till we learn them really well. There are no rankings or examinations in neither this beautiful school nor any graduating years. It is all up to you to continue learning the same lessons or switch to newer lessons. The subjects and topics are limited to a handful only. They are FEAR, TRUST, LOVE, SELF WORTH, and MONEY, (Material things) in this wonderful school. The purpose of schooling on earth is to dissolve your fears. Ask, what am I afraid of?  Fear of being SELF!
SCARY ROLE MODELS & CARETAKERS
The teachers in this school can be very scary or kind if you are lucky. Our teachers and role models come in various forms. They could be your violent parents, vicious caretakers, and timid uncles, stingy aunts, caring grandmother, compassionate distant elder, a selfish employer, or a fragmented combination of the above. When we have such teachers we are bound to learn the wrong lessons or even the right lesson but upside down or inside out. Paradoxically the first thing we learn is to fear our role models, parents, and the world at large and cosmic energy too. We are doomed from day one.                               
RESILIENCE & TENACITY OF EVERY CHILD 

All in all you are left to pick up the lessons on your own, generally the hard way. As children, we learn a great deal about our ability to survive and get by in life by the way we are treated by a host of people around us. It is ultimately our ability to withstand and understand the treatment we receive as children that determines what we think about ourselves as adults.        
NO SCHOOL FOR PARENTING OF PARENTS/CARETAKERS

When your primary caretakers are distant and aloof it can be very confusing. You don’t know whether to please them or be desperately afraid of what will happen if you don’t please them. If the parent is violent, you know that if you do or say wrong things at the wrong time in the wrong way, you will get slapped, pinched, screamed at, punched or lashed at. You live in perpetual confusion and fear. Children are used as punching bags and ash trays by angry adults and caretakers to take their frustrations and anger out on them.
RIGHTING THE WRONG BY VIOLENCE - makes it worse

Adults, parents, caretakers who themselves did not learn their lessons correctly in their school, now feel powerless/at the end of their ropes, will  strike out against the one person they believe can exercise their power over. The poor child is usually not aware that this is what is going on. No explanation is given or offered. Children being very small and dependent on their caretakers feel powerless to do anything about it. The role models can profess to be sorry after the beating and promise to never do it again, but it does not matter now. The irreparable damage is already done; the child is wounded, sometimes physically and in all cases emotionally and spiritually.
HURT & WOUNDS
Young children get wounded and confused. By the law of attraction they beget more wounds and confusion as they move on in life. Abuse and betrayal begets abuses and betrayals.  It is the snow ball effect. Getting hurt and moving on without healing the hurt means getting hurt again. You attract only what is known to you. You are in a disadvantageous position that something else besides hurt also exists. Acceptance or rejection of how you are treated by others is a function of how you feel about yourself.          
YOUTH IS LIKE PRISTINE GLASS 
It must absorb the prints of its handlers. It cannot be helped. In the process of handling, the handlers can leave varieties of marks on their “Glass”. It can range from a minor smudge, a little crack to a major damage. The damage of neglect, silence, hate, and violence always lasts for the entire lifetime of the youth. Therefore handle children with utmost care and tenderness.
BLEEDING UNSTOPPABLE

When you are wounded you bleed. It is the bleeding that makes you feel bad. The way in which the wounds are inflicted determines how long and badly you bleed. Superficial cuts, deep gashes, and internal wounds are the three basic types of wounds to be handled. In most of the cases the bleeding continues over extended periods of time bringing pain along with it too. Here you learn the wrong lesson of not liking yourself at all. Instead of healing the wounds and stopping the bleeding, we go astray and try to absorb the bleeding with food, cigarettes, and even sex. The blood continues to flow out. It oozes out from your heart, mind, and spilling over into your life, which is not a good picture about yourself. Your self-worth and self-esteem takes a nose dive down into a spiral. This whirlpool ends up in misery.

PRE-DESTINED  MEETING

Dear brothers & Sisters, our meeting was pre-destined so please do not be surprised. Be very patient & listen carefully to this intriguing riddle. 

Question. Would you be a Faculty member or a Student member in this school of Life?  

You have 60 seconds to think,  contemplate on this subject matter & come to a firm decision. You may also have your personal reasons, basis & justification for the final choice. Your time starts now. Time ticks away in the dead of silence while the sun shines dry & hot on the perspiring crowd. A melodious OM Shanti breaks the pin drop silence. We are all peaceful souls. Yes or no. I hope you souls have arrived at a choice. Now relax, their is no wrong choice, because both aspects are essential to every soul in all 84 lives.   

FACULTY & STUDENT TASKS

Every Soul is admitted in this planet school with two specific TASKS in hand. To be a faculty member means to teach  very important specialty of yours to the world. To be a student member means to learn something new from this world before you depart. After the completion of the first task it is time to move on to the second task. The underlying point regarding learning is to UNLEARN the the wrong, harmful acquired stuff that we souls invariably pick up on our way to growing up. The Pure soul comes with its Innate Divine Virtues of Truth, Knowledge, Purity, Peace. Power, Love & Bliss. When the Unlearning has been done then teaching by EXAMPLE becomes very easy & simple, no additional effort on your part. These Seven Virtues will automatically shine & radiate from the face & persona of the soul.   You teach by INFLUENCING other souls with your Vibrations, fragrances & smiles. Words & speech are superfluous at his  elevated stage. This is the advanced system of accurate teaching by the Learned faculty soul. The effort needed, is in your BEING, an Easy Yogi.    

SOUL CONSCIOUSNESS  & THE  KINGMAKER


At this point you should have shed off your acquired Sanskars of Vices, Ego, Lust, Trespasses, Body consciousness of dressing up only to look good outwardly in the eyes of others, & desires of gluttony. To do all of the above on your own is a tall order to ask for, from a weak soul. Therefore Divine help in the form of Raja Yoga arrives at this auspicious Confluence Age: the end of the previous cycle & beginning of the next cycle. Raja Yoga means Union with the Supreme Soul. Weak souls learn to connect with HIM & draw upon His Unlimited Power to charge up their depleted batteries, if they choose to. The Kingmaker helps us attain Self Sovereignty over our runaway minds, thus making us into Kings from slaves. Now as Kings we Give & Give unconditionally Love & riches. A king impresses others & does not get impressed by anyone.  We finally learn the biggest lesson of life - CHOICELESSNESS. Neither desiring this nor that. Just content to BE, the BEING, a Blissful natural soul. Goodbye, see you in the next cycle. 
Personally, my first daughter, Ruchi selected us as suitable parents, for her short stay of seven years and one hundred ninety-five days, in this school on planet Earth. She had her own personal agenda for coming down to us, to teach us important lessons on NON ATTACHMENT AND COMPASSION as her world task. She did it very well by bringing with her a small hole in her heart, which was detected on day one by my learned father doctor and her grandfather, simply by listening to her heart beat. Her self-task was not known to us, but I guess it was QUALITY OVER QUANTITY LIVING, by example. We took extra care to pack 30 years of love and fun into her short span on this planet and school, living consciously every moment, hour and day. We made sure that she got full attention by postponing the next child and providing best of care possible. We specially adopted an older girl to be a companion, sister and playmate to her 24/7. She chose a short and crisp life, learnt her lesson quickly, taught her part effectively and off she went like a comet. We are very thankful to her for coming into our lives, even for a little while, and teaching us the lessons of life & living so effectively. We do not mourn her absence, but celebrate her stay with us. 


Rohit Khanna - A BK student Soul in HIS hospital cum university.

Tuesday, 26 July 2016

THE INVISIBLE BACKGROUND PUBLIC OPINION SYNDROME - in head / mind



   

THE INVISIBLE BACKGROUND PUBLIC OPINION SYNDROME - OVER RIDING ALL


  RECIPE FOR MISERY



The seeds of miserable lifestyle are surely sown in childhood very early in life. Self-esteem, or commonly known as self-confidence is the single most key ingredient in determining ones attitude later in life. Parents can help build up this prime raw material or miss out on it totally. Apart from missing out, parents unconsciously help build up negative esteem which grows like a fungus and takes roots so firmly that it can never be rectified ever. The core of the negative esteem is FEAR. It is injected into your mind, soul and body very slowly, and you as an innocent soul absorb it unconsciously. In all your early years, this dragon of fear if hammered into you thousands of times till you give up and accept it meekly against your will. It starts with fear of God, fear of society at large, fear of other people, fear of loss of the Family Honor and Respect, all invisible entities that exist only in the mind of elders around you.


MOVING AHEAD WITH BRAKES ON
You moved ahead in life with brakes on. You inched forward at snail slow speed while others raced fast by you over taking you at top speed, and you watched helplessly. The brakes can be quantified as over protective parents,  never letting you be alone, breathing over your shoulders, helping you in every task, you did as if you were mentally challenged already. This did lead you to be partially mentally challenged eventually. The “brakes on” mode generated heat and pain in you.
TAKING EVERYTHING PERSONALLY - GOING THE WRONG WAY

You ended up feeling hurt at all times, nursing past hurts and never forgetting them, feeling upset and dissatisfied with everything and everyone, taking every remark, situation personally, allowing yourself to switch off hundreds of times in a day. Being unhappy without any reason whatsoever, always complaining and blaming others, including your God was an everyday routine. The over whelming feeling, of scarcity in your life, in spite of having everything, never left you! A closed mindset and I know all, attitude was a big help too. All of these special qualities made sure that you had very limited physical skills and lots of self-limiting beliefs.

I cannot speak in public.
I cannot change my profession.
I cannot manage in a new town.  
I cannot handle sales and strangers.
I cannot swim or go sailing, boating.
I cannot give up the entire existing environment.
That everything is wrong and nothing is right.
That the whole world is plotting against you.
This is a superb recipe for misery. We as parents need to understand, where we are, leading our, children to?   


SELF PRISONERS IN THE MAKE BELIEVE PRISON OF  PUBLIC OPINION

Public opinion is created by imperfect people. It is their combined perspective of ancient yardsticks brought forward & borrowed from the 15 Th century. In this time period our great great grandparents had stone dull Intellects & did not question their collective core beliefs / yard sticks. They happily assumed & firmly believed that the Earth was flat, the Sun went around the Earth & things heavier than air could never fly. Now what do you want to say to this basic premise on which all the other numerous notions were based. Today you are the advanced generation with razor sharp Intellects, yet you are anchored deeply in this foolish Public Opinion & influenced by it 24/7. I would say it controls you & your behavior, even after the lapse of 5 centuries when technology has proven them wrong & made them look foolishly small.   

PUBLIC OPINION CONTROLS US

Public Opinion is just a random, off the cuff conglomeration of opinions, but we mistakenly take them  as Absolute & swear to live our lives by them. They hold the power to make each of us uncomfortable inside our skins.

WHAT WILL THEY SAY ?

The most feared & often  used phrase goes as follows : WHAT WILL THEY SAY ? Who are they is another big question ? They constitute a handful of known folks, like your school friends, neighbors, office colleagues & a large number of unknown strangers in the crowd on the streets. The second part of the four letter syntax is What they will say ? Honestly it is the fig of your imagination at play. You never hear what they say or said. It is their silent meaningless looks, shallow judgments processed in their minds, preconceived notions/opinions & teasing ridicule that they enjoy momentarily at your cost. 

VIRTUAL PRISON MAKES ONE UNCOMFORTABLE

You chain yourself in the Virtual prison of multiple walls erected around you. The walls are made up of SELF- DOUBT, IMPERFECT, ILLUSIONS, MORALITY.  These powerful walls act like microwaves cooking up inside of you, feelings of LOW SELF RESPECT, NOT GOOD ENOUGH & UNACCEPTABLE. Over time these negative feelings mushroom into powerful toxic Emotions of ANXIETY, MENTAL SUFFERING making you extremely UNCOMFORTABLE INSIDE YOUR SKIN.

OBSESSIVE THINKING

Heart is influenced by inputs from outside world, the majority of which are related to Public Opinion. Based upon these inputs it creates feelings & emotions of negativity mostly. Our relationships affect us directly hence we are predominantly focused on OBSESSIVE THINKING about people & trifle issues. Our thinking is molded by how society will think about us in a future time period & our behavior. We are imprisoned by our intangible thoughts about the future, in the present moment.  



Question - Is it possible to come out of this Self Imposed Prison ?  The answer is YES, but at a cost of another complex dilemma. If I am OUT of this prison & all others are IN, then again I am isolated, to be branded as different, marginalized, even ostracized which brings us back to square one - Uncomfortable inside my skin, socially unacceptable. 

WHAT IS THEN OK ?

Now the FUNDAMENTAL QUESTION arises, If the above solution is not OK then what is OK. Anything that makes you COMFORTABLE INSIDE YOUR SKIN is OK. So let us pursue it & see where we arrive. 

INTERNAL BUZZ

The turbulent waves of the society generate a toxic environment from where the average thinking mind picks up the negative vibrations. These inputs trigger perceptions & associations which are an obstruction in our day to day performance as human beings. Over time these hurdles snowball into low grade anxiety which is akin to constant  background noise. This buzz makes us feel heavier & drains out most of our productive energy making us into weak Souls. As weak souls we perform our karmas against our Conscience thereby creating Internal conflict. This inner fighting compels us to compromise our Integrity which of course is counter productive.

OTHER PEOPLE’S PERCEPTION IS MOST IMPORTANT
To be exact, it the fear of what other people might think of your actions, behavior and dealings.  Their thinking about you was more important, than your own life. In short you were utterly confused and tormented mentally about these invented ghosts.  All this lead you into a doubting Tom. You walked the planet like a vacillating idiot, perpetually in a dilemma, to be or not to be, to act or not to act at all. Of course you choose to err on the safe side and held back everything, closed yourself in a shell, instead of opening up, blossoming up and growing up normally and fully functional.           

Personally, this aspect of misery is absent by default. My upbringing was impeccable by the grace of Cosmic Energy. We never learnt fear or to fear any one. I remember one day when I was only 7 years old I picked up some money and went out to buy a cheap candy from the road side vendor. My ever vigilant mother quietly saw me in the act and very smartly explained to me that the quality of that candy was harmful for my health and made me throw it in the garbage. I got the message and never again did I venture such a foolish thing. No crying, no misery, just pure education. 



Rohit Khanna -IN-DWELLING  mentally isolated




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