STREET PHILOSOPHY BECOMES YOUR PSYCHOLOGY - study of psyche

 

STREET PHILOSOPHY BECOMES YOUR PSYCHOLOGY - study of psyche 

  Psyche pertains to study of Inner self, the soul, level of understanding & sharpness of Intellect.

  

  STUPID BELIEFS & PERCEPTIONS ARE YOUR HANDICAP- NOT REALITY.

Belief is your conviction of the truth, of a proposition, without its verification. You believe in many things because everyone around you believes in them, of course without verification. In many other things, you are made to believe through repetitive coaching, counseling, advertisement watching, and radio listening. As a result of the entire above overload of information, you come to believe in many things very powerfully, dangerously, and wrongly. The belief engine chugs away, strengthening old beliefs, spewing out new ones, rarely discarding any. We can sometimes see the foolishness in other people’s beliefs, but it is difficult to see the same error in our own beliefs.

 BELIEFS DO NOT ESTABLISH TRUTH  

Reality does not change depending upon your beliefs, and perceptions. Beliefs do not establish truth. How do we acquire these harmful beliefs?  We internalize them from our environment, parents, teachers, role models, when we are very young, innocent, raw, and quite impressionable. Belief formation is spontaneous and involuntary. What are beliefs? They are mini programs in our memory. We internalize the age old beliefs handed down from one generation to another, pretty much Stone Age stuff.       

FACTORY WITH NO MOVING PARTS

Mind is your thought factory. You generate, manufacture millions of thoughts every day. It never stops functioning till the last breadth is out. You manufacture both sides of the coin here: good thoughts and bad thoughts, happy pictures, and gloomy pictures, eventually successes and failures. When you think and believe in self, progress and moving mountains you get them. When you disbelief in yourself, doubting, fearing, fumbling, you go down. By switching on positive channel, looking important, having the right attitude takes you first class. While switching on negative channel, listening to bad news, looking inadequate and defeated takes you second class. Our beliefs about ourselves and the world form the framework of our REALITY. Our world behaves as much as we expect it to or as we all believe it will. If you think you can or cannot, in either case you are right.

PREPROGRAMMED HARD DISKS

We go through life struggling with these preprogrammed hard disks which refuse to take in new and correct information from reality and everyday events. We are totally biased with these age old perceptions and notions that act like filters or brackets in our life’s experiences. In short the world events happen to us objectively, while we experience them subjectively through our filters, totally opposite angles and viewpoints. What is the solution to this faulty programming problem? Simple! Format your hard disk or floppy, and leave it blank as it was, when you were born. It would be even better if you reprogram it as you wish it now, master of yourself. You are in charge of your life. Do it now, rewrite your own program?  Be alert, be aware of this malfunction. This is the root of all problems, misery, and suffering. Majority of the people do not want to do it themselves. They are again afraid of the unknown as usual, or they do not know where to start or how to go about it.                        

   SELF HELP OR EXTERNAL HELP

There are two ways out of this difficulty. First one, self-help, the BUDDHA method, which is pretty tough, long, time consuming, and involves looking inside. The second method is an easy one. Getting help from outside, the help of a specialist who deals with reprogramming human hard disks! I am talking of a hypnotist. He will reprogram your hard disk for good, of course for a huge sum of money, and very easily.  No effort is needed on your part. We will elucidate some of the various categories of beliefs, almost all of them baseless.

 BELIEF OF YOUR BIOLOGICAL FATHER!

A young boy Tamy aged 8, was asked by his friend Tanner, aged 10, who is your father? Then Tamy said, my dad obviously. How do you know this fact for sure, asked Tanner?  Because my dad told me so. Well, go and ask your mother again. Only, a mother can tell you who your real father is, and no one else. The best part is that you got to believe your mother too, no matter what she tells you.  The first belief of all your hundreds of beliefs happens to be the belief of your biological father. Goops! Did I trigger some doubt in you? 

YOU BELIEVE WRONGLY & DANGEROUSLY

That whatever is written in the holy books is the word of God and cannot be questioned!

That going to the church/temple for 2 hrs, once a week will get you to heaven–no effort needed.

That you must protect your land/God by killing others or self!

That you must control children at all times, dominate them and not let go of them.

That shouting/punishing/showing anger will right the wrong and discipline the child.

That there is no quality life without TV/parties/friends/long vacations!

That other people must compliment your looks/clothes/possessions very often.

That lot of money and expensive gifts will make you happy.

That you must switch to new partners to find love in them or new egos eventually.

That there are limited quantities of goods in this world, hence hoard up!

That the world situations and adverse climates are to be blamed for your misery!

That other people’s bad behavior is the cause of your suffering and you can change them, by nagging, all the time.

That you hate all those who criticize, disagree, abused you in past, hence no forgiveness!

That you must feed your body with four to five meals per day!

That it is normal to own a couple of diseases and slow down, as you age up.

That only a medical doctor and his medicine will heal you, while you continue with your vices and bad choices, and show total helplessness.

CORE BELIEFS

   GOD FEARING

These are universal, age old beliefs that the whole world pretty much believes in, of course, without reasoning and without verification.  Let us call them Grandparents beliefs. Raise your hands if anyone of you is God fearing?  All hands go up because we all fear GOD. We have been made to FEAR HIM. Should we be, fearing Him or loving Him? Definitely GOD loving! How did you get this wrong or upside down?

   REMEMBERING BY HEART - REALLY - is the brain doing the beating

Do you remember your nursery rhymes still?  How did you do it or were made to do it? BY HEART! I am sorry, it is not so. You got it wrong again. You remember your rhymes by brain, by head and not by heart. Our grandparents had everything wrong side up like our well frogs. They very strongly believed that the earth was flat & the Sun went round the Earth. Also anything heavier than air can not fly. But again you see for yourself, that they were wrong. Today we can fly from London to New York in a jumbo jet weighing hundreds of tones.

RELIGIOUS BELIEFS

We internalize these wrong beliefs from our role models when we are very young. These dangerous mind manipulations were brought forward from centuries of the past to our role models. So now they pass them on to you helpless child in the name of culture, traditions, and values.

   PRIMITIVE MAN - DULL INTELLECT

The primitive man awed the birds and animals because he could not fly or hunt likes them. He feared to death the invisible spirits and all powerful forces of nature which were beyond his comprehension at that time. Therefore he started to worship all these elements to appease them for his own safety and life. It was his invention. It was the technology of Stone Age. It made perfect sense for such an undeveloped brain.

   NO FREE WILL - ALL RESPONSIBILITY SHIFTED TO FORCES OF NATURE/GOD

The religious principles and practices progressed very slowly and changed from time to time. It started with Toteism, progressed to Pantheism and stopped at Monotheism, concept of one God. The primitive man had no free will of his own; therefore he believed that all actions were ordered by divine. He had the perfect attitude of acceptance and reverence. He had no concept of ego too, and therefore shifted all responsibility to the Gods. He basically lived in abundance and detachment mode to a great extent, hence was very happy and disease free. He accepted death of a loved one as part of the divine blueprint; hence it was celebrated with the whole tribe and full festivities.

   RELIGION AS  MONEY SIPHONING INSTITUTION 

Today the same religion has taken a drastic twist for the worse and evolved into an institution for power and money siphoning, for the top few. The holy priest lives in power at your cost. Religion was invented for a purpose. The purpose is organized exploitation of the people, the masses who cannot think for themselves and to keep them in subjugation. How it is done?  By making you sinful, feeling guilty, and begging for repentance and of course paying a big price. The priest makes you confess all your secret affairs that you are having, or have had in the past. Automatically, you are made to feel guilty about it. The way out of this mess is repentance and of course your charity will help his “tribe” thrive in luxury, while you rot in misery. How can you be happy, if your religion denies the natural instincts of desires, sex, daydreaming, love, and morality? You cannot be happy. It places religion in the super natural realm where you cannot question it or his authority. So you end up as a puppet in his hands. He wants it all: your obedience, your money and your commitment. The society has created schools for scoundrels and now expects it to churn out honest citizens. It will not happen.

   SUPPRESSION OF SEXUAL ENERGIES BY SEPARATION 

We have separate schools for boys and girls. We built separate monasteries for male priests and female nuns. This separation forces suppression of the Sexual energies. Over long periods of time it cannot be contained and finally it erupts like volcanoes as homosexuality and lesbianism. First the society makes you gay and then condemns you for acting out as a pervert. You feel guilty deep inside for what you have become. This is what they want. Your subjugation to them! These relationships are based on lust and not on love; hence they are short lived, meaningless, unproductive, and unacceptable in the wider society. The partners very soon get bored with satiety and breakup violently with serious consequences, tearing apart their souls and ruining the bodies with incurable diseases.

ABSTRACT BELIEFS

We learn that teachers, doctors, parents know best and therefore they hold enormous power over our minds and learning. From the very beginning we are told many abstract beliefs, like the tooth fairy coming and taking away our first tooth and Santa Claus coming in his sleigh to bring us Christmas presents, gifts. This is our starting point to rely less and less on our confidence and intelligence and get into the wrong Stone Age belief systems.

SUPERSTITIOUS BELIEFS

Beliefs based on ignorance. They know that these beliefs are baseless stuff, yet they believe in them helplessly and act accordingly. The most common one is the belief about the number 13. It is so unlucky that it does not appear anywhere. The hotels do not have thirteenth floor ever and room number 13 cannot be lived in because it does not exist. The same belief is about number 4. Coincidentally the numerals in 13 add up to 4 also. Friday the 13th is considered even more inauspicious. Friday is very bad day for setting sail, going on a trip, bed change and stitching of garments.

   FANS WILL SUCK THE LIFE OUT OF YOU

In various parts of the world people believe in different things, very foolishly. In Korea all ceiling fans and table fans are manufactured with timer devices. No fans ever run for ever, continuously. They believe that the fan will suck the life out of you, if left to run all day and night.

   CATS CROSSING YOUR PATH IS BAD OMEN

Another good one is about cats crossing your path on the streets. You have to stop dead in your path, change directions for a while and then continue after a little break. So rigid is this belief. It is about cats leaving an electrostatic charge in their paths which could affect you, if you went ahead, of course baseless. In the West, cats are the pampered lot in homes. People live with them all day without getting charged electrostatic-ally.

   KNOCKING ON THE WOOD FOR NUTS

Opening an umbrella inside the house is a bad omen. So is walking under a ladder, and placing your shoes on the table. The good luck beliefs are pretty stupid too, like keeping your fingers crossed and knocking on wood. If the hands are itchy then money is either going out or coming in. Finally if you find a penny on the ground and pick it up then it will bring luck, because an angel placed it there.                                                            

LIMITING BELIEFS & HEXING

We are all brought up with hundreds of limitations. This provides a very narrow perspective for our growth and development and puts brakes on our progress for the rest of our lives. We are made to believe that we cannot do a particular task, rather many tasks. Hence we end up with low self-confidence, low self-esteem and zero capabilities or skills. Later on in life your parents expect you to scale lofty mountains in one single leap. How ridiculous is their belief and style of bringing up. Hexing is mind manipulation, intentionally or unintentionally. It is being done to children by their parents, role models all the time. It is the imagination of horrific outcomes suggestible in negative direction mostly. The tell-tale signs of people who are self-hexed are as follows: It is God’s will, what can you do?  They are trapped in life, with their backs against the wall. Such people believe in the above very strongly, cooperate with HEX and give up. They often die young. Angry about being dependent upon others, pessimistic and suspicious of others, avoiding personal contact, they live their lives thus. Poor sinners, victims of circumstances of their lives, pawns of judgmental vengeful God, will continue to find bad things happening to good people.  

FATAL BELIEFS                                           

It is good to remain under pressure to perform well.

It is normal to be stressful at most of the times.

Deadlines motivate you to move ahead in life.

It is OK to react angrily whenever provoked by the other person.

Fear is a healthy tool to get higher productivity.

Irritations and pain is accepted part of life. 

Happiness lies outside in material things/possessions.

My peace is dependent upon the other person’s behavior.

All these traits take you downhill, and you are finished.

I am stupid, not as smart as others, can’t

Neither keep up nor read well.

I don’t deserve, cannot succeed because others do better than me.

I don’t belong here, unwanted, unlovable, don’t fit in and valueless.

I am lost, alone, uncomfortable, insecure, and no one sees me, forgotten, invisible.

I am trapped, unsafe, will be hurt, want to run away.

I hate myself, but want to love myself. It is egoistic, selfish to love self.

I don’t deserve to feel my feelings, enjoy life, possessions and must remain sad.

I have to be the responsible one, take care of all, and it is not safe to get help.

I was born in original sin, am evil, bad, not worthy of god’s love, and others love.

I am a sinner, needs to be punished, do penance, suffer, and cannot forgive myself.

People don’t listen to me, value my words, hear me out, don’t care what I say.

People are weird, got to do their thing, can never please them.

It is not safe and possible to connect with others. My faults and deficiencies will be seen.

Cars are not safe and driving is dangerous. Watch everything and keep my distance. 

Money is evil, dirty, and it is sinful, selfish, and greedy to want more of it. Work hard for it.

Woman are weak, emotional, irrational, and less intelligent, hence must be controlled.

BLOCKING BELIEFS

Real life traumas are the cause of blocking beliefs in us! These beliefs eventually become our blueprint for the rest of our lives. Role models and parents have powerful influence on young minds. A father repeatedly mentions to his son while his daughter is listening too: Boys don’t cry; men are stronger, more capable, and better brains than women. What meaning, is the daughter supposed to get from this repetitive conservation? Girls are weak, down play their strengths, emotionally irrational and less than boys. This is absolutely wrong but very true and very much happening all the time. We pick up the wrong lessons and then wonder, what went wrong?  Our caretakers must be mature enough themselves first, to understand the fine tuning and quick absorption rate of the young innocent human minds, which is always irreversible.

OUR MENTAL IMAGES CREATE REALITY

 At a football game, in California, it was announced on public address system that 6 to 7 people might have suffered food poisoning from the soda stall. Very soon some 200 people reported sick. There were many in the 200 group, who never went near the soda stall. Next day it was reported on the radio that the soda was not contaminated, soon they all became well suddenly. The body cooperates immediately. Our mind has phenomenal powers, unknown to us. A pious lady, purely vegetarian, unknowingly eats and relishes a pork sandwich. Then, when someone reminds her of the non-vegan pork, in the sandwich, she starts to vomit out. Hexed by herself, her body reacts instantaneously.

Personally, I have treated many patients for different aliments, with only vitamin C, at my father’s clinic when I was a young upcoming apprentice. It always worked. Their belief in my father, as a God like doctor and his medicine, got them to be healed of their sickness in matter of days. Many of them were educated and fairly intelligent, yet their firm belief brought them to my father’s clinic again and again. This just proves our mind has magical powers to heal & influence the functioning of our bodies. The placebo effect has been proven beyond doubt in research laboratories. The reverse is equally true, which implies that negative thoughts & fatal beliefs do cause malfunctions in our bodies. Therefore be forewarned.

PLACEBO EFFECT

 It happened in India in the early 1900.  Tarpon lived in a dilapidated shack in Ranchi Bihar. One day he woke up in extreme pain in his stomach and was very sick with loose motions and abdominal cramps. He strongly believed that he had swallowed a whole lizard while he was asleep. His body was cooperating with his belief. He was taken to a hospital, where the doctors checked him out and found nothing wrong with him medically. The doctors tried everything but of no benefit. Tarpons condition was deteriorating fast. Finally the family members sought the help of a Sorcerer. He took the doctors and family members into confidence and devised of a plan. Next day Tarpon was taken to an old cemetery in the night time to the Sorcerer where he was ready with a small dead lizard in his pocket. Tarpon was asked to drink some soap water while he chanted some Mantras. A bon fire was lighted to make it look like a ritual. Soon Tarpon started vomiting and in the commotion the Sorcerer threw in the dead lizard in the vomit pool very smartly. When Tarpon’s vomiting spell subsided the doctors joyously reported the success of the operation and pointed to the dead lizard in the pool of vomit. Tarpon saw it with his own eyes and was hexed totally. His body cooperated with his new mental belief; he recovered in two days and went home fully recovered.                                              

NOCEBO EFFECT

The human mind can be hexed in diametrically opposite directions. This is a true story of Mitchell. She is the mother of a very famous astronaut. She is legally blind and wears very thick glasses to barely feel her way around when she is moving in the house. She is a very pious, God fearing lady and a staunch Christian by faith. One day she was thrilled to learn that Chen Norbord the Reiki Master, was coming to a nearby town to deliver a talk. She believed that Chen was a Christian too like her and he happened to be a friend of her astronaut son. But as luck would have it, her son was not available to drive her to the talk. In the meantime Chen Norbord rang up Mitchell and wished she could make it to his talk. He further suggested that Mitchell should drive down on her own, since her son is tied up elsewhere. Mitchell got her vision restored and drove down 300 km. on her own to attend Chen’s talk. After the talk she confidently drove back another 300 km. without a hitch. It was a miracle that had happened. After two months when her son returned home he too was thrilled at the miracle. During her discussions with her son she found out to her utter surprise, that Chen Norbord was a Non–Christian. This belief devastated Mitchell so badly that her body cooperated with her belief and she lost her vision again.                                                 

MEDICAL HEXING

Words that maim: Since medical doctors are held in high regard, their words, prognosis can act as bullets if not curses, and encourage the patient or the victim to die on time as decided by the doctor. Unintentionally the medical doctors HEX their patients to death. Spooky surroundings, intimidating environment, replete with x-rays machines, dim lights, radiology equipment, all put together produce fear and apprehension. Next you foot a heavy bill payment for all these services and finally the doctor gives his diagnosis, or death sentence:           

You are living on borrowed time, and this narrow blood vessel is a widow maker.

They told me it would only get worse and I would just have to live with it, or die of it.

You are going downhill fast and they said there was nothing more they could do for me.

Your tumor is a ticking time bomb, and all we can do is wait and see what happens.

You are too late to come now for the treatment. The body has become very weak to sustain the high dosage needed to help you.

OPERATION THEATER ETIQUETTE

We never stop hearing. Our auditory fibers are not affected by anesthesia. In the operation theater in a hospital we are very vulnerable to the intentions and suggestions made by the doctors, surgeons and their assistants even though we are unconscious. In one case the intern in the OT unintentionally said that this is the worst case he had ever seen regarding kidney and bladder repair. The victim heard the loose remark of the intern and believed him. The victim’s body started to cooperate with his new belief and he never recovered fully as planned by the surgeon’s. He could never urinate without a catheter. In another case the surgeon was performing a knee operation on a middle aged man. During the operation while the man was unconscious under anesthesia, the surgeon carelessly commented that he has done what he was supposed to do for the knee to come back. This remark was wrongly interpreted by the victim patient that the knee operation had not gone as planned. His body cooperated with his new belief and he started to die soon after his knee operation. How one casual remark can kill a victim is amazing and very powerful force. This is even more effective than the suggestion of a hypnotist.

THE OLD GERM SYNDROME

A medical student learns about germs, microscopic parasites, bacteria, and he develops a syndrome about them. He goes on washing his hands and cleaning himself up to 100 times a day. Sure enough he is never clean enough. He is an excellent example of self-hexing. The days of the germ theory are over. Louis Pasteur pioneered this theory hundreds of years ago, when we all were neck deep into very scary diseases like small pox, typhoid, tuberculosis, polio, and rheumatic fever. They have been eradicated almost totally and are fully curable. Today the big killers are none of the above, but different ones which are not caused by our friendly germs. Instead We have cancer, diabetes, heart strokes, allergies, multiple sclerosis, mental sickness, obesity. These diseases are absolutely our doing.

THE NEW GERM - FREE RADICAL

This is the new “germ”. It is an oxygen atom that is missing an electron. This makes it hungry, ravenous, and will not stop till its thirst is satisfied and fulfilled. Therefore it attacks the first neighbor to fill itself up and stabilize. The wrong foods we consume generate the free radicals in our bodies. The only way out of this maze is to combat the enemy at its own game. The big game is ANTI OXIDANTS. Simply reverse the life style and culinary choices. This way you ingest compatible foods which do not cause free radicals and the balance sheet is favorably tipped on the Anti-oxidants side. Remember, this is, life, ever renewing on autopilot. We make poor choices in our diets and life styles. No! We have no room for any choice. The market is flooded with poisonous ready to eat snacks and foods. Each package is more harmful than the next one, loaded with sugars, salts, artificial colors and dangerous preservatives. Even god cannot help you, if you continue to consume this trash day in, day out. Coke cola and Pepsi is not a drink but an acid wash. Even wine is ten times better than colas.

THE CULTURAL INFLUENCE

The power of suggestion, thought, culture, language, and core beliefs, can bring about a self-fulfilling prophecy. It can work both ways; constructive way and destructive way. If you believe, you can do, or you cannot do, you are right, in either case. So get rid of all your limiting beliefs.  Do not own them and defend them. When Tarrah believes that she deserves her sickness, because of her sins and guilt, she is very likely to have chronic diseases. The more she doctors her diseases, the sicker she gets. If a guest comes to the house, she will take the opportunity to discuss her sickness in great detail with the guest. She is focusing on her disease and it shall expand as per the cosmic laws. When problems do not yield to treatment, her suspicions are confirmed, the curse is justified and she deserves to suffer, SELF-HEXING.

  IGNORANCE CAN BE BLISS  -  WRONG  KNOWLEDGE IS DANGEROUS

On the other hand Tanith from Africa could talk only in the BEAUTYWAY, because she thinks in the beauty way always. A pregnant Tanith refused to attend a prenatal clinic on purpose. She had a very strong reason for not going to that clinic. She did not want to be hexed by potential complications of pregnancy. She thinks in only healthy way and then delivers the baby real fast and healthy without any problems.

 When God made man at the beginning of stone age, there were no doctors, medicines or hospitals. So very intelligently HE placed the DOCTOR & THE MEDICINE inside us. Our ancestors had INNATE wisdom, rarely fell sick, & devised effective & powerful home remedies for just in case times.They knew that the doctor is inside them as SPIRITUAL ENERGY & this body is the worlds best PHARMACY that has no match. Every part of our body has great significance in our short lives & it is for us to grasp its implied meaning. 

Personally, I was lucky again to have been left untouched and not poisoned by such baseless fatal beliefs. We were at liberty to form our own opinions about such common happenings in the world around us. Nothing was ever forced upon our ignorant minds. My creative talents mushroomed very well in this environment. Since our dad was a professional doctor, all he instilled in us was the importance of washing hands with soap thoroughly, before meals and keeping overall good hygiene. He would insist on   soaking & washing fruit in potassium permanganate solution and then rinsing under running water, before consuming them. It made good sense to wash up very well after returning home from the contaminated/infected clinic of his.   



Rohit Khanna - FORESIGHT COMES FROM IN-SIGHT 

HOW WE GROW UP & WHAT GOES WRONG ??

  

HOW WE GROW UP & WHAT GOES WRONG ? - Helpless at the Mercy of Parents...

  SEPARATING RIGHT FROM WRONG

Had our childhood been different, we would have gradually come to master our own emotions, just like walking and mathematics. But it did not happen that way, for most of us. Our parent’s negativity was their problem. They had less civilized parents and grandparents of their own, who used spanking, whipping, yelling, verbal abuses, and physical punishment on them in abundance to help them learn RIGHT from WRONG -  Therefore they are not able to SEPARATE RIGH FROM WRONG. This is what they internalized and now they apply the same techniques of upbringing on us. We would probably, do the same to our children, because we would not know anything different or better. First sin, first clothing, the fig leaf caused it all. They put the most horrible emotion of shame into our heads for nothing. We reject our body. We reject our nakedness and bring on sufferings, anxiety, & diseases.                                                                                                               

BEFORE BIRTH - UNWELCOME

Teenagers in school get hooked on birth control pills and start exploring sex, in an immature fashion. They drop out from school, take up minimum wage jobs to explore further. Their parents disown them, for doing their own thing.  One mistake and the girls are pregnant. She never planned the child in the making, and now hesitates to abort it. The child inside her is unwelcome from the very beginning. The young, teen, would be mother, transfers the repressed feelings and tensions to the child, who is fully aware of light, sound, chemistry of mother and her attitudes towards the pregnancy and herself.

AT BIRTH - ECSTATIC

Every child is born ecstatic. It is natural, the inner most core of every human being. Ecstasy of the heart and not of the mind or head! Each and every child is a bundle of joy.

AFTER BIRTH - BURDEN

Mother has to tolerate the child. He misses love from the very beginning. She cannot give love, as much as, the child wants it or needs it, because she herself did not get love. She is unfulfilled, herself. Now she feels guilty, so she substitutes love with food. The child is forced to eat, even when he is not hungry. Things have gone grossly wrong again. Today’s child is brought up in day care units, by foster mothers, by step parents, with artificial love. The step parents definitely, abuse the child, while parent/mother is at work. Freedom is denied to the child, and gratification is delayed. When the child cries for milk, it is not given. The mother is possibly travelling, in a public transport bus or shopping, in the mall where she is feeling shy or shameful, to breast feed the child, in full view of the public. Delayed gratification causes repulsive and hateful feelings, to be developed in the child. This is the starting point of things, going wrong.

INFANT - FEARLESS

Love is a necessity and taken for granted. The child demands love but has little comprehension of how to return it. All needs/wishes are only one cry away. They are instantly fulfilled by the co-creators. He is totally self-absorbed, discovers his own toes, fingers, and being-ness. He has no fears, no doubts, and no beliefs yet, and no denial is experienced, yet. If he is left alone, he feels shocked and frightened, so he yells very loudly and clearly for attention, ever heard of a hoarse voiced baby, never!        

BABY - EXCELLENT BLACKMAILER 

Physical contact at this stage is very important. He needs to be hugged, cuddled, held, kissed, and he responds with coo’s and giggles. He quickly learns the art of blackmailing and uses good behavior to get more favors. Smiles and obedience are rewarded. Love is both given and received without question. Baby learns to sleep on schedule and wake up in comfort. He does not scream without reason, fright, or loneliness. At this moment, possessions bring joy; he clutches them tightly and calls them my own teddy bear and security blanket. He delights, in the use of his five senses. He symbolically chews and listens to every toy, he sees and touches.

CHILD - EXPLORING

He acquires new skills at this stage. He can crawl and toddle. His new independence is intoxicating and therefore wants to explore new spaces, for which he is punished. He is taught hard discipline for running into dangers, not yet suspected. He can string up words and rejoice at the sounds, he can make and hear. Talking is fun and he enjoys being the center of attraction. He discards his toys and parental affection for the “Forbidden Eden Garden”. He can deduce and relate with his mental ability, thus he begins to dream of things, beyond tangible reach. Mom can I go outside in the beautiful sun! No! An obsessive NO! It is difficult to say yes, and if said yes, it is done reluctantly, making the child feel guilty.

   CHILD - DOMINATED

The child wants to sit and see the stars outside a little longer. NO! Come inside and go to sleep, when he is not feeling sleepy. When he sleeps and wants to dream a little longer in the early morning, mom says NO! Wake up; this is no time to sleep. Get ready and eat, but mom I am not hungry, NO! You have to eat right now. Total dictatorship, in the house and he is a slave. No wonder, they want to leave the house as soon as possible, when they grow up, to get to do, what they want to do? The ignorant parents sow the seeds first and later on repent, when the birds fly away prematurely, from their nests. 

   CHILD - SEXUALITY

For a child there is no difference between his body parts, a nose or his sex organs, they are just the same for him. But he is baffled when he is smacked on the hand every time he plays with or touches his sex organs. This happens many times in a day. It is re-enforced weeks after weeks. Enjoying your own body is denied. The message driven home is of SHAME. Sex is BAD, dirty. He is taught wrongly, that nudity is gross. The child starts hating itself.  Gender is recognized through clothes. We over clothe our children and ourselves. Two small children, peep into a nudist camp, through a hole. They cannot identify man and woman, because they are not wearing clothes. How tragic, that you do not see yourself nude in your own dreams, so much afraid of your own body. Latter on as an adults, you are expected to perform well, sexually in a marriage. It is not going to happen.  Do you see what went wrong already?

   CHILD - CURIOSITY  

If a child wants to open up and see how a clock works. – NO! his curiosity is killed instantaneously. An inquiring mind is destroyed, instead of destroying a worthless clock. Thomas Alva Edison, the greatest inventor was lucky to have an intelligent mother, who allowed him to destroy an old clock, to keep his curiosity alive, for his whole life. NO! Don’t! These two words are very potent. The child is made to understand, that happiness is wrong and being miserable is right. We destroy the possibility of ecstasy, joyful, delightful, life. You see, how things went wrong, in your past.

   CHILD - LONELY 

Parents have no time to love, so they substitute love with pocket money and other cash incentives. The child learns to be greedy. Money respectability is symbolic. So much money in the bank! Paradoxically, the value of money comes, only, when you spend it, and not hoard it.

ADOLESCENT - CONFUSED & SECRETIVE

This stage is critical. He is neither a child, anymore, nor an adult, yet. Lost in between! Love is needed and important again. Apprehensions turn him secretive. He fears loss of parental security, is surprised by the material world, and longs to cross over to adulthood, quickly. He is doubtful of future and unsure of strangers. He observes adults very keenly, thus internalizing their behavior, involuntarily and automatically. Growing up is tough and hurtful. He is alone and lost in a new environment, because his buddies have moved away. Therefore, he tends to cling to his past. Hence he invents disguises, to hide his real feelings. He puts on comical masks and artificial laughter to fool people.  Inside he is very fragile, sentimental and often moves to tears, yet he builds a hard shell on the outside, and erects high walls around himself, to protect self, from the cruel world.  See for yourself, what’s going wrong.

TEENAGER - START OF EGO BUILDING

Now begins the uphill journey to maturity. This is the time to gaze into the mirrors, for long hours, fixing up new styling of hairdos, admiring self and being conscious of a phenomenon called “self-image”. 

  HIJACKED BY  HORMONES - FIRST LOVE/CRUSH ANYWHERE, ANYONE  

Love is given because it brings pleasure. Hormones in the body trigger sexuality. Teen’s youth is fired up, but brings doubts of self-worth.  Beware! This attribute is one of the most important ones. SELF–ESTEEM and SELF– CONFIDENCE are values that always determine success or failure in future life. Social interactions begin with friends and relationships blossom. Dates, germinate romance and infatuations. Our personal sense of dignity and importance is realized through the opposite sex. Rightly or wrongly we are also hit and wounded by the cupid’s arrow, called ‘first love’ and we believe it is the last thing on the planet. You are wrong again. The responsibility of life are, not a burden yet, on the teen. He is on the road to learning to respect elders and be patient instead of being rash and reckless. He hides under the veil of Vanity and seeks reassurance in flattery and admiration, but is often ridiculed and humiliated. Sometimes he could be, just brushed aside as if he did not exist. He cringes and prays for sympathy. Everything is falling apart and going wrong for him!! To retain a false image, of superiority he resorts to bullying, younger children. Some teens do get fixated on bullying, and decide to take it up, as a hobby first and eventually a profession. Present time is for fun. Past is behind and future is a mystery.

ADULT - SOCIAL RESPONSIBILITY 

Life is serious business and he has to face the reality for the first time. He has to comply with hundreds of society rules, regulations, restrictions and stick to schedules, strict ones of course. Hard work and meeting the deadlines, makes it very taxing and frustrating. Many people breakdown and give up under this pressure of work routines. Work, eat, play and serve by the clock. He is fully caught up in the rat race, where survival is an obsession. Learning and competing are mandatory in this arena. No time to dream and no time to waste. More work, study and increased responsibility, comes early. He yearns to be, better and better every day. Love means surrender of self, but it is wrongly interpreted and channeled as love for work. The adult forgets the true meaning of love and moves on to marriage, another play field of life. He is aware of his primal urge to find a mate: The perfect mate to share his joys and sorrows. The search goes on, this one or that one. Vices and virtues of the potential mates are weighed in a balance and found lacking and wanting. This brings in anguish of emotional indecision.  In the case of first love, every vice and short comings, are thrown to the winds. Decisions are painful and difficult, yet they are made in the favor of one, and the mating begins, mating of the hearts and minds.

   COMPATIBILITY & DIVISION OF LOVE

Till now he was centered on self, now he has to expand, to relate to others, in his circle. They love, but do not know why? Love is a consuming flame. The adult is sexually uninhibited, but emotionally handicapped, fearful, and suspicious of the stranger, his new mate, because of his ‘skewed upbringing’ his unstructured past. The adult is adept at executing duties of a fixed organizer, but totally lost in the mystery of his own existence, spheres of his life. Fall in love to rise out of the past. Desire for sexual expression is inborn in every child and the grown up child, our adult, suppressed or eliminated. It is supposed to be redirected and harnessed for creative forces with the help of will power. Sex transmutation can make mediocrity, into a genius. It is the safety valve to let off “excessive steam” and prevent the mind from going neurotic. It is also the ultimate, therapeutic agent for healing your troubled emotions. So strong and impelling is the desire for sexual contact, that men and women freely run the risk of life and reputation to indulge in it. It is very brave of them, but sad when it lands them into trouble and prison?  Sex is a pretty costly affair. You decide to move in with a young beautiful girl, have sex and an off spring after wards. Soon you get fed up and decide to call it quits with this girl and fall in the trap of another beauty, to start it all over again. What is the price tag for such short flings? Alimony to your ex-girlfriend and mother of your child, monthly child support payments for the kid till he grows up to be 18 years of age and fend for himself. All this could run into $ 1, 00,000 on the lower side and $ 5, 00,000 on the higher side.  You are totally ruined, and keep paying up, for the sex you once had. See! How mature you have grown up to become and behave as one.

HEALING THE SUPPRESSED EMOTIONS

For years and decades, we keep on suppressing our pain, feelings, and build up walls around us, seeming to protect ourselves, by distancing from the world.  We approach life very skeptically, fearfully, rarely initiating a contact. We hesitate to be, who we are. Then one day we fall in love afresh. Love makes us feel safe enough to open up. When we are in love, all the negative feelings of past float up? We become aware of our pain. It is time to THAW out all the repressed feelings. We have to take time and be in the moment to realize and release all of the past. But something again goes wrong. When all these feelings of our past come up, we wrongly interpret them as our partner’s criticism, blame, and rejection. You are never upset for the reasons, you think you are, beware! Pain from the past is projected into the future almost all of the time. Therefore, at this point we need to listen to our feelings with great compassion. We need to parent ourselves. Why are you so sad? If you do so, you will be miraculously healed. Subsequently, we respond to situations in a loving and respectful way. The centered way! The art of healing is to understand and accept our unresolved childhood feelings, by sharing it with our partners. In order to love others, we have to first fill up our own vessel with love. Therefore, love yourself, your body parts, and your soul first. Ironically the very act of avoiding our negative emotions, gives them the power to control our lives. A person who cannot be stimulated to great heights by achievement of love is hopeless. Dead, although Alive!                

Personally, we were brought up with great love & care. Our parents sacrificed a lot to send us to the best schools and it paid off very well. We were additionally fortunate to interact with like minded relatives and grow up with enlightened cousins and friends circle. I am full of love and genuinely in a bliss mode. My concept of marriage is as follows. Cosmic energy decides which two people will get together for a life time. IT instructs the male like this, “Mr. I have a complementing person who is emotionally handicapped and I would like you to take care of her for a lifetime.” IT also instructs the female like this, “Miss. I have a complementing person who is emotionally handicapped too and I would like you to take care of him for a lifetime.” Each one of us is challenged in multiple ways and must look after one another. When we do the exact opposite then cosmic energy is disturbed and gets out of balance and we get into greater trouble. As a kid I went to convent schools and picked up the Moral Science lessons very effectively. They had a deep impact on me & therefore I am what I am today. I am truly religious without any particular religion, in all my actions not merely words/lip service. Now it is time to give back to the world what I took from it. Hence this book of knowledge!



Rohit Khanna - Fortunately everything went right for us.