IS MARRIAGE AN OPTION FOR YOU??

IS MARRIAGE AN OPTION FOR YOU??

 

First we must define & understand this Union of Male & Female.

The definition of "union" and "marriage" in modern society has broadened immensely from a sole focus on procreation. While biological drives are part of our make-up, they are intertwined with complex psychological, emotional, and social needs that drive human connection in myriad forms, including same-sex relationships and age-gap relationships. The underlying desire for companionship, support, intimacy, and shared life remains a universal human longing, regardless of the specific configuration of the couple. The ultimate question for individuals remains: what kind of union will bring you genuine happiness, fulfillment, and a sense of belonging?

HORMONES THE DRIVERS FOR PRCREATION 

Nature has implanted very wonderful Hormonal drivers in humans to bring them together for the sole purpose of PROCREATION. The initial stage is marked by increased levels of testosterone and estrogen to drive sexual desire and sexual satisfaction. In this stage, sex is the goal, and testosterone and estrogen are the drivers in moving two people toward that goal.

Here pleasure is top most in the minds of the couples stealing togetherness where ever & when ever they can. Intimate Touching, smooching, kissing, rubbing, exploring the other with penetrations, all bring lots of pleasure & happiness. Long term commitment is no where in sight or in the minds. Word of caution. If all of the above makes you uncomfortable, irritable, repulsive, & painful then hold your horses & back out. You are not conducive to this universal idea of marriage. Apart from nature’s master plan for Procreation, humans tend to deviate towards other diverse bodily needs & emotional urges.

SEXUALITY IS A JOURNEY, NOT A DESTINATION

For many people, understanding their attractions is a process that unfolds over time. What you feel at 15 might evolve as you grow, have more experiences, and get to know yourself better. Some people know very early on, while for others, it takes longer to figure out. There's no right or wrong timeline.

Focus on Feelings, Not Labels

Instead of trying to label yourself right now, focus on who you feel drawn to. Do you find yourself admiring certain qualities in boys, girls, or both? Do you feel a connection with someone that makes you happy, regardless of their gender? Pay attention to those feelings without putting pressure on yourself to define them.

What You Can Do Now

Be Open to Experiences: As you meet new people and navigate different social situations, be open to forming connections. These connections can help you understand what you're looking for in a relationship.

Attraction is a Lifelong Experience

The attraction stage is when chemical brain messengers Dopamine and Norepinephrine start to spike in the brain. These two hormones are tied to feeling good and stimulate the reward system in your brain. Attraction, whether it's physical, emotional, or intellectual, is a fundamental part of the human experience that doesn't just disappear at a certain age. Our capacity to appreciate beauty, vitality, and connection continues throughout our lives. For many, the experience of attraction can even deepen with age, as you have more life experience and a clearer sense of what you appreciate in others.This initial, intensely physical phase, while powerful and primal, is typically not the foundation upon which a lasting marriage is built. While the biological imperative for procreation is undeniable, human relationships are far more complex than just a drive for sexual gratification.

THE BONDING HORMONES KICK IN LATER

As couples move beyond the initial rush of hormones, other factors begin to emerge that are crucial for the development of a deeper, more sustainable bond. For many, the transition from purely physical attraction to a desire for long-term commitment involves the activation of different neurochemical pathways and the development of emotional intimacy. Hormones like oxytocin, often called the "love hormone" or" bonding hormone," play a significant role in fostering feelings of attachment, trust, and well-on-being. It is released during physical intimacy, but also through shared experiences, emotional vulnerability, and acts of care. Similarly, vasopressin is associated with monogamous pair-bonding and protective behaviors. These hormones contribute to the sense of security and connection that are vital for a committed relationship. Beyond the biological, the decision to marry often involves a conscious choice to build a life together based on shared values, mutual respect, and a deep understanding of each other's needs and aspirations. This goes beyond immediate gratification and delves into areas like:

Emotional Connection: The ability to communicate openly, share vulnerabilities, offer support during challenging times, and genuinely enjoy each other's company. 

Shared Life Goals: Aligning on significant life decisions, such as career paths, financial management, family planning (including whether to have children and how to raise them), and where to live.

 Trust and Reliability: Building a foundation of unwavering trust, where each partner feels safe, secure, and confident in the other's commitment and integrity.

Conflict Resolution: Developing healthy strategies for navigating disagreements and challenges, recognizing that conflict is inevitable but can be overcome with mutual effort and respect.

Companionship and Friendship: Beyond the romantic and sexual aspects, a strong marriage often involves a deep friendship, where partners genuinely enjoy spending time together and are each other's confidantes.

Therefore, while the initial hormonal surge is a powerful catalyst, a successful and fulfilling marriage typically requires a transition to a more mature and multifaceted love. It involves consciously choosing to nurture emotional intimacy, build shared lives, and commit to supporting each other through all of life's stages.

Beyond the Procreative Imperative: The Rich Tapestry of Human Relationships

It is right to point out that the initial phase focuses on a very narrow, biologically driven view of heterosexual procreation. Human relationships, including marriage, are incredibly diverse and complex, extending far beyond this singular purpose. Let's expand on those Deviations as they are very much a part of the human experience of love and partnership.

SEX AND PLEASURE FOR MEN

Arousal for men often starts with an erection and is a reflexive response to thoughts, fantasies, and physical stimulation. Pleasure can be both physical and emotional for men. Sex builds closeness and affection with your partner, which adds to the pleasure and satisfaction of sex. Men also get pleasure from a partner’s pleasure during sex. Studies show men who have sex with women often feel responsible for her pleasure or for the lack of an orgasm. Men tend to feel guilty if they only get pleasure during sex. 

SEX AND PLEASURE FOR WOMEN

Only about 50% of women regularly have orgasms during sex, compared to 90% or more of men. Lots of women are able to reach orgasm during masturbation but find the orgasms better and more satisfying when stemming from penetrative sex with a partner. If there is no orgasm, which can lower self-esteem and affect overall s sometimes said that orgasms aren’t important to all women, but studies show that women who don’t have them find their sex life unsatisfying. This suggests that pleasure does matter to women. So, why do women have so much trouble reaching pleasure during sex? The most common cause is not enough stimulation, but it can also happen because of stress, worry, hormonal changes, and other problems. While the evolutionary drive for procreation is a foundational aspect of our biology, human beings possess complex cognitive, emotional, and social capacities that allow for a vast spectrum of relationships, many of which are not solely, or even primarily, about reproduction. The concept of "marriage" itself has evolved significantly across cultures and time, reflecting changing societal values and individual needs.

Lesbianism and Homosexuality:

The idea that sexual attraction and relationships exist solely for procreation is fundamentally challenged by homosexuality and lesbianism. Scientific consensus points to sexual orientation being a complex interplay of genetic, hormonal, and environmental influences, often established before birth. It's not a choice or a deviation from a "norm" in a moral sense, but a natural variation of human sexuality.

Love and Connection: For LGBTQ+ individuals, as with heterosexual individuals, relationships are driven by a deep desire for love, emotional connection, companionship, intimacy, and shared life experiences. These relationships fulfill fundamental human needs for belonging, support, and affirmation.

Family Building: While biological procreation in the traditional sense isn't possible for same-sex couples without third-party assistance, many lesbian and gay couples build families through adoption, surrogacy, or co-parenting arrangements. Their desire for family and children is just as profound and valid.

Societal Acceptance: Historically, homosexuality has faced immense stigma and discrimination, often due to misinformed biological and religious interpretations. However, increasing societal understanding and acceptance have led to legal recognition of same-sex marriage in many parts of the world, acknowledging that these unions offer the same benefits and contribute to societal well-being as heterosexual ones.

Young Women Wanting Married Men:

This dynamic is less about a "deviation" in sexual orientation and more about complex psychological and social factors that can influence attraction. While ethically problematic due to the existing commitment, some potential reasons include:

Mate-Copying or Pre-Selection: Some theories suggest that women may be unconsciously attracted to men who are already in a relationship because it signals that the man is "pre-selected" or desirable to others. He's already proven to be capable of commitment (to someone), stable, or resourceful, making him seem like a "safer" or higher-value choice.

 Perceived Stability and Resources: Married men, particularly older ones, may be perceived as more financially stable, emotionally mature, and settled in their lives, offering a sense of security that might be appealing to younger women seeking a provider or a stable partner. 

Thrill of the Forbidden/Challenge: For some, the illicit nature of the relationship can be a draw, providing a sense of excitement or challenge.

Emotional Unavailability/Lower Expectations: Ironically, a married man may be seen as less demanding of full commitment, allowing for a relationship that is more focused on pleasure or a specific need without the pressures of a traditional partnership. This can be particularly appealing if a young woman is not ready for full commitment herself. It's crucial to reiterate that pursuing a relationship with a married individual carries significant ethical concerns due to the potential for harm to the existing marriage and all parties involved.

Older Individuals Desiring Younger Partners

Age-gap relationships have been a feature of human societies throughout history, often with varying degrees of social acceptance. While the initial paragraph suggests a narrow procreative focus, these relationships often highlight other aspects of attraction and partnership:

Evolutionary Perspectives: From a purely evolutionary standpoint, a man's reproductive potential is less tied to age than a woman's. Therefore, a younger woman represents higher fertility. Conversely, men typically accumulate more resources and status with age, making them potentially more desirable as providers. This theory, while offering a partial explanation, doesn't account for the emotional and social complexities.

Youthfulness and Energy: Younger partners can bring a sense of renewed energy, vitality, and fresh perspectives to an older individual's life.

Admiration and Validation: An older partner may feel admired and desired by a younger person, which can boost self-esteem and counteract feelings associated with aging.

Guidance and Experience: Younger partners may be drawn to the wisdom, experience, and stability that an older partner can offer, acting as a mentor or a secure anchor.

 Different Life Stages: Sometimes, individuals at different life stages genuinely align in their desires. An older person might have already raised children and be seeking companionship, while a younger person might not be ready for children yet but values stability.

Power Dynamics: It's important to acknowledge that significant age gaps can sometimes create power imbalances, whether financial, social, or experiential. These dynamics can be healthy if addressed with mutual respect and clear communication, but they can also lead to exploitation if one partner takes advantage of the other's vulnerability or inexperience.

Societal Perceptions: Societal views on age-gap relationships vary. While older men with younger women have historically been more accepted (though often still scrutinized), older women with younger men ("cougars") have faced greater stigma, highlighting gendered double standards. However, attitudes are slowly shifting towards greater acceptance of diverse relationship configurations as long as they are consensual, healthy, and respectful.

Why "Younger"?

There are a few reasons why someone might find themselves drawn to younger individuals:

Evolutionary or Biological Factors: From a purely biological perspective, youth is often associated with fertility and health, which can be subconsciously attractive.

Energy and Enthusiasm: Younger individuals often exude a certain energy, optimism, and zest for life that can be very appealing and invigorating to be around. This can be a refreshing contrast to the routines of daily life.

 Shared Interests/Vibrancy: You might find that you connect with the interests, perspectives, or overall vibrancy that younger people bring. This isn't about looking for a specific type of relationship, but simply appreciating these qualities in others.

Confidence and Self-Awareness: As a grandfather, you likely have a strong sense of who you are and what you enjoy. This self-assurance allows you to acknowledge and appreciate your feelings of attraction without judgment.

BEING HAPPY ABOUT IT 

It's great that you're happy about this feeling! There's no reason to feel shame or embarrassment about natural human emotions. Feeling attraction is a sign of vitality and being alive. The key is to acknowledge these feelings in a respectful and appropriate way. As long as your feelings remain private or are expressed in ways that are respectful of others' boundaries and do not cause harm, then there's absolutely no problem with experiencing and enjoying them.

ROHIT KHANNA  - IN-VALUABLE

 

 

STUPID BELIEFS OF ELDERS A BIG DRAWBACK FOR KIDS

 

STUPID BELIEFS OF ELDERS A BIG DRAWBACK FOR KIDS

 

Belief is your conviction of the truth, of a proposition, without its verification. STREET PHILOSOPHY BECOMES OUR PSYCHOLOGY. Psyche pertains to study of Inner self, the soul, level of understanding & sharpness of Intellect.

 

 

JUST BELIEVING NO VERIFICATION EVER

Belief is your conviction of the truth of a preposition without its VERIFICATION. Usually blind beliefs. You believe in many things because everyone around you believes in them, of course without verification. In many other things, you are made to believe through repetitive coaching, counseling, advertisement watching, and radio listening. As a result of the entire above overload of information, you come to believe in many things very powerfully, dangerously, and wrongly. The belief engine chugs away, strengthening old beliefs, spewing out new ones, rarely discarding any. We can sometimes see foolishness in other people’s beliefs, but it is difficult to see the same error in our own beliefs.

 

BELIEFS DO NOT ESTABLISH TRUTH  

Reality does not change depending upon your beliefs, and perceptions. Beliefs do not establish truth. How do we acquire these harmful beliefs?  We internalize them from our environment, parents, teachers, role models, when we are very young, innocent, raw, and quite impressionable. Belief formation is spontaneous and involuntary. What are beliefs? They are mini programs in our memory. We internalize the age-old beliefs handed down from one generation to another, pretty much Stone Age stuff.       

 

TRUTH IS SPIRITUAL

TRUTH needs no verification, you know it automatically, intuitively. First, we have knowledge, then we churn it, and it becomes wisdom. When we cappuccino further, it sublimates to TRUTH. You can subscribe to the best religion in the world yet portray a low-class character / behavior. Spirituality brings out exemplary behavior in an honest person, which makes him inspiring, attractive & happy. Religion is a set of principles for living life.  Spirituality is imbibing these sets of principles into your elevated life. Usually we talk about them & are never serious in implementing them into our lives. 

 

FACTORY WITH NO MOVING PARTS

Mind is your thought factory. You generate, manufacture millions of thoughts every day. It never stops functioning till the last breadth is out. You manufacture both sides of the coin here: good thoughts and bad thoughts, happy pictures, and gloomy pictures, eventually successes and failures. When you think and believe in self, progress and moving mountains you get them. When you disbelief in yourself, doubting, fearing, fumbling, you go down. By switching on positive channel, looking important, having the right attitude takes you first class. While switching on negative channel, listening to bad news, looking inadequate and defeated takes you second class. Our beliefs about ourselves and the world form the framework of our REALITY. Our world behaves as much as we expect it to or as we all believe it will. If you think you can or cannot, in either case you are right.

PREPROGRAMMED HARD DISKS

We go through life struggling with these preprogrammed hard disks which refuse to take in new and correct information from reality and everyday events. We are totally biased with these age-old perceptions and notions that act like filters or brackets in our life’s experiences. In short, world events happen to us objectively, while we experience them subjectively through our filters, totally opposite angles and viewpoints. What is the solution to this faulty programming problem? Simple! Format your hard disk or floppy and leave it blank as it was when you were born. It would be even better if you reprogram it as you wish it now, master of yourself. You oversee your life. Does it now, rewrite your own program?  Be alert, be aware of this malfunction. This is the root of all problems, misery, and suffering. Most people do not want to do it themselves. They are again afraid of the unknown as usual, or they do not know where to start or how to go about it.   

 

REMEMBERING RHYMES BY HEART – REALLY

IS THE BRAIN BEATING LIKE A HEART

Do you remember your nursery rhymes still?  How did you do it or were made to do it? BY HEART! I am sorry, it is not so. You got it wrong again. You remember your rhymes by Brain, by head and not by heart. Our grandparents had everything wrong side up like our well frogs. They very strongly believed that the earth was flat & the Sun went round the Earth. Also, nothing heavier than air could never fly. But again, you see for yourself that they were wrong. Today we can fly from London to New York in a jumbo jet weighing hundreds of tons.

 

BELIEF OF YOUR BIOLOGICAL FATHER

A young boy, Tamy aged 8, was asked by his friend Tanner, aged 10, who is your father? Then Tamy said, my dad obviously. How do you know this fact for sure, asked Tanner?  Because my dad told me so. Well, go and ask your mother again. Only a mother can tell you who your real father is, and no one else. The best part is that you have got to believe your mother too, no matter what she tells you.  The first belief of all your hundreds of beliefs happens to be the belief of your biological father. Goops! Did I trigger some doubt in you? 

 

SELF HELP OR EXTERNAL HELP

 

There are two ways out of this difficulty. First one, self-help, the BUDDHA method, which is tough, long, time consuming, and involves looking inside. The second method is an easy one. Getting helps from outside, the help of a specialist who deals with reprogramming human hard disks! I am talking of a hypnotist. He will reprogram your hard disk for good, of course for a huge sum of money, and very easily.  No effort is needed on your part. We will elucidate some of the various categories of beliefs, almost all of them baseless.

 

 

YOU BELIEVE WRONGLY & DANGEROUSLY

 

That whatever is written in the holy books is the word of God and cannot be questioned!
Going to the church/temple for 2 hours once a week will get you to heaven–no effort needed.

That you must protect your land/God by killing others or self!

That you must always control children, dominate them and not let go of them.

That shouting/punishing/showing anger will right the wrong and discipline the child.

That there is no quality life without TV/parties/friends/long vacations!

That people must compliment very often on their looks & clothes.

That lot of money and expensive gifts will make you happy.

That you must switch to new partners to find love in them or new egos eventually.

That there are limited quantities of goods in this world, hence hoard up!

That the world situations and adverse climates are to be blamed for your misery!

That other people’s bad behavior is the cause of your suffering, and you can change them, by nagging, all the time.

That you hate all those who criticize, disagree, abused you in the past, hence no forgiveness!

That you must feed your body four to five meals per day!

That it is normal to own a couple of diseases and slow down, as you age up.

 

That only a medical doctor and his medicine will heal you, while you continue with your vices and bad choices, and show total helplessness.

 

CORE BELIEFS - GOD FEARING

These are universal, age-old beliefs that the whole world pretty much believes in, of course, without reasoning and without verification.  Let us call them Grandparents beliefs. Raise your hands if anyone of you is God fearing?  All hands go up because we all fear GOD. We have been made to FEAR HIM. Should we be fearing Him or loving Him? GOD loving! How did you get this wrong or upside down?

 

RELIGIOUS BELIEFS

 

We internalize these wrong beliefs from our role models when we are very young. These dangerous mind manipulations were brought forward from centuries of the past to our role models. So now they pass them on to your helpless child in the name of culture, traditions, and values.

PRIMITIVE MAN - DULL INTELLECT

The primitive man awed the birds and animals because he could not fly, or hunt likes them. He feared to death the invisible spirits and all-powerful forces of nature which were beyond his comprehension at that time. Therefore, he started to worship all these elements to appease them for his own safety and life. It was his invention. It was the technology of the Stone Age. It made perfect sense for such an undeveloped brain.

NO FREE WILL - ALL RESPONSIBILITY SHIFTED TO FORCES OF NATURE/GOD

The religious principles and practices progressed very slowly and changed from time to time. It started with Toteism, progressed to Pantheism and stopped at Monotheism, concept of one God. The primitive man had no free will of his own; therefore, he believed that all actions were ordered by divine. He had the perfect attitude of acceptance and reverence. He had no concept of ego too, and therefore shifted all responsibility to the Gods. He basically lived in abundance and detachment mode hence was largely very happy and disease free. He accepted death of a loved one as part of the divine blueprint; hence it was celebrated with the whole tribe and full festivities.

RELIGION AS MONEY SIPHONING INSTITUTION 

Today the same religion has taken a drastic twist for the worse and evolved into an institution for power and money siphoning, for the top few. The holy priest lives in power at your cost. Religion was invented for a purpose. The purpose is organized exploitation of the people, the masses who cannot think for themselves and to keep them in subjugation. How is it done?  By making you sinful, feeling guilty, and begging for repentance and of course paying a big price. The priest makes you confess all your secret affairs that you are having or have had in the past. Automatically, you are made to feel guilty about it. The way out of this mess is repentance and of course your charity will help his “tribe” thrive in luxury, while you rot in misery. How can you be happy, if your religion denies the natural instincts of desires, sex, daydreaming, love, and morality? You cannot be happy. It places religion in the supernatural realm where you cannot question it or its authority. So, you end up as a puppet in his hands. He wants it all: your obedience, your money and your commitment. Society has created schools for scoundrels and now expects it to churn out honest citizens. It will not happen.

SUPPRESSION OF SEXUAL ENERGIES BY SEPARATION 

We have separate schools for boys and girls. We built separate monasteries for male priests and female nuns. This separation forces suppression of the Sexual energies. Over long periods of time it cannot be contained and finally it erupts like volcanoes as homosexuality and lesbianism. First the society makes you gay and then condemns you for acting out as a pervert. You feel guilty deep inside for what you have become. This is what they want. Your subjugation to them! These relationships are based on lust and not on love; hence they are short lived, meaningless, unproductive, and unacceptable in the wider society. The partners very soon get bored with satiety and break up violently with serious consequences, tearing apart their souls and ruining the bodies with incurable diseases.

 

ABSTRACT BELIEFS

 

We learn that teachers, doctors, parents know best and therefore they hold enormous power over our minds and learning. From the very beginning we are told many abstract beliefs, like the tooth fairy coming and taking away our first tooth and Santa Claus coming in his sleigh to bring us Christmas presents, gifts. This is our starting point to rely less and less on our confidence and intelligence and get into the wrong Stone Age belief systems.

 

SUPERSTITIOUS BELIEFS

 

Beliefs are based on ignorance. They know that these beliefs are baseless stuff, yet they believe in them helplessly and act accordingly. The most common one is the belief about the number 13. It is so unlucky that it does not appear anywhere. The hotels do not have a thirteenth floor ever and room number 13 cannot be lived in because it does not exist. The same belief is about number 4. Coincidentally the numerals in 13 add up to 4 also. Friday the 13th is considered even more inauspicious. Friday is a very bad day for setting sail, going on a trip, bed change and stitching of garments.

FANS WILL SUCK THE LIFE OUT OF YOU

In various parts of the world people believe in different things, very foolishly. In Korea all ceiling fans and table fans are manufactured with timer devices. No fans ever run for ever, continuously. They believe that the fan will suck the life out of you, if left to run all day and night.

CATS CROSSING YOUR PATH IS BAD OMEN

Another good one is about cats crossing your path on the streets. You must stop dead in your path, change directions for a while and then continue after a little break. So rigid is this belief. It is about cats leaving an electrostatic charge in their paths which could affect you, if you went ahead, of course baseless. In the West, cats are the pampered lot in homes. People live with them all day without getting charged electrostatically.

KNOCKING ON THE WOOD FOR NUTS

Opening an umbrella inside the house is a bad omen. So is walking under a ladder and placing your shoes on the table. Good luck beliefs are stupid too, like keeping your fingers crossed and knocking on wood. If the hands are itchy then money is either going out or coming in. Finally, if you find a penny on the ground and pick it up then it will bring luck, because an angel placed it there.                                                            

 

LIMITING BELIEFS & HEXING

 

We are all brought up with hundreds of limitations. This provides a very narrow perspective for our growth and development and sets brakes on our progress for the rest of our lives. We are made to believe that we cannot do a particular task, rather many tasks. Hence, we end up with low self-confidence, low self-esteem and zero capabilities or skills. Later, in life your parents expect you to scale lofty mountains in one single leap. How ridiculous is their belief and style of bringing up children. Hexing is mind manipulation, intentionally or unintentionally. It is being done to children by their parents, role models all the time. It is the imagination of horrific outcomes suggestible in negative direction mostly. The tell-tale signs of people who are self-hexed are as follows: It is God’s will, what can you do?  They are trapped in life, with their backs against the wall. Such people believe in the above very strongly, cooperate with HEX and give up. They often die young. Angry about being dependent upon others, pessimistic and suspicious of others, avoiding personal contact, they live their lives thus. Poor sinners, victims of circumstances of their lives, pawns of judgmental vengeful God, will continue to find bad things happening to good people.  

 

FATAL BELIEFS                                           

 

It is good to remain under pressure to perform well.

It is normal to be stressed most of the time.

Deadlines motivate you to move ahead in life.

It is OK to react angrily whenever provoked by the other person.

Fear is a healthy tool to get higher productivity.

Irritations and pain are an accepted part of life. 

Happiness lies outside in material things/possessions.

My peace is dependent upon the other person’s behavior.

 

 

All these traits take you downhill, and you are finished.

 

I am stupid, not as smart as others, can’t

Neither keep up nor read well.

I don’t deserve, cannot succeed because others do better than me.

I don’t belong here, unwanted, unlovable, don’t fit in and valueless.

I am lost, alone, uncomfortable, insecure, and no one sees me, forgotten, invisible.

I am trapped, unsafe, will be hurt, want to run away.

I hate myself but want to love myself. It is egoistic, selfish to love self.

I don’t deserve to feel my feelings, enjoy life, possessions and must remain sad.

I must be the responsible one, take care of all, and it is not safe to get help.

I was born in original sin, am evil, bad, not worthy of god’s love, and others love.

I am a sinner, needs to be punished, do penance, suffer, and cannot forgive myself.

People don’t listen to me, value my words, hear me out, don’t care what I say.

People are weird, got to do their thing, can never please them.

It is not safe and possible to connect with others. My faults and deficiencies will be seen.

Cars are not safe, and driving is dangerous. Watch everything and keep my distance. 

Money is evil, dirty, and it is sinful, selfish, and greedy to want more of it. Work hard for it.

Women are weak, emotional, irrational, and less intelligent, hence must be controlled.

 

BLOCKING BELIEFS

Real life traumas are the cause of blocking beliefs in us! These beliefs eventually become our blueprint for the rest of our lives. Role models and parents have powerful influence on young minds. A father repeatedly mentions to his son while his daughter is listening too: Boys don’t cry; men are stronger, more capable, and better brains than women. What meaning is the daughter supposed to get from this repetitive conservation? Girls are weak, downplay their strengths, emotionally irrational and less than boys. This is wrong but very true and very much is happening all the time. We pick up the wrong lessons and then wonder, what went wrong?  Our caretakers must be mature enough themselves first, to understand the fine tuning and quick absorption rate of the young innocent human minds, which is always irreversible.

OUR MENTAL IMAGES CREATE REALITY

At a football game, in California, it was announced on public address system that 6 to 7 people might have suffered food poisoning from the soda stall. Very soon some 200 people reported sick. There were many in the 200 group, who never went near the soda stall. Next day it was reported on the radio that the soda was not contaminated, soon they all became well suddenly. The body cooperates immediately. Our mind has phenomenal powers, unknown to us. A pious lady, purely vegetarian, unknowingly eats and relishes a pork sandwich. Then, when someone reminds her of the non-vegan pork in the sandwich, she starts to vomit out. Hexed by herself, her body reacts instantaneously.

 

I treated many patients for different aliments, with only vitamin C, at my father’s clinic when I was a young upcoming apprentice. It always worked. Their belief in my father, as a God like doctor and his medicine, got them to be healed of their sickness in matter of days. Many of them were educated and intelligent, yet their firm belief brought them to my father’s clinic again and again. This just proves our mind has magical powers to heal & influence the functioning of our bodies. The placebo effect has been proven beyond doubt in research laboratories. The reverse is equally true, which implies that negative thoughts & fatal beliefs do cause malfunctions in our bodies. Therefore, be forewarned.

PLACEBO EFFECT

It happened in India in the early 1900.  Tarpon lived in a dilapidated shack in Ranchi Bihar. One day he woke up with extreme pain in his stomach and was very sick with loose motions and abdominal cramps. He strongly believed that he had swallowed a whole lizard while he was asleep. His body was cooperating with his belief. He was taken to a hospital, where the doctors checked him out and found nothing wrong with him medically. The doctors tried everything but of no benefit. Tarpon’s condition was deteriorating fast. Finally, the family members sought the help of a Sorcerer. He took the doctors and family members into confidence and devised a plan. Next day Tarpon was taken to an old cemetery in the nighttime to the Sorcerer where he was ready with a small dead lizard in his pocket. Tarpon was asked to drink some soap water while he chanted some Mantras. A bon fire was lighted to make it look like a ritual. Soon Tarpon started vomiting and in the commotion the Sorcerer threw in the dead lizard in the vomit pool very smartly. When Tarpon’s vomiting spell subsided the doctors joyously reported the success of the operation and pointed to the dead lizard in the pool of vomit. Tarpon saw it with his own eyes and was hexed totally. His body cooperated with his new mental belief; he recovered in two days and went home fully recovered.                                              

NOCEBO EFFECT

The human mind can be hexed in diametrically opposite directions. This is a true story of Mitchell. She is the mother of a very famous astronaut. She is legally blind and wears very thick glasses to barely feel her way around when she is moving in the house. She is a very pious, God-fearing lady and a staunch Christian by faith. One day she was thrilled to learn that Chen Norbord the Reiki Master, was coming to a nearby town to deliver a talk. She believed that Chen was a Christian too like her and he happened to be a friend of her astronaut son. But as luck would have it, her son was not available to drive her to the talk. In the meantime, Chen Norbord rang up Mitchell and wished she could make it to his talk. He further suggested that Mitchell should drive down on her own, since her son is tied up elsewhere. Mitchell got her vision restored and drove down 300 km. on her own to attend Chen’s talk. After the talk she confidently drove back another 300 km. without a hitch. It was a miracle that had happened. After two months when her son returned home, he too was thrilled at the miracle. During her discussions with her son, she found out to her utter surprise, that Chen Norbord was a Non–Christian. This belief devastated Mitchell so badly that her body cooperated with her belief, and she lost her vision again.                                                 

MEDICAL HEXING

Words that maim: Since medical doctors are held in high regard, their words, prognosis can act as bullets if not curses, and encourage the patient or the victim to die on time as decided by the doctor. Unintentionally the medical doctors HEX their patients to death. Spooky surroundings, intimidating environment, replete with x-rays machines, dim lights, radiology equipment, all put together produce fear and apprehension. Next your foot a heavy bill payment for all these services and finally the doctor gives his diagnosis, or death sentence:           

You are living on borrowed time, and this narrow blood vessel is a widow maker.

They told me it would only get worse, and I would just have to live with it, or die of it.

You are going downhill fast, and they said there was nothing more they could do for me.

Your tumor is a ticking time bomb, and all we can do is wait and see what happens.

You are too late to come now for the treatment. The body has become very weak to sustain the high dosage needed to help you.

 

OPERATION THEATER ETIQUETTE

We never stop hearing. Our auditory fibers are not affected by anesthesia. In the operation theater in a hospital, we are very vulnerable to the intentions and suggestions made by the doctors, surgeons and their assistants even though we are unconscious. In one case the intern in the OT unintentionally said that this is the worst case he had ever seen regarding kidney and bladder repair. The victim heard the loose remark of the intern and believed him. The victim’s body started to cooperate with his new belief, and he never recovered fully as planned by the surgeon’s. He could never urinate without a catheter. In another case the surgeon was performing a knee operation on a middle-aged man. During the operation while the man was unconscious under anesthesia, the surgeon carelessly commented that he has done what he was supposed to do for the knee to come back. This remark was wrongly interpreted by the victim patient that the knee operation had not gone as planned. His body cooperated with his new belief, and he started to die soon after his knee operation. How one casual remark can kill a victim is amazing and very powerful force. This is even more effective than the suggestion of a hypnotist.

 

 

 

THE OLD GERM SYNDROME

A medical student learns about germs, microscopic parasites, bacteria, and he develops a syndrome about them. He goes on washing his hands and cleaning himself up to 100 times a day. Sure, enough he is never clean enough. He is an excellent example of self-hexing. The days of the germ theory are over. Louis Pasteur pioneered this theory hundreds of years ago, when we all were neck deep into very scary diseases like smallpox, typhoid, tuberculosis, polio, and rheumatic fever. They have been eradicated almost totally and are fully curable. Today the big killers are none of the above, but different ones which are not caused by our friendly germs. Instead, we have cancer, diabetes, heart strokes, allergies, multiple sclerosis, mental sickness, obesity. These diseases are absolutely our doing.

THE NEW GERM - FREE RADICAL

This is the new “germ”. It is an oxygen atom that is missing an electron. This makes it hungry, ravenous, and will not stop till its thirst is satisfied and fulfilled. Therefore, it attacks the first neighbor to fill itself up and stabilize. The wrong foods we consume generate free radicals in our bodies. The only way out of this maze is to combat the enemy in its own game. The big game is ANTI OXIDANTS. Simply reverse the lifestyle and culinary choices. This way you ingest compatible foods which do not cause free radicals and the balance sheet is favorably tipped on the Antioxidants side. Remember, this is, life, ever renewing on autopilot. We make poor choices in our diets and lifestyles. No! We have no room for any choice. The market is flooded with poisonous ready to eat snacks and foods. Each package is more harmful than the next one, loaded with sugars, salts, artificial colors and dangerous preservatives. Even God cannot help you, if you continue to consume this trash day in, day out. Coke cola and Pepsi are not drinks but an acid wash. Even wine is ten times better than colas.

 

THE CULTURAL INFLUENCE

The power of suggestion, thought, culture, language, and core beliefs can bring about a self-fulfilling prophecy. It can work both ways, constructive way and destructive way. If you believe you can do, or you cannot do, you are right, in either case. So, get rid of all your limiting beliefs.  Do not own them and defend them. When Tarrah believes that she deserves her sickness, because of her sins and guilt, she is very likely to have chronic diseases. The more she doctors her diseases, the sicker she gets. If a guest comes to the house, she will take the opportunity to discuss her sickness in detail with the guest. She is focusing on her disease, and it shall expand as per the cosmic laws. When problems do not yield to treatment, her suspicions are confirmed, the curse is justified and she deserves to suffer, SELF-HEXING.

IGNORANCE IS BLISS

On the other hand, Tanith from Africa could talk only in the BEAUTYWAY, because she thinks in the beauty way always. A pregnant Tanith refused to attend a prenatal clinic on purpose. She had a very strong reason for not going to that clinic. She did not want to be hexed by potential complications of pregnancy. She thinks in only a healthy way and then delivers the baby real fast and healthy without any problems.

When God made man at the beginning of stone age, there were no doctors, medicines or hospitals. So very intelligently HE placed the DOCTOR & THE MEDICINE inside us. Our ancestors had INNATE wisdom, rarely fell sick, & devised effective & powerful home remedies for just in case times. They knew that the doctor is inside them as SPIRITUAL ENERGY & this body is the world’s best PHARMACY that has no match. Every part of our body has great significance in our short lives & it is for us to grasp its implied meaning. 

BROUGHT UP IN A STERILE / MEDICAL ENVIRONMENT

I was lucky again to have been left untouched and not poisoned by such baseless fatal beliefs. We were at liberty to form our own opinions about such common happenings in the world around us. Nothing was ever forced upon our ignorant minds. My creative talents mushroomed very well in this environment. Since our dad was a professional doctor, all he instilled in us was the importance of washing hands with soap thoroughly, before meals and keeping overall good hygiene. He would insist on   soaking & washing fruit in potassium permanganate solution and then rinsing under running water, before consuming them. It made good sense to wash up very well after returning home from the contaminated/infected clinic of his.   

 

 

ANCIENT SCIENCE OF LIFE & LIVING

 

ANCIENT SCIENCE OF LIFE & LIVING 

ALL LIFE IS SOLAR POWERED ON EARTH

INNATE WISDOM OF OUR ANCESTORS 

At the beginning of the stone age, there were no doctors, medicines or hospitals. So very intelligently THE Creator placed the DOCTOR & THE MEDICINE inside us. Our ancestors had INNATE wisdom, rarely fell sick, & devised effective & powerful home remedies for just in case times. They knew that the doctor is inside them as SPIRITUAL ENERGY & this body is the world’s best PHARMACY that has no match. Every part of our body has great significance in our short lives & it is for us to grasp its implied meaning. 

According to Ayurveda, five elements make up the universe — vayu (air), jala (water), akash (space), teja (fire), and prithvi (earth).

In the Human body too, these elements form three different doshas / humor / state of mind, attitude, which are types of energy that circulate within our body. Each dosha/persona is responsible for specific physiological functions. Mind, body, and spirit affect all three doshas to function together. Human beings are SOLAR powered, just like the mother EARTH. The power of the SUN influences all activities on Earth. Sun Salutation – Suyra Namaskar is of utmost importance early morning to regulate this Metabolic fire.

THE FIRE/AGNI OF DIGESTION IS INFLUENCED BY THE SUN 

From Sun Rise to Sun Set, the AGNI / FIRE induces the forces of INNATE INTELLIGENCE within our Bodies. The gut biome is a part of the Agni where the microorganisms boost our metabolism & food breakdown. Three hours after Sun rise is the best time for the KINGLY / biggest meal of the day. One hour before Sun set is your last chance for the BEGGARS meal of the day. A PRINCELY lunch is recommended in between these two meals, if needed. AGNI means Burning & transforming to burst forth. AGNI / DIGESTIVE FIRE – is our body’s ability to digest & absorb nutrients from the food, using digestives enzymes. Our Health depends on this TOTALLY. It can also be the root of body imbalances and diseases. An unhealthy diet, poor lifestyle, and unresolved emotions may impair Agni, which in turn, disrupts the functions of the body. 

WHAT IS YOUR DOMINANT DOSHA/HUMOR

The Ayurvedic diet determines your dominant dosha/humor & eating specific foods to promote balance between all three doshas. The PITTA dosha controls hunger, thirst, and body temperature.  The VATA dosha maintains electrolyte balance & movement.       The KAPHA dosha promotes joint function. Here are some of the main characteristics for each DOSHA/HUMOR to help you determine which type matches you best:

Pitta (fire + water). Intelligent, hard-working, and decisive. This dosha/humor generally has a medium physical build, short temper, and may suffer from conditions like indigestion, heart disease, or high blood pressure.

Vata (air + space). Creative, energetic, and lively. People with this dosha/humor are usually thin with a light frame and may struggle with digestive issues, fatigue, or anxiety when out of balance.

Kapha (earth + water). Naturally calm, grounded, and loyal. Those with a kapha dosha/humor often have a sturdier frame and may have issues with weight gain, asthma, depression, or diabetes. Geographically Hot countries near the equator are prone to Vata, therefore slow speed activities are recommended. Cold countries near the poles are prone to Kapha, therefore high-speed activities are recommended.

Water retention qualities of the soil also decide what to eat. The sandy soil in North India/Desert land does not hold water hence grow wheat & eat it too. In south India/clay soil can hold good water hence grow RICE & consume too.

 

SEASONAL INFLUENCES ON DOSHAS/HUMOR

 

You should focus on different tastes to balance out your metabolic needs of the season. In the SPRING season Kapha increases & causes stagnation in the body. If you feel your rate of metabolism is slow, you should consider eating food that tastes pungent, bitter & astringent. During SUMMER season, you need a Pitta-balancing diet of sweet foods. The WINTER season is coherent with sweet, salty & sour tastes that feel heavy on the stomach.

 

THE TENDER CONNECTION BETWEEN FOOD ESSENCE & EMOTIONS

It’s easiest to see the elements expressed in food: a hot pepper contains fire element, a sweet potato contains earth, and a brothy soup contains water. You can see the elements in emotions as well. If you’re angry and seeing red, you bet there’s some fire element coursing through you. If you’re deeply in love, you’re likely experiencing the ooey, gooey sweetness of water element. If you feel strong and grounded, you’re likely experiencing earth element. When it comes to anxiety, wind element is largely at play. If you imagine a leaf blown about by the breeze or a candle flame flickering in the wind, you can see why anxiety and wind go hand in hand. You may not realize this but the food you eat has a close connection with your mind. While you enjoy the taste with your tongue, you should eat mindfully. In Ayurveda, eating with a focused mind with no distractions is important. This ONE POINTEDNESS releases nervous impulses, which in turn release enzymes & hormones. This stimulates systemic metabolic activity so that the whole body-mind complex functions efficiently.

 

THE FOUR TYPES OF AGNI 

Ayurveda classifies four different states of Agni that point to certain constitutional tendencies.

Visham agni: This is an irregular appetite and digestive system with signs of variable hunger, bloating, indigestion, intestinal cramps, constipation, dry stool, & gas. It is common in vata types. Use sweet and pungent flavors. Include Asafoetida formula (hingashtaka), Trikatu and ginger before you eat.

Tikshna agni: Intense hunger but with poor digestion is a pitta sign. Also, thirst, parched mouth, dry throat, loose stool and a burning sensation in intestines. Use mild sour flavors to dilute excess acid. Include shatavari (Asparagus racemosa), guduchi (Tinosporia cordifolia) and Amalaki to balance pitta.

Mandagni agni: Weak hunger is a kapha sign. Also, slow digestion, heaviness after a meal, sluggish bowels, bulky stool, feeling cold, sweet craving, stimulant craving. Use pungent and bitter flavors. Include trikatu, ginger and cinnamon.  

Samagni agni: Balanced hunger and digestion; food is digested within four hours with no excess craving or lack of interest. Use triphala to maintain a healthy digestive system. Use all six flavors and a balanced diet to maintain balanced digestion.

AFTER SUN SET THE AGNI IS DORMANT – no eating period.

All forms of imbalanced Agni create undigested residues (ama) that form toxins. Toxins (ama) become present in all chronic conditions such as high cholesterol, blood disorders, fatigue syndromes, tumors, cysts, skin conditions, allergies, & cancers. The dosha accumulate at their site - kapha in the stomach, pitta in the abdomen, vata in the colon. This starts the cycle of imbalance and must be avoided if you want to stay healthy. Left untreated the accumulated dosha can become disturbed. This results in the dosha leaving their site and overflowing, a very dangerous situation. Kapha can manifest as mucus, coughs, asthma, diabetes and obesity. Pitta can manifest as skin problems, heart problems and inflammation. Vata can manifest as bone problems, nervous conditions and degenerative conditions.

CANCER TREATMENT 

Cancer cells / bacteria eat 8 times more than normal cells.  If we STARVE them by switching over to one meal a day, then they die. KILL CANCER cells by fasting for 16 hours daily. You LIVE, if they DIE. No medical intervention is required. APPLE CIDER VINEGAR balances the Ph of your body, preventing cancerous cells from forming. It does kill cancer cells even after formation, with 3 tablespoons of ACV in 8oz glass of water, twice a day on an empty stomach. Chemotherapy kills 9 out of 10 patients. Cannabis oil with THC saves 9 out of 10 patients. Cancer cells cannot survive in an alkaline and oxygenated environment.   

PROCESSING SPEED & TEMPERATURE DETERMINES THE QUALITY OF FOOD

Slow grinding of wheat into flour is a luxury, by using the manual mini grinding stone – Chakki. Slow grinding of spices keeps the nutrients intact by using the Indian grinding tablet & stone – Silvata. Slow chopping of vegetables is a must too for Vibrant health by using a manual chopper. The childbearing females benefit automatically by using the above gadgets with built in physical exercise, which keeps them slim, agile & physically primed up. 

A FEW AYURVEDIC DIETARY RULES.

Eat raw fruits & vegetables as much as possible for Vibrant Health & being disease free. Cooked food has extremely low PRANIC VALUE for Human consumption. If you MUST Cook, then food must be consumed withing 48 minutes of its being cooked. Switch to cooking in CLAY pots pans & tawa, instead of toxic aluminum utensils. Cook on low heat, instead of PRESSURE COOKERS, which destroys all Pranic value of food. Microwaves kill all the remaining nutrients in the stale food that you try to REHEAT & eat.

A low dosage of bitter taste taken before a meal increases the secretion of hydrochloric acid in the stomach. Leave 4-6 hours between meals with no snacking. The sign that the previous meal is digested is when the breath is fresh. Eating in between meals weakens the Agni. Eating cold, wet & heavy foods weakens the Agni. Drink hot water 40 minutes before meals to stimulate Agni. Never eat/drink cold liquid/water with/after food, least you dilute the acids & enzymes & put off the Agni. Treat Agni with occasional fasts; use a mono-diet (rice, kitcheree), hot lemon water and a seasonal cleanse to keep digestion healthy. Agni is increased by pungent, sour, & salty flavors. It is beneficial to start a meal with these flavors.

Agni stimulating and increasing herbs are ginger, black pepper, cayenne pepper, cinnamon, long pepper (Piper longum), guduchi (Tinosporia cordifolia), kalmegh (Andrographis paniculata). Use a small dose (1-2g) before meals to enkindle the digestive fire.

Agni tonic herbs that build enduring digestive strength are pushkaramula (Inula racemosa), cardamom (Elettaria cardamomum) and musta (Cyperus rotundus).

Yoga exercises to balance Agni: stimulating the fire practice (Agnisara kriya), abdominal massage (nauli), lighting the skull breath (kapalabhati), bellows breath (bhastrika), peacock (mayurasana), forward bend pose (paschimottanasana), fish pose (matsyendrasana), sun salutation (surya namaskar).  

ROHIT KHANNA     IN-SITU

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