THE INVISIBLE BACKGROUND PUBLIC OPINION SYNDROME - OVER RIDING ALL
RECIPE FOR MISERY
The seeds of miserable lifestyle are surely
sown in childhood very early in life. Self-esteem, or commonly known as
self-confidence is the single most key ingredient in determining ones attitude
later in life. Parents can help build up this prime raw material or miss out on
it totally. Apart from missing out, parents unconsciously help build up negative
esteem which grows like a fungus and takes roots so firmly that it can never be
rectified ever. The core of the negative esteem is FEAR. It is injected into
your mind, soul and body very slowly, and you as an innocent soul absorb it
unconsciously. In all your early years, this dragon of fear if hammered into
you thousands of times till you give up and accept it meekly against your will.
It starts with fear of God, fear of society at large, fear of other people,
fear of loss of the Family Honor and Respect, all invisible entities that exist
only in the mind of elders around you.
MOVING AHEAD WITH BRAKES ON
You moved ahead in life with brakes on. You inched forward at snail slow speed while others raced fast by you over taking you at top speed, and you watched helplessly. The brakes can be quantified as over protective parents, never letting you be alone, breathing over your shoulders, helping you in every task, you did as if you were mentally challenged already. This did lead you to be partially mentally challenged eventually. The “brakes on” mode generated heat and pain in you.
TAKING EVERYTHING PERSONALLY - GOING THE WRONG WAY
You ended up feeling hurt at all times, nursing past hurts and never forgetting them, feeling upset and dissatisfied with everything and everyone, taking every remark, situation personally, allowing yourself to switch off hundreds of times in a day. Being unhappy without any reason whatsoever, always complaining and blaming others, including your God was an everyday routine. The over whelming feeling, of scarcity in your life, in spite of having everything, never left you! A closed mindset and I know all, attitude was a big help too. All of these special qualities made sure that you had very limited physical skills and lots of self-limiting beliefs.
I cannot speak in public.
I cannot change my profession.
I cannot manage in a new town.
I cannot handle sales and strangers.
I cannot swim or go sailing, boating.
I cannot give up the entire existing environment.
That everything is wrong and nothing is right.
That the whole world is plotting against you.
This is a superb recipe for misery. We as parents need to understand, where we are, leading our, children to?
SELF PRISONERS IN THE MAKE BELIEVE PRISON OF PUBLIC OPINION
Public opinion is created by imperfect people. It is their combined perspective of ancient yardsticks brought forward & borrowed from the 15 Th century. In this time period our great great grandparents had stone dull Intellects & did not question their collective core beliefs / yard sticks. They happily assumed & firmly believed that the Earth was flat, the Sun went around the Earth & things heavier than air could never fly. Now what do you want to say to this basic premise on which all the other numerous notions were based. Today you are the advanced generation with razor sharp Intellects, yet you are anchored deeply in this foolish Public Opinion & influenced by it 24/7. I would say it controls you & your behavior, even after the lapse of 5 centuries when technology has proven them wrong & made them look foolishly small.
PUBLIC OPINION CONTROLS US
Public Opinion is just a random, off the cuff conglomeration of opinions, but we mistakenly take them as Absolute & swear to live our lives by them. They hold the power to make each of us uncomfortable inside our skins.
WHAT WILL THEY SAY ?
The most feared & often used phrase goes as follows : WHAT WILL THEY SAY ? Who are they is another big question ? They constitute a handful of known folks, like your school friends, neighbors, office colleagues & a large number of unknown strangers in the crowd on the streets. The second part of the four letter syntax is What they will say ? Honestly it is the fig of your imagination at play. You never hear what they say or said. It is their silent meaningless looks, shallow judgments processed in their minds, preconceived notions/opinions & teasing ridicule that they enjoy momentarily at your cost.
VIRTUAL PRISON MAKES ONE UNCOMFORTABLE
You chain yourself in the Virtual prison of multiple walls erected around you. The walls are made up of SELF- DOUBT, IMPERFECT, ILLUSIONS, MORALITY. These powerful walls act like microwaves cooking up inside of you, feelings of LOW SELF RESPECT, NOT GOOD ENOUGH & UNACCEPTABLE. Over time these negative feelings mushroom into powerful toxic Emotions of ANXIETY, MENTAL SUFFERING making you extremely UNCOMFORTABLE INSIDE YOUR SKIN.
OBSESSIVE THINKING
Heart is influenced by inputs from outside world, the majority of which are related to Public Opinion. Based upon these inputs it creates feelings & emotions of negativity mostly. Our relationships affect us directly hence we are predominantly focused on OBSESSIVE THINKING about people & trifle issues. Our thinking is molded by how society will think about us in a future time period & our behavior. We are imprisoned by our intangible thoughts about the future, in the present moment.
Public opinion is created by imperfect people. It is their combined perspective of ancient yardsticks brought forward & borrowed from the 15 Th century. In this time period our great great grandparents had stone dull Intellects & did not question their collective core beliefs / yard sticks. They happily assumed & firmly believed that the Earth was flat, the Sun went around the Earth & things heavier than air could never fly. Now what do you want to say to this basic premise on which all the other numerous notions were based. Today you are the advanced generation with razor sharp Intellects, yet you are anchored deeply in this foolish Public Opinion & influenced by it 24/7. I would say it controls you & your behavior, even after the lapse of 5 centuries when technology has proven them wrong & made them look foolishly small.
PUBLIC OPINION CONTROLS US
Public Opinion is just a random, off the cuff conglomeration of opinions, but we mistakenly take them as Absolute & swear to live our lives by them. They hold the power to make each of us uncomfortable inside our skins.
WHAT WILL THEY SAY ?
The most feared & often used phrase goes as follows : WHAT WILL THEY SAY ? Who are they is another big question ? They constitute a handful of known folks, like your school friends, neighbors, office colleagues & a large number of unknown strangers in the crowd on the streets. The second part of the four letter syntax is What they will say ? Honestly it is the fig of your imagination at play. You never hear what they say or said. It is their silent meaningless looks, shallow judgments processed in their minds, preconceived notions/opinions & teasing ridicule that they enjoy momentarily at your cost.
VIRTUAL PRISON MAKES ONE UNCOMFORTABLE
You chain yourself in the Virtual prison of multiple walls erected around you. The walls are made up of SELF- DOUBT, IMPERFECT, ILLUSIONS, MORALITY. These powerful walls act like microwaves cooking up inside of you, feelings of LOW SELF RESPECT, NOT GOOD ENOUGH & UNACCEPTABLE. Over time these negative feelings mushroom into powerful toxic Emotions of ANXIETY, MENTAL SUFFERING making you extremely UNCOMFORTABLE INSIDE YOUR SKIN.
OBSESSIVE THINKING
Heart is influenced by inputs from outside world, the majority of which are related to Public Opinion. Based upon these inputs it creates feelings & emotions of negativity mostly. Our relationships affect us directly hence we are predominantly focused on OBSESSIVE THINKING about people & trifle issues. Our thinking is molded by how society will think about us in a future time period & our behavior. We are imprisoned by our intangible thoughts about the future, in the present moment.
Question - Is it possible to come out of this Self Imposed Prison ? The answer is YES, but at a cost of another complex dilemma. If I am OUT of this prison & all others are IN, then again I am isolated, to be branded as different, marginalized, even ostracized which brings us back to square one - Uncomfortable inside my skin, socially unacceptable.
WHAT IS THEN OK ?
Now the FUNDAMENTAL QUESTION arises, If the above solution is not OK then what is OK. Anything that makes you COMFORTABLE INSIDE YOUR SKIN is OK. So let us pursue it & see where we arrive.
INTERNAL BUZZ
The turbulent waves of the society generate a toxic environment from where the average thinking mind picks up the negative vibrations. These inputs trigger perceptions & associations which are an obstruction in our day to day performance as human beings. Over time these hurdles snowball into low grade anxiety which is akin to constant background noise. This buzz makes us feel heavier & drains out most of our productive energy making us into weak Souls. As weak souls we perform our karmas against our Conscience thereby creating Internal conflict. This inner fighting compels us to compromise our Integrity which of course is counter productive.
WHAT IS THEN OK ?
Now the FUNDAMENTAL QUESTION arises, If the above solution is not OK then what is OK. Anything that makes you COMFORTABLE INSIDE YOUR SKIN is OK. So let us pursue it & see where we arrive.
INTERNAL BUZZ
The turbulent waves of the society generate a toxic environment from where the average thinking mind picks up the negative vibrations. These inputs trigger perceptions & associations which are an obstruction in our day to day performance as human beings. Over time these hurdles snowball into low grade anxiety which is akin to constant background noise. This buzz makes us feel heavier & drains out most of our productive energy making us into weak Souls. As weak souls we perform our karmas against our Conscience thereby creating Internal conflict. This inner fighting compels us to compromise our Integrity which of course is counter productive.
OTHER PEOPLE’S PERCEPTION IS MOST IMPORTANT
To
be exact, it the fear of what other people might think of your actions,
behavior and dealings. Their thinking
about you was more important, than your own life. In short you were utterly
confused and tormented mentally about these invented ghosts. All this lead you into a doubting Tom. You
walked the planet like a vacillating idiot, perpetually in a dilemma, to be or
not to be, to act or not to act at all. Of course you choose to err on the safe
side and held back everything, closed yourself in a shell, instead of opening
up, blossoming up and growing up normally and fully functional.
Personally, this aspect of misery is absent by default. My upbringing was impeccable by the grace of Cosmic Energy. We never learnt fear or to fear any one. I remember one day when I was only 7 years old I picked up some money and went out to buy a cheap candy from the road side vendor. My ever vigilant mother quietly saw me in the act and very smartly explained to me that the quality of that candy was harmful for my health and made me throw it in the garbage. I got the message and never again did I venture such a foolish thing. No crying, no misery, just pure education.
Rohit Khanna -IN-DWELLING mentally isolated
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