WHEN LOVE IS CRIPPLED, THEN
EMOTIONALLY CAUSED DISEASES MANIFEST
By
starving our emotions, we become Humorless & rigid.
By
repressing them we become literal, reformatory & holier.
By
discouraging them, they poison us.
By
encouraging them, they ooze perfume.
When
In Denial about love then CRIPPLED
When
not open to love & bitter then DIABETES
When
attached to love in present then BLINDNESS
When
In confusion & restless in present then INDIGESTION
When
Controlling others in present then
INSANITY
If
seeking love in present, then INCONTENANCE
If
craving for more love in present,
then ADDICTION
If
closed & rigid to love, then
ARTHRITIS
If
Unable to give love & allow the flow, then ASTHMA
If
negating love to self, then ALLERGY
If
Afraid to lose love in future, then
PARALYSIS
If
already lost love in past, Sorrow then
HEARTACHE
No
love for work/job
then FATIGUE
CRIPPLED – I am bad, done wrong, denial of warm
energy, love. Stuck in guilt matrix: sadness-anger-fear. Stunted, dependent
upon others approval, not aligned with truth. Stimulation is a distraction. When In Denial about love then you are crippled to the
core. ALLOW YOUR WOMAN
TO JUST BE. When she’s sad or upset, it’s not your job to fix it, it’s
your job to HOLD HER and let her know it’s ok. Let her know that you hear her,
and that she’s important and that you are that pillar on which she can always
lean. The feminine spirit is about change and emotion and like a storm her
emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and non-judging, she
will trust you and open her soul to you, DON’T RUN-AWAY WHEN SHE’S UPSET. Stand
present and strong and let her know you aren’t going anywhere. Listen to what
she is really saying behind the words and emotion. BE SILLY, don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh.
And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier. DON’T BE AN IDIOT, and don’t be afraid of being one
either. You will make mistakes and so will she. Try not to make too big
mistakes and learn from the ones you do make. You’re not supposed to be
perfect, just try to not be too stupid. BE
VULNERABLE, you don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share your
fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.
DIABETES – not open & accepting, unable to
assimilate, undeserving, unworthy, perpetual cynicism. Rejecting kindness,
cannot reciprocate love as gratitude, unable to generate sweetness of true
unconditional love. When not open to love & bitter then diabetes
creeps in. BE WILLING TO TAKE HER
SEXUALLY, to carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume
her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest
levels of her soul. Let her melt into her feminine softness as she knows she
can trust you fully.
BLINDNESS – That belongs to me, I own it, mine,
attachment to an idea, image, body, memory, belief. I love those material
things; emotion originates in consciousness & then affects the brain. When attached to love in present, its mine then blindness
puts a veil over you. NEVER BLAME your wife If YOU
get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something
inside of YOU. They are YOUR emotions, and your responsibility. When you feel
those feelings takes time to get present and to look within and understand what
it is inside of YOU that is asking to be healed. You were attracted to this
woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all your childhood
wounds in the most painful way so that you could heal them… when you heal
yourself, you will no longer be triggered by her, and you will wonder why you
ever were. FORGIVE IMMEDIATELY and
focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let your
history hold you hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes
is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. FORGIVENESS IS
FREEDOM. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.
INDIGESTION – social constipation, Facebook
syndrome, mental confusion, craving for info, need to know more, restlessness,
storms of emotions. When In confusion & restless in present
then Indigestion ballons up. ALWAYS
SEE THE BEST in her. Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will
expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be
bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love.
Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know
without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to have this woman as
your wife.
INSANITY – we are out of control trying to
control others, changing them, doing impossible, seeking revenge & justice,
anger, fire, rage, resentment, frustration. You can dominate over your own
mind. When Controlling others in present then Insanity
controls us. IT’S NOT YOUR JOB TO
CHANGE OR FIX HER, your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her
ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you
wanted or not. Can you change or fix the world. NO Then why even attempt such
an impossible task and waste your valuable energies. The children & spouse
fall in this category of world. TAKE FULL ACCOUNTABILITY for your own
emotions: It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she CAN’T make
you sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that
your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love.
INCONTINENCE – nonstop thinking, talking, loose
talk to self, needs to be affirmed by others, looking for attention. Evaluating
judging, speculating, interpreting, concluding, surmising, correcting, others. If seeking love in the present, then Incontinence,
lust overpowers you. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE
LOVE. In the end, this is the only advice you need. If this is the guiding
principle through which all your choices are governed, there is nothing that
will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure. But
these are lessons I am learning and committed to carrying forward. Truth is, I
LOVED being married, and in time, I will get married again, and when I do, I
will build it with a foundation that will endure any storm and any amount of
time.
ADDICTION – desiring, craving, I must have more
possessions. I need validation and approval of others. Feel worthy of value,
thereby achieve success, criticism means disapproval, thus devastated. If craving for more love in present, then ADDICTION. FALL IN LOVE OVER, REPEATEDLY. You
will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got
married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today.
Change will come, and in that you must re-choose each other every day. SHE
DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart,
she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may
never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when
you were courting her.
ARTHRITIS – stiffness of the soul, chronic
rigidity, deep inflexibility, close to new ways, I am always right, False Ego,
suffering with others new ideas. Emotions gone astray. If closed & rigid to love, then Arthritis locks
in. FILL HER SOUL EVERYDAY…
learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and
validated and CHERISHED. Ask her to create a list of 10 THINGS that make her
feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority every day to make
her feel like a queen. BE PRESENT. Give her not only your time, but your focus,
your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that
when you are with her you are fully WITH HER. Treat her as you would your most
valuable client. She is.
ASTHMA – Hard to be love full anytime,
wanting something in return, love becomes fear, inability to give love. If unable to give love & allow the flow, then Asthma
manifests. GIVE HER SPACE. The
woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be
reminded to take time to nurture herself. Sometimes she will need to fly from
your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that
space, she will come back with new songs to sing, okay, getting a little too
poetic here, but you get the point. Tell her to take time for herself,
ESPECIALLY after you have kids. She needs that space to renew and get
re-centered, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids
and the world.)
ALLERGY – writhing in constant discomfort in
other’s presence, itchy, rash inside, strong dislike, resistant reaction to
people, not accepting self, reactivating past, the other is a powerful mirror
to reflect low self-esteem. If negating love to self,
then Allergy erupts all over you. PROTECT YOUR OWN HEART. Just as you committed to being the
protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love
yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your
heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always
ready to receive her and invite her in and refuse to let anyone or anything
else enter there.
PARALYSIS – I am about to lose something, fear,
panic, tension to worry, insecurity to terror, limited, false self. If Afraid to lose love in future, then Paralysis takes
hold of you. BE FULLY TRANSPARENT. If
you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING, especially
those things you don’t want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully
open your heart and let her in when you don’t know i she will like what she
finds… Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your
darkness as well as your light. DROP THE MASK. If you feel like you need to
wear a mask around her, and show up perfect all the time, you will never
experience the full dimension of what love can be. DON’T WORRY ABOUT MONEY.
Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps
when teammates fight. Figure out ways to leverage both people’s strength to
win.
HEARTACHE – I have lost something, spread the
virus of loss, sorrow, sadness, heaviness. If you have
already lost love in the past, then, Sorrow & Heartache. NEVER STOP GROWING TOGETHER. The
stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool.
Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if
you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions to
work towards. In the end MARRIAGE isn’t about Happily ever after. It’s
about work. And a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually
invest in creating something that can endure eternity. Through that work, happiness
will come. Marriage is life, and it will bring ups and downs. Embracing all
the cycles and learning to learn from and love each experience will bring the
strength and perspective to keep building, one brick at a time.
FATIGUE is a bye product of being bored with
life & Love of your life. No love for a job or the work you do to make a
living. Switch jobs or explore a new hobby. Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER
EVER take that woman for GRANTED. When you asked her to marry
you, you promised to be that man, that would OWN HER HEART and
to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will
ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET
LAZY in your love. Commit to being an EPIC
LOVER. There is no greater challenge, and no greater prize. Your woman
deserves that from you. Be the type of husband your wife can’t help but
brag about. The woman that told him ‘I do’, and trusted her life
with him, has been waiting for this man to step up. If your marriage isn’t
what you want it to be, take 100% responsibility for YOUR PART in
marriage, regardless of where your spouse is at, and commit to applying these
lessons while there is time.
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