THE BLUEPRINT OF THE UNIVERSE, LOVE & ITS DWELLERS

THE HIDDEN SECRETS OF THE UNIVERSE, LOVE & ITS DWELLERS

THE ROUGH & TOUGH ROAD TO REALITY

The cosmic Drama is fixed and repeats itself every 5000 years. Millions of yogis, pundits, saints, mystics, sadhus, laymen have tried very very hard to know HIM but have not only failed but missed the mark by leaps & bounds. The chief reasons for their not succeeding in this venture are : Wrong timing & Ignorance about HIS whereabouts. We have been searching for HIM for 4900 years when HE is away on a Sabbatical. HE comes to us & makes HIMSELF available only during the Confluence Age for a short period of 100 years. It is only now, that we can know HIM, meet HIM, & be with HIM. HE introduces HIMSELF to us, personally. The second most important aspect is that HE finds us & not the other way around. This Schooling / Meeting is by Invitation only. HE zeros in on the chosen ones, adopts them, educates them & makes them worthy of HIS Inheritance. Since the road is extremely rough & tough only a select few make it to HIS inner circle / kingdom while the rest are left to their own fates to be mere subjects.     

WHO I REALLY AM ?   SOUL, THE IN-DWELLER

Your body is a vehicle and soul is the driver of this vehicle. Just as you are the driver of your Mercedes, so is the soul of this human vehicle. You sit the automobile and take control of it, use it to move from point A to point B. Sometimes you are careless & get involved in a head on collision with another Mercedes. In this almost fatal  accident, the air bags save you, but the car is dead or total. Now the Insurance company bails you out to buy a new Mercedes. On the same lines when the body becomes old & diseased it dies and it’s occupant or the In-dweller  the soul does not die. It is bailed out by the Divine, from the worn out body & assigned to a brand new baby body, therefore eternal. 

COMPONENTS OF A SOUL

A soul is made of three entities, the INTELLECT, which discerns & decides, the MIND which processes thoughts & feelings, and finally the SANSKARS / SEEDS which are the source of all thoughts. For better understanding we will adopt the gardening analogy. Every soul has seven pure seeds to begin with. They are : Power, Purity, Peace, Love, Bliss, Knowledge, Truth. As a child we operate through these seeds which helps us to enjoy life without any inhibitions and love all equally. Over time we acquire exactly the opposite kind of seeds from our parents, teachers, relatives, friends, & society. Then we acquire next stage of harmful seeds of Vices like Anger, Lust, Greed, jealousy, Ego. Mind is like the fertile soil where seeds grow & flower up. It has no mind of its own & does not act on its own ever. Intellect is the chief Gardner who discerns & decides, what crop to grow and what not to, when to harvest & how much to water the plants. How ever he too has limitations because if all he has in stock is bad, rotten seeds to work with, then it is not in his hands to do otherwise. The limited edition of original seeds are locked up in the warehouse & the poor Gardner is given all the dirty rotten acquired seeds picked up freely from the environment, to work with.

AS YOU SOW SO SHALL YOU REAP. 


The meaning of this childhood saying is clearly understood in this context. But now it is too late. The body is fragile & the mind has slowed down with Alzheimer. The awareness of this valuable knowledge is enough to start the process of purification & elevation which are the basic pillars of Realization.  

THE AURAS OF MEMORY BANK (chitta)

All day long we are thinking, imagining, and worrying, fearing, going into past, coming back to present and even venturing into future, too. We have to store up ninety years of stupid past experiences; hence we need lots of space, lots of software which is definitely located outside our body. The SEVEN AURAS around our physical body hold all this information as distinct energy packets like the folders & files on our computers/laptops.

MIND (manas) - FACTORY WITH NO MOVING PARTS

Mind is soil of your thought factory. You generate, manufacture millions of thoughts everyday like fast growing dandelions, along side the slow growing grass in your lawn. It never stops functioning till the last breadth is out. You manufacture both sides of the coin here: good thoughts and bad thoughts, happy pictures, and gloomy pictures, eventually successes and failures. When you think and believe in self, progress and moving mountains you get them. When you disbelief in yourself, doubting, fearing, fumbling, you go down. By switching on positive channel, looking important, having the right attitude takes you first class. While switching on negative channel, listening to bad news, looking inadequate and defeated takes you second class. Our beliefs about ourselves and the world form the framework of our REALITY. Our world behaves as much as we expect it to or as we all believe it will. If you think you can or can not, in either case you are right.

INTELLECT (buddhi)- THE SUPERVISOR & DECISION MAKER

This faculty of the soul can make or break you. Dull or stone intellect coupled with unawareness is the core of a loser, a victim, a failure. On the other hand Sharp or Divine intellect coupled with total awareness becomes the core of winner, happy soul, successful body. It helps you to discern, discriminate, & decide what actions to materialize, which further reinforce the seeds, that started the process in the first place. Repeated actions keeps the seeds active & easily accessible.   

COGNITIVE & ACTIVE SENSES

There are five entrance doors through which Information is imported inside the costume. There are additionally five exit doors through which the costume expels outwards. Then there is a master, the In-dweller who operates these doors. Who I really AM is independent of my actions & senses. Senses are not reliable for experiencing Absolute Truth, Reality or the Self the Soul. Like the bees follow the Queen Bee, so will the senses follow the Mind. With-drawl of the senses is like taking your hand out of a glove. The hands have the ability to let go of the glove. 

PURPOSE OF THE SOUL - PROGRESSION OF CONSCIOUSNESS

The sole purpose of the soul is to elevate itself during it’s short stay in this human body. It is possible to move from the lower Chakras to higher energy centers & finally to the Crown Charkra. The seven Chakras are intimately related to the seven Auras in our Invisible bodies.

  

CHAKRA    AURA     CONSCIOUSNESS      SEEKING              LOVE 

Root       Etheric          Separateness           Lonesome                Self love  

Hara      Emotional      Togetherness           Woe-some      Passionate love     

Navel      Mental          Belongingness       Quarrelsome          Mature love

Heart      Astral           Humbleness           Wholesome       Friendship love

Throat    E/template    Connectedness         Toilsome            Spiritual love

3rd eye   Celestial        Oneness                 Gladsome            Selfless love

Crown     Casual          Formlessness           Awesome             Divine love

HOW THE INDWELLER OPERATES THROUGH THE COSTUME

Karmendriyas : There are five active senses. They act as Exit doors for the body to expel outwards, through, Elimination, Procreation, Moving, Grasping, & Speaking.  

Jnanendriyas : There are five Cognitive senses. They act as Entrance doors for the body to import inwards, through,  Smell, taste, sight, Touch, & Hear.  

Chakras : There are five corresponding energy Vortexes for the above senses, Root, Hara, Navel, Heart, & Throat. Inter play is a must between the two senses & the chakras.  

ACTIVE SENSES & CORRESPONDING CHAKRAS : Forming words, speaking uttering them. Being quiet & silent is the cessation of forming words through the organ of MOUTH, which is  controlled by 5th chakra.  The ability to hear is also associated with this chakra. In a conversation / dialogue you will be speaking and listening at the same time. The KNOWING happens here which culminates into serenity & peace.  

Grasping or holding, writing or drinking is the function of the organ of the HANDS.  Letting go is the cessation of holding or grasping by the  hands which is controlled by 4th chakra.  The ability to touch & feel through the skin is additionally associated with this chakra. Hands do all the evil actions & cooperate plus derive pleasure too when desired.  

Walking or moving is the function of the organ of FEET.  Sitting still is the cessation of moving by the feet which is controlled by 3rd chakra.  The ability of  sight sense & seeing objects is linked to this chakra too. When you are in motion, then surely you will need the ability to see where you are proceeding & when to stop before a disaster happens.

Reproduction organs, procreation is the function of  the organ of the GENITALS which is controlled by 2nd chakra.  The sense of taste is influenced by this chakra too.

Elimination of bowels & bladder is the function of the organ of the ANUS which is controlled by 1st chakra.  The sense of smell is coordinated by this chakra also.

The mind, operating from the 6th chakra that is experienced in the space between the eyebrows, is the coordinating center for the lower five chakras. From this 6th chakra, the mind is the recipient of the information imported through the five doors of jnanendriyas, and their physical counterparts. From this 6th chakra, the mind is also the giver of the instructions through the five doors of karmendriyas, and their physical counterparts. 

Consciousness itself is operating from the 7th chakra, providing the fuel or energy for the mind to operate, and in turn illuminating the other five chakras, through it's storage battery at the base of the subtle spine. As depicted above in the chart, we must keep moving up & up to the higher energy centers to achieve the realization that was meant for all souls. From Separateness to Formlessness. This is our Spiritual nett worth which gives us the unlimited currency of Contentment, Happiness, & Peace. When we fail to move forward or get arrested at any one spot/energy center then we suffocate with self created sorrow, misery, disease & ill health. The choice is always ours. Witnessing the ten senses helps coordinate the four aspects of the Soul combo. Mindfulness of the ten senses is preparation for deep meditation.

TOTAL WITH DRAWL NINE STEP PROCESS

The cessation of the active senses is an indicator to move inwards for deeper meditation experiences. Stillness, letting go, Silence. However meditation is merely a fraction of the total with drawl process.  Neutral witnessing of our inner process leads to Non-attachment which gives us total freedom leading to spirit of Wisdom. It is also a tool for coordinating the Four functions of the Soul-Mind-Sanskars-Intellect combo.    

STAGES OF WITHDRAWAL - TURNING INWARDS TO PURE FORM

It is analogous to taking the hand out of a glove.

1} RELATIONSHIPS WITH THE WORLD

These are the basic morals that every person must imbibe in their lives. Non Violence, Truthfulness, Celibacy, Non Covetous, Non greed, to elevate itself.

2} SELF REGULATORY BEHAVIOR / LIFE STYLE

These aspects of self invoke creativity & self confidence.  Self purification & cleanliness, Self discipline, Self surrender, Self study, & Contentment.  At the same time Self awareness does not depend upon senses.

3} SITTING POSTURE

4} BREATH CONTROL & PRANA - Start with pranic breathing & gradually move into normal breathing.

5} WITHDRAWAL OF FIVE KARMENDRIYAS (ACTIVE SENSES) : 
Elimination, Procreation, Moving, Grasping, & Speaking. 

6} WITHDRAWAL OF FIVE  JNANENDRIYAS (COGNITIVE SENSES): Smell, taste, sight, Touch, & Hear.  There can be unwillingness to open up to this with-drawl because of acute clinging / attachment to senses. On the other hand this process facilitates Non- attachment.

7} CONCENTRATION

8} MEDITATION - is deeper than closing your eyes & sitting still. Meditation is also done with eyes open. This way you learn to be mindful all day long, 24/7.

9} DEEP ABSORPTION 

These steps will take you to the depths beneath the Mind through the interior door way to dwell in the Knowing, that is beyond, to realization of the Formless, the center of Consciousness, the Self, Atma, which is Absolute Reality.

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Rohit Khanna - IN-BUILT 

EVER RENEWING HUMAN BODIES, ENVELOPED IN MAGICAL AURAS

EVER RENEWING HUMAN BODIES, ENVELOPED IN MAGICAL AURAS

VALUABLE GEM HIDDEN IN THE ROBE

This story is an allegory, about the self-healing powers hidden within us. This is the hidden treasure that all of us want. Once upon a time there were two friends who lived in Arabia. Their friendship was thick and exemplary. One of them was named Tabaa and he was a rich merchant. The second friend’s name was Tubee and he was poor laborer. Tubee toiled very hard every day to make his both ends meet and lived in a small shack. One day the merchant got a big order and he planned to go away for a couple of years to deliver the big order. So they had a farewell party and celebrations before they parted. At the party, they drank lots of alcohol and dined in luxury at Tabaa’s house. But before they could say their good buys and part their ways, the alcohol had its effect on the poor Tubee and he went off to sleep in Tabaa’s house. The merchant had to embark on his long journey the next morning. So he tied an expensive GEM into Tubee’s robe as a parting gift and went away on his errand. Next morning when Tubee got up from his slumber he looked around for his friend and not finding him anywhere went to work on the streets as usual. Many years went by, and Tubee worked very hard on the streets to make a bare living.

 IGNORANCE OF THE RICHES WITHIN

After 15 years, Tabaa, the merchant returns and wanted to know how his friend Tubee was doing. So he looked around and searched for him. After many days of hide and seek he comes across an old man who had aged very fast and resembled his friend Tubee. They hugged and hugged and cried for each other. Tubee had turned into a beggar but fortunately had the same old robe on him. Tabaa was very angry at his friend and asked him, why he was begging, especially when he had a very valuable GEM still tied into his robe. The beggar was astonished at this discovery and cursed himself and his fate for his sorry and pitiable state his was in, because of his ignorance of the riches.

 JUST WAITING TO DISCOVER IT

The “VALUABLE GEM” was given to us by nature to everyone on this planet. It is Reiki, the natural way of HEALING ourselves.  We are not even aware of it, just like the beggar Tubee. We are still waiting for our friend Tabaa to come over and tell us about the GEM, the hidden treasure. We have not yet discovered it for ourselves. We continue to be “BEGGARS” in spite of possession of the valuable GEM. We paradoxically beg the quack doctors to heal us. We beg them to give us poisonous medicines to heal us. No! No! Not to heal us, but to kill us.

Personally, I am very fortunate to have discovered my valuable gem inside myself. Now I am polishing it so that it can shine with its full brilliance for the benefit of the people around me. Two days course of Reiki-I channel is equivalent to 10 years of hard penance by a yogi in the mountains or forests. I wonder how I was pulled into Reiki with no special effort on my part. It’s Divine blueprint! I completed Reiki-II channel followed by Reiki-III course and then Reiki Master’s course. That makes it 40 years of fast tracking in a very short time span. We have helped train 100,000 people in the span of 20 years but everyone does not take it seriously as it should be. A chosen few continue to become Reiki masters. Most of them stop at Reiki II Channel.

ALL PHYSICAL THINGS ARE MADE FROM INVISIBLE STUPID STUFF

SUNLIGHT – A STRAND OF SEVEN

What do you see, when the sun’s ray’s fall down on us? White light!  Not exactly, white light. This white light is actually made up of seven different colorful rays, the rainbow colors of different frequencies. What else do you NOT see up there? On each side of the rainbow we have the famous ultraviolet rays and infrared rays. All of the above rays, invisible to us, are definitely coming down on us. Then we have the heat waves in the sun rays. They warm up the whole of the earth. The SUN is the biggest heavenly body in our solar system. It is made up of hot, very hot gases. Invisible stuff!  Hydrogen and helium gases!  The UV rays can make you blind, while the infra-red rays can help you see in the dark. Do you see the cosmic balance and marvel? Our planet Earth, too, was a ball of hot gases billions of years ago. Today it has cooled off a bit, on the surface, but it is still very hot inside, near the core of the earth. We know this, when we see some volcanoes spilling out hot lava.        

GRAVITY

The earth is spinning at high speed on its axis.  At this high speed all living and non-living things should fly out into space.  But we do not. WHY? Because of an invisible force called GRAVITY. This force holds us down on to the earth. The invisible stuff again.     

MAGNETISM

How do ships and airplanes navigate? How do they find their directions and destinations in dark nights and foggy days? There is a small device called the magnetic compass. This is responsible for all the advancement today. What is around a magnetic piece of steel? Magnetic field the, invisible stuff. Our earth is also a giant magnet with its south end located in the North Pole and north end located in the South Pole. This is how the north tip of a magnetic compass is always attracted towards the south end of the earth’s magnet which is located in the North Pole.  All this is invisible stuff. Two thirds of the earth is water. All life is dependent upon water. But water itself, is made up of stupid unfeeling stuff called hydrogen and oxygen. All is invisible stuff.

FRAGRANCE

If your girlfriend was to come to you, into a totally dark room with a bouquet of roses, can you tell them apart? Of course you can, because roses have an invisible stuff around them. The rose fragrance fills up the room and your nose can tell all.

WAVES                                                              

In your air tight houses and apartments you can easily tune in to your favorite songs on the radio and movies on the television sets. These large radio waves and micro TV waves can penetrate anything even concrete walls. All this is really, the invisible stuff. Cell phone talks, email messages in all languages, text messages, by the millions are up in the air all over the world, criss crossing each other without getting mixed up, intelligent invisible stuff.

X - RAYS

As far as you know all solid looking things are solid: Wood, steel, granite, plastics. But for X-rays, these solid materials are extremely porous.  X-rays go through them very easily just like knife through butter. Paradoxically these powerful X-rays cannot go through our bones. This goes to show that our bones are stronger than steel. They definitely last longer than steel, because we are still, digging up bones of our ancestors, from millions of years ago. It is all about invisible stuff again.

 INTELLIGENT COMPUTERS ARE MADE FROM STUPID SAND

Life is evolutionary and planetary exuberance. It is more like a verb. It is Autopoietic, Self making.  Life is open to universe and itself. Beach sand is usually silicon dioxide, but so are the innards of a main frame computer. But computer is not a pile of sand. The main frame computer is intelligent thinking stuff manufactured from stupid stuff like sand.                           

HUMAN COSTUME  LIFE IS SHORT & MICROSCOPIC          

Water and gases react with one another and we have life. When oxygen, water and sunlight interact, we have life. Basically all life is microscopic, very tiny cells, and bacteria. In human beings, trillions of cells combine together, to create an organ. Then many organs combine together, to create creations, life like insects, worms, animals, birds and humans. These microscopic cells have infinite intelligence and wisdom of their own. It is called innate intelligence. They have a very short life span like the flowers; say 24 hours to 48 hours. In this short period they work very hard, perform their jobs, give birth to new ones, train them as per ISO 9000 standards and die finally. This is the way life continues. It is like a relay race. Life is transferred from one dying cell to next new cell.

ENDLESS BACTERIAL RELAY RACE

Our human bodies are made up of hundreds of different types of cells: liver cells, brain cells, heart cells, bone cells, skin cells. In every organ at any point of time millions of cells are dying and the exact same number of new cells is being born, anew. In other words, our body resembles a graveyard, or a battlefield to be more precise. This implies that there is an extreme urgency, to get rid of the dead cells, quickly or else they will decay and become toxic, like the dead bodies in a battle field. Thus there exists a very fine balance which has to be maintained in every category, of our organs. What does this explain?  It goes to show that, in a very short period the whole organ is replaced by brand new cells, and this is an on going process 24/7, for as long as you live. Therefore, the physical body has NO EXPIRY date. The anatomical structure is so wonderful, that it resembles a miracle in action. The outer covers are old and ancient while the inner core is always brand new. 

OUTER COVER OF INVISIBLE BODIES

If all things are made up of invisible stuff then what about our bodies. Yes definitely we too are no exceptions, and are made up of that same invisible stuff. We are 99% invisible and only 1% physical. Don’t be surprised, this is true. Your BRAIN is located in the small head, but where is the MIND, EGO, memory, emotions, past experiences, faith, fears, anger, guilt, despair, happiness, joy, ecstasy. All these invisible components of your body need lot and lots of space; hence they are located outside your body, all around us. The outer shell reaches out, up to three meters on an average. It can expand up to 10 meters or more, simply by concentrating on it. This is the real HALO, which was visible around many saints and holy men of the past. Such phenomenon is in the process of becoming extinct in present days. 

 MULTIPLE LAYERS ENVELOPE US

We have seven layers over our skin which extends up to six inches away. These Auras are the real invisible stuff. The seven Auras starting from inside are: Physical, Etheric, Emotional, Mental, Astral, Etheric template, Celestial Ketheric template. Next we have a large complement of twenty two chakras located over various locations of the body. There are seven basic chakras in pairs located over our spine from head to base. These chakras are conical wheels, spinning at very high speed facilitating the flow of cosmic energy into our body, to keep us alive and healthy. The seven chakras starting from head are: crown, forehead, throat, heart, solar plexus, hara, pelvic.

 HEALTH RAYS ARE LOCATED OUTSIDE THE BODY

Their Sanskrit names being: Muladhara, Svadhisthan, Manipura, Anthanta, Vishudduhi, Ajna, and Sahasrara. The Individuation point lies 36 inches above the head while the Soul Seat sits in the brain area behind the forehead between the two eye brows. The Tan Tien point is located 2 inches below the navel and the Core Star point is just 2 inches above the navel. To protect all of the above we have a meter long health rays all around us running perpendicular to our bodies. Finally a spherical shell of Etheric luminous ionized zone gives another protecting covering for all the invisible components which are responsible for everything that happens inside our physical bodies.                 

PERSONAL MOVIE THEATER OF DREAMS 

All day long we are thinking, imagining, and worrying, fearing, going into past, coming back to present and even venturing into future, too. We have to store up ninety years of stupid past experiences; hence we need lots of space, lots of software which is definitely located outside our body. At night when we go to sleep, we start to dream. We see dreams with our eyes closed. How powerful we are? Yet most of us feel powerless and helpless all our lives. We can see with the “eyes” of our mind. Is it not magic? We can also dream with our eyes open.

POSITIVE PRAYERS & NEGATIVE CURSES

You may need a laptop or a computer to send and receive your emails. If you happen to shoot out a nasty email, then it can be traced back to you for a penalty. But you do not need anything, except your mind to send and receive prayers, wishes, intentions, thoughts, and desires. They reach the person you want them to reach and affect them, yet they are untraceable. This invisible stuff is super intelligent and instantaneous, hence beware. It is not your fault that you do not know all this reality and facts, because no one ever told you about it. Now you know, hence be aware of your invisible body and use it to your advantage and for others too. Since the invisible body is in majority and the physical is very much in minority, we have to concentrate more on the invisible body. This is the difference in Real Anatomy and Gray’s Anatomy, which needs to be rewritten & revised in the light of all this invisible phenomenon.

Personally, I check the functioning of my Chakras, every month with the help of a conical wooden top, suspended by a thread. The tip of top is held one inch over the solar plexus, heart, forehead positions and allowed to oscillate on its own. Vigorous circular movement is a good sign. If the movement is skewed, sluggish and elliptical then corrective action is required immediately. The action happens to be a simple one hour meditation with colored air breathing for full body healing and alignment of Chakras. I often channelize cosmic energy for healing other people, it automatically heals me first and then others through me. I am flooded with phone calls & emails from my friends and relatives to send them Distance healing / Distance Reiki. Every night before going to sleep I get into this ritual of sending Cosmic Energy/Reiki to all those who requested it, many times simultaneously to 3 or 4 people located in different continents. It always works and reaches them, because we are all connected by this wonderful cosmic grid. An ever smiling disposition helps me manage my NOW life moments with present mind / software.

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Rohit Khanna - IN-CARNATE

UNDERSTANDING OUR CHILDREN & DEALING WITH THEM INTELLIGENTLY

Inspired by my grand children - Vicky, Ria, Rini, Rian, Lavisha, & Pinacky

UNDERSTANDING OUR CHILDREN BETTER & DEALING WITH THEM MORE LOVINGLY

MENTORING THE FUTURE YOUNG PARENTS

Aim of parenting the children :

Structure their THINKING PROCESS

Build up SELF CONFIDENCE

Sharpen the INTELLECT

Enhance SELF ESTEEM

Facilitate DECISION MAKING

STOOP DOWN TO THEIR LEVEL

What do children like the most ? Fun, laughter & Playing games of make believe. I mean stupid games too. Act dumb often & see the magic happen. They have no BOX yet to think inside. Their creativity in unmatched & limitless.

Should the process of parenting be tough or simple ? Of course it must be extremely easy, such that even the child does not realize that he or she is being mentored at all.  

 WINNING WITH STRATEGY

Here we go….. The master strategy is all about QUESTIONS & more questions. We should not be TELLING them anything at all. They do not listen, anyway to our preaching nor do they believe a word of it. Their attitude is FIRST PRACTICE WHAT YOU PREACH. Consider this retort to be a silent reply from their side. This tells us pretty loudly that  they are adept COPY CATS / Imitating monkeys & we have to straighten our own act. 

SELF ASSESSMENT & INTROSPECTION

The first series of questions that  arise is for ourselves.

Do we make enough time to listen to them?

Do we spend time out doors exercising, walking, playing games, before telling them to do the same?

Do we swear in the company of our children?

Why do we shout at our spouses & them for silly reasons?

Do we get upset & display anger over trivial matters?

Do we converse slowly, calmly, softly or NO?

Do we appreciate each other often?

Do we give meaningful complements when the situation demands.

Do the children often find us dull, sulking & off mood?

I am sure that all of the above are applicable in most of us. If yes then, what next. They are going to pick up, absorb & imbibe all our negative traits automatically. THE ANSWER IS CHANGE, TRANSFORM, REFINE, REFORM SELF FIRST.

RE-FRAME YOUR COMMANDS INTO REQUESTS - sugar coat them with humility additionally.

Dear child, do you mind cleaning up the mess of scattered toys, alone or with mommy/daddy?

My sweet child, when will be the best time to finish your homework, before or after dinner?

My love, which of the chores would you prefer to take up : dish washing or folding up clothes?

Sweetheart, what is the best time for you to go to bed on school days : 8 or 9 pm.

Darling, will it be a good time saving idea to line up your uniform & bag at night : YES OR NO ?

My doll, can you ring the bell when you have done brushing up your teeth for the night?   

A word of caution - Shouting & Shooting out commands at small / tiny beings will definitely make  PERFECT REBELS out of them. Go ahead with your ancient up bringing & stubborn habits. 

TRAIN THEM TO THINK FOR THEMSELVES - OPEN ENDED QUESTIONS - have lots of patience

Is any issue bothering you?

Do you wish to panic & rush through in life?

What should you be doing to be at peace always?

If there is this Creation, Should there be a Creator?

What are you thinking right now?

Is it possible to slow down your thoughts/thinking?

What skills do you want to acquire?

Do you wish to learn & master any musical instrument?

Which sport will suit your personality?

You can take advantage of your height to compete in athletics & excel too?

Is public display of your personal emotion like anger, a healthy norm?

What will bring a lasting smile on your face?

  

GIVE THEM MULTIPLE CHOICES - TWO ARE MANDATORY.

Honey, where do you wish to celebrate your next birthday, at home or out in the public gardens?

Darling, for your graduation party, do you want to procure a new expensive gown or rent one for a small price?

My love, where should we plan our next family summer vacation, far away or near by?

Sweet heart, do you approve or disapprove of the continuous ingesting of harmful substances like cigarettes & alcohol?

SPEEDING UP THE PROCESS - This is a trap for them & a difficult one to escape from. Their decision becomes binding on them. It is good for both the child & the young parents.

INVOLVE THEM IN DOMESTIC/BUSINESS AFFAIRS - FOR CREATIVE SOLUTIONS

Can you help me in putting this IKEA bed together, please?

I would highly appreciate, your expertise in computers to fix my email glitch?

Our coffee table needs a new paint job, could you kindly pitch in during the week ends/holidays?

The family car has a flat tire, can we change it together as a Formula One team?

Our back yard could look fabulous with a minor trimming & hedge cutting, if you can lend a hand dear?

We need an extra pair of dexterous hands to help out in the kitchen, dear child, are you game for it?

SKILL DEVELOPMENT ON THE SIDE  - This system will encourage team work, co-operation, shouldering responsibility & natural bonding.   

WHEN CHILDREN ASK THE RIGHT QUESTIONS - be ready for them.

Firstly there are no wrong questions from a child's point of view. Every question is logical & genuine for the small developing brain.

Why is the sky blue?
Where do babies come from?
How the initial water on the planet appeared?
Why do we have to fight wars?
What is the difference between Virtues & Vices.

MAKING SEEKERS OUT OF THEM

Answer every question of theirs very very briefly. Use one or two words only & wait for their reactions. Follow up your two words with another standard QUESTION - My child, WHAT DO YOU THINK can be the possible answer. This is a million dollar strategy to get them to become a SEEKER / THINKER. The biggest development of your child will happen during this moment. Their self esteem gets a big boost,  sense of worthiness blossoms. They feels accepted as they are & feels Valued by the world.

THE VALUE OF NOT KNOWING

Answer all their stupid questions as if they are extremely meaningful. The second most important strategy is being HONEST ABOUT NOT KNOWING THE ANSWER to some of their questions. Say humbly & but clearly, my child, I DO NOT KNOW the answer to this question of yours. This will teach them the most important lesson of life - THAT PEOPLE DO NOT KNOW MANY THINGS and it is very very NORMAL thing, to, not to know. Once they do not know & this realization sits in their Intellect, then SEEKING will happen. I will go to the extent & pretend that I do not know on 50 % of the occasions. I will openly admit that I DO NOT KNOW just to enjoy the reaction of shock on their faces - DAD, REALLY YOU DO NOT KNOW? Of course my child, but we will try to seek the truth behind your question together. This togetherness business will create the bonding that lasts for their full life time.

Rohit Khanna : IN-EVITABLE

AUTHOR – MAGIC OF MIND & MIRACLE OF BODY

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