THE ANATOMY OF FEAR - BECOME FEARLESS

THE ANATOMY OF FEAR - CAN HELP BECOME FEARLESS


INNATE INTELLIGENCE

The infant Soul fears nothing & no one. It has just started with a clean slate, no past, no memory, yet, to refer back. Its co-creators are always a cry away, whenever needed. Fear is a potent emotion, which we all acquire on our way to growing up. The biggest fears are of the unknown, death, being rejected, darkness & heights. It is mobilized energy, like the blowing winds of a hurricane, uprooting & displacing everything that comes in its path of travel & destruction. This sweeping energy of fear follows subtle INTENTIONS, is controlled by THOUGHTS,  & directed through WILL.  The choice is always dependent upon the learned / foolish Soul. This over powering energy has the poor Soul fully in its grip, as if it is the Master & the stupid Soul is its obedient servant.  This is the Mind component of the Soul, the other two being, Intellect & Sanskars or Memory.

LAWS OF VIBRATION - BOOMERANGS BACK
 
Fear Energy Obeys the laws of Vibrations. Our reactions always fit our expectations. The energy is sent out first & then it returns back to its sender, exactly like a Boomerang. You reap what you sow. Can not blame it on destiny, fate or God. Fleeting TRESPASSES instantly become your permanent KARMA which can not be undone or erased by OOPS. We all use this word Trespasses in our morning prayers, without comprehending its depth & implication in our day to day activities. Trespasses are LUSTFUL desires, triggered by the attraction of the superficial Costumes of the Souls around us or enticing material objects, for fleeting moments of pleasure & joy. They last for microseconds only, but Bad Karma gets created for many lifetimes to come. The moral of the story is to be Super careful about getting entangled in wasteful trespasses, intentions & thoughts. LOOK but don't SEE, the the objects of desire & allow the mind to register them. The solution is to be Soul Conscious all of the time. It is difficult but possible. Replace this energy of FEAR with the energy of LOVE. We love not to give it nor to receive it, but to Share it. To love & be loved in return, otherwise the sole alternative is Loneliness. Love is God's Stimuli.  
    
MENTAL-ISM IS INFECTIOUS

The movement this Thought Energy inside the Mind of the  Soul is termed as MENTAL-ISM, which triggers all the major glands in our brain & body to produce magical chemicals called Hormones. These hormones are extremely essential for the growth & survival of the human body, which is a perishable Costume for our eternal Soul in this life. The thought of a lemon makes the mouth water with excess Saliva. The uttering of three magical words - I LOVE YOU brings about miraculous transformation in our bodies, heightened heart rate, drying of the mouth, & blushing with pink cheeks.    The polarity of this Thought Energy decides the quantity of the hormone secreted by the glands & injected into the blood stream for action. Positive Polarity of energy like Love, Peace, Bliss stimulates the glands optimally to produce the right quantities of hormones, while the negatively polarized energies of hate, anger, violence, irritation over stimulate the glands to produce in excess quantities, which act as STEROIDS & cause havoc in the body. When you double up on any one ingredient, like salt in your favorite recipe, you ruin it & now have to  trash it totally. Imagine if you messed up, on all five of the ingredients in your recipe.   

WHAT EVER YOU FOCUS ON EXPANDS IN LIFE

Heightened negative THINKING is excessive WORRY, combined with obsessive ANXIETY of the events that have not yet happened. - Go figure. You become an instrument for manifesting  such happenings, which you wish to avoid in the first place. The Energy of Fear follows you around. It is self fulfilling & has the power to expand when you focus on it. You WILL it to materialize. In your external world of matter, events take place with the help of your own Willful thinking energy - Good or Bad. The same energy creates your internal world of human anatomy. Our energy is unbiased. Now the ball in your your coat of mind. Therefore you decide which POLARITY of thought energy you will harbor in your Mind for most of the waking hours. 

TOXICITY OF NEGATIVITY

The negative energy of Fear is highly Toxic & infectious. It is the cause of major diseases in our delicate body. First it affects the brain by causing irreparable damage to its Neurons. Next it cascades down into the heart to accelerate the Cardio activities, which mushroom as Hypertension & finally reach a dead end of Diabetes. Our caretakers & handlers are bound to leave permanent marks behind on the pristine minds of their innocent Souls.  The auto reactions of our young minds, to the sudden painful actions of their abusive parents, is to Suppress the Energies of Fear. This suppression blankets & blocks the creative energies of growth too, leading to Dwarfism, both physical & mental. The underlying fears are bound to escape any how & therefore they surface up through the softer areas of the body like stomach.  It can manifest in the abdomen area  causing chronic Indigestion, leading to ulcers of the stomach. It can also pop up in the reproduction system as Impotence & PMS. All add up to put pressure on the fragile Immune system of the body making it highly susceptible to other diseases additionally. 

RECIPE FOR MISERY

The seeds of miserable lifestyle are surely sown in childhood very early in life. Self-esteem, or commonly known as self-confidence is the single most key ingredient in determining ones attitude later in life. Parents can help build up this prime raw material or miss out on it totally. Apart from missing out, parents unconsciously help build up negative esteem which grows like a fungus and takes roots so firmly that it can never be rectified ever. The core of the negative esteem is FEAR. It is injected into your mind, soul and body very slowly, and you as an innocent soul absorb it unconsciously. In all your early years, this dragon of fear if hammered into you thousands of times till you give up and accept it meekly against your will. It starts with fear of God, fear of society at large, fear of other people, fear of loss of the Family Honor and Respect, all invisible entities that exist only in the mind of elders around you.

OTHER PEOPLE’S PERCEPTION IS MOST IMPORTANT

To be exact, it the fear of what other people might think of your actions, behavior and dealings.  Their thinking about you was more important, than your own life. In short you were utterly confused and tormented mentally about these invented ghosts.  All this lead you into a doubting Tom. You walked the planet like a vacillating idiot, perpetually in a dilemma, to be or not to be, to act or not to act at all. Of course you choose to err on the safe side and held back everything, closed yourself in a shell, instead of opening up, blossoming up and growing up normally and fully functional.           

MOVING AHEAD WITH BRAKES ON

You moved ahead in life with brakes on. You inched forward at snail slow speed while others raced fast by you over taking you at top speed, and you watched helplessly. The brakes can be quantified as over protective parents,  never letting you be alone, breathing over your shoulders, helping you in every task, you did as if you were mentally challenged already. This did lead you to be partially mentally challenged eventually. The “brakes on” mode generated heat and pain in you.

TAKING EVERYTHING PERSONALLY - GOING THE WRONG WAY

You ended up feeling hurt at all times, nursing past hurts and never forgetting them, feeling upset and dissatisfied with everything and everyone, taking every remark, situation personally, allowing yourself to switch off hundreds of times in a day. Being unhappy without any reason whatsoever, always complaining and blaming others, including your God was an everyday routine. The over whelming feeling, of scarcity in your life, in spite of having everything, never left you! A closed mindset and I know all, attitude was a big help too. All of these special qualities made sure that you had very limited physical skills and lots of self-limiting beliefs.

I cannot speak in public.

I cannot change my profession.

I cannot manage in a new town.  

I cannot handle sales and strangers.

I cannot swim or go sailing, boating.

I cannot give up the entire existing environment.

That everything is wrong and nothing is right.

That the whole world is plotting against you.

This is a superb recipe for misery. We as parents need to understand, where we are, leading our, children to?   

SELF PRISONERS IN THE MAKE BELIEVE PRISON OF  PUBLIC OPINION

Public opinion is created by imperfect people. It is their combined perspective of ancient yardsticks brought forward & borrowed from the 15 Th century. In this time period our great great grandparents had stone dull Intellects & did not question their collective core beliefs / yard sticks. They happily assumed & firmly believed that the Earth was flat, the Sun went around the Earth & things heavier than air could never fly. Now what do you want to say to this basic premise on which all the other numerous notions were based. Today you are the advanced generation with razor sharp Intellects, yet you are anchored deeply in this foolish Public Opinion & influenced by it 24/7. I would say it controls you & your behavior, even after the lapse of 5 centuries when technology has proven them wrong & made them look foolishly small.   

PUBLIC OPINION CONTROLS US

Public Opinion is just a random, off the cuff conglomeration of opinions, but we mistakenly take them  as Absolute & swear to live our lives by them. They hold the power to make each of us uncomfortable inside our skins.

WHAT WILL THEY SAY ?

The most feared & often  used phrase goes as follows : WHAT WILL THEY SAY ? Who are they is another big question ? They constitute a handful of known folks, like your school friends, neighbors, office colleagues & a large number of unknown strangers in the crowd on the streets. The second part of the four letter syntax is What they will say ? Honestly it is the fig of your imagination at play. You never hear what they say or said. It is their silent meaningless looks, shallow judgments processed in their minds, preconceived notions/opinions & teasing ridicule that they enjoy momentarily at your cost. 

VIRTUAL PRISON MAKES ONE UNCOMFORTABLE

You chain yourself in the Virtual prison of multiple walls erected around you. The walls are made up of SELF- DOUBT, IMPERFECT, ILLUSIONS, MORALITY.  These powerful walls act like microwaves cooking up inside of you, feelings of LOW SELF RESPECT, NOT GOOD ENOUGH & UNACCEPTABLE. Over time these negative feelings mushroom into powerful toxic Emotions of ANXIETY, MENTAL SUFFERING making you extremely UNCOMFORTABLE INSIDE YOUR SKIN.

OBSESSIVE THINKING

Heart is influenced by inputs from outside world, the majority of which are related to Public Opinion. Based upon these inputs it creates feelings & emotions of negativity mostly. Our relationships affect us directly hence we are predominantly focused on OBSESSIVE THINKING about people & trifle issues. Our thinking is molded by how society will think about us in a future time period & our behavior. We are imprisoned by our intangible thoughts about the future, in the present moment.  

Question - Is it possible to come out of this Self Imposed Prison ?  The answer is YES, but at a cost of another complex dilemma. If I am OUT of this prison & all others are IN, then again I am isolated, to be branded as different, marginalized, even ostracized which brings us back to square one - Uncomfortable inside my skin, socially unacceptable. 

WHAT IS THEN OK ?

Now the FUNDAMENTAL QUESTION arises, If the above solution is not OK then what is OK. Anything that makes you COMFORTABLE INSIDE YOUR SKIN is OK. So let us pursue it & see where we arrive. 

INTERNAL BUZZ

The turbulent waves of the society generate a toxic environment from where the average thinking mind picks up the negative vibrations. These inputs trigger perceptions & associations which are an obstruction in our day to day performance as human beings. Over time these hurdles snowball into low grade anxiety which is akin to constant  background noise. This buzz makes us feel heavier & drains out most of our productive energy making us into weak Souls. As weak souls we perform our karmas against our Conscience thereby creating Internal conflict. This inner fighting compels us to compromise our Integrity which of course is counter productive.

WILL POWER

All the above mental distractions & weaknesses obstruct our Clarity of Thinking. At this point WILL POWER can help us, steer away from this crap of negativity & free our overloaded  minds from these interference & make it available for the subsequent stages of Concentration.

Initiation is a decision to think about a subject. The very first thought must be : I am a point of light. I am an Eternal Soul. Hold this thought for some time. It is the essence of Consciousness of the Human Beings.

Intellect is the Instrument of the Conscience that chooses the focus of Concentration. Allow exclusive thoughts to penetrate into your mind.  This will lead to more subtle thinking. Going deep into the mind refines the intellect. Conscience is the power of discernment. Ultimately we come to terms with the fact that we pay attention to go with the positive, in-spite of the excitement of the negative within us. 

GUILT & FORGIVENESS

Our past leads us into feeling GUILTY. It weakens our personality. Can we clean up the guilty conscience with forgiveness. Can I forgive myself. If Yes then with what Authority. Therefore it is difficult for us to forgive ourselves. Hence have MERCY for self. Go easy on yourself.
   

ARE WE GOOD COMPANY FOR OURSELVES

In fact, we don’t want to keep our own company because, we really do not like ourselves very much, hence we avoid ourselves by engaging in the company of others & /or stupid distractions, gadgets, media, games, parties! Paradoxically, the more I get to know me, the more I can get to like myself. Time is such a commodity that it can easily get sucked up by those around you, unless you consciously decide to slot in a time for your own self!  When was the last time you actually enjoyed your own company without the dependency of another interesting person/tech gadget. Making time for the self is healthy and allows you to regain your balance, rejuvenate your energy, so that when you step back into the world, the family or the work team, you are able to be your self & give more of yourself. This aspect raises your personal productivity. As you give yourself permission for this you will begin to realize that in taking out an hour for yourself, there is tremendous benefit for the self and that you are able to give back quality time, appreciation and attention.  It also allows for the creativity to flourish, thoughts to spring easily& naturally rather than through force. It further slows the thought process, calms the breath, reduces stress levels &allows for a clearer decision making process. The analogy of spending the time to grind the Axe to sharpness or continuing using the dull Axe, unproductively is very fitting here.  

TIME FOR CONSTRUCTIVE HIBERNATION

It is an act of Mother Nature that every organism needs time to replenish, refill, and renew - without it the species perishes.  In the same way, what will I be able to give others if I am empty inside?  Often, when I am feeling frustrated, annoyed or irritated at people & situations, it is not because the other party is the problem, but because I am not getting my own needs met. I am not getting ample sleep, rest, space & quiet time.  This results in a raised level of discomfort within my self. Spending time alone is not frightening, as some people think, nor is it a waste of time, nor a reason to feel guilty.  To spend time in solitude walking, thinking & getting to know one’s own mind, thoughts, feelings, emotions is actually incredibly healing. If silence & solitude are scary to us it is because we don’t know ourselves.  Just as in some relationships, we find the people we don’t know quite scary. But once we discover their beautiful facets it becomes another story.

TECHNOLOGY HELPS US TO WASTE TIME

Spending time with ‘The Self’ does not mean watching TV, interacting on Facebook, playing video games, shopping or reading magazines. It just means that you have mutually exchanged some noise & distraction.

Total waste of such valuable time which is a scarce resource. It’s time to respect and appreciate yourself by taking out quality time for yourself.  You will become stronger, happier, better, more thoughtful, more loving and a more interesting person to be with.  It is in fact one of the greatest gifts you can give to yourself. Gossiping, criticizing, idling, dilly dallying, worrying, indolence are a few of the time bandits.  These habits steal our time and attention leaving us very little for when we really need it.  When people say, “I don’t have time”.  They really don’t want to admit otherwise & willingly participate in a newer venture of self reformation.  Learning to be honest with ourselves will help filter unnecessary tasks, habits.  Plan the big change in a small way.  Spend time with yourself each day to get to know yourself. Once a week treat yourself to something special. A meal by yourself, instead of talking, texting & gulping food down, enjoy every morsel you eat. Take a long walk, allow yourself to absorb every detail of the scenery, as though you are seeing it for the first time.  Take time to journal your thoughts, write an article, a poem or a song.  Sit in silence and watch the sun come up and enjoy the wonder of nature and the wonder of your own self.  Meditate on your innate qualities of peace, love and truth and learn to just BE. If I look for the treasures that are deep inside, instead of seeing faults & beating myself up, then I may just make a new friend, inside of me.  Thus the journey of acceptance, forgiveness and self-appreciation begins.

  

BEING IS BLISS

We spend more time as human ‘doings’, than as human beings.  More and more, people are rushing to get onto their next ‘thing’ or next ‘high’.  And in the process, they miss the magical joy of the moment.  In a state of mindfulness, we enjoy the task at hand. We save time this way. In life everything has its own time, place and season.  There is a season in which to till the soil, a season in which to plant the seeds, a season in which to reap the harvest or enjoy the fruits of hard work.  Most of all be flexible.  If things aren’t going the way you planned, it’s not the end of the world.  Hence if you can understand the rhythm of the seasons, you can begin to be more patient with yourself. It’s Time to realize that I am the master of time; there is no shortage of time.  Break the illusion that there will be more time in the future!  What I need to do, I need to do it now.  Don’t listen to the internal committee of useless and negative thoughts; take courage, prioritize what is important in your life and take that first step.  Once you step onto the boat… the rest is plain cruising and you’ll have the time of your life!

IN LIFE YOU WIN WARS BY LOSING BATTLES

Real life is a bit different from sport, where the only objective is to out do your opponent and win at any cost.  If we create the same rules of win/lose in our personal lives then our premise will be that one has to lose in order for the other to win.  In daily life however, since we are vying for the heart which is more encompassing and embracing, win/win outcomes are indeed possible and we just have to learn to ‘serve’ generously and graciously with our

feelings! Relationships are indeed an investment and will reap generous dividends if you have invested prudently.  Constantly withdrawing from the balance will not leave me much ‘at a time of need’. I need to ensure that I am giving and not just taking, or if I have taken, then to ensure to return something back immediately before the account depletes too quickly.  But the winner takes a step further; he does more than the average, he gives more of himself than the average athlete!

COOPERATION OUT SMARTS COMPETITION IN MATTERS OF HEART

If people seem to be playing games with you, then choose not to be against them, choose not to be their opponent – this is exactly what gives them power over you; one-up man-ship.  Most conflict occurs when there is an opposition created, a rivalry, a “them” and an “us”, you versus me.  But if we can see ourselves on the same side, two people wanting the same thing – then we are not enemies, but partners.  We both want the same thing; we are just going about it from different angles.  So take courage and change the rules of the game! Timing too is pivotal in‘triumphing’ our relationships; it takes a certain spiritual discernment to know what to say, as well as when and how to say it.  What will be that prize-winning word or statement that will touch the soul, secure trust and launch an alliance?  Sometimes due to our embarrassment or ego we miss the opportunity to say what we genuinely wanted to say and that moment is lost forever. Sometimes accepting defeat is also part of the game.  But remember, we may have lost the battle, but we have not lost the war.  We may have lost the argument, we may have lost the match, but the surfer knows, there will always be another wave! It’s time to pay attention to every thought, every second, to every moment and every breath, for the winner pushes himself more than the average athlete.  In every breath let me remind myself that I am a soul, a point of light, a radiant energy, and glowing, shining mirror.  Give more than you take.  And don’t become hopeless because another wave is on its way right now!

THEY LIVE BY TIME

Act now! Time is slipping away. The tiger of death is approaching fast. You must reach Home quickly. If you value your soul you will make an honest effort. For everyone to be that patient in this life is an arduous task to ask. For they live very fast now and die young. They do not know how to live, because they live by Time. They must do their tasks in a certain perimeter of time or they shall never accomplish them. As long as they feel that way, they shall never accomplish it. They will have only lived by time and that will be the only accomplishment in this life and next life too.

DESIRING HAPPENS IN FUTURE TIME

The present moment is so atomic, so small that you cannot move in it, you can only be in it. You cannot DESIRE in it. Desire needs future, more time. If you are ambitious you need an entire life time to achieve all that you desire at the cost of today.  Time exists because of human desire. It creates future. The mind manufactures it all. Your moods decide how time will move in a relative way.  

PRESSURE OF TIME

Timing and timelines are the cause of our emotions. On a holiday everything seems to go very smoothly. On a long vacation you are 100 % relaxed and you have the best of the emotions in you: joy, happiness, calm, and carefree. You are exhilarated and time seems to fly past you. The vacation seems to be shrinking, like you just started yesterday. When you are making love on a cruise ship, time stands still or seems to stand still even though the ship is moving. But come Monday all hell breaks loose and you all are tensed up. You are desperate in the early morning rush hour stuck in a traffic jam. Time is running out, you are getting late for office. Then your neighbor walks into your office to discuss his problems. You are bored to death by his presence. Time stands heavy.  In pain time lengthens and tends to stop. If a loved one is on a death bed and in their last stage, then time will hang up. Hell is eternal. Timing and timeliness have a purpose. The purpose is to enable us to make our choices. The fundamental choice to experience peace or conflict; love or hate; action or indolence; today or tomorrow.

SENSE OF TIME AFFECTS OUR BEHAVIOR

Time pressure alters our behavior. Deadlines in our work routines imply threats. Lots of deadlines mean you must eventually die. The story of nervous cook illustrates this point very well. The world famous chef Kim was once asked if he could cook up an omelet in two minutes. He confidently said yes and agreed to perform the act on national TV. There was competition among many famous chefs. Kim had cooked up hundreds of omelets, always in much less than two minutes but without the time pressure. On the assigned day the stop watch was set for two minutes. The master chef was under time pressure. He started off quite well but under the pressure of meeting the deadline of two minutes he fumbled, panicked and failed miserably in front of the national audience. He himself was at a loss to understand the phenomenon.  

HUMILITY CAN HELP - JUST ACCEPT IT

This present moment is a Space–Time event within the eternal continuum. This moment is as it should be. Everything is acceptable as part of larger identity. Today does not exist in isolation. It is like a deep shoal of endless river of life. If we defile today we exert a bad influence down stream on tomorrow. You are living in hope, a promise in the future. Ambition is misleading and mischief. I will be happy when and if I have lots of money, cars, lavish house, and respectable position, status in the community. It means that Today must be sacrificed for tomorrow. The more things you accumulate, more precious time is wasted at the cost of this one life you have in hand. This life is your only opportunity. You have the capacity to be happy, by exercising your will power to choose now. Transcending the barriers of time: past, present and future! It is totally possible to cross over any time simply by concentrating and meditating. When thoughts arise in your mind and pass out alternatively in succession, there is Time. Fewer thoughts mean less passage of time. No thoughts mean no time. Time stops. No concept of duration of time. Shadow following the substance!

YOUR PURPOSE OF LIFE - KNOW THYSELF

The purpose of SCHOOLING on this planet Earth is to dissolve this Goliath of Fear. Ask your Self? What an I afraid of?  Fear of being Self. Fear of loosing my possessions or Fear of being Nobody. The answers lie within yourself. A little introspection is all that is required. SOS - Stop, Observe, Steer-away.

     

Rohit Khanna - IN-TRUST & IN-HUMAN

WHAT ARE YOUR POSSESSIONS & WHO IS THE POSSESSOR OF THEM ?

An object can not be the possessor of the very same object. It has to be        another entity. 


YOUR BODY IS AN OBJECT OF POSSESSION - THEN, WHO IS THE POSSESSOR / OWNER OF THIS BODY.

ENTROPY, EVOLUTION & ETERNITY

SAND BECOMES INTELLIGENT  

Life is evolutionary and planetary exuberance. It is more like a verb. It is Autopoietic, Self making.  Life is open to universe and itself. Beach sand is usually silicon dioxide, but so are the innards of a main frame computer. But computer is not a pile of sand. The main frame computer is intelligent thinking stuff manufactured from stupid stuff like sand.                           

INERT FOOD IS TRANSFORMED INTO THINKING BODY

Life starts with the birth of the child. The child develops & grows exponentially just with mothers milk to begin with. Slowly a mashed banana becomes the lively baby itself. As time passes by, the child puts on muscles & weight simply by eating food items. This food was grown in top soil which magically transforms a seed into a giant tree to bear fruits & vegetables. Very soon the cycle will be completed when this child grows old & dies to be returned back to top soil. 


LIFE IS HOLOGRAPHIC

Life too is a nexus of increasing sensitivity and complexity in a universe of parent matter that seems stupid and unfeeling in comparison. Life is Holographic like a drop of ocean water. That drop of water contains all life form on microscopic scale just as it exists in the big ocean. Life is transmutations of earth’s air water and sunlight into cells, bacteria. Life is self renewing and fungi as recyclers help us to keep the entire planet brimming with life form, terra firma.

NEGATIVE ENTROPY

It is matter gone wild, capable of choosing its own direction in order to indefinitely stall the inevitable movement of thermodynamic equilibrium–Entropy. Entropy is the universal tendency for order to breakdown into disorder, just like the rest of the Milky Way and beyond into the other worlds. Fortunately for us, Earth and human physiology are islands of negative entropy. We are living off solar energy, borrowed from our sizzling neighbor the Sun.

BIOLOGICAL MARVELS

Bacteria living in intimate associations gave rise to myriad chimeras, mixed beings of which we represent a tiny fraction of an expanding progeny. Life is the strange new fruit of individuality evolved by symbiosis: swimming, conjugating, bargaining, and dominating through corporeal mergers.

Today we have large corporations surviving the economic downfall by bargaining and mergers too. These disparate beings invented meiotic sex, programmed death and complex multi cellularity, to evolve and survive the competition of over crowding and limited resources exactly like it is happening now, on our planet of 8 billion people, plus 10 billion live stocks.

THE UNIVERSAL BUILDING BLOCKS OF ALL MATTER

Bacteria can swim, photosynthesize, cause decay, detect light, produce alcohol, ferment sugars, use up carbon dioxide and hydrogen, convert waste into methane, waft hydrogen, fix nitrogen, fabricate glues, precipitate magnetite, rust and iron oxides.

THE PARADOX OF MATTER & MIND

What is Matter?  Never Mind! – What is Mind?  No matter!  We are back to square one, where we started. Things are physical parts of Thoughts and Thoughts are the mental parts of Things. Does it look very complicated?  Let’s go deeper into the matter, or the heart of the matter. All matter is made up of small particles called molecules. Molecules themselves are a cluster of even smaller stuff called Atoms. Atoms vibrate so fast that they appear motionless. Matter vibrates so slowly that it appears motionless, too. Atoms themselves are not alone. They have Protons, Electrons and Neutrons.

HUMAN LIFE FORM IS FULLY ORGANIC 

Human life form is itself a very high embodiment of evolutionary generosity, sensitivity, and tolerance developed over long eons. Life, having once come into existence will continue for ever. It is a watery membrane, bound encapsulation of space-time. Bacteria, never having gone extinct, continue to protect us as their populations grow prodigiously. We as bacteria, are immortal, but as human beings, are mortal, very fragile.

THE MATTER OF OUR BODIES & POSSESSIONS BELONGS TO THE BIOSPHERE

Human beings are a bundle of bacteria, which use up oxygen to generate energy and survive. But now microbes, find us very attractive as a desirable food, dead or alive. They are the Pathogens in service, to clean up our human environment. We, with are nomadic past, are still adjusting to the idea that in a closed system, the fruits of our labor and loins cannot be accumulated endlessly. They must be distributed, returned to the system whence they came from.

A DIFFICULT LESSON ON ATTACHMENT 

The matter of our bodies, our possessions, and our wealth is not ours. It belongs to the Earth, Biosphere. It must be returned again and again. Changes are the norm and remember it for ever. We live in a sensuous world where details determine food and mate choices that in cases spell the difference between life and death, between procreation and barrenness.        

THE MIRACLE OF LIFE - SOUL EXPRESSING THROUGH A BODY

THE MATTER OF OUR SOULS BELONGS TO ANOTHER WORLD

This is the Star Factory.......ever exploding. We are a very small part of One of the MILK-WAY GALAXY in our Solar system. Can you picture yourself leading a normal life while riding a roller coaster. Standing firmly on our planet Earth we are very fortunate to be alive, stable & safe for hundreds of centuries, leading normal lives as if the planet Earth was STATIONARY, but the truth is otherwise.

The Earth at the equator is rotating and spinning us at 1000 mph, counter clockwise.
The Earth is simultaneously running around the Sun at 67,000 mph, clockwise.
Together the Sun & the Earth are jogging at 43,000 mph around the core of our Solar system. 
In addition our Solar system is racing around the Milky way at 500,000 mph.
Finally the Milky way galaxy itself is additionally sprinting at 600,000 mph around another core point in the giant universe. 

At such high speeds and velocities traversing in FIVE DIMENSIONS we are the source of generating Cosmic energy. We are bound to crash head on, one day and disintegrate into star dust and start all over again. This goes to show that we are always at a new spot, all of our life time, just like the ever moving star ship Enterprize. Now picture  the level of FRAGILITY of your lone life, on this lone planet racing amidst the star dust. Surely someone is piloting & guiding our SHIP through dense toxic Cosmic Astral Maze.

BACK TO SOUL CONSCIOUSNESS

Life is about Awareness & Choices, in this Auspicious Confluence Age. Now the CREATION is at its lowest point of degradation in the Iron Age. Therefore The CREATOR HIMSELF had to  come down to reset it & take all of us Home. We are running out of Time, hence drop being Lazy & Sloppy, instead become Enthusiastic & Zealous.   Assess for yourself where you stand:

THE COSMIC DRAMA & SABBATICAL

The cosmic Drama is fixed and repeats itself every 5000 years. Millions of yogis, pundits, saints, mystics, sadhus, laymen have tried very very hard to know HIM but have not only failed but missed the mark by leaps & bounds. The chief reasons for their not succeeding in this venture are : Wrong timing & Ignorance about HIS whereabouts. We have been searching for HIM for 4900 years when HE is away on a Sabbatical. HE comes to us & makes HIMSELF available only during the Confluence Age for a short period of 100 years. It is only now, that we can know HIM, meet HIM, & be with HIM. HE introduces HIMSELF to us, personally.

SCHOOLING BY INVITATION ONLY

The second most important aspect is that HE finds us & not the other way around. This Schooling / Meeting is by Invitation only. HE zeros in on the chosen ones, adopts them, educates them & makes them worthy of HIS Inheritance. HE has a very important task of reestablishing the Golden Era on Earth. 

LIFE CAN NOT EVOLVE ANY FURTHER.

Why are we here, only on our planet Earth? It is because of perfect geometry in the cosmos. Solar powered life cannot evolve any further,  therefore it REPEATS ITSELF as a Drama. Drama is cosmic Karma. Collective / Omni consciousness changes the drama.  The establishment of Golden age is achieved by the tilting of the liquidized molten iron magnetic poles, from North - South position to East & West position, which is conducive to 24/7 spring season & purity of things on the whole planet. This movement of semi vertical axis facilitates the Teutonic plates of the continents to come back to their original positions as one big land mass around the existing South East Asia. 

RESETTING THE GEOGRAPHY & TIME

 HE also resets the Time clock to Zero from elapsed time of 5000 years.  Since the road is extremely rough & tough only a select few make it to HIS inner circle / kingdom while the rest are left to their own fates to be mere subjects, or continue to stay FROZEN in the Eternal Soul world till it is ripe time for them to descend down on the Earth.     

YOU & ME ARE ETERNAL SOULS - ATOMIC & MICROSCOPIC. 

Your body is a vehicle and soul is the driver of this vehicle. Just as you are the driver of your Mercedes, so is the soul of this human vehicle. You sit in the automobile and take control of it, use it to move from point A to point B. Sometimes you are careless & get involved in a head on collision with another Mercedes. In this almost fatal  accident, the air bags save you, but the car is dead or total. Now the Insurance company bails you out to buy a new Mercedes. On the same lines when the body becomes old & diseased it dies and it’s occupant or the In-dweller  the soul does not die. It is bailed out by the Divine, from the worn out body & assigned to a brand new baby body, therefore YOU are eternal - know this fact for sure. 

ARE YOU A POSSESSION, IF YES, THEN WHO IS THE POSSESSOR

Material Values come from thinking of yourself as an Object. You say my body is male or female. If it is Mine, it is a possession, just an object. But if you say that it is Me, that means I am an Object too. Two objects in one living mechanism, how come.
Q - Are you a possession or a possessor? Who is the possessor of this possession named Body? 
A - The real you is the Immortal Soul, who at this time, has a black male body & in the past had a white female body. This Body is warm mud packaged  in a leather bag, with bones to give it a shape. Incidentally the leather bag comes in different colors & textures. The Anatomy is same in every case. This body is your equipment/ costume for the use by the soul. You the soul, are not this equipment or the costume. The Soul is made up of love, purity, peace, power, Bliss & innate wisdom. This intelligence radiates a different positive energy which changes the quality of time & matter. The dominant reality is the Soul & the secondary reality is the body. 

TIME CONSCIOUS THEREFORE SELF CONSCIOUS  

The mentality of Iron Age is going towards materialism, driven by material values. Material Values & materialism cause the mind to move into negative vibrations, which lead to Ego, a false Image of Self. Comparison generates toxic inner experiences in terms of possessions. You say I have less & those people have more. You are confusing two very important different values. WHAT YOU HAVE & WHAT YOU ARE? This basic confusion leads to corruption of mind & goals. Impurity is indulging in vicious activities. Acting out lustfully for temporary gratifications with little awareness of the consequences that come along in future times, to make you miserable. Vices are reflections of Virtues, lateral inversions of the images, hence not easily recognizable, therefore overlooked easily.

INCLINATION TOWARDS SOUL CONSCIOUSNESS. 

Soul consciousness is the intention to look behind the Mask - Who Am I?  Third eye is Souls ability to perceive non physical things. It is not possible to see a Soul. You can only understand it & when you realize it , you shout with excitement - I SEE. It is an IN-SIGHT. Soul is the intelligent glow behind this visible living, breathing, active, moving mask. Soul is gender-less, neither male nor female. Consciousness too is gender-less. The energy of the soul gets depleted continuously as time goes by. When you sleep the soul goes into space of Silence & returns - sleep dead. Now try to Die alive too.  Why we talk so much & repeat a lot - because we are afraid of SILENCE. Your body has the DNA of your biological parents, while your Soul has the DNA of your Spiritual parents. The real you has God's DNA, which translates to unlimited in every aspect. God whispers - You can be like me too. At the least you can behave like Angels right now. Angels have no conflict inside & outside, no entanglements like the innocent lord. Apply the Knowledge into your life, change & become an embodiment of it. 

BASIC COMPONENTS OF A SOUL

A soul is made of three entities, the INTELLECT, which discerns & decides, the MIND which processes thoughts & feelings, and finally the SANSKARS / SEEDS which are the source of all thoughts. For better understanding we will adopt the Gardener & gardening analogy. Every soul has seven pure seeds to begin with. They are : Power, Purity, Peace, Love, Bliss, Knowledge, Truth. As a child we operate through these seeds which helps us to enjoy life without any inhibitions and love all equally.

YARD SALE SEED COLLECTION - we cherish the stuff that others don’t want.

Over time we acquire exactly the opposite kind of seeds from our parents, teachers, relatives, friends, & society. Then we acquire next stage of harmful seeds of Vices like Anger, Lust, Greed, jealousy, Ego. Mind is like the fertile soil where seeds grow & flower up. It has no mind of its own & does not act on its own ever. Intellect is the chief Gardner who discerns & decides, what crop to grow and what not to, when to harvest & how much to water the plants. How ever he too has limitations because if all he has in stock is bad, rotten seeds to work with, then it is not in his hands to do otherwise. The limited edition of original seeds are locked up in the warehouse & the poor Gardner is given all the dirty rotten acquired seeds picked up freely & cheaply from the environment, to work with. Naturally your are going to reap bountiful harvests of the crops you don’t want. You can not sell / barter them for other ones, because no one wants your rotten crops grown from borrowed seeds.   

AS YOU SOW SO SHALL YOU REAP 

The meaning of this childhood saying is clearly understood in this context. But now it is too late. The body is fragile & the mind has slowed down with Alzheimer. The awareness of this valuable knowledge is enough to start the process of purification & elevation which are the basic pillars of Self - Realization.   

INTELLECT (buddhi)- THE SUPERVISOR, DECISION MAKER & QUALITY CONTROL MANAGER

This faculty of the soul can make or break you. Dull or stone intellect coupled with unawareness is the core of a loser, a victim, a failure. On the other hand Sharp or Divine intellect coupled with total awareness becomes the core of winner, happy soul, successful body. It helps you to discern, discriminate, & decide what actions to materialize, which further reinforce the seeds, that started the process in the first place. Repeated actions keeps the seeds active & easily accessible. There are numerous obstacles on the path of progress of Intellect & spiritual advancement such as : physical illness, mental problems, doubts, indecision, laziness, unman-aged desires, lust, inaccurate assumptions/thinking, lethargy, no effort, fickle. 

INTELLECT AS DETACHED OBSERVER/INDUSTRIAL ENGINEER

Human being is a citizen of two worlds : Outside & Inside. As an outsider he suffers, incurs stress on this account & loses all, while the Insiders align with the Cosmic forces & remain Blissful. Pleasantness is within you the soul. We consciously choose to diffuse this valuable perfume of pleasantness around us to others. However the mind can be purified by cultivating friendliness towards the unpleasant, compassion towards sufferers, goodwill towards virtuous & indifference towards wicked/evil.  The methodology adopted to achieve this purity is to invite all dormant seeds to dislodge from the river bed & float up to the surface to be washed away into oblivion.  The intellect must exercise its choice to understand the Primitive Fountain & subsequently prioritize, regulate & rearrange the four needs for zero stress which will result in Bliss. The final destination of the soul is the state of being UNDISTURBED, UNINVOLVED, UNAFFECTED.  

PURPOSE OF THE SOUL - PROGRESSION OF CONSCIOUSNESS

The sole purpose of the soul is to elevate itself during it’s short stay in this human body. It is possible to move from the lower Chakras to higher energy centers & finally to the Crown Charkra. The seven Chakras are intimately related to the seven Auras in our Invisible bodies.

  

HOW THE IN-DWELLER OPERATES THROUGH THE COSTUME 

COGNITIVE & ACTIVE SENSES

There are five entrance doors through which Information is imported inside the costume. These doors are your five sense organs : taste, touch, smell, hear, & sight. There are additionally five exit doors through which the costume expels outwards. These are : procreation, elimination, grasping, speech & moving.  Then there is a master, the In-dweller who operates these doors. Who I really AM is independent of my actions & senses. Senses are not reliable for experiencing Absolute Truth, Reality or the Self the Soul. Like the bees follow the Queen Bee, so will the senses follow the Mind. With-drawl of the senses is like taking your hand out of a glove. The hands have the ability to let go of the glove. 

RELATIONSHIPS - SENSE OF UNION to experience part of the other into your life.

Divine cannot be experienced by the 5 senses/organs. Spiritual science is Yoga. Life explodes, because you are full of yourself. It is not about Shiva but you. Soul consciousness is about emptiness. Deities have divine virtues, so renounce  all senses & attachments. Churning the ocean of knowledge produces Nectar which is bound to surface as cheerful faces. 

THE FIRE OF YOGA

The closeness of two beings and their interplay by choice & concerted effort causes friction, heat, pleasure & pleasantness. A being has multiple bodies : physical, seven auras, health rays, Ionized seal.

When the closeness is PHYSICAL it is SEXUAL.

When the closeness is EMOTIONAL it is LOVE.

When the closeness is SPIRITUAL it is YOGA.  

Yoga is the vehicle which can bring God to you, or take you to God. It is a bridge between mortals & the Immortal. Yoga makes you loose your mind in a positive way. It is the cessation of modifications arising in the Chitta. Yoga helps in neutralizing ones Vortices of feelings, whirlpools of desires & attachments into a calm ocean of thought patterns, which is a prerequisite to perceive God. 

Dying Alive is another marvelous methodology to kill the artificial You, Me & Mine. It finishes off my ideas, my fashion sense, my hair style, my clothes & my body, leaving you with just your Soul. Yoga is Nirodhah which encompasses the following : Regulation, Channeling, Mastery, Integration, Coordination, Stilling, Quieting, Setting aside of modifications of mind field. It is the progress of Intellect into consciousness looking for the expression of the Source into ones actions & attitude. It is a deep concern for a fresh complete life by self. Yoga helps you in Total Transformation where there is no trace of past, fully new & Pure. On the other hand Change is incremental often leaves a residue of the past, hence you remain as impure.

SAT CHIT ANANDA = REALIZATION OF TRUE SELF IS BLISS        

Personally, I was brought up in the standard God fearing environment, but very quickly I understood and changed to God loving/Cosmic Energy loving. The influences came from  universal teachings of Radha Swami, Awakening with Braham Kumaris, and Lala Hardyal’s book “Hints on self culture”. Being a part of medical family, I experienced pain & sickness from very close quarters, which prepared me for accepting death as a very natural and common phenomenon. I live in a detached mode because we are here temporarily for a short time and then gone. Each one of us rises up after death but awareness makes all the difference. I have concrete plans to die in meditation with no thought on my mind. Our last thought becomes the template for next life, and I do not wish to provide Nature with any template for next life. This is my personal task to try for Nirvana. I may not succeed but I would have the satisfaction that I tried and a respectable carried forward karma account for the next life, just in case.

 Rohit Khanna - A student in Self - Realization school, trying to IN-VENT SELF

FROM HELPLESS INFANT TO INHIBITED ADULT - OUR JOURNEY

HOW WE GROW UP & WHAT GOES WRONG 

FROM HELPLESS INFANT TO INHIBITED ADULT - OUR JOURNEY


UNSTRUCTURED UPBRINGING - REWINDING NOT POSSIBLE

Had our past, childhood, been different, we would have gradually come to master our own emotions, just like walking and mathematics. But it did not happen that way, for most of us. Our parent’s negativity was their problem. They had less civilized grandparents and parents of their own, who used spanking, whipping, yelling, verbal abuses, and physical punishment on them, in abundance, to help them learn RIGHT from WRONG. This is what they internalized and now they apply the same techniques of upbringing on us. We would probably, do the same to our children, because we would not know, anything different or better. First sin, first clothing, the fig leaf caused it all. They put the most horrible emotion of shame into our heads for nothing. We reject our body. We reject our nakedness and bring on sufferings, anxiety, & diseases.

                                                                                           
BEFORE BIRTH

Teenagers in school get hooked on birth control pills and start exploring sex, in an immature fashion. They drop out from school, take up minimum wage jobs to explore further. Their parents disown them, for doing their own thing.  One mistake and the girls are pregnant. She never planned the child in the making, and now hesitates to abort it. The child inside her is unwelcome from the very beginning. The young, teen, would be mother, transfers the repressed feelings and tensions to the child, who is fully aware of light, sound, chemistry of mother.  her attitudes towards the pregnancy  herself & the unborn child.

AT BIRTH 

Every child is born ecstatic. It is natural, the inner most core of every human being. Ecstasy of the heart and not of the mind or head! Each and every child is a bundle of joy.

AFTER BIRTH 

Mother has to tolerate the child. He misses love from the very beginning. She can not give love, as much as, the child wants it or needs it, because she herself did not get love. She is unfulfilled, herself. Now she feels guilty, so she substitutes love with food. The child is forced to eat, even when he is not hungry. Things have gone grossly wrong again. Today’s child is brought up in day care units, by foster mothers, by step parents, with artificial love. The step parents definitely, abuse the child, while parent/mother is at work. Freedom is denied to the child, and gratification is delayed. When the child cries for milk, it is not given. The mother is possibly traveling, in a public transport bus or shopping, in the mall where she is feeling shy or shameful, to breast feed the child, in full view of the public. Delayed gratification causes repulsive and hateful feelings, to be developed in the child. This is the starting point of things, going wrong.

INFANT 

Love is a necessity and taken for granted. The child demands love but has little comprehension of how to return it. All needs/wishes are only one cry away. They are instantly fulfilled by the co-creators. He is totally self absorbed, discovers his own toes, fingers, and being-sens. He has no fears, no doubts, and no beliefs yet, and no denial is experienced, yet. If he is left alone, he feels shocked and frightened, so he yells very loudly and clearly for attention, ever heard of a hoarse voiced baby, never!     

BABY 

Physical contact at this stage is very important. He needs to be hugged, cuddled, held, kissed, and he responds with coo’s and giggles. He quickly learns the art of blackmailing and uses good behavior to get more favors. Smiles and obedience are rewarded. Love is both given and received without question. Baby learns to sleep on schedule and wake up in comfort. He does not scream without reason, fright, or loneliness. At this moment, possessions bring joy; he clutches them tightly and calls them my own teddy bear and security blanket. He delights, in the use of his five senses. He symbolically chews and listens to every toy, he sees and touches.

CHILD 

He acquires new skills at this stage. He can crawl and toddle. His new independence is intoxicating and therefore wants to explore new spaces, for which he is punished. He is taught hard discipline for running into dangers, not yet suspected. He can string up words and rejoice at the sounds, he can make and hear. Talking is fun and he enjoys being the center of attraction. He discards his toys and parental affection for the “Forbidden Eden Garden”. He can deduce and relate with his mental ability, thus he begins to dream of things, beyond tangible reach.

OBSESSIVE NO'S / DONT'S

Mom can I go outside in the beautiful sun! No! An obsessive NO! It is difficult to say yes, and if said yes, it is done reluctantly, making the child feel guilty. The child wants to sit and see the stars out side a little longer. NO! Come inside and go to sleep, when he is not feeling sleepy. When he sleeps and wants to dream a little longer in the early morning, mom says NO! Wake up; this is no time to sleep. Get ready and eat, but mom I am not hungry, NO! You have to eat right now. Total dictatorship, in the house and he is a slave. No wonder, they want to leave the house as soon as possible, when they grow up, to get to do, what they want to do?

FIRST TIME PARENT HANDICAP

The ignorant parents sow the seeds first and latter on repent, when the birds fly away prematurely, from their nests.  For a child there is no difference between his body parts, a nose or his sex organs, they are just the same for him. But he is baffled when he is smacked on the hand every time he plays with or touches his sex organs. This happens many times in a day. It is re-enforced weeks after weeks. Enjoying your own body is denied. The message driven home is of SHAME. Sex is BAD, dirty. He is taught wrongly, that nudity is gross. The child starts hating itself.  Gender is recognized through clothes. We over clothe our children and ourselves. Two small children, peep into a nudist camp, through a hole. They can not identify man and woman, because they are not wearing clothes. How tragic, that you do not see yourself nude in your own dreams, so much afraid of your own body. Latter on as an adults, you are expected to perform well, sexually in a marriage. It is not going to happen.  Do you see what went wrong already?

KILLING THE INQUISITIVE DESIRE

If a child wants to open up and see how a clock works. – NO! his curiosity is killed instantaneously. An inquiring mind is destroyed, instead of destroying a worthless clock. Thomas Alva Edison, the greatest inventor was lucky to have an intelligent mother, who allowed him to destroy an old clock, to keep his curiosity alive, for his whole life. This mother also encouraged her dropout son to become a genius, by changing the message of negativity & expulsion on her sons note from the school teacher to a positive message of appreciation.   NO! Don’t! These two words are very potent. The child is made to understand, that happiness is wrong and being miserable is right. We destroy the possibility of ecstasy, joyful, delightful, life. You see, how things went wrong, in our past.

TOO BUSY

Parents have no time to love, so they substitute love with pocket money and other cash incentives. The child learns to be greedy. Money respectability is symbolic. So much money in the bank! Paradoxically, the value of money comes, only, when you spend it, and not hoard it.

ADOLESCENT 

This stage is critical. He is neither a child, anymore, nor an adult, yet. Lost in between! Love is needed and important again. Apprehensions turn him secretive. He fears loss of parental security, is surprised by the material world, and longs to cross over to adulthood, quickly. He is doubtful of future and unsure of strangers. He observes adults very keenly, thus internalizing their behavior, involuntarily and automatically. Growing up is tough and hurtful. He is alone and lost in a new environment, because his buddies have moved away. Therefore, he tends to cling to his past. Hence he invents disguises, to hide his real feelings. He puts on comical masks and artificial laughter to fool people.  Inside he is very fragile, sentimental and often moves to tears, yet he builds a hard shell on the outside, and erects high walls around himself, to protect self, from the cruel world.  See for yourself, what’s going wrong.

TEENAGER 

Now begins the uphill journey to maturity. This is the time to gaze into the mirrors, for long hours, fixing up new styling of hairdos, admiring self and being conscious of a phenomenon called “self image”.

FIRED UP BY HORMONES

Love is given because it brings pleasure. Hormones in the body trigger sexuality. Teen’s youth is fired up, but brings doubts of self worth.  Beware! This attribute is one of the most important ones. SELF–ESTEEM and SELF– CONFIDENCE are values that always determine success or failure in future life. Social interactions begin with friends and relationships blossom. Dates, germinate romance and infatuations. Our personal sense of dignity and importance is realized through the opposite sex. Rightly or wrongly we are also hit and wounded by the cupid’s arrow, called ‘first love’ and we believe it is the last thing on the planet. You are wrong again. The responsibility of life are, not a burden yet, on the teen. He is on the road to learning to respect elders and be patient instead of being rash and reckless. He hides under the veil of Vanity and seeks reassurance in flattery and admiration, but is often ridiculed and humiliated. Sometimes he could be, just brushed aside as if he did not exist. He cringes and prays for sympathy. Everything is falling apart and going wrong for him!! To retain a false image, of superiority he resorts to bullying, younger children. Some teens do get fixated on bullying, and decide to take it up, as a hobby first and eventually a profession. Present time is for fun. Past is behind and future is a mystery.

ADULT 

Life is serious business and he has to face the reality for the first time. He has to comply with hundreds of society rules, regulations, restrictions and stick to schedules, strict ones of course. Hard work and meeting the deadlines, makes it very taxing and frustrating. Many people breakdown and give up under this pressure of work routines. Work, eat, play and serve by the clock.

MAD RAT RACE

He is fully caught up in the rat race, where survival is an obsession. Learning and competing are mandatory in this arena. No time to dream and no time to waste. More work, study and increased responsibility, comes early. He yearns to be, better and better everyday. Love means surrender of self, but it is wrongly interpreted and channeled as love for work. The adult forgets the true meaning of love and moves on to marriage, another play field of life.

THE SEARCH FOR PERFECT MATE

The woman is after the Seed & Security, The man is after Pleasure & physical intimacy. 

He is aware of his primal urge to find a mate: The perfect mate to share his joys and sorrows. The search goes on, this one or that one. Vices and virtues of the potential mates are weighed in a balance and found lacking and wanting. This brings in anguish of emotional indecision.  In the case of first love, every vice and short comings, are thrown to the winds. Decisions are painful and difficult, yet they are made in the favor of one, and the mating begins, mating of the hearts and minds.
Till now he was centered on self, now he has to expand, to relate to others, in his circle. They love, but do not know why? Love is a consuming flame. The adult is sexually uninhibited, but emotionally handicapped, fearful, and suspicious of the stranger, his new mate, because of his ‘skewed upbringing’ his unstructured past.

LOVE & SEX ARE SEPARATE  PURSUITS 

The adult is adept at executing duties of a fixed organizer, but totally lost in the mystery of his own existence, spheres of his life. Fall in love to rise out of the past. Desire for sexual expression is inborn in every child and the grown up child, our adult, suppressed or eliminated. It is supposed to be redirected and harnessed for creative forces with the help of will power. Sex transmutation can make mediocrity, into a genius. It is the safety valve to let off “excessive steam” and prevent the mind from going neurotic. It is also the ultimate, therapeutic agent for healing your troubled emotions. So strong and impelling is the desire for sexual contact, that men and women freely run the risk of life and reputation to indulge in it. It is very brave of them, but sad when it lands them into trouble, divorce, alimony & prison too? 

LOOSE LOOSE SITUATION 

Sex is a pretty costly affair. You decide to move in with a young beautiful girl, have sex and an off spring after wards. Soon you get fed up and decide to call it quits with this girl and fall in the trap of another beauty, to start it all over again. What is the price tag for such short flings? Alimony to your ex-girl friend and mother of your child, monthly child support payments for the kid till he grows up to be 18 years of age and fend for him self. All this could run into $ 100,000 on the lower side and $ 500,000 on the higher side.  You are totally ruined, and keep paying up, for the sex you once had. See! How mature you have grown up to become and behave as one.

HEALING YOUR PAIN & FEARS

For years and decades, we keep on suppressing our pain, feelings, and build up walls around us, seeming to protect ourselves, by distancing from the world.  We approach life very skeptically, fearfully, rarely initiating a contact. We hesitate to be, who we are. Then one day we fall in love afresh. Love makes us feel safe enough to open up. When we are in love, all the negative feelings of past float up? We become aware of our pain. It is time to THAW out all the repressed feelings. We have to take time and be in the moment to realize and release all of the past. But something again goes wrong. When all these feelings of our past come up, we wrongly interpret them as our partner’s criticism, blame, and rejection. You are never upset for the reasons, you think you are, beware! Pain from the past is projected into the future almost all of the time. Therefore, at this point we need to listen to our feelings with great compassion. We need to parent ourselves. Why are you so sad? If you do so, you will be miraculously healed.

THE CENTERED WAY

Subsequently, we respond to situations in a loving and respectful way. The centered way! The art of healing is to understand and accept our unresolved childhood feelings, by sharing it with our partners. In order to love others, we have to first fill up our own vessel with love. Therefore, love yourself, your body parts, and your soul first. Ironically the very act of avoiding our negative emotions, gives them the power to control our lives. A person who can not be stimulated to great heights by achievement of love is hopeless. Dead, although Alive!             

Personally, we siblings were brought up with great love & care. Our parents sacrificed a lot to send us to the best schools and it paid off very well. We were additionally fortunate to interact with like minded relatives and grow up with enlightened cousins, friends & neighbors. I am full of love and genuinely in a bliss mode. My concept of marriage is as follows. Cosmic energy decides which two people will get together for a life time. IT instructs the male like this, “Mr. I have a complementing person who is emotionally handicapped and I would like you to take care of her for a lifetime.” IT also instructs the female like this, “Miss. I have a complementing person who is emotionally handicapped too and I would like you to take care of him for a lifetime.” Each one of us is challenged in multiple ways and must look after one another. When we do the exact opposite then cosmic energy is disturbed and gets out of balance and we get into greater trouble. As a kid I went to convent schools and picked up the Moral Science lessons very effectively. They had a deep impact on me & therefore I am what I am today. I am truly spiritual without any particular religion, in all my actions not merely words/lip service. Now it is time to give back to the world what I took from it. Hence this book of knowledge & a host of other books to follow, especially one on female emotions & Utopian health care management system.

Rohit Khanna - IN-DWELLING - Easy Yogi

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