GIRL CHILD IN OUR MALE DOMINATED SOCIETY GETS BACK SEAT
"Our knees pried open, by cousins, uncles & men
Our bodies touched, by all the wrong people
That even in a bed full of relationship safety
We are afraid..to be taken force ably against our will"
ECONOMIC CONDITIONS & ENVIRONMENT ARE PRIMARY INFLUENCES"Our knees pried open, by cousins, uncles & men
Our bodies touched, by all the wrong people
That even in a bed full of relationship safety
We are afraid..to be taken force ably against our will"
The two main factors that help shape or destroy the girl child’s youth
and future are: environment in which she is born and economic conditions she
grows up with. Her environment could be the strict religion dominated, very
backward Stone Age ritualistic, closed society of the iron curtain, or the
chance of a life time of free democratic society. Her economic conditions have
a major impact on her development and mental makeup. These too could be of
extreme poverty, bare minimum to survive, average middle class tight situation,
or the lucky affluent category.
First we will deal with the economic situation of our girl child. When
she is poor, there is little food to go around and her priority comes last. Mal
nourished in body and poorly clothed body gives her an extremely low
self-esteem for the rest of her life. This situation is further compounded by
neglect and taken for granted attitude by the family members and elders.
Schooling her is a costly affair by many standards. Firstly money must spend
for her school supplies, uniforms, fees and transport. Secondly, her value as a
child labor at home for the daily chores will have to be substituted by someone
else or hired outside labor. All these factors go against her just because she
is a girl who will get married and leave the family as soon as she grows up.
Also money must be saved up for the dowry that must be given at the time of her
marriage, because it is demanded as an ancient but defunct custom.
OUTSIDER FROM DAY ONE
From the very first day our girl child is considered as temporary outsider and not a permanent member of the family unit. This forms the basis of differential treatment in the family by most of the family members and her siblings. The result is tragic and catastrophic for the mother to be. Her own family abuses her to the very core of her being, which results in negative self-esteem.
AN OBJECT OF PURE LUST -
Now when she grows up into a beautiful but dumb valentine different class of problems takes root. Suddenly all the men and boys want to befriend her. She is in great demand which is very confusing for her little underdeveloped mind. She is not fully developed yet and ready for any kind of relationship. But the family has their own unfounded fears about her future. She could be raped by a relative and get pregnant without a reason and then her future is finished. She could also be enticed by a young boy into a one night affair and then too her life is finished. Most often people near by in her close proximity take undue advantage of her being a weak person because she is a woman / girl. They will molest her against her will & wishes openly and fiercely knowing well that she will not relate this dirty stuff to anyone else in her own interest to safe guard her position / virginity / reputation. Additionally our woman isn't comfortable with accusing her harasser. Multiple reasons being: Maybe he's very rich. Or powerful. Or scary. Or she works with him. Or she lives with him. Or he's a relative. Or he's a friend. Or he's blackmailing her. Or he's manipulative. Or he's threatening. To avoid the above situations the family plans of her early marriage. Since she is illiterate, ignorant and unskilled no one wants her as a prospective wife.
OUTSIDER FROM DAY ONE
From the very first day our girl child is considered as temporary outsider and not a permanent member of the family unit. This forms the basis of differential treatment in the family by most of the family members and her siblings. The result is tragic and catastrophic for the mother to be. Her own family abuses her to the very core of her being, which results in negative self-esteem.
AN OBJECT OF PURE LUST -
Now when she grows up into a beautiful but dumb valentine different class of problems takes root. Suddenly all the men and boys want to befriend her. She is in great demand which is very confusing for her little underdeveloped mind. She is not fully developed yet and ready for any kind of relationship. But the family has their own unfounded fears about her future. She could be raped by a relative and get pregnant without a reason and then her future is finished. She could also be enticed by a young boy into a one night affair and then too her life is finished. Most often people near by in her close proximity take undue advantage of her being a weak person because she is a woman / girl. They will molest her against her will & wishes openly and fiercely knowing well that she will not relate this dirty stuff to anyone else in her own interest to safe guard her position / virginity / reputation. Additionally our woman isn't comfortable with accusing her harasser. Multiple reasons being: Maybe he's very rich. Or powerful. Or scary. Or she works with him. Or she lives with him. Or he's a relative. Or he's a friend. Or he's blackmailing her. Or he's manipulative. Or he's threatening. To avoid the above situations the family plans of her early marriage. Since she is illiterate, ignorant and unskilled no one wants her as a prospective wife.
Soon the whole village is aware that this young woman is up for grabs.
Now elderly unfit men who are fit to her father, divorced, widowers, want her
in marriage. They will marry her and abuse her to the fullest extent for sex
and domestic help. Many times these men will use her for prostitution and as
money making machine. Finally our girl child has ended up in a life of a sex slave & bondage, the chief reason being poverty & economic sacristy. When the life of forced prostitution is
unbearable for her she ends her misery by committing suicide. End of her
story.
Let us go through the very same process for our affluent girl child. It
should be different. I doubt it. The parents give birth to a girl child in the
best hospital, in the state of California. She is the apple of their eye and
first born. A full time live in nanny is hired for our girl child. Food,
clothes, toys and love is showered upon her 24/7. She is the fortunate one for
now. Separate bedroom for her, special private grammar school to study in, and
a chauffeured driven car for her transport is provided. Her self-esteem is
going up steadily and surely. She indulges in expensive hobbies and far off
vacations every now and then. This brings her into direct contact with some of
the best boys who are equally fortunate and affluent on this planet.
AN EQUALLY VULNERABLE VALENTINE
One day she too grows up into a beautiful and confident valentine. For her the opportunities are endless, yet she too is as vulnerable as her poor counterpart. She could be abducted by notorious gangsters for a ransom or for prostitution. She can be enticed by a smart boy into falling in love with him. His love is true of false is unknown at this time. This boy may want to groom her into a pornographic model.
SHE HAS A MIND OF HER OWN - DREAMS RIPPED APART
Finally the parents may decide to marry her off in an arranged marriage to a boy of their choice. Since our girl child is smart, intelligent, and pretty skillful, she asserts her own choice and succeeds in having her way. She wants to be an ice skater or a film star. Therefore she gets admitted into an academy for training under expert coaches. The elderly coaches train her into the best skater or actress. But in the mean time they have fallen for her charm and youthful beauty. Her hormones are at their peak and she becomes a helpless prey for them. She too wants to explore sex but the final result is not good. A spiked drink at one of the parties gets her pregnant. Her wonderful career is finished. But since she is affluent she gets away by aborting the child and starting her life all over again.
VULNERABLE AT EVERY STEP - ADVANTAGE TAKEN
This time to get her broken life back together she is advised to get counseling from the religious elders at the church or the temple. Since she is still a youth the idea of mentoring by priests is acceptable & in order. Here too she is now in the hands of sex starved priests and extremely vulnerable to be abused, groped, assaulted sexually under the pretext of emotional treatment/rehabilitation, by the socially respected high priests.
A FINE BALANCE IS NEEDED
To conclude our girl child whether rich or poor is vulnerable at all times especially when she is in her pre-teens and teens. So be careful with your newly acquired freedom, innocent attitude, in the world of cunning cons, with ruthless intentions, and false appearances.
AN EQUALLY VULNERABLE VALENTINE
One day she too grows up into a beautiful and confident valentine. For her the opportunities are endless, yet she too is as vulnerable as her poor counterpart. She could be abducted by notorious gangsters for a ransom or for prostitution. She can be enticed by a smart boy into falling in love with him. His love is true of false is unknown at this time. This boy may want to groom her into a pornographic model.
SHE HAS A MIND OF HER OWN - DREAMS RIPPED APART
Finally the parents may decide to marry her off in an arranged marriage to a boy of their choice. Since our girl child is smart, intelligent, and pretty skillful, she asserts her own choice and succeeds in having her way. She wants to be an ice skater or a film star. Therefore she gets admitted into an academy for training under expert coaches. The elderly coaches train her into the best skater or actress. But in the mean time they have fallen for her charm and youthful beauty. Her hormones are at their peak and she becomes a helpless prey for them. She too wants to explore sex but the final result is not good. A spiked drink at one of the parties gets her pregnant. Her wonderful career is finished. But since she is affluent she gets away by aborting the child and starting her life all over again.
VULNERABLE AT EVERY STEP - ADVANTAGE TAKEN
This time to get her broken life back together she is advised to get counseling from the religious elders at the church or the temple. Since she is still a youth the idea of mentoring by priests is acceptable & in order. Here too she is now in the hands of sex starved priests and extremely vulnerable to be abused, groped, assaulted sexually under the pretext of emotional treatment/rehabilitation, by the socially respected high priests.
A FINE BALANCE IS NEEDED
To conclude our girl child whether rich or poor is vulnerable at all times especially when she is in her pre-teens and teens. So be careful with your newly acquired freedom, innocent attitude, in the world of cunning cons, with ruthless intentions, and false appearances.
Rohit Khanna - IN - SEARCH of TRUTH...... just found.
