Wednesday, 25 September 2024

STATING THE PROBLEM ACCURATELY IS CRITICAL - CAPTURING THE PAIN POINTS

 


STATING THE PROBLEM ACCURATELY IS CRITICAL


A PAIN POINT is a problem that people have with a product or service that might be addressed by creating a modified version that solves the problem more efficiently. Once a pain point is identified in a firm’s own product or in a competitor’s product, the firm can bring creativity to bear in finding and testing solutions that sidestep or eliminate the pain, making the innovation marketable. Examples of pain points can be found at every step of our lives.

DOMESTIC EXAMPLES

THE KITCHEN CUTTING BOARDS

PAIN POINT – These flat cutting / chopping boards are good for dry vegetables, but a pain in the neck when it comes to juicy fruits & vegetables. All the good juice flows out & down the board on to the table & then on the floors.

EUREKA MOMENT – It is now proposed to manufacture cutting boards in the shape of a Dish on the lines of a hollowed in plate dish. This way all the juice will be forced to collect inside the caved center of the board, which can be easily emptied out later after the cutting process is done. It is further proposed to provide four notches at each side of the board to facilitate the draining of the juice from the depression of the board.

 

THE COMMON KITCHEN KNIFE

PAIN POINT - The sharp little knives with colored handles are pretty good at cutting vegetables but they are LITTLE to get a full grip on them. The 4-inch blade with a 3-inch thin plastic handle is cumbersome to hold, grip & cut with full force, because your fingers hit the chopping board before the knife slices through the vegetables.

EUREKA MOMENT – A 6-inch blade with a 5-inch thick wooden / plastic handle is now being proposed as an innovation to the above predicament. The handle will be knurled for a firmer grip & raised by 2 inches above the cutting board following an elongated Z configuration. The handle will also have a flat space for the index finger positioning & pressure area for prolonged effortless cutting.

 

WARDROBES & CABINETS

PAIN POINTS – The valuable vertical & depth space is often wasted in every case. The Air rights in pantry cabinets, kitchen cabinets & bedroom wardrobes go underutilized even when offered by thoughtful Interior designers. An average person can comfortably handle heavy stuff at 6 ft height maximum. With 8 ft ceilings what do we do with Air-rights from 6 ft to 8 ft. How practical is rear space on a 24-inch-deep shelf.  It is a big loss that we bear with a grudge.

EUREKA MOMENT – It is now proposed to install Ferris Wheel style moving shelves in elliptical motion, in every cabinet & wardrobe to maximize the Air rights available & achieve the convenience of getting every item / clothing at eye level for viewing & handling. Additionally on fixed lower shelves we can go for lazy Suzane by the dozen. I am proposing horizontal elliptical lazy Suzans on kitchen shelves to maximize the depth space utilization. 

KEEPING THE FOOD WARM AT NO COST

PAIN POINT – First we spend energy to cool / freeze the food. Then we spend more energy to warm it up / thaw it before cooking & consuming it. Simultaneously the refrigerator is transferring the heat from inside to the outside environment making it warmer & uncomfortable.

EUREKA MOMENT – It is now proposed to reengineer the common household appliance named Refrigerator. The Heat sink which is today spread out at the rear of the appliance is now proposed to be compacted, boxed in & positioned on the top / bottom of the fridge. This will be used as a food warmer / thawing purpose, to save on the total energy consumption & mitigate the heat being dissipated into the rooms / home. It can also be used for fermentation, yoghurt making & slow cooking too. When it is not in use, the box would open for ventilation of the heat sink.

THE USUAL MEN’S SHAVING BRUSH  

PAIN POINT - This contraption was designed long ago when the shaving soap would come in the form of a round hardened cake piece sitting in a round plastic box. To get started one would wet this 2-inch brush of coarse bristles, nested in a 2-inch wooden/plastic handle & start the process of extracting the soap. The soap bubbles would spill on to your fingers & thumb making the gripping of the smooth small handle cumbersome & surely painful. 

EUREKA MOMENT - Today the soap cake piece has been replaced with gels, shaving soap in tubes & foam cans for quick & easy applications. But this brush has not changed at all. It is now proposed to move on to a long handle with camel hairbrush for easy spreading of the foam / tube soap. The author uses the wonderful painter’s brush 1-inch wide with camel hair for effortless soap application.

 

THE UNDER GARMENTS

PAIN POINT – The stitched seams of these intimate garments get into the crevices of the body the normal way everyone wears them with seams inside. The irritation caused by these protruding seams makes you uncomfortable to the point that you keep pulling out the underwear every now & then, also adjusting the bra from time to time.

EUREKA MOMENT – The author wears his undergarments inside out. This way the silly seams are outside & not getting onto my crevices ever. I think the original designer had this in mind but failed to convey this fact / secret to the buyers / public that they should wear them INSIDE OUT. Many designer Jeans, shirts & jackets also come with seams displayed outside & the good part inside.

 

HEALTH & MEDICAL EXAMPLES

 

PAIN POINTS

 

Our gullible society is always obsessed with their HEALTH. In 1700 AD many smart pharmacists thrived on this NEED of the people. In the past people, eminent & otherwise often suffered from POOR DIGESTION. Sanitation practices were hit and miss even in the best kitchens. Fresh fruits & vegetables were unavailable in the off seasons. Well off people could eat vegetables preserved in salt and sugar, poor people did without them. As for STRESS, work hours were long & usually physical. A typical workday was 12 hours, and the work week was 6 days with the only day of rest being Sunday. Many concoctions and pills were originally created as medicines.

 

URREKA MOMENTS

 

In 1791 Johann Jacob Schweppes, a German watchmaker turned soft drink entrepreneur, began mixing carbonated water laced with Quinine. This tonic water when mixed with Gin became a very popular drink throughout the British Empire. It helped solve the Malaria problem unknowingly.                        

In 1870 Dr. Thomas introduced Eclectic oil patent medicine. It could be used internally and externally. The secret concoction included spirits of turpentine, camphor, oil of tar, red thyme and fish oil. It was claimed to cure tooth ache in 2 minutes, earaches in 5 minutes and deafness in 3 days.                                 

In 1885 the first patent medicine was put on the market for our gullible public, who can be found in every part of the world at any point of timeline. It was Lydia Pinkham’s vegetable compound laced with alcohol which made it the subject of an efficacious drinking song, the ballad of Lydia Pinkham. It was another version of natural mineral waters considered to be beneficial to drink for one’s health. Millions of people were curious to find it out for themselves, so they all tried it, and many got hooked on it for life and future generations.

In 1889 a trained pharmacist invented a sticky sweet beverage and sold it from Hood’s Drug stores in Lowell Massachusetts. His mesmerizing slogan was “For that tired feeling take Hood’s.”  He also advertised in Globe and Mail a second slogan “Hood’s Sarsaparilla the surest way to have good blood.”

In 1890 a young enterprising George Taylor Fulford bought a patent medicine formula from a local doctor William Jackson for $50 and made it into a multimillion-dollar empire. The secret formula was mostly Iron oxide and Epsom salts. These ingredients addressed the two most common ailments of the time, Anemia and Constipation, but the advertisements claimed to cure everything. “Pink pills for pale people.” Fulford sold 40 pink pills for 50 cents a box. He thrived because he was lucky in the days of reliable postal system and mass media of numerous dailies.

THE COCA COLA STORY

In 1902 perhaps the greatest patent medicine turned soft drink success story is the tonic invented by John Pemberton. He was an ex-confederate soldier turned pharmacist who wanted to find a cure for the shattered nerves of ex-soldiers experiencing combat stress. Pemberton, like many Civil War veterans had become addicted to morphine after being wounded in battle.

In Europe, a French chemist by the name of Angelo Mariani fortified Bordeaux wine with cocaine from cocoa leaves and marketed it under the name of Vin Mariani. Queen Victoria, Roman popes, and Thomas Edison were known fans of Mariani’s tonic, which of course inspired many imitators. 

Pemberton supercharged Mariani’s formula by adding a strong dose of caffeine from coca pods and called his elixir Pemberton’s French Wine Coca. Although the cocaine was soon dropped from the formula, one of Pemberton’s business partners came up with a fresh and catchy brand name COCA-COLA.

This medicinal elixir failed to break through, therefore Pemberton sold the formula to Asa Griggs Candler who switched his marketing slogan to target the young healthy urbanities, and rest is history.  In 1906 the American congress passed the pure food and drug act requiring all drug manufacturers to be truthful in their advertising and to list all addictive ingredients on their labels. Ironically, Coca-Cola ran afoul of the new US law for not having cocaine in its drink as implied. The case was dismissed, and Coke was allowed to remain cocaine free, but the caffeine is still there.

Now for some frightening concoctions that the gullible public has been a target of; Presque’s Uranium Wine was marketed to the public as a guaranteed cure for Diabetes. The secret formula was Bordeaux wine and uranium nitrate.

Dr. Batty’s cigarettes were marketed to people suffering from Asthma, bad breath & Bronchial irritation. How paradoxical is this claim and no one saw through it. Then there was the Microbe killer that consisted of tap water, red wine, and trace amounts of Sulphury acid. This too was a success with the public.

In 1914 The Loyd manufacturing company of Albany, N.Y. advertised Cocaine Toothache Drops as an “instantaneous cure” for the teething children. It was sold over the counter drug.

In 1920 Seven Up was created as a hangover cure even during the height of prohibition. Seven Up’s slogan was “Take the ouch out of the grouch.” It contained lithium citrate, a known mood stabilizing drug. The trend continues unabated with Red Bulls, Gatorades, and Vitamin waters. Today the health freaks and their industry are worth $ 50 billion a year for weight loss products and services alone because they have gullible customers to satisfy and deceive.

GARLIC & ONION ARE POTENT MEDICINES TOO

We have been consuming these powerful items by using them as primary starting points in our daily cooking, influenced by celebrity chefs & media advertising. It is much worse than consuming coke cola or any of the above drinks based upon crude medicines. Garlic cures many acute & chronic ailments, so why do we take it as food on a regular basis. The answer is ancient stone age beliefs handed down by our ignorant forefathers. What we eat becomes a part of us, therefore why do we want toxic Garlic to be a part of us as toxicity. A large part of our population like Jains, Brahma Kumaris, Radha Swamis, & other learned people do not consume these toxic medicinal foods, ever. Think before you eat this next time.

 

ROHIT KHANNA     IN-DEFATIGABLE


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CREATIVE INNOVATIONS & INVENTIONS

 


CREATIVE INNOVATIONS & INVENTIONS

BRAINSTORMING FOSTERS CREATIVITY

 

Creativity of the Creator – the sonic manual

 

Creativity generates novel ideas, innovation transforms them into practical applications, and invention creates entirely new solutions. Creativity is the ability to develop something original, particularly an idea or a representation of an idea, an element of aesthetic flair.

 

Ideation is the purposeful process of opening your mind to new trains of thought that branch out in all directions from a stated purpose or problem. You can benefit from setting aside time for ideation. Reserving time to let your mind roam freely as you think about an issue or problem from multiple directions is a necessary component of the process. Ideation takes time and a deliberate effort to move beyond your habitual thought patterns. If you consciously set aside time for creativity, you will broaden your mental horizons and allow yourself to change and grow.

Brainstorming, the generation of ideas in an environment free of judgment or dissension with the goal of creating solutions, is just one of dozens of methods for coming up with new ideas.

Linear thinking / Vertical thinking involves a logical, step-by-step process. Linear thinking is crucial in turning your idea into a business.

Innovation means change that adds value to an existing product or service.

Incremental innovation, an innovation that modifies an existing product or service.

Pioneering innovation is one based on a new technology, a new advancement in the field, and/or an advancement in a related field that leads to the development of a new product.

Disruptive innovation is a process that significantly affects the market by making a product or service more affordable and/or accessible, so that it will be available to a much larger audience. The innovative component is not the actual product or service, but the process that makes that product more available to a larger population of users. A disruptive innovation from a smaller company can threaten an existing larger business by offering the market new and improved solutions. The smaller company causes disruption when it captures some of the market share from the larger organization. One example of a disruptive innovation is Uber and its impact on the taxicab industry. Uber’s innovative service, which targets customers who might otherwise take a cab, has shaped the industry as whole by offering an alternative that some deem superior to the typical cab ride.

 

ROHIT KHANNA     IN-DISCRIMINATE


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MOVING ON IN LIFE TO REKINDLE LOVE AGAIN

 


MOVING ON IN LIFE TO REKINDLE LOVE AGAIN

 

Love is a Force that penetrates your Life for good & bad.

Love is a tool too, to solve differences & makes you feel safe.

 

 

RESPONSIBILITY

 

Taking charge of situations / things & making wise choices is being Responsible. The ability to Respond to any situation in a positive & emotionally balanced manner is the need of the hour. It is trying my very best & doing my share of work. Caring, helping others & being fair makes a better world.

 

 

CONFLICT INTERNAL

 

Differing perspectives about the REAL you/self & the PROJECTED EGO of you/self. The Real you are hidden, natural, pure, peaceful & easy going. On the other hand, the Projected Ego of self by the self is exposed, totally false, tainted, agitated & critical of everything & everybody. The Real you are Original, Eternal, & untainted. By comparison the Projected Ego is amassed, acquired, built up from yard sales of traits that the others have discarded & put out for disposal - go figure.   

 

CONFLICT EXTERNAL

 

Differing viewpoints, incompatibility between two people, groups, nations, causes irritation which escalates into conflict. Now the external persona of False Egos interacts, creating resentment, overflowing into bitterness. Greed for owning nature’s resources, Disrespect for the Dignity & Worth of every Human Being, & Dishonoring the differences, uniqueness of others, becomes the basis of Conflicts, battles & eventually wars. Lack of Tolerance, Cooperation, Unity, Responsibility & Self-Respect are the remaining Living Values which too must be imbibed in childhood, for people to live in Harmony, Happiness & overflowing Love for each other.

 

CONFLICT RESOLUTION 

 

It must happen first on the Internal level by having a desire to understand & finish the mental violence, or tug of war. The absence of strong LIVING VALUES is the root cause of mental chaos. Honesty, Humility, & simplicity are the very basic ones to imbibe right from the early years of childhood. We can imbibe these only if our parents / caregivers / caretakers had them for us to copy.

 

IGNORANCE

 

Ignorance is the most perverse & lethal, Wallow in slot, Excessive sleep, Dejection, Intoxication, Deadly Anger, Pointless Violence & Mental derangement, Idling, all these paths lead to suicide ending in death.   

 

 

DISCERN THE PREDICAMENT 

 

Weigh the positive benefits against the negative shortcomings of the predicament that you are entombed in. Discern the illusion from the truth by going deeper into the situation. Do complete introversion & eliminate all mental conflicts so that you can see things as they should be seen.  

 

 

DECIDE UPON ACTION PLAN

 

Having done the discerning, now consciously choose to act with trust & full confidence in your action plan. Choice brings in the essential support & respect that you desperately need at this moment. How ever you must not let your guard off & keep attention on thoughts, words & deeds. If you have decided to walk off from the situation, fair enough, do it boldly & congenially.

 

 

FACE CALMLY & COURAGEOUSLY

 

Express openly with maturity & respectfully. Offer self as a conduit of Peace. If this matter must end, let it end on a friendly note. Remember that the missiles & vibrations of SPITE / HATRED will continue to be sent out & will reach you invariably, if not resolved now. The other average soul just like you, is in hurt & cannot forgive plus forget so easily the whole fiasco. They do not have access to this wisdom that you have chosen.

 

DETACH & WITHDRAW

 

Step back & allow space for the other soul. Do the closing act slowly. Be centered & listen sincerely to all the highlights of the relationship, if brought up in the final conversations. Now is also the time to reflect on values dear to both concerned.

 

 

LET GO OF PAST

 

Do not ruin your present & future by holding onto the unpleasant past. Be nonjudgmental & detached. Just let go of all make believe attachments. Start afresh to grow back again strong & renewed.

 

ACCOMMODATE

 

Start with unconditional ACCEPTANCE of self. This is a significant point in the overall scheme of things / drama of life. Using a little creativity will help immensely to adapt yourself to the situations & other SOULS around you. Learn at every step to fit into the bigger picture. Remember that other souls are struggling too, just like you, but failing for some unknown reason, to accommodate you in their lives. Therefore, why not take the lead & you begin the process of change.    

 

 

TOLERATE

 

Be patient & stretch your boundaries gradually. Having accommodated as above, tolerating is implied & done willingly on your part. All insinuations, remarks, foul language, tantrums of rage must be taken lightly & never personally. Be aware that all souls are learning their lessons simultaneously, & you are helping them do so. After all it is your combined KARMA coming back from previous births. It is preferred that you settle it quickly in this life itself with a smile or else it will carry forward to the next life in bigger proportions.  

 

 

COOPERATE

 

Pinned against the wall you have limited choices. It pays to cooperate with full support, because it brings in harmony to some extent. Be incognito & humble about the help & cooperation.

 

ROHIT KHANNA     IN-SITU


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TRESPASSING, LOVE ON SIMMER, IDLING

 


TRESPASSING, LOVE ON SIMMER, IDLING

 

Trespassing is Flash of futile desire to possess another’s property, on every glance & interaction.

Love all fearlessly & consciously to maintain flow. Life must end but Love does not have to.

 

 

SPLIT SECONDS PILE UP ON STREETS

 

It happens in the blink of an eye. It takes place through the EYES of the beholders when their glances collide head on. This split-second activity goes through five major deciding steps which happen in a lapse of microseconds, leading to a final acceptance of YES or NO; AWESOME or OK.

 

FIVE DEFINITIVE STAGES

 

The first stage clears up the doubt of gender. If by mistake it happens to the same sex, then the decision is made to proceed to the next person. The glance automatically proceeds to another approaching opposite gender. The second step focuses on shade of skin color, starting from pitch black to snow white via brown & yellow. The third level comes to the personality & youthfulness of the subject, young or old. The next stage zeroes in on physical size, proportion & gait of the body. Finally, the last & the most important factor is the attractiveness & charisma of the subject in sight.

 

FORCE OF HABIT

 

If the conclusion is awesome, considering all the above five factors, then the mind decides to extend the glance by turning the head & following the subject a little further down, which amounts to a second look. By now the desire to possess the subject & derive pleasure at leisure out of the mental interaction is recorded for future recalls in the privacy of lust. The chance of any one of us coming across such a ravishing beauty is very remote, yet we devour every stranger with utmost precision, just in case. Your place of dwelling has a very major role to play, if you are into this GUILT FREE habit of trespassing. In underdeveloped & poor countries the average person is busy making his both ends meet. They have little time on hand & almost no money to spare, to enhance their looks & physique. On the other hand, if you happen to be living in developed & affluent countries, then the story would be totally different & inclined to greater numbers of good-looking, well-built & physically fit public.  

 

 

ROHIT KHANNA     IN-TROVERTION

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WHEN LOVE IS CRIPPLED, THEN EMOTIONALLY CAUSED DISEASES MANIFEST

 


WHEN LOVE IS CRIPPLED, THEN EMOTIONALLY CAUSED DISEASES MANIFEST

By starving our emotions, we become Humorless & rigid.

By repressing them we become literal, reformatory & holier.

By discouraging them, they poison us.

By encouraging them, they ooze perfume.

 

 

When In Denial about love then     CRIPPLED

When not open to love & bitter then      DIABETES

When attached to love in present then      BLINDNESS

When In confusion & restless in present then     INDIGESTION

When Controlling others in present then        INSANITY

If seeking love in present, then      INCONTENANCE

If craving for more love in present, then        ADDICTION  

If closed & rigid to love, then     ARTHRITIS             

If Unable to give love & allow the flow, then    ASTHMA

If negating love to self, then     ALLERGY

If Afraid to lose love in future, then       PARALYSIS

If already lost love in past, Sorrow then        HEARTACHE

No love for work/job then           FATIGUE

 

CRIPPLED – I am bad, done wrong, denial of warm energy, love. Stuck in guilt matrix: sadness-anger-fear. Stunted, dependent upon others approval, not aligned with truth. Stimulation is a distraction. When In Denial about love then you are crippled to the core. ALLOW YOUR WOMAN TO JUST BE. When she’s sad or upset, it’s not your job to fix it, it’s your job to HOLD HER and let her know it’s ok. Let her know that you hear her, and that she’s important and that you are that pillar on which she can always lean. The feminine spirit is about change and emotion and like a storm her emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and non-judging, she will trust you and open her soul to you, DON’T RUN-AWAY WHEN SHE’S UPSET. Stand present and strong and let her know you aren’t going anywhere. Listen to what she is really saying behind the words and emotion. BE SILLY, don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier. DON’T BE AN IDIOT, and don’t be afraid of being one either. You will make mistakes and so will she. Try not to make too big mistakes and learn from the ones you do make. You’re not supposed to be perfect, just try to not be too stupid. BE VULNERABLE, you don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.

DIABETES – not open & accepting, unable to assimilate, undeserving, unworthy, perpetual cynicism. Rejecting kindness, cannot reciprocate love as gratitude, unable to generate sweetness of true unconditional love. When not open to love & bitter then diabetes creeps in. BE WILLING TO TAKE HER SEXUALLY, to carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul. Let her melt into her feminine softness as she knows she can trust you fully.

BLINDNESS – That belongs to me, I own it, mine, attachment to an idea, image, body, memory, belief. I love those material things; emotion originates in consciousness & then affects the brain. When attached to love in present, its mine then blindness puts a veil over you. NEVER BLAME your wife If YOU get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU. They are YOUR emotions, and your responsibility. When you feel those feelings takes time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of YOU that is asking to be healed. You were attracted to this woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all your childhood wounds in the most painful way so that you could heal them… when you heal yourself, you will no longer be triggered by her, and you will wonder why you ever were. FORGIVE IMMEDIATELY and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let your history hold you hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.

INDIGESTION – social constipation, Facebook syndrome, mental confusion, craving for info, need to know more, restlessness, storms of emotions. When In confusion & restless in present then Indigestion ballons up. ALWAYS SEE THE BEST in her. Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to have this woman as your wife.

INSANITY – we are out of control trying to control others, changing them, doing impossible, seeking revenge & justice, anger, fire, rage, resentment, frustration. You can dominate over your own mind. When Controlling others in present then Insanity controls us. IT’S NOT YOUR JOB TO CHANGE OR FIX HER, your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not. Can you change or fix the world. NO Then why even attempt such an impossible task and waste your valuable energies. The children & spouse fall in this category of world. TAKE FULL ACCOUNTABILITY for your own emotions: It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she CAN’T make you sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love.

INCONTINENCE – nonstop thinking, talking, loose talk to self, needs to be affirmed by others, looking for attention. Evaluating judging, speculating, interpreting, concluding, surmising, correcting, others. If seeking love in the present, then Incontinence, lust overpowers you. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. In the end, this is the only advice you need. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices are governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure. But these are lessons I am learning and committed to carrying forward. Truth is, I LOVED being married, and in time, I will get married again, and when I do, I will build it with a foundation that will endure any storm and any amount of time.

ADDICTION – desiring, craving, I must have more possessions. I need validation and approval of others. Feel worthy of value, thereby achieve success, criticism means disapproval, thus devastated. If craving for more love in present, then ADDICTION. FALL IN LOVE OVER, REPEATEDLY. You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you must re-choose each other every day. SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.

ARTHRITIS – stiffness of the soul, chronic rigidity, deep inflexibility, close to new ways, I am always right, False Ego, suffering with others new ideas. Emotions gone astray. If closed & rigid to love, then Arthritis locks in. FILL HER SOUL EVERYDAY… learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED. Ask her to create a list of 10 THINGS that make her feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority every day to make her feel like a queen. BE PRESENT. Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully WITH HER. Treat her as you would your most valuable client. She is.

ASTHMA – Hard to be love full anytime, wanting something in return, love becomes fear, inability to give love. If unable to give love & allow the flow, then Asthma manifests. GIVE HER SPACE. The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself. Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space, she will come back with new songs to sing, okay, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point. Tell her to take time for herself, ESPECIALLY after you have kids. She needs that space to renew and get re-centered, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids and the world.)

ALLERGY – writhing in constant discomfort in other’s presence, itchy, rash inside, strong dislike, resistant reaction to people, not accepting self, reactivating past, the other is a powerful mirror to reflect low self-esteem. If negating love to self, then Allergy erupts all over you. PROTECT YOUR OWN HEART. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.

PARALYSIS – I am about to lose something, fear, panic, tension to worry, insecurity to terror, limited, false self. If Afraid to lose love in future, then Paralysis takes hold of you. BE FULLY TRANSPARENT. If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING, especially those things you don’t want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you don’t know i she will like what she finds… Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. DROP THE MASK. If you feel like you need to wear a mask around her, and show up perfect all the time, you will never experience the full dimension of what love can be. DON’T WORRY ABOUT MONEY. Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps when teammates fight. Figure out ways to leverage both people’s strength to win.

HEARTACHE – I have lost something, spread the virus of loss, sorrow, sadness, heaviness. If you have already lost love in the past, then, Sorrow & Heartache. NEVER STOP GROWING TOGETHER. The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions to work towards. In the end MARRIAGE isn’t about Happily ever after. It’s about work. And a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure eternity. Through that work, happiness will come. Marriage is life, and it will bring ups and downs. Embracing all the cycles and learning to learn from and love each experience will bring the strength and perspective to keep building, one brick at a time.

FATIGUE is a bye product of being bored with life & Love of your life. No love for a job or the work you do to make a living. Switch jobs or explore a new hobby. Never stop courting.  Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for GRANTED. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man, that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love. Commit to being an EPIC LOVER. There is no greater challenge, and no greater prize. Your woman deserves that from you. Be the type of husband your wife can’t help but brag about.  The woman that told him ‘I do’, and trusted her life with him, has been waiting for this man to step up. If your marriage isn’t what you want it to be, take 100% responsibility for YOUR PART in marriage, regardless of where your spouse is at, and commit to applying these lessons while there is time.


ROHIT KHANNA   IN- FATUATED

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HOW LOVE MORPHOSIS INTO COMTEMPT & HATE

 


HOW LOVE MORPHOSIS INTO COMTEMPT & HATE

Divorce results in Living apart, in revenge, to realize the loneliness of one’s own BAD COMPANY & repent forever the lost opportunity. With passage of time the male is loses interest in his Aged female partner & the aged female loses interest in intimate physical contact that the male still desires.  

ATTRACTIONS & CRUSHES

In the beginning, instant infatuations turn into compelling attractions. We do not choose to fall or entangle in Love, but it just Happens after puberty. The naughty hormones hijack your senses of sensibility. The desire of Lust for the opposite sex fully overpowers from head to toe.

 

SERIOUS ROMANCE & DATING

 

Romance is a slow move towards this goal, but a sure one. He needs her body to touch & fondle, while she needs his trust & affection. He wants her Now & cannot wait, but she is willing to wait & watch. Secret meetings, stolen kisses, miniature love letters, excuses to exchange notes. Temporary separation is bridged with long romantic handwritten letters. Waiting for return replies becomes a pleasurable pain.

 

MARRIAGE OF TWO BODIES & SOULS

 

After years of longing to be with the other, the delayed gratification ends. An arranged marriage or secret elopement gets the two together. She morphs into a responsible woman, burdened with womanhood duties. He is overwhelmed by the new role as a perpetual helper & handy man. Feelings of love & affection are cast out because her plate is full of commitment towards bringing up babies.

 

END OF INTIMACY WITH BURDEN OF CHILDREN

 

This is when things begin to change for the worse, leading to sadness, distress & even suicide. She loses interest in sex, & subsequent denial of sex appears to be a weapon of emotional destruction. He withdraws into his shell of silence & inner turmoil.

She holds back intimate touching & cuddling. He holds back love & expressing affection even more, on all fronts. She feels isolated & lonely in his presence.

 

LOVE IS A MUTUAL BENEFIT SCHEME.


Love is a convenient illusion & conclusion of the other person. Soon it turns to boredom because of too much familiarity, gradually growing bitter. Love crumples because you like something more about another one. Love is reflective too. Hate me today but love me soon, if you persist. You want to own something which is not yours, without a payback, sorry it is not happening. You fall in love to eliminate self to love the other. You splash about & drown in it. Love is an effusion or energetic emanation that surges forth from the deepest part of the consciousness: those radiations of love stimulate the endocrine glands of the entire organism, and they produce millions of hormones that invade the blood vessels filling them with extraordinary vitality. Only great souls can & know how to love. For love to exist, there needs to be affinity of thoughts, affinity of sentiments, identical mental preoccupation. It is the consecrations of two souls anxious to express in a deducible manner what they inwardly live.

 

SUBLIME LOVE EVAPORATES

 

He turns into a stranger, which sets in the cycle of toxic Resentment. She swears, curses & hates him for such an unbecoming attitude of aloofness. For no fault of hers, she emotionally divorced & downgraded from a Madame to a maid.

He sticks around the home mechanically for social reasons & family bondage. This is how LOVE EVAPORATES from our lives, leaving us dehydrated & vegetated.

 

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