THE MAKING OF MISERABLE ADULTS
MENTAL HEALTH IS A CONSEQUENCE - of absolute sexual freedom, temporary live in relations, multiple partners, abandoned children for lust of another piece picked up from yard sale.
CHILDREN AT THE MERCY OF THEIR HANDLERS
The poor pure souls at birth are helpless & totally at the mercy of their Ignorant creators & unfortunately in case of orphans its Ignorant Caregivers. Initially for four to five years it is an indoor scenario. Latter the poor child is handled by Toxic caretakers who operate out doors or foreigners coming indoors to help him in his growth & development.
The list of Initial Caregivers is as follows, who have their own drawbacks in their upbringing & are now going to induce them into this unfortunate child under their care, unknowingly of-course. Their so called normal interactions with the child produce highly negative feelings inside him which becomes a firm part of his personality & destiny latter on in life.
A Dissatisfied mother transfers resentment in him. She resorts to yelling at him & he automatically withdraws into his shell, because he can not shout back at her.
Alcoholic father induces alienation & distancing in him. He soon develops hatred for his father & the alcohol.
Arrogant step mother will teach him bribing & intolerance.
Dogmatic step father beats him up & resorts to locking up. The very presence of such a person is intimidating to the poor soul who shivers with fear vibrations emitted by the step father.
Lonely nagging grandparents are the cause of his frustration. He wonders why he was even born to this family.
Diseased, sick uncles & aunts let go of him, unattended & free to get into serious domestic accidents. He picks up cursing & swearing easily from them.
SECOND ROUND OF HANDLERS
Now he has grown up a little, can run on his own two feet, converse with his limited vocabulary & is ready to acquire more from the world around him, through his Toxic Caregivers.
Insane & unfriendly neighbors help him learn quarreling over trifles, complaining & arguing.
Skewed maids & servants can be rude & ruthless. Now he learns to become impolite & loud.
Asexual baby sitters grope & exploit him sexually with warnings to keep it all a secret & he picks up the wrong meaning of love, harboring constant feelings of guilt & pressure of black mailing.
Critical cousins & relatives become responsible for judging, comparing aspects of negativity in him.
Conceited friends help him learn the art of bullying & challenging others, for no reason at all. He picks up hostility & violence.
Irritating guests & visitors make him aware of unannounced intrusions, seeking out & being demanding. He tolerates them with vengeance & ill feelings.
Egoistic teachers in school are disciplining him by controlling him in every way, instead he learns the worst lesson of his life to control others & the world which is insanity for sure.
Lustful coaches get intimate on the play grounds, gyms by hugging & kissing initially, then the affairs begin & end simultaneously.
Dysfunctional bosses & colleges are responsible for the feelings of rejection & humiliation in the adults around him who unknowingly are transmitting such negative vibrations to him, at such a tender age.
So many negative emotions in one small child who is totally pristine & fully open to everyone of them is unmanageable even for an adult. This is the plight of all our vulnerable children today.
All these interactions & primary thoughts are triggering off very complex secondary feelings inside him of INSECURITY, REJECTION & LOW SELF ESTEEM.
PROGRESSION OF FEELINGS INTO EMOTIONS
His basket is over flowing with the following assortment of feelings: Unwelcome, Unloved, Unworthy, Unwanted.
These important ones further mold him into being coward, cautious, suspicious, miserable, moody, tense, agitated, destructive, anxious, unsure of himself & self limiting.
The next grade of reactions multiple & expand inside him as numbness, withdrawn, closed, trapped, shocked & rigid.
The recipe of negativity is further compounded into feelings of hatred, disgust, revenge, despise, bitterness, & saboteur.
This is just the beginning of iceberg of pessimism.
All of the above three dozen feelings are causing in time visible MANNERISMS & VERBALIZING, to develop in our delicate adopted child.
Some of these obvious to face-read indicators are: put down, crushed, left out, alienated, abused, insulted, hurt, morose, dejected, melancholy, unhappy, sulky, sick, hopeless, depressed, tongue tied, grief even trauma.
The more prominent ones which can be heard, with your eyes closed are really pathetic to have in a child, such as: crying, sobbing, arguing, sighing, moaning, complaining, cursing, whining & tearful.
These feelings are internal & when a child relives them over & over again, the mind goes into over drive resulting in loss of energy & fatigue.
Now we move on to the next level of toxic emotions which are experienced & acted out physically by the body.
THE INTERNAL IMPULSES BECOME EXTERNAL COMPONENTS
This is the external component of those feelings boiling inside, building up tremendous pressure, which eventually comes out like steam bursting forth. The primary emotions are of LOW SELF WORTH & LOW SELF RESPECT. The secondary ones are innumerable such as: not good enough, no body, shameful, inhibited, timid, loser, soft, limiting, flawed, imperfect, inferior, begging, careless, defective, homesick, ineffective. All these secondary emotions snow ball into more complicated hair splitting emotions leaving the poor child totally devastated like : torn, dualistic, fickle, indecision,impatient, shaky, doubtful, troubled, hurried, hyper, rushing, gossip, fidgeting, desperate, take upon himself blame & rejection.
The snowball collects further momentum & gathers much more snow to become really gigantic. Our child is now fully confused, crazy, baffled, puzzled, foggy, illogical, choice-less, inconclusive. Now the emotions have a concrete effect on his physical body which starts to break down into pieces such as: scattered, blank, dreamy, wandering, distracted, inner noise takes over, paralytic, absorbed. As a result his energy is absolutely drained out & he behaves like a living corpse as follows: lifeless, run down, exhausted, tired, lazy, bored, beaten, wasted, blocked. Our child does not give up, because some hope still lingers inside him. It is question of his survival. The pressure cooker of feelings & emotions is still on the burner.
FROM IMPULSES TO VICIOUS ACTIONS
The recipe evolves into next higher stage of vicious actions & self defeating vices, leading to a Destiny of sorrow & chronic pain. From a small immature child he has crossed over to adulthood as if he has returned from the ruins of a lost world war. The cuts, wounds, fractured bones, bruises, malnutrition, sleep deprivation & dehydration are all internal & silent deformations, which show up on his personality very easily.
The long list of new Vices will last him for as long as he lives & lead him to the grave sooner. Egoistic, pride, arrogance, impolite, controlling, self conscious, selfish, self-righteous, self possessed, self proclaimed, self importance, goals, comparison, competing, ambitions, wealth, body conscious, lust, passionate, lewd, adulterous, asexual, covetous, obscene, trespassing, intrusion, anger, offended, wild, insane, agitated, sarcastic, jealous, humiliated, cynical.
Gradually these powerful emotions are acted out onto others, exactly as his caretakers & caregivers gave it to him. Greed, avarice, desiring, slander, crafty, cheat, hypocrite, fraud, attached, conning, bully, provoking, malicious, evil, cruel, punitive, assault, hostile, violent & murder too.
PRIVATE SCHOOLING INSTITUTIONS FOR DROPOUTS ONLY
Our child is a complete adult now & is ready for the world. Is the world ready to take him on. We have 98 % of the population like him. The balance 2% are different, the fortunate ones who had positive minded caregivers & caretakers. How to reverse this process is beyond anyone's imagination, intellect & control.
Rohit Khanna -IN-SCHOOLING through IN-TUITION
