CHEERFULNESS IS THE EVIDENCE OF ALL VALUES - IMBIBING VALUES
HEALING YOUR PAIN
A doctor or a surgeon, can repair a damaged heart, but never repair a broken heart. But if you live long enough with a broken heart then you will definitely end up with a damaged heart.
It is only YOU, who can do this. Of course a healer can help and assist. When you discover that something is broken in your life, mind, heart, or spirit, you must go deep down, to find out the cause of the breakage. So you open up the component, examine it minutely; find the origin of the breakage or malfunction. Then, you decide to fix it or replace it. If fixing is needed, got to do it very carefully, delicately and give it a test run. Otherwise throw it away and replace it. Clean up the place, it once occupied. This is called Closure. It is a prerequisite, for HEALING. Many times, when love or lack of love, breaks our hearts, we allow our hearts to become brittle, hard and we close up, totally. We do not have to be so harsh, on our selves. For your own sanity, accept it. It is another lesson to be learnt. The trick is, to LET GO.
It is only YOU, who can do this. Of course a healer can help and assist. When you discover that something is broken in your life, mind, heart, or spirit, you must go deep down, to find out the cause of the breakage. So you open up the component, examine it minutely; find the origin of the breakage or malfunction. Then, you decide to fix it or replace it. If fixing is needed, got to do it very carefully, delicately and give it a test run. Otherwise throw it away and replace it. Clean up the place, it once occupied. This is called Closure. It is a prerequisite, for HEALING. Many times, when love or lack of love, breaks our hearts, we allow our hearts to become brittle, hard and we close up, totally. We do not have to be so harsh, on our selves. For your own sanity, accept it. It is another lesson to be learnt. The trick is, to LET GO.
Letting go, is accepting, learning and experiencing it, as you grow up.
Letting go, is to be thankful for the experience that made you laugh and cry.
To let go, is to cherish the memories, to over come and move on.
To let go, is not, thinking sad thoughts, and forgetting.
To let go, is not, thinking sad thoughts, and forgetting.
It is having an open mind and confidence in the future.
It is neither winning or loosing, nor giving in.
It is not about pride and how you appear.
It is not obsessing or dwelling in the past.
It should not leave feelings of emptiness, hurt, sadness, jealousy, or regret.
It is certainly about you; all you have had and will have, soon again.
LOVE WILL COME BACK FOR SURE
Have the courage to accept change and summon up strength, to keep moving on. It is realizing that the heart can sometimes be the most potent remedy. Love is not a thing or a material object, which can be lost, when given. It is like an ocean. It is bound to come back, if you allow it. Be prepared to open a door, clear a path, and set yourself free. Break up! No, never. You have to do it gently, respect fully, do not be hard on yourself and the other person. Don’t fight sadness. Try to make it go away. Welcome it, indulge in it, feel it. Buy yellow roses as friendship signal and become stronger.
PAIN IS A SIGNAL FOR ACTION - NOT TYLENOL
Pain and suffering is inevitable in this world, but being miserable is optional. This brings the ball back into your coat. Pain in the human body is a signal for action. Physical harm or hurt, like an injury or a disease will cause severe pain. Now, is the time to get a doctor to make a house call on you? The doctor will examine you thoroughly and conduct a couple of tests, to make sure what and where the malady lies. If the results of the tests are positive, the doctor will take corrective action and fix your problem. If the results of the tests are negative, you are stuck with a bigger problem, which this doctor cannot fix. It is chronic pain syndrome. Chronic pain is long lasting, irritant, dis-enabling you, from doing your normal social activities: working a job, loss of memory, upset appetite, sleeplessness, perpetual fatigue, slowing down in movements, saying no to sexual pleasures and missing out on laughter and joy, which life has to offer. Your cognition, about chronic pain is fundamental to this cause.
In the primitive days, pain was associated with evil spirits.
In the Judaeo-Christian era, pain was accepted as punishment for sins.
In Greece, pain is taken up as a challenge to deal with.
In China, pain is identified with imbalance in Yin-Yang energies.
Today, pain is the basis of disease-medicine model for doctors.
CRYING OUT
Crying is therapeutic. Tears contain seeds of healing. Through crying we get in touch with those experiences that we have forgotten, hidden, buried away in the pit of our souls. There are many different varieties of tears.
TEARS UNSHED
Unshed tears get caught in our throats, making it hard for us to speak our truth, express honestly and move on. Babies cry when they are hungry, scared and cold. They cry when they think they are alone or about to be harmed. If you don’t kiss them before you put them to sleep they will cry themselves to sleep. Babies cry when their mothers die, and fathers leave them. They cry silently when you lock them up in the closets and beat them up, or when they believe that you love other babies more than you love them. Lastly if you tell babies not to cry then they will end up in a Mental Institution.
TEARS UNSHED
Unshed tears get caught in our throats, making it hard for us to speak our truth, express honestly and move on. Babies cry when they are hungry, scared and cold. They cry when they think they are alone or about to be harmed. If you don’t kiss them before you put them to sleep they will cry themselves to sleep. Babies cry when their mothers die, and fathers leave them. They cry silently when you lock them up in the closets and beat them up, or when they believe that you love other babies more than you love them. Lastly if you tell babies not to cry then they will end up in a Mental Institution.
TEARS OF ANGER
The origin of angry tears is in the Ego. They create heat and stiffness in the body, shattering our image. Angry tears originate from the outside corner of the eyes. They are easier to wipe away. They occur at unexpected moments or inappropriate times. Anger is not acceptable in public, hence held back, because it reveals our vulnerability. We as children are wrongly taught that boys don’t cry and we grow up with this belief.
TEARS OF SADNESS
Sad tears come from the heart. They create bending of the shoulders and drooping of the head. Sad tears originate from the inside corner of the eyes. They find their way across your nose, cheeks, lips and you lick them.
TEARS OF FRIGHT
Frightened tears originate from the soles of our feet and shoot up through the body to create trembling, shaking in the whole body. The chief cause is fear. These tears originate from the entire eyes. They are big tears and well up clouding our vision and thinking.
TEARS OF SHAME
Shame filled tears originate from the pit of our stomach, causing us to bend in anguish. They fall when we judge, criticize, or beat up ourselves.
TEARS OF COMBINATION
Finally we have the combination tears. They are all of the above. They have the stiffness of anger, drooping of sadness, trembling of fear, and bending of shame. You get cold and nauseated. Women handle crying and tears better than men can do. Men have to learn this particular lesson from women.
CHRONIC PAIN SYNDROME
When you continue to accept your cognition of pain syndrome, the pain persists and gets you into a vicious loop. Doubting emotions are self fulfilling beliefs. First you loose hope and then loose control over self. The next set of emotions that take over, are anxiety, anger, revenge, for the person who you think, is responsible for your pain, depression, despondency, and finally frustration. All this is in your mind.
VISIBLE MANNERISMS TO HARNESS PITY / ATTENTION
The experts call it cognition dissonance. It is your inner turmoil resulting from contradictions in personal beliefs and behavior. Cognitive behavior embraces a whole range of mannerisms. You become visible to others, by using supports, canes, crutches, chairs. You also use rubbing, frowning, twitching, jerking, sighing, to draw attention. You voice yourself by moaning, complaining and verbalizing. When you are all alone you reinforce the thoughts by silly self-talk in your head. Why me? The pain hurts and hurts badly. The mind helps the body cooperate, by the absence of all brain-chemicals specially, endorphin's.
SELF TALK & SELF ESTEEM
Chronic pain management encompasses three primary stages. Cognitive restructuring, is achieved by asserting yourself positively. You stop self-talk thoughts, by giving a command to self. Gradually you become useful, thus boosting up your self-esteem, to get out of the loop. Relaxation and deep breathing are recommended as the second step. Self-hypnosis, by visualizing on pleasant events, helps on mental level. Lastly you must exercise to release brain chemicals in the system. Exercising additionally helps reconditions your muscles, tissues and stamina on the physical level.
HUMOR IS ESSENTIAL
His world drama is the biggest comic play ever scripted. Unfortunately it is not directed by HIM. It is directed by TIME & KARMA - go figure.
Lucky is the man who can laugh on himself, for he shall never cease to be amused.
ACCEPTANCE IS THE KEY - not only about local issues but global ones too.
Get comfortable with yourself and your opinions about life. Everyone has opinions about life & in many cases, opinions can be humorous to other people. People who are naturally humorous are typically willing to find humor in both themselves and their opinions. If you are too uptight or self-conscious, it will be difficult to find humor in such things. Good-humored individuals embrace their flaws and laugh them off & let them go in a healthy way. Self-acceptance is the key to a happier life. It takes a lot of mental energy to come up with quick-witted quips that keep grins on others' faces. Those who have a good sense of humor tend to be more creative.
A good sense of humor responds to the flow of conversation in ways that are creative & entertaining. A good sense of humor means you can see things from different sides, angles, & in different ways. There's a strong connection between humor and creativity. Basically, everyone likes a good laugh. Having a sense of humor will help you breeze through the toughest periods of your life. It is desirable & attractive, because just like optimism, not everyone has it, but everyone desires it.
Sense of humor is the most important human quality. A positive outlook & a sense of humor are the top attributes cited by people who are looking for a spouse / mate.
Moreover, having a good sense of humor helps you to stay healthy emotionally, first & physically automatically. Humor helps you to release stress & to keep an optimistic attitude. When you feel anxious or sad, a good laughter can lighten your mood.
Life is better when you are laughing. No one knows that more than good-humored individuals. Those who have a good sense of humor not only see the value in making others laugh, but they prioritize laughter themselves. As a result, they're healthier and happier for it. Smiling instantly boosts your moods. Laughing can soothe tensions & melt stress. That light-hearted attitude does help you live longer. Bring it on, birthdays.
WIT IS TOTAL ALERTNESS & CREATIVE THINKING
Wit is a form of intelligent humor, the ability to say things that are clever & funny. A Witty person is skilled at making such remarks. Varieties of wit include the quip, repartee, pun & wisecrack. Wit involves a very quick mental sharpness, being able to see a situation in a unique way & instinctively respond with a relevant comment or come back. Puns jump from one context to another by using different meanings of a single word.
Fruit flies like bananas.
Time flies like an arrow.
LAUGHTER TRULY IS THE BEST MEDICINE - EXTERNAL MATTER
Humor always involves amusement outwardly manifested by a smile, chuckle or laughter. But what are all those chuckles actually doing for your body? People who have a good sense of humor use it to their advantage. Those giggles stimulate the organs, improve the immune system & well being.
It takes merely 4 Risorius muscles to SMILE & 44 Zygomaticus muscles to FROWN. A full blown laughter uses 317 muscles in the body. Medically speaking Laughter is the noise you produce with partially closed vocal chords.
For many of us, laughter is a perfectly normal part of human existence: it helps us build relationships, generates good brain chemicals, like endorphins & releases pent-up tension. It can even improve your cardiovascular function.
A good long session of laughter among-st friends & best buddies results in weakening of the body muscles & flooding of the blood with endorphins resulting in a high mental state of Euphoria. This is the reason why teenage girls can not stop giggling over trifles, when they are together.
Start by loosening up! Remember that laughter is contagious, so if you carry yourself in an open & humorous way people will be ready to laugh.
For many of us, laughter is a perfectly normal part of human existence: it helps us build relationships, generates good brain chemicals, like endorphins & releases pent-up tension. It can even improve your cardiovascular function.
A good long session of laughter among-st friends & best buddies results in weakening of the body muscles & flooding of the blood with endorphins resulting in a high mental state of Euphoria. This is the reason why teenage girls can not stop giggling over trifles, when they are together.
Start by loosening up! Remember that laughter is contagious, so if you carry yourself in an open & humorous way people will be ready to laugh.
But unfortunately for unlucky many, it's no laughing matter at all. Yet smiling is not just good for the community in which the sad sack or grouch lives; it is also beneficial to the person doing the grinning. Facial expressions do not merely signal what one feels but actually contribute to that feeling. If we smile even when we don’t feel like it, our mood will elevate despite ourselves. Likewise, faking a frown brings on a sense of not much liking the world that day.
HAPPINESS IS SILENT & INTERNAL MATTER.
March 20 th is the International Day of Happiness. A day to celebrate the importance of happiness in our lives & the world. As we celebrate International Day of Happiness every year, it's fascinating to consider the way our brain is able to detect genuine happiness in other people. Our brains are very sensitive to the social & emotional responses.
We can always tell people who are truly happy just from their laugh. The brain responds differently to fake & real laughter. People demonstrate different neurological responses when they hear false laughter. Therefore stop faking, because it does not help you in any way. When was the last time you had a true, honest to goodness laughing jag? The kind where your mouth and stomach hurt from the amazing pain of hilarity, even if you can't quite remember what started it in the first place? Well, it might be time to get back to that place & time.
BEING FUNNY IS COMIC - A PROFESSION
Being funny means being able to express humor of one kind or another, maybe a pratfall, a witty pun, or a good joke of course, well-timed. Having a sense of comedy means being able to laugh at, or see the humor in life's absurdities. Trying to be funny is usually seen as practical. physical, bitter, sarcastic & nasty.
Make jokes / gags at your own expense. Audiences appreciate when you make yourself the target of comedy. It will help them open-up and they will find it easier to laugh at both you & themselves.
Anecdotal comedy belong to funny personal stories that may or may not be embellished. Hyperbolic comedy is characterized by massive exaggeration. Ironic comedy is when the meaning of the joke is the opposite of the actual meaning. Professional comedians say timing is everything & key to comic delivery. Stories / jokes are made more funny when the teller pauses right before the punchline to build up drama & anticipation. You can also wait to laugh until a couple seconds after the punchline, that way people can never be sure if you are joking or not. Always give your audience time to laugh before moving on to a different topic.
JOKES MAKE UP CONVERSATION
The punch line to every joke involves a jump from one context, which the listener has been led to assume, to a different, but valid context. Jokes use a context jump to change an apparent negative to a positive. These are especially valuable in conversation. Arnold Palmer and Stevie Wonder meet and Arnold is amazed to find that Stevie, although blind, plays golf. They talk about how Stevie's caddy helps him set up, aim, & swing the club accurately. Arnold expresses great admiration, then, surprisingly, Stevie challenges Arnold to play a round - for $1,000 a hole. Arnold is half insulted and manages to reply, You're on, when do you want to play? Stevie replies, Oh, any night next week is fine.
DRY SENSE OF HUMOR FALLS FLAT - avoid it
Much of' deadpan, dry, or C class grades of humor relies upon sarcasm & depravity. A person with a dry sense of humor tells a joke & it is not immediately obvious if it is serious or comic. It appears to be both at the same time, requiring some work on the part of the listener to discern for himself. The challenge is to "get it" in the way it was intended. A very crucial aspect to humor is its delivery by the person. Speed & accuracy are other essential components of good delivery.
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